The "What should I text next?" thread (for when you get stuck)
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TornadoByProxy 路 2016-04-24 16:20:00 路 #2358
(04-24-2016 03:46 PM)YoungBlade Wrote: I've got a bit of a problem with reply times. If she waits a day or so to reply, should I move on, answer in a couple hours, or answer in a couple days?
Simplest rule is reply in the same amount of time she did. If she took 12 hours, you take 12 hours. I wouldn't move on after a couple of days. It costs nothing to keep trying as long as you don't let yourself ever get butthurt.
DCM 路 2016-04-25 11:45:00 路 #2359
What do you guys do when you suggest meeting up (in text) and she replies, but completely ignores the question? I've had this happen multiple times and I can't figure out a good way of handling it. Do you just do a few more back and forths and ask her again? Doing that doesn't feel right because you just allowed her to shut you down, but asking again straight away is even worse..
TornadoByProxy 路 2016-04-25 11:56:00 路 #2360
(04-25-2016 11:45 AM)DCM Wrote: What do you guys do when you suggest meeting up (in text) and she replies, but completely ignores the question? I've had this happen multiple times and I can't figure out a good way of handling it. Do you just do a few more back and forths and ask her again? Doing that doesn't feel right because you just allowed her to shut you down, but asking again straight away is even worse..
It depends. One important point is not to push for the meet up too quickly. If your texts are "hey how are you", "want to meet up", then I can't give you advice. You're trying too hard.
For me, I don't jump to the invite too soon. I try to build invite anticipation first. But when I finally ask and they avoid the question altogether, I next them immediately. Don't pretend they didn't read your invite correctly or give any benefit of the doubt. If they didn't address your invitation, they have no intention of meeting you, so just move on.
Angel On 路 2016-04-25 14:39:00 路 #2361
Thanks Tornado for the reply.
I replied today the wassap text, one day after she texted. And she inmediatly was online and we started a chat. She asked me where i was, i told her im out of the city this week because of work but ill be there by the end of next week. She told me that she in on vacation and that she will go this week to the sea(Mamaia). We chated a little more and then i said "i have to go to a meeting, we speak". Considering that ill be there in one week and a half when do you think i should text her to schedule a date?
I replied today the wassap text, one day after she texted. And she inmediatly was online and we started a chat. She asked me where i was, i told her im out of the city this week because of work but ill be there by the end of next week. She told me that she in on vacation and that she will go this week to the sea(Mamaia). We chated a little more and then i said "i have to go to a meeting, we speak". Considering that ill be there in one week and a half when do you think i should text her to schedule a date?
TornadoByProxy 路 2016-04-25 16:14:00 路 #2362
^ I think that if you know the day she gets back from vacation, text her that evening. If you text her while she is on vacation, she won't answer and it will hang out there. I think you want to start making plans with enough time for her to change her work schedule. That way she won't have any excuses to flake. So, a week beforehand is good.
Player_1337 路 2016-04-28 09:55:00 路 #2363
Been experimenting with limited convo/direct game online + going straight for the digits. Good way to weed out attention whores, timewasters and chicks not looking to get down.
Broad on Happn-
Me: 'direct sexual opener related to oral'
Her: That's definitely one way to get a girls attention
ME: your #?
Her: Shoe size? Cell? Bra? Gotta give me something to work with here
Me: phone num but throw in bra size while you're at it
Her: 34D why should I give my number??
Me: are you not a fan of oral
Her: As long as it's good
Me: i'm your guy
Her: So fork over your number
Me: spoon over your number first
Her: You asked first you should be willing to give it first
Looks like i'm stuck in attention whore purgatory...
Broad on Happn-
Me: 'direct sexual opener related to oral'
Her: That's definitely one way to get a girls attention
ME: your #?
Her: Shoe size? Cell? Bra? Gotta give me something to work with here
Me: phone num but throw in bra size while you're at it
Her: 34D why should I give my number??
Me: are you not a fan of oral
Her: As long as it's good
Me: i'm your guy
Her: So fork over your number
Me: spoon over your number first
Her: You asked first you should be willing to give it first
Looks like i'm stuck in attention whore purgatory...
Andre 路 2016-04-28 10:45:00 路 #2364
^ I usually just give them my number and tell them to text me there instead. Only time you HAVE to get her number is when you meet her outside, not on online game.
AlphaPrimate22 路 2016-04-28 10:46:00 路 #2365
I met a hot brunette at breakfast. I got my plate, found her sitting, approached direct , got her number. (on the grounds of drinking coffee, eating lunch, or hanging out sometime) Although, she was kind of hesitant. (This whole interaction was her sitting down, me standing with a plate in hand. I did not want to sit with her. I wanted to make her feel attracted by ending the conversation and walking away after the number close. Plus she had a exam study guide and I did not want to bother her)
Her: "Oh, idk, the semesters about to end and I'm going to have to go back home, but then she was like ok"
My first text: Hey Grace! It's Alpha. I got your number this morning at breakfast. How'd that exam go?
*I wait one day*
No response, the next day I hit her up again.
Me: Let's fuck.
*40 minutes later*
Her: I don't even know your full name. (She had put in her last name in my phone as well.)
*1 hour later*
Me: Good point. Alpha. Alpha Primate.
No response for an hour. I decide to ask a question.
Me: How does hooking up and the act make you feel , versus knowing my full name?
No response at all.
1) Did I do the right thing by not sitting with her?
2) Other thoughts you may have?
Her: "Oh, idk, the semesters about to end and I'm going to have to go back home, but then she was like ok"
My first text: Hey Grace! It's Alpha. I got your number this morning at breakfast. How'd that exam go?
*I wait one day*
No response, the next day I hit her up again.
Me: Let's fuck.
*40 minutes later*
Her: I don't even know your full name. (She had put in her last name in my phone as well.)
*1 hour later*
Me: Good point. Alpha. Alpha Primate.
No response for an hour. I decide to ask a question.
Me: How does hooking up and the act make you feel , versus knowing my full name?
No response at all.
1) Did I do the right thing by not sitting with her?
2) Other thoughts you may have?
Andre 路 2016-04-28 10:54:00 路 #2366
There is this girl who has flaked on me once before, I was living in another city for some time but am now back and matched with her on tinder (although I have her on FB). Initiated some banter back and forth and told her we should go out some time this week, she was busy and suggested next (this) week.
Since she flaked on me before I didn麓t care to contact her but she sent me a message today:
Her: "Hey"
Her: "What are your plans for the weekend?"
Me: "hola"
Me: "birthday party on saturday, but free tomorrow, how about you missy?"
Her: "I was thinking a quiet weekend and was wondering if you wanted to chill
"
Me: "that麓s nice sometimes too! I'm def down for chilling if we do it tomorrow
"
She doesn't reply for some minutes so I follow up with: "How about 7-8 ish?"
And now she hasn't replied. Any suggestions? I know she is DTF based on previous talks, but its the whole flaky attitude I can't deal with. I will find another one to go out with tomorrow, but I wanted this chick before and have another chance so at least I want her as a backup.
Thing is, I never send multiple messages, but its tomorrow already, and she has seen the message as well.
Since she flaked on me before I didn麓t care to contact her but she sent me a message today:
Her: "Hey"
Her: "What are your plans for the weekend?"
Me: "hola"
Me: "birthday party on saturday, but free tomorrow, how about you missy?"
Her: "I was thinking a quiet weekend and was wondering if you wanted to chill
"Me: "that麓s nice sometimes too! I'm def down for chilling if we do it tomorrow
"She doesn't reply for some minutes so I follow up with: "How about 7-8 ish?"
And now she hasn't replied. Any suggestions? I know she is DTF based on previous talks, but its the whole flaky attitude I can't deal with. I will find another one to go out with tomorrow, but I wanted this chick before and have another chance so at least I want her as a backup.
Thing is, I never send multiple messages, but its tomorrow already, and she has seen the message as well.
ksbms 路 2016-04-28 17:15:00 路 #2367
(04-28-2016 10:46 AM)AlphaPrimate22 Wrote: I met a hot brunette at breakfast. I got my plate, found her sitting, approached direct , got her number. (on the grounds of drinking coffee, eating lunch, or hanging out sometime) Although, she was kind of hesitant. (This whole interaction was her sitting down, me standing with a plate in hand. I did not want to sit with her. I wanted to make her feel attracted by ending the conversation and walking away after the number close. Plus she had a exam study guide and I did not want to bother her)
Probably your intuition about your noticing she seemed hesitant was a good intuition. It might be the case you've done everything right, really, it's just a girl who, for whatever reason, didn't buy what you were selling. Don't be too hard on yourself.
Let's be honest, 99% of guys would prefer to eat an oversalted porridge for breakfast for the rest of their lives than approach a girl in the morning in the public place.
What was your approach schtick like?
Her: "Oh, idk, the semesters about to end and I'm going to have to go back home, but then she was like ok"
My first text: Hey Grace! It's Alpha. I got your number this morning at breakfast. How'd that exam go?
Too long, too much going on here - an exclamation, going out of your way to make yourself memorable as if you were afraid she wouldn't memorise a thing like that (guess what, girls aren't day in, day out approached directly before they have their breakfast), and then cramming in a question on top of that, as if you cared (forcing rapport too early), whereas you didn't care - did you? Of course not.
First text, in my book, is just a ping to get her to reply - and what she replies isn't as important - the content doesn't matter but the fact she responds and how long it took her to respond.
Five minutes? That's a great lead.
One hour? Things look good.
Half a day? Let's see if I can play it.
Full day? I see big obstacles down the road.
Next day? It's very probably dead.
So I'd suggest to start light and easy, here's what I'd do:
"hey Grace, was nice meeting you today, ksbms"
Notice the nonchalant lack of punctuation: no exclamation, limited capitalisation, no period at the end.
*I wait one day*
No response, the next day I hit her up again.
My experience says, if a girl doesn't reply within a few hours (unless it's a legitimate reason and most of the time they'd give a believable reason), your chances drop so low it's easier to win a lottery than to get a girl out for a date.
Me: Let's fuck.
*40 minutes later*
That's a very bad text game...
Her: I don't even know your full name. (She had put in her last name in my phone as well.)
I'm surprised she replied and probably only to find out and show you to her female friends your facebook/instagram to have a laugh - "hey, girls, this is this superhorny guy who approached me during breakfast, I guess he hasn't had sex for the last 5 years."
*1 hour later*
Me: Good point. Alpha. Alpha Primate.
And you gave it to her! N e v e r d o t h a t!
Girls who I've banged would only learn my surname after I banged them, if only. Interestingly, the inverse also holds true - never banged a girl who learned my surname prior my trying to bang her. Be a man of mystery and withhold information, for if you don't you won't bang her. This, of course, heuristic only, but there's something to it, really...
No response for an hour. I decide to ask a question.
Me: How does hooking up and the act make you feel , versus knowing my full name?
You've just re-confirmed to her what she might have thought after texting her your cringe-worthy "Let's fuck" (Can you imagine James Bond texting this to a girl prior their first date?):
1. He's horny
2. He's horny because he had no sex
3. He had no sex because he's got no other options
---------------------------------------------------------------
Conclusion: he's a beta male who pretended only to be alpha, therefore I won't engage myself
No response at all.
ARE YOU SURPRISED?
1) Did I do the right thing by not sitting with her?
I think it's an irrelevant question.
2) Other thoughts you may have?
As per above.
Sam Malone 路 2016-04-28 18:22:00 路 #2368
Quote:^ I usually just give them my number and tell them to text me there instead. Only time you HAVE to get her number is when you meet her outside, not on online game.
This is where a Google Voice or a Burner number would be handy if the chick gets too crazy or ends up being a catfish.
AlphaPrimate22 路 2016-04-28 19:48:00 路 #2369
(04-28-2016 05:15 PM)ksbms Wrote:(04-28-2016 10:46 AM)AlphaPrimate22 Wrote: I met a hot brunette at breakfast. I got my plate, found her sitting, approached direct , got her number. (on the grounds of drinking coffee, eating lunch, or hanging out sometime) Although, she was kind of hesitant. (This whole interaction was her sitting down, me standing with a plate in hand. I did not want to sit with her. I wanted to make her feel attracted by ending the conversation and walking away after the number close. Plus she had a exam study guide and I did not want to bother her)
Probably your intuition about your noticing she seemed hesitant was a good intuition. It might be the case you've done everything right, really, it's just a girl who, for whatever reason, didn't buy what you were selling. Don't be too hard on yourself.
Let's be honest, 99% of guys would prefer to eat an oversalted porridge for breakfast for the rest of their lives than approach a girl in the morning in the public place.
What was your approach schtick like?
Her: "Oh, idk, the semesters about to end and I'm going to have to go back home, but then she was like ok"
My first text: Hey Grace! It's Alpha. I got your number this morning at breakfast. How'd that exam go?
Too long, too much going on here - an exclamation, going out of your way to make yourself memorable as if you were afraid she wouldn't memorise a thing like that (guess what, girls aren't day in, day out approached directly before they have their breakfast), and then cramming in a question on top of that, as if you cared (forcing rapport too early), whereas you didn't care - did you? Of course not.
First text, in my book, is just a ping to get her to reply - and what she replies isn't as important - the content doesn't matter but the fact she responds and how long it took her to respond.
Five minutes? That's a great lead.
One hour? Things look good.
Half a day? Let's see if I can play it.
Full day? I see big obstacles down the road.
Next day? It's very probably dead.
So I'd suggest to start light and easy, here's what I'd do:
"hey Grace, was nice meeting you today, ksbms"
Notice the nonchalant lack of punctuation: no exclamation, limited capitalisation, no period at the end.
*I wait one day*
No response, the next day I hit her up again.
My experience says, if a girl doesn't reply within a few hours (unless it's a legitimate reason and most of the time they'd give a believable reason), your chances drop so low it's easier to win a lottery than to get a girl out for a date.
Me: Let's fuck.
*40 minutes later*
That's a very bad text game...
Her: I don't even know your full name. (She had put in her last name in my phone as well.)
I'm surprised she replied and probably only to find out and show you to her female friends your facebook/instagram to have a laugh - "hey, girls, this is this superhorny guy who approached me during breakfast, I guess he hasn't had sex for the last 5 years."
*1 hour later*
Me: Good point. Alpha. Alpha Primate.
And you gave it to her! N e v e r d o t h a t!
Girls who I've banged would only learn my surname after I banged them, if only. Interestingly, the inverse also holds true - never banged a girl who learned my surname prior my trying to bang her. Be a man of mystery and withhold information, for if you don't you won't bang her. This, of course, heuristic only, but there's something to it, really...
No response for an hour. I decide to ask a question.
Me: How does hooking up and the act make you feel , versus knowing my full name?
You've just re-confirmed to her what she might have thought after texting her your cringe-worthy "Let's fuck" (Can you imagine James Bond texting this to a girl prior their first date?):
1. He's horny
2. He's horny because he had no sex
3. He had no sex because he's got no other options
---------------------------------------------------------------
Conclusion: he's a beta male who pretended only to be alpha, therefore I won't engage myself
No response at all.
ARE YOU SURPRISED?
1) Did I do the right thing by not sitting with her?
I think it's an irrelevant question.
2) Other thoughts you may have?
As per above.
The Approach
I was on my way upstairs to the cafe. Before I entered the cafe, I saw the brunette eyeing me. I eyed back, and proceeded to go upstairs and grab breakfast. I got my plate, and direct approached.
She was sitting alone at a table seeming to glance over her study guide.
Me: Excuse me miss....*she looked up* Hey. I saw you sitting here, and I just had to come over and say, you're pretty cute.
Her: *laughs* Oh thank you. She looked uncomfortable.
Me: You must be half-German, right?...
Her: Oh, no haha. I'm part Irish? I think.
Me: cool, I noticed you had your hair done like that. That's nice.
Her: Thanks.
Me: Let me guess... Animal science major?
Her: No haha, I'm actually doing (something science-related).
Me: Cool. You must have an exam today.
Her: Yeah, its for math.
Me: I gotcha. Well I was wondering if you'd like to drink coffee, eat lunch, or hang out sometime?
Her: She paused.....Well, idk, schools about to end and all and I have to go back home.. but sure.
Me: Pulls out phone and hands it to her, she puts her number in.
Me: It was nice meeting you. *Turns and walks away.*
I texted her later that evening. So I care too much on the first text. Got it.
But don't worry. Alpha is not stupid. I gave her a wrong first name. But a real last name. I do not have a Facebook, only instagram. She will never find me. Haha, the reason I give girls my American nickname is because I am Iranian and my name is hard to pronounce. Just this week though, I re-evaluated my self and really asked, "You are accomodating every girls need to know an easy name?" MAKE THOSE BITCHES KNOW YOUR REAL NAME. So Im going to start telling girls I meet my real first name. But no more of this interaction that happened I just told you about.
HankMoody 路 2016-04-28 19:52:00 路 #2370
(04-28-2016 10:54 AM)Andre Wrote: There is this girl who has flaked on me once before, I was living in another city for some time but am now back and matched with her on tinder (although I have her on FB). Initiated some banter back and forth and told her we should go out some time this week, she was busy and suggested next (this) week.
Since she flaked on me before I didn麓t care to contact her but she sent me a message today:
Her: "Hey"
Her: "What are your plans for the weekend?"
Me: "hola"
Me: "birthday party on saturday, but free tomorrow, how about you missy?"
Her: "I was thinking a quiet weekend and was wondering if you wanted to chill
Me: "that麓s nice sometimes too! I'm def down for chilling if we do it tomorrow
She doesn't reply for some minutes so I follow up with: "How about 7-8 ish?"
And now she hasn't replied. Any suggestions? I know she is DTF based on previous talks, but its the whole flaky attitude I can't deal with. I will find another one to go out with tomorrow, but I wanted this chick before and have another chance so at least I want her as a backup.
Thing is, I never send multiple messages, but its tomorrow already, and she has seen the message as well.
The ! and
didn't help your cause. "im down if we do it tomorrow around 7-8" should have been the response.
An online lead I've been back & forth went nuclear on me.
We are scheduled to meet next Tuesday.
I asked for a full length picture this morning & verbatim this was her reply.
"Excuse you nigga, I don't even know you.
I don't take requests from people at home even if the put a pretty before the please.
If I'd wanted to send you one I would've a looooong time ago.
You don't know me like that 1026.
Step down!"
Somebody is menstruating...
We are scheduled to meet next Tuesday.
I asked for a full length picture this morning & verbatim this was her reply.
"Excuse you nigga, I don't even know you.
I don't take requests from people at home even if the put a pretty before the please.
If I'd wanted to send you one I would've a looooong time ago.
You don't know me like that 1026.
Step down!"
Somebody is menstruating...
Andre 路 2016-04-29 05:04:00 路 #2372
(04-28-2016 07:52 PM)HankMoody Wrote: The ! and
"im down if we do it tomorrow around 7-8" should have been the response.
I think you're right, seemed to eager. In my mind I was trying to come of as at least somewhat "happy" and matching her level since she's a smiley kinda girl.
It did end well though, have her lined up for tonight. And I've learned from past mistakes, nothing is more annoying than getting flaked on with no other plans. So I'll be hanging out at my brothers place + have a girl who I've done before as a backup just in case. Thanks for the feedback Hank.
Andre 路 2016-04-29 05:05:00 路 #2373
(04-29-2016 03:38 AM)1026 Wrote: An online lead I've been back & forth went nuclear on me.
We are scheduled to meet next Tuesday.
I asked for a full length picture this morning & verbatim this was her reply.
"Excuse you nigga, I don't even know you.
I don't take requests from people at home even if the put a pretty before the please.
If I'd wanted to send you one I would've a looooong time ago.
You don't know me like that 1026.
Step down!"
Somebody is menstruating...
She probably fat bro
Sam Malone 路 2016-04-29 20:13:00 路 #2374
1026, I know the feeling..
Earlier today I matched on Tinder using a modified version of Vlad's "Carousel" profile, which is pretty straightforward and to the point. There's no room for error or misunderstanding.
The match has a decent face, looks thin in the one pic she has (doesn't have a 'fat girl' face), but no body pics. Hit her with my opener, she responded, a couple more texts, then I gave her my number and told her to hit me up later.
Her: Hey it's ______
Me: Hey ______ what's going on
Her: Not much watching TV. You still haven't shown your face
Me: True. And I've only seen your face
Her: We should get even first. You see my face let's see yours
Me: You send a body pic after
Her: Maybe. Tbh I don't have any
Her:Tell me what type of girl you like, and if I'm not that then we can just end this now. No need to waste time
I'm figuring she's an SIF, and at this point have no problem nexting her. The face pic shows a thin girl vs the ones that usually look like this:
![[Image: 13clvr.jpg]](https://i.imgflip.com/13clvr.jpg)
In the future, what would be a clincher to weed these chicks out ? Preferably prior to giving up my number ?
Earlier today I matched on Tinder using a modified version of Vlad's "Carousel" profile, which is pretty straightforward and to the point. There's no room for error or misunderstanding.
The match has a decent face, looks thin in the one pic she has (doesn't have a 'fat girl' face), but no body pics. Hit her with my opener, she responded, a couple more texts, then I gave her my number and told her to hit me up later.
Her: Hey it's ______
Me: Hey ______ what's going on
Her: Not much watching TV. You still haven't shown your face
Me: True. And I've only seen your face
Her: We should get even first. You see my face let's see yours
Me: You send a body pic after
Her: Maybe. Tbh I don't have any
Her:Tell me what type of girl you like, and if I'm not that then we can just end this now. No need to waste time
I'm figuring she's an SIF, and at this point have no problem nexting her. The face pic shows a thin girl vs the ones that usually look like this:
In the future, what would be a clincher to weed these chicks out ? Preferably prior to giving up my number ?
Turnus 路 2016-04-29 21:54:00 路 #2375
Just got done having drinks with a girl 21 years younger than me. She was a solid 7. The conversation over drinks was going great. Lots of kino and sexual talk. However I couldn't get her to bounce to another venue, or back to my place, but she did indicate willingness to meet up again.
She just sent the following text exchange:
Her: Thank you for the night I had a really fun time listening to your crazy stories.
Me: I had a great time to. Sucks you called the date off early though. Boo
Her: Meh ya gotta always leave them wanting more (kissing emoji)
What's my next text?
She just sent the following text exchange:
Her: Thank you for the night
I had a really fun time listening to your crazy stories.Me: I had a great time to. Sucks you called the date off early though. Boo
Her: Meh ya gotta always leave them wanting more (kissing emoji)
What's my next text?
TornadoByProxy 路 2016-04-29 22:17:00 路 #2376
(04-29-2016 09:54 PM)Turnus Wrote: Just got done having drinks with a girl 21 years younger than me. She was a solid 7. The conversation over drinks was going great. Lots of kino and sexual talk. However I couldn't get her to bounce to another venue, or back to my place, but she did indicate willingness to meet up again.
She just sent the following text exchange:
Her: Thank you for the night
Me: I had a great time to. Sucks you called the date off early though. Boo
Her: Meh ya gotta always leave them wanting more (kissing emoji)
What's my next text?
I've heard these lines before. I don't think you're seeing this girl again. Calling your stories crazy means she was confused. And the fact she wouldn't bounce is a sign she wasn't interested enough. You also come off needy with your response. I wouldn't have even responded for a couple of days. She is looking for a father figure. she's looking for you to be something different. So you can't text like these young guys on the board. Read your text again. Does that sound like a 40 year old whose in charge?
Definitely give it a couple of days to a week and be more authoritative in your text. "We need to go to X bar friday"
"Come with me Thursday to test drive the new Lexus"
Stuff like that. Good luck.
TornadoByProxy 路 2016-04-29 22:24:00 路 #2377
(04-29-2016 08:13 PM)George is King Wrote: 1026, I know the feeling..
Earlier today I matched on Tinder using a modified version of Vlad's "Carousel" profile, which is pretty straightforward and to the point. There's no room for error or misunderstanding.
The match has a decent face, looks thin in the one pic she has (doesn't have a 'fat girl' face), but no body pics. Hit her with my opener, she responded, a couple more texts, then I gave her my number and told her to hit me up later.
Her: Hey it's ______
Me: Hey ______ what's going on
Her: Not much watching TV. You still haven't shown your face
Me: True. And I've only seen your face
Her: We should get even first. You see my face let's see yours
Me: You send a body pic after
Her: Maybe. Tbh I don't have any
Her:Tell me what type of girl you like, and if I'm not that then we can just end this now. No need to waste time
I'm figuring she's an SIF, and at this point have no problem nexting her. The face pic shows a thin girl vs the ones that usually look like this:
In the future, what would be a clincher to weed these chicks out ? Preferably prior to giving up my number ?
You've got to get some questions in like,
Ever try yoga?
What type of bike do you have?
Taylor or Adele?
Innocent questions she can't fake answers to. If she's a bitch about it you know she's overweight.
Chetthebaker 路 2016-04-30 16:59:00 路 #2378
Do we have a default reply for:
"What did you have in mind?"
I get this more and more when pitching a meetup after some banter, and I've played it a few ways- but it's usually a negative signal that basically means "I'm not sure I really wanna hang, and will probably flake in the event that I agree to a date."
"What did you have in mind?"
I get this more and more when pitching a meetup after some banter, and I've played it a few ways- but it's usually a negative signal that basically means "I'm not sure I really wanna hang, and will probably flake in the event that I agree to a date."
HankMoody 路 2016-04-30 17:14:00 路 #2379
(04-30-2016 04:59 PM)Chetthebaker Wrote: Do we have a default reply for:
"What did you have in mind?"
I get this more and more when pitching a meetup after some banter, and I've played it a few ways- but it's usually a negative signal that basically means "I'm not sure I really wanna hang, and will probably flake in the event that I agree to a date."
That's a total softball. There are so many good ways to respond...
"tacos"
"margaritas"
"steak"
"shots"
"baseball"
Or if you want to be funny...
"well, i had planned on taking u to the bar, getting plastered, making a fool out of myself, and then passing out in the parking lot only to wake up not remembering what happened.
but i'd also be game for tacos."
The only way you can fuck that one up is by saying "I don't know" or "I don't care, you decide." Otherwise, anything affirmative will work.
HankMoody 路 2016-04-30 17:19:00 路 #2380
(04-29-2016 09:54 PM)Turnus Wrote: Just got done having drinks with a girl 21 years younger than me. She was a solid 7. The conversation over drinks was going great. Lots of kino and sexual talk. However I couldn't get her to bounce to another venue, or back to my place, but she did indicate willingness to meet up again.
She just sent the following text exchange:
Her: Thank you for the night
Me: I had a great time to. Sucks you called the date off early though. Boo
Her: Meh ya gotta always leave them wanting more (kissing emoji)
What's my next text?
The good news...
She texted you after, not the other way around. That means it's game on. From here it's just a matter of not fucking it up.
The bad news...
Your text game is weak. Your response came off as needy. You should have just responded "likewise" "same" or "cool". You're showing way too much interest and suggesting that she's in control.
I would respond with nothing. Let a little bit of time pass. The worst thing you can do is come off as over eager. If it went as well as you think it did, she'll text you.
Agastya 路 2016-05-01 22:06:00 路 #2381
I had a pretty retarded text conversation with this girl last night. She's a Nigerian girl who I met off of daygame, and brought to my room just to "hang out". This has been my modus operandi since October 2015 at my new university; I make plans with a girl to "smoke weed" or "hang out", bring her up to my room, then caveman once we're inside. This works surprisingly well, though I have been having problems retaining women for anything more than a couple hookups. It also ends in one of two outcomes; the girl hooks up with me(usually I at least finger them or get a blowjob), or they let me know that they don't want to hook up, and leave the room.
When I tried this on the Nigerian girl, she backed up and refused. I expected her to leave. We ended up having an actually deep and enjoyable conversation, possibly the only one I've had with a woman in quite a long time. She told me that while she's attracted to me, and thinks I'm a cool guy, she wants to get to know me better before we do anything. I continued trying to escalate on her after our conversation, and it failed. I drunk texted her last night, and the following ensued.
Her: lol okay
Me: are you awake? lets go on an adventure
Her: Blah blah i'm tired blah blah
Me: shame...either way I wanna see you again...i have a weird chemistry with you
Her: weird chemistry? or cause you didn't get to fuck? lmao, keep lying. you'll never get it
Me: idk, the world's full of women who want to fuck...it's not full of girls who i pour my heart out to
why do you think I'm lying?
Her: because you bragged about how many women you've been with, its hard to believe i'm an exception
Me: fuck that the more you talk to me, the more of an exception you become...we want each other, im not gonna deny that...but I wasn't lying when I felt something with you. i want you back next week
her: or what? honestly you seemed like an amazing person but you kept forcing yourself on me and that was a turnoff. idk if i wanna put myself through that again
Me: you know what? fuck that, I wanna hold you because your actually someone i wanna spend time with...your not just another of these girls who wants me for my body and nothing else...i wanna hold you cause you actually listened to me. come back. that was fucking special
her: I apprecaite that. i don't know if I believe it. But i definitely appreciate. and I don't want you for your body. mmm well maybe later. but for now I just wanna get to know you, you seem like a genuine guy underneath all the testosterone
me: i want you around more...i've always played hard to get with girls, but fuck it, i wanna get to know you
her: okay we can meet up again. not in your room tho. and get to know each other more
Yeah, I know it's gay as fuck...but this is my first time I'm appealing to a woman's emotionality and sense of romance, rather than her raw urge to fuck. I could use some advice on where to go from here, not in terms of texting her, but just how I should proceed with the situation. I've never really been with a girl who actually listened to me and took interest in my personality and life. Up until now, girls have only liked me because I fuck their brains out and treat them poorly. I'd love to be around a woman who I can actually relate to as a person.
When I tried this on the Nigerian girl, she backed up and refused. I expected her to leave. We ended up having an actually deep and enjoyable conversation, possibly the only one I've had with a woman in quite a long time. She told me that while she's attracted to me, and thinks I'm a cool guy, she wants to get to know me better before we do anything. I continued trying to escalate on her after our conversation, and it failed. I drunk texted her last night, and the following ensued.
Her: lol okay
Me: are you awake? lets go on an adventure
Her: Blah blah i'm tired blah blah
Me: shame...either way I wanna see you again...i have a weird chemistry with you
Her: weird chemistry? or cause you didn't get to fuck? lmao, keep lying. you'll never get it
Me: idk, the world's full of women who want to fuck...it's not full of girls who i pour my heart out to
why do you think I'm lying?Her: because you bragged about how many women you've been with, its hard to believe i'm an exception
Me: fuck that the more you talk to me, the more of an exception you become...we want each other, im not gonna deny that...but I wasn't lying when I felt something with you. i want you back next week
her: or what? honestly you seemed like an amazing person but you kept forcing yourself on me and that was a turnoff. idk if i wanna put myself through that again
Me: you know what? fuck that, I wanna hold you because your actually someone i wanna spend time with...your not just another of these girls who wants me for my body and nothing else...i wanna hold you cause you actually listened to me. come back. that was fucking special
her: I apprecaite that. i don't know if I believe it. But i definitely appreciate. and I don't want you for your body. mmm well maybe later. but for now I just wanna get to know you, you seem like a genuine guy underneath all the testosterone
me: i want you around more...i've always played hard to get with girls, but fuck it, i wanna get to know you
her: okay we can meet up again. not in your room tho. and get to know each other more
Yeah, I know it's gay as fuck...but this is my first time I'm appealing to a woman's emotionality and sense of romance, rather than her raw urge to fuck. I could use some advice on where to go from here, not in terms of texting her, but just how I should proceed with the situation. I've never really been with a girl who actually listened to me and took interest in my personality and life. Up until now, girls have only liked me because I fuck their brains out and treat them poorly. I'd love to be around a woman who I can actually relate to as a person.
Homeboyy280 路 2016-05-03 10:28:00 路 #2382
(10-09-2013 07:00 PM)CJ Wrote: The ideal thing to do would be post the last text received, and if necessary a few that led up to it. Then members of the forum could help you come up with a good reply. OR if you already know what you want to reply, but aren't sure it's good, we could give you a quick gut check and let you know for sure.When I posted this in the newbie forum, I was told this was a more appropriate place:
This thread is not for:
Girls You've Already Banged.
- If you can't get a girl to hang out after banging, your text messaging skills aren't the problem you should be most concerned with.
This is a chick who clearly digs me, although she has told me on several occasions we will not screw, because I have a wife. (This is not a dealbreaker to me, so why her?) I have tried to generate a full range of emotions in her:
Late night text:
Me: Are you still mad at me?
She: I don't know what I am.
Does this mean she is dtf, or is one text away from blocking me entirely?