1. Never use "lol" or emocons. That is how females communicate. Do not double text.
2. That was a crappy text setting you up for failure.
Some responses:
"my mom says i am very handsome"
"then i'll have to settle for another night drinking with natalie portman"
Or better yet just ignore her for a few days and reframe.
Text banter is so fucking gay and it never helps you get laid. Masculine do not send cute little messages to others. Think how a man like King Leonidas would react to her banter.
So today I deleted ALL numbers out my phone that were girls that flaked/not working. Then I'm leaving a gym, and I get a text.
Her: "Hi *smiley*"
Me: Hey, who is this?
Her: "Oh, *slant face*
5 minutes later after I don't respond.
"Nevermind."
Me: "Ok."
Her: "Why did you delete my number?"
Me: "Because I don't want to talk to you anymore. Or if this is who I think, I had deleted your number weeks ago and we recently hung out again. Who is this?"
Her: "Who do you think it is?"
Me: this is where the conversation is at.
What should I text back? Should I just ignore it and let her declare herself later tomorrow?
I think it's a lost cause Alpha. She's not asking who you think it is, hoping you say her.
I'd ignore and just flirt if you do hear back. If you don't you can always hit the number in a week and ask "still thinking about me?" But not too soon.
(04-18-2016 09:50 PM)AlphaPrimate22 Wrote: So today I deleted ALL numbers out my phone that were girls that flaked/not working. Then I'm leaving a gym, and I get a text.
Her: "Hi *smiley*"
Me: Hey, who is this?
Her: "Oh, *slant face*
5 minutes later after I don't respond.
"Nevermind."
Me: "Ok."
Her: "Why did you delete my number?"
Me: "Because I don't want to talk to you anymore. Or if this is who I think, I had deleted your number weeks ago and we recently hung out again. Who is this?"
Her: "Who do you think it is?"
Me: this is where the conversation is at.
What should I text back? Should I just ignore it and let her declare herself later tomorrow?
"Me: "Because I don't want to talk to you anymore. Or if this is who I think, I had deleted your number weeks ago and we recently hung out again. Who is this?"
Very needy and beta. I would have said "new phone" or just brushed it off. You don't need to explain yourself to anyone. Responding with anger or emotional is a bit feminine - you come off like a scorned lover.
(04-18-2016 09:50 PM)AlphaPrimate22 Wrote: So today I deleted ALL numbers out my phone that were girls that flaked/not working. Then I'm leaving a gym, and I get a text.
Her: "Hi *smiley*"
Me: Hey, who is this?
Her: "Oh, *slant face*
5 minutes later after I don't respond.
"Nevermind."
Me: "Ok."
Her: "Why did you delete my number?"
Me: "Because I don't want to talk to you anymore. Or if this is who I think, I had deleted your number weeks ago and we recently hung out again. Who is this?"
Her: "Who do you think it is?"
Me: this is where the conversation is at.
What should I text back? Should I just ignore it and let her declare herself later tomorrow?
"Me: "Because I don't want to talk to you anymore. Or if this is who I think, I had deleted your number weeks ago and we recently hung out again. Who is this?"
Very needy and beta. I would have said "new phone" or just brushed it off. You don't need to explain yourself to anyone. Responding with anger or emotional is a bit feminine - you come off like a scorned lover.
I'd probably respond "no clue", if at all.
Continued:
Her: Or can you at least tell me why you don't want to talk to me anymore? I think I deserve that at least since I haven't done anything.
Me: You catching feelings.
Her: Do you know who this is?
Me: No. (I expected the girl I banged a few months ago but was wrong and said this following no to initiate flirting just in case) Stop being a bad girl and reveal yoursel.f
Her: It's Victoria. I don't have feelings anymore.
Me: Did not reply anymore and ended it there.
What do you guys think? I know HankMoody would've probably not replied. I just had this real bad desire to find out.
I don't understand what the benefit is of burning the bridge.
If you don't want to talk to her, simply don't. You don't need her approval or permission not to talk to her. You certainly don't need to explain yourself.
Burning bridges poses no benefit to you. It just makes you sound petty and overly emotional.
(04-19-2016 04:49 PM)HankMoody Wrote: I don't understand what the benefit is of burning the bridge.
If you don't want to talk to her, simply don't. You don't need her approval or permission not to talk to her. You certainly don't need to explain yourself.
Burning bridges poses no benefit to you. It just makes you sound petty and overly emotional.
(04-19-2016 04:49 PM)HankMoody Wrote: I don't understand what the benefit is of burning the bridge.
If you don't want to talk to her, simply don't. You don't need her approval or permission not to talk to her. You certainly don't need to explain yourself.
Burning bridges poses no benefit to you. It just makes you sound petty and overly emotional.
Keep texting light and easy.
I need to work on that. ehh
You sound bitter and jaded, knock it off immediately.
Going all gung ho on a bitch does no good, and she'll probably laugh it off later.
Like PT said, light, easy, and even funny.
If you aren't interested in a bitch, don't text her.
Texting should be simple. The easiest way to make texting a non-issue is to follow this rule:
Don't take it seriously.
Pretend texting is like fake life. Besides making plans, it should be used for exchanging fun/sexy pictures and very light chatting if any. Don't be emotional over text. Don't be butthurt. Don't try to guilt trip women, call them out, or put them in their place. Be easy and breezy. The best response to a female for negative reinforcement is no response. No need to be a dick or give a girl a reason to hate you.
The only time you should be harsh with a girl over text if she is harassing you and won't leave you alone regardless of how much you ignore. Tell her off short and swift. If she continues then just block her number.
(04-20-2016 09:18 AM)Andre Wrote: Not entirely sure where to put this, but I feel it麓s in the ball park of this thread and it麓s definitely worth a watch. Funny concept!
I will save the rest of you the trouble, this show is awful and not funny. Just like his texts and the girl's responses.
The textperts weren't completely without merit when they were TALKING, but all their texts were pretty weak. You'd be better off soliciting advice from this thread and not watching shitty TV shows like this. This thread is a better result of that concept than the TV show.
Actually, the girl's response at the end was amusing if nearly certain (turning him down).
(04-20-2016 04:59 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote: I will save the rest of you the trouble, this show is awful and not funny. Just like his texts and the girl's responses.
The textperts weren't completely without merit when they were TALKING, but all their texts were pretty weak. You'd be better off soliciting advice from this thread and not watching shitty TV shows like this. This thread is a better result of that concept than the TV show.
Actually, the girl's response at the end was amusing if nearly certain (turning him down).
Really you didn't even think it was remotely funny? Oh well. I generally like their youtube channel and the guys behind it, and I find this pretty amusing as well. Maybe that's why.
However, I didn't recommend people taking their advice. And I agree this thread is better for that purpose. I'd still recommend that video for entertainment purposes though. My 2 cents.
Had my eyes on this blonde chick from physics class. Last week, she was sitting alone so I sat with her for dinner at the campus cafeteria. Yesterday, I saw her at the workshop for my physics class and started a conversation and got her number.
This is the first text I sent her this morning, one day after getting her number: Hey, come over later tonight, let's chill. --alpha
Her: I'm sorry. I'm going on a date with my boyfriend tonight.
I said fuck it and didn't reply.
Well at least she gave me her number and did not say she had a boyfriend...
When you get terse, one or two-word replies to openers on Tinder, or when the chick is replying with terse, close-ended responses that make it hard to get a conversation going, do you just drop it and move on to other matches, or what would be some good restart texts?
A friend of mine suggested going with "So you suck at banter and small talk," but that seems butthurt, needy and whiny to me.
I get that really attractive women are going to get dozens of matches a day and don't have time to respond to every guy that writes them, so why even respond at all if you're not interested? Why not just ignore the guy?
(04-22-2016 12:58 PM)DetlefMourning Wrote: When you get terse, one or two-word replies to openers on Tinder, or when the chick is replying with terse, close-ended responses that make it hard to get a conversation going, do you just drop it and move on to other matches, or what would be some good restart texts?
A friend of mine suggested going with "So you suck at banter and small talk," but that seems butthurt, needy and whiny to me.
I get that really attractive women are going to get dozens of matches a day and don't have time to respond to every guy that writes them, so why even respond at all if you're not interested? Why not just ignore the guy?
99% of how she responds depends on your profile. If you're good looking or otherwise interest her, you can text her "purple monkey dishwasher" and she'll find a reason to reply.
If you're not getting a lot of replies, it's not because your text game sucks, it's because your profile is off.
(04-22-2016 12:58 PM)DetlefMourning Wrote: When you get terse, one or two-word replies to openers on Tinder, or when the chick is replying with terse, close-ended responses that make it hard to get a conversation going, do you just drop it and move on to other matches, or what would be some good restart texts?
A friend of mine suggested going with "So you suck at banter and small talk," but that seems butthurt, needy and whiny to me.
I get that really attractive women are going to get dozens of matches a day and don't have time to respond to every guy that writes them, so why even respond at all if you're not interested? Why not just ignore the guy?
99% of how she responds depends on your profile. If you're good looking or otherwise interest her, you can text her "purple monkey dishwasher" and she'll find a reason to reply.
If you're not getting a lot of replies, it's not because your text game sucks, it's because your profile is off.
Even on a platform like Tinder where she's already right-swiped me? It's not Match, OKC or POF where you're essentially cold-calling. I feel like on Tinder there's some pre-selection if she even shows up as a match.
(04-22-2016 02:59 PM)DetlefMourning Wrote: Even on a platform like Tinder where she's already right-swiped me? It's not Match, OKC or POF where you're essentially cold-calling. I feel like on Tinder there's some pre-selection if she even shows up as a match.
Right swipes don't mean shit man neither do matches or super likes.
The pre-selection is your looks, your bio, and you chatting her up.
A girl could get the gina tingles for you on the right day or not.
What matters is number closing a chick and getting her out with you.
(04-22-2016 02:59 PM)DetlefMourning Wrote: Even on a platform like Tinder where she's already right-swiped me? It's not Match, OKC or POF where you're essentially cold-calling. I feel like on Tinder there's some pre-selection if she even shows up as a match.
Right swipes don't mean shit man neither do matches or super likes.
The pre-selection is your looks, your bio, and you chatting her up.
A girl could get the gina tingles for you on the right day or not.
What matters is number closing a chick and getting her out with you.
I was watching a female friend of mine (I'd put her at about a 7, some might put her higher) swiping on Tinder.
It was nuts. She rarely swiped right and the sheer speed with which she made a decision was nuts. Only very rarely would she look at a second picture, much less any of the text in the profile. I couldn't believe how many fit, good looking guys she was turning down and the rate of speed that she was swiping at. Good god it was a choking on the red pill moment.
Now, this chick would almost certainly want to date me if I were available, but here she is swiping no like a machine gun set on burst to a ton of guys surely making more money than me, more attractive than me, and in significantly better shape than me. Just goes to show you that game and social proof as well as meeting a girl in person are huge factors.
I still kind of shake my head thinking about watching her that night.
I dont get stuck often in the text messages purgatory but this time i dont know what will be the best next move, probably is because i comunicate with this girl in english and not in spanish,[/align] my english is ok but hers is not so good. Anyway Ill try to go to the subject.
I opened a girl in a club in Timisoara(Romania), 180cm blonde a solid 8. She was receptive to my approach and we chat for 30-40 minutes with pauses to speak with my friends, also her 2 friends were nice and didnt tried to cockblock me at all. I needed to change venue and i knew it would be imposible to extract her with the 2 fiends so i moved on and phone close her. She give me her number and told me that i could pass by the caf茅 where she works next day.
As i knew she would be working it was no point to pass by so i texted her next day with an excuse and told her that we should meet another day. Then i traveled to another city for 6 days and i scheduled with her a date for the day i had to come back to the city. I was very late that day because of my work and i had to cancel the date i phoned her but she didnt answered later she texted me and told me that she also had some problem and couldnt meet.
I flight back to Spain and i completly forgoted about her. After 3 weeks she texted me asking how am i and if i was in the city( i told her before that i would be out for 3 weeks on holidays). I answer some hours later that im fine and that im still on holidays but ill come back in a couple of days. One week after on Sunday i text her" How u doing how was your weekend?" i normally would text diferent but since her english is limited i want to keep it simple. After this text no answer. It was clear to me that comunication was over but today after 2 weeks she text me "Hi How are u?".
My first thinking was, dont answer kickly and wait a couple of days to anser but if i do so i dont know if we will be able to keep the comunication going. Ill be back in the city where she is in one or two weeks and ill like to date her.
What do you think? what would be the wise move now?
I've got a bit of a problem with reply times. If she waits a day or so to reply, should I move on, answer in a couple hours, or answer in a couple days?
(04-24-2016 02:34 PM)Angel On Wrote: I dont get stuck often in the text messages purgatory but this time i dont know what will be the best next move, probably is because i comunicate with this girl in english and not in spanish,[/align] my english is ok but hers is not so good. Anyway Ill try to go to the subject.
I opened a girl in a club in Timisoara(Romania), 180cm blonde a solid 8. She was receptive to my approach and we chat for 30-40 minutes with pauses to speak with my friends, also her 2 friends were nice and didnt tried to cockblock me at all. I needed to change venue and i knew it would be imposible to extract her with the 2 fiends so i moved on and phone close her. She give me her number and told me that i could pass by the caf茅 where she works next day.
As i knew she would be working it was no point to pass by so i texted her next day with an excuse and told her that we should meet another day. Then i traveled to another city for 6 days and i scheduled with her a date for the day i had to come back to the city. I was very late that day because of my work and i had to cancel the date i phoned her but she didnt answered later she texted me and told me that she also had some problem and couldnt meet.
I flight back to Spain and i completly forgoted about her. After 3 weeks she texted me asking how am i and if i was in the city( i told her before that i would be out for 3 weeks on holidays). I answer some hours later that im fine and that im still on holidays but ill come back in a couple of days. One week after on Sunday i text her" How u doing how was your weekend?" i normally would text diferent but since her english is limited i want to keep it simple. After this text no answer. It was clear to me that comunication was over but today after 2 weeks she text me "Hi How are u?".
My first thinking was, dont answer kickly and wait a couple of days to anser but if i do so i dont know if we will be able to keep the comunication going. Ill be back in the city where she is in one or two weeks and ill like to date her.
What do you think? what would be the wise move now?
First, your English is fine so don't worry about texting in English. Keep it simple so she can use translate and understand.
You unconsciously did excellent stretching this girl out. Now that she expects you to take a long time to respond, you can actually respond sooner. Because of that, I wouldn't wait a couple of days. Since you will be back soon, text her now and say a specific day you want to see her. This gives plenty of time for her to clear her schedule. You don't have to play games. You have established a NFG attitude already. Good luck.