Post: #2426

^ "are you new to the area" doesn't seem like a good hook. Maybe it would of been best to reintroduce yourself or something witty that relates to when the two of you met.

Post: #2427

(10-22-2015 07:04 AM)duedue Wrote:  Texted her about an hour and a half after getting her number with an "Are you new to the area" but got no response. I don't know maybe she thought I asked her the same question I asked in the store, or maybe just not interested. Don't know how to behave when I go to the store again.

What was the conversation like with her, in the first place? A bit more detail would help.

Post: #2428

Came back from the gym tonight, had a bath, just relaxing when I hear a couple talking outside my window.
There is a pub downstairs and I listen and its a slightly drunken relationship convo but they're not together.
She is about a 6.5 I would say, but something intriguingly sexual about her.
I get dressed and go down for one drink.
Walk in and see what looks like a hen party and they all look a little drunk, 6 women and 3 guys.
It turns out to be an office get together for the girl I saw outside my window who is flying to Vegas to get married on Tuesday.
I order a JD & Coke and as I'm chatting to the bar staff, I see the girl giving me the eye over another guys shoulder.

A minute later and she comes round and stands next to me to order.
I ask her what they're celebrating, she's cagey about it being a hen party and denies it being her that's getting married when I ask her directly.
As she leaves, she says I should go and join them, I say thanks but I'm ok here.

Then one of the guys comes over with 2 other women, who hen peck him a bit into buying drinks for them and he offers to buy me one which I accept.
Turns out it's a commodities trading firm and he starts spilling his guts about office politics and one crazy woman going through divorce is trying to fuck him, but he won't cheat on his prettier wife so she is making trouble for him at work blah blah.

Then the hen girl comes back to chat, admits to him she liked me and so told me it wasn't her hen party.
He sees what's happening and starts mentioning how big and burly her fiancée is.
She asks why I have panda black eyes, I explain I got my nose broken on Monday sparring MMA, she's giving me the eye and says she likes a 'mans man' blah blah.
Asks me if I can take her seriously in her tiara/veil thing, I ask her how she wants to be taken in her veil, she turns and points her butt at me, looking over her shoulder and the guy says I can see what's up here, I'll leave you two to it then, laughing.

Then all the other woman come over and start cockblocking me, and drag her away to dance, she grabs my hand to go with her, perfect opportunity to twirl her or something but I stay leaning at the bar and let her go.

Later she comes back, starts chatting, I neg her during the convo, probably too much but use her pouts to put my arm around, laughing and pull her in to me, she snuggles in a bit and doesn't pull away.
The pretty 19 yd old barmaid is giving me knowing smirks which this girl picks up on and they giggle together.

I keep my hand on her lower back and ass as we chat.
I ask where she is staying tonight, she says wherever she wants, I say what about your fiancée, she says he won't care, he knows I'm a liability, and laughs. I put my arm around her shoulders again and pull her in saying looks like your coming upstairs with me then, she says you think so? I say yeah looking her straight in the eye with a smirk.
She laughs and says I made her blush now, then says 'I can't.'
I say no, you can't and turn my back on her, stepping away slightly, hoping she might chase a bit but she walks off back to her friends, running her hand across my ass as she goes.

Soon they all start getting ready to go, she comes over and kisses me on the cheek says thanks for looking after me.
They can't find which exit is unlocked as its now after hours, so I walk through them, take her hand, she lets go of another guys hand to follow me. I take her to the fire exit that leads to my flat, she starts pulling back as they're all shouting 'no he's taking you upstairs' and as we almost get out the door she comes to a complete stop, and is resisting going any further, but I'm not holding her hand, she is gripping my loose hand. She's looking at me, and I say if you don't want to come, let go, and she does.

I go upstairs but then hear them outside my window again, which I open and thank the guy for the couple of drinks he bought me, really just to get their attention. She pipes up again, hey, come with us to the (another venue), the same guy says yeah come with us, and i say OK, but as I close the window, I decide I don't want to be the thirsty hang around and don't go.
I would probably just get cock blocked again and be even later to bed alone.
Didnt even ask for the number, but may catch her again at some point though.

Post: #2429

(10-22-2015 04:51 PM)ksbms Wrote:  

(10-22-2015 07:04 AM)duedue Wrote:  Texted her about an hour and a half after getting her number with an "Are you new to the area" but got no response. I don't know maybe she thought I asked her the same question I asked in the store, or maybe just not interested. Don't know how to behave when I go to the store again.

What was the conversation like with her, in the first place? A bit more detail would help.

Exactly. Now that I think about it I got her number prematurely like a robot without making an impression. The only conversation we had was this:
Are you new here?
Yes, have been here for two weeks.

I don't know if she meant in the area or at the store. Didn't even ask her name. Don't know whether send her a rebound text like "have you been in the town for two weeks?" or wait till I go there again this weekend (she may not be there at the time I go.)

Post: #2430

Went or actually crashed a corporate party. It was on Eventbrite.
Total sausage fest.
However some of the girls were cute.
Opened a set of 4 with:" I don't know your company. Tell me about it".
The first couple were from one company, and 6 on a good day. Engaged them for a minute and than told them to go mingle.
I was left with 2 Ukranian 7. One short and big breast, the other blond with great figure.
Engaged and teased for about 5 m. Than cockblocked by a call. Had to answer. They hung for 2 minutes waiting, than left.
The call was work, and lasted 15 m.
Totally lost momentum.

Post: #2431

(10-22-2015 06:58 PM)SuperBock Wrote:  I decide I don't want to be the thirsty hang around and don't go.

Probably a good call as you gave it a very good shot, and it was only going to get harder from there. I've often found women on office nights out are careful not to look like a slut in front of their colleagues. In this case, especially so as she's getting married.

Talk about perfect logistics though. I think if I lived above a decent bar like that I'd never get any sleep.

Post: #2432

I did 3 consecutive days hitting the grocery store and didn't talk to a single person. I felt frustrated. I considered my situation and decided to completely cut out porn.

The last two days my anxiety levels are drastically improved and I feel energized. Last two days I've done approaches and opened well several times. However, I struggled with the ramble each time:

Hi, is that coffee with hazelnuts?
Her: Its got hazelnut aroma.
Is the artificial?
Her: Yes, its artificial. Not very good.
What do you usually get?
Her: I get coffee without any flavoring.
Which one is that?
Her: Usually this one. (She hands me the package). Do you have a coffee mill?
(I make a puzzled look) No, I don't
Her: Well, then you should try this premilled one. You can make it in a coffee maker or Turkish coffee pot.
Hmm, well I only have a regular pot.
Her: Well, you can just pour boilibg water over the coffee.
Well, I was reading in an article....
Her: Here, this is the one..(hands me the milled coffee).
Thanks.

That girl must have had a lot of coffee that day. She cut me off mid ramble and was talking more than me.

I guess next time I'll stick to the herbal tea or water aisles.

I felt frustrated today...in a good way. Got to improve my weak points and keep going:

More ramble- pre plan some basic talking points that apply to all foods.

Prepare some big bait personal statements and be ready to use them.

Post: #2433

^^ I wouldn't worry about it, sometimes your brain can't come up with something to say, might have been the chic too.

Sometimes I'll go Mark Manson and say what's on my mind, that I was trying to figure out some clever winding conversations about coffee, but then I realized I don't know any coffee stories.

Doing this takes your mind off your mind. You're no longer thinking about thinking of something to say about coffee...you're thinking about coffee.

Post: #2434

Yah, next time I'll just go random with my ramble. Bla bla bla cofee flavors....bla bla bla...health...morning person vs night owl.

....then the big bait personal statements as soon as I run out of commentary.


I'm going to move to a different style of game too. 33 percent online, 33 percent daygame (30 minutes a day, maximum), 33 percent meetup groups, and 1 percent luck

No point in burning myself out.
Eventually, I'll meet a nice, quiet girl I can date.

Post: #2435

I see a beautiful, young white girl in yoga pants, spectacular ass and body!

I speed up and walk passed her one step, as I'm passing her..

me: wow you have the perfect butt
her: oh haha thanks
me: it wasn't trying to look but i just happened to look in that direction accidentally
her: haha sure
me: are you an exercise major?
her: no im a dancer
me: awesome, dancing is the best, what kind of dance?
her: hip hop and ballet
me: thats so sexy and a great workout
her: yup
me: i like to dance after i get a little drunk
her: hehe
me: its good therapy also for people
her: ya thats the thing about dancing it can be liberating for people
me: thats cool, i love movement as a way to relieve stress and stuff
her: ya exactly

We walk and talk for a few minutes. She was very pleasant.

me: hey nice talking to you, i almost feel like i should ask you for your number so we can chat again sometime
her: oh thats ok but thanks tho

Next!

--

Ahead of me a see a gorgeous asian girl, she looked mixed, tight little body, very fit, long hair, sexy and feminine..

I walk passed her and just as I'm passing her..

me: hey i love your dress
her: oh thanks
me: you must be a fashion design major
her: actually im undeclared
me: oh good for you, ya take ur time and pursue what you are passionate about, no rush to choose
her: ya im a freshman so im just doing all my general ed stuff
me: a freshman! welcome to berkeley, where are you from?
her: im from san diego
me: i love san diego, i used to surf up in la jolla
her: oh ya im from carlsbad
me: i love it down there but how are you enjoying northern california so far?
her: i love it

We walk and talk. Soon we arrive at her dorm.

me: hey nice talking to you, wanna exchange numbers, maybe i can show you around town
her: um ya that sounds like fun

Got her number. Texted her a few hours later. We've been texting ever since. It's going well and I hope to set a date soon! Very sexy 18 year old!

--

Yoga pants, firm round ass, long shiny hair, thin toned body, a pretty European looking girl..

She walks right passed me. I turn and admire her hot body.. She stops in the smoking area.. She see's my looking at her.. Fuck! Its now or never!

I walk over to her..

me: hey
her: hey
me: you look great
her: thank you
me: i was just about to go to class but i wanted to come over and introduce myself, my name is gio, i know this is sort of random but there are so many fat chicks around here, you really stand out, haha
her: oh what haha
me: whats ur name?
her: cassandra
me: cool u from around here?
her: no i live in san francisco
me: oh ya me too

Blah, blah, blah..

me: well, ill let u finish your smoke, can i maybe text u later and invite u out for a drink or something sometime
her: oh sorry im only 18
me: oh okay well in that case maybe just for an iced tea haha
her: lol thats ok but thanks anyways

Next!

--

Sexy, little, young white girl in yoga pants. Slim and pretty.

I walk along side..

me: cool ear rings
her: oh thanks
me: they look central american
her: oh actually i think i got them at forever 21
me: they always have cool stuff, i used to shop there but the one over here is all girls
her: ya the big one is downtown
me: ya that one is huge. Are you from around here?
her: no im from san jose
me: oh boy, its hot in san jose but it gets cold up here
her: ya tell me about it, ive been freezing at night
me: ya in san francisco, you gotta get your cold weather wardrobe in order
her: im learning that
me: scarves, sweaters, light jackets, sweatshirts, stuff like that.
her: yup

We walk and talk for a minute.

me: hey wanna chat again sometime
her: um thats ok

Next!

--

Hot little Asian, athletic body, long hair, feminine and cute.

me: thats an amazing bag.. is that from brazil?
her: oh no i got it at world exports
me: that store has so much cool shit
her: u know that place?
me: ya my mom used to love that store
her: its a great store i love it
me: where are you from
her: im from seattle
me: oh wow welcome to SF, how u liking it?
her: so far i love it
me: ya its a cool city, many many layers to explore

We walk and talk for a minute.

me: hey can i text u later and continue flirting with you?
her: sorry i have a boyfreind

Next!

--

Sexy, young latina in yoga pants, thin frame, fat ass, long hair, feminine..

I walk along side..

me: hey I like your pants, those are kind of different
her: oh thanks
me: I dont see too many with the big pink flower
her: ya thats what i like about them
me: very cool, how's school going?
her: oh not bad
me: u from arounf here?
her: no santa cruz

I could tell that she wasn't interested in talking. I ejected.

Next!

--

Sexy, light skinned black girl, vibrant, healthy, caramel, very sexy and clean.

I walk alongside..

me: i love that peach colored skirt
her: oh thank you
me: i call that burnt peach, i used to have a sweater like that, i miss that color
her: lol
me: are you a fashion major?
her: ha no, i study psychology
me: oh shit, ur gonna be an FBI agent or something
her: well, i dont know about that but i do like to study behavior and stuff
me: ya it is fascinating. Are you from around here?
her: yes i live in oakland
me: i like oakland cause its sunny and theres good mexican food
her: haha ya i love mexican food
me: i have a grandmother from mexico, shes an amazing cook
her: wow
me: are u like brazilian or something
her: lol no im african american
me: oh ok, we are all a lot more mixed then we care to realize, i want to get a dna test
her: i have heard of those, might be interesting to do sometime

We chat for a minute, then, come to a parking lot entrance.

me: nice chatting with you
her: ya u too
me: can i take ur number
her: ya sure.

I texted her that night. We've been texting ever since.

We'll see

--

Waiting in line at the food court, I spot a gorgeous, young latina wearing a little half shirt that showed off her perfectly toned stomach.

She was placing her order with the guy that works there.

her: I'll take the black bean and cheese burrito
me: oooh thats a good one, I just had it yesterday
her: oh ya
me: they're pretty good but i like that one was cause of the cheese and green peppers
her: ive never had it, i cant wait to try

It was my turn to order.

me: hey enjoy, im gonna try a new one today, the sweet potato and chicken
her: oh okay

We waited for our burritos but I didn't speak to her again cause I didn't want to appear over eager.

She got hers and started walking away.

I quickly jogged over to her, slowed down, got along side of her, smiled and said..

me: hey
her: hey
me: enjoy ur lunch i just wanted ask you one more thing
her: ok
me: i like ur style, can i text u sometime
her: oh i would but

Next!

--

I see a beautiful body in little spandex shorts, what an ass! Pretty, little filapina girl..

I walk just passed her..

me: are u a cheerleader?
her: oh not here but i used to be a cheerleader in high school
me: oh cool what school
her: san marcos valley
me: you look like such a cheerleader
her: lol i do?
me: yup, like right out of a google image search
her: what haha
me: cheer leading is too much work in college, you have to really love it
her: ya im kind of over it now anyways
me: good move on to something else
her: ya i agree

She was very pleasant. We talked for a few minutes.

me: hey wanna talk again sometime, maybe i can take u out for a drink?
her: oh im not old enough
me: how old are you?
her: 19
me: well, whatever, are you single? you wanna hang out?
her: i cant, i have a

Next!

--

I see a beautiful, light skinned black girl with a spectacular body..

I am behind her on the stairs..

me: u look like a gymnastics person
her: what me
me: ya you look like u do gymnastics
her: oh no, i dont like sports
me: lol good for you, they are mostly a distraction for most people
her: hey didnt we talk last month?
me: no i would remember you
her: no wait we did talk
me: what did we talk about?
her: i dont remember
me: i think you're getting me mixed up with someone else
her: no it was you
me: how come we never dated?
her: lol im with someone
me: well its none of there business what we do
her: ha shut up

Next!

Just another day at the office!

Post: #2436

Nice work, Gio. Would love to see all that in action! Got any vids or audio of your approaches?

Post: #2437

Gio, you're my goddamn hero

Post: #2438

"its none of their business what we do" perfect line. Awesome log as always. How's your text game? I'm curious if its witty and entertaining or purely logistical and for making plans. I number closed one chick with a pretty high interest level but haven't a clue of what to text.

Post: #2439

Didn't think it'd be much time before I'd make yet another Personal Best for caliber of hotness approached . . .

Once more, at the University, I was hangin' back on a bench, of course scoping for the latest prospect, when this absolute stunner Hispanic appears out of nowhere - tight orange lowcut longsleeve showcasing enormous breasts, tight jeans with pantylines on display, the whole ensemble hugging the classic quality figure that proper men go for. This was the type of chick that arouses gawking and head-turns from the girls as well as guys. Big pair of aviators, heavily made up, and with her long hair in a ponytail which started way up near the top of the head. Musta been one of Kanye West's gals. Yeah, that kind of look. I damn near disqualified myself right off the bat.

The sight hit me like a thunderbolt, and so I hurriedly scampered after her, practically running up alongside her as she descended a flight of steps, laying on an opener about her big hoop earrings, ("I read an article recently about how the bigger the hoops, says something about her attitude, maybe the sassier she is."). Hell, I think I heard something like that here.

Looking her over even closer at that point, both forearms were coated with sprawling tats . That initial encounter lasted mere seconds before she broke away to go into one of the campus' concession stores. I wasn't finished, so I opted to wait it out in a populated corner of the area in order to plan a re-engage.

After a few minutes she exits and passes by, within a few yards of where I was seated. I try to give off a nod, but I'm cleanly ignored. Every guy she passes takes in the sight. I fuckin' follow her to the quad before holding back, allowing her to go way off into the distance, across the quad. Speculating as to where she could've slinked off to, I head over to the general region, and leisurely buzz around a bit before finding her hovering around in front of an office.

I re-engage her, calling her "hoops girl", striking up a tiny chat, sitting down next to where she was standing, alternatingly going on and off of her phone. Several times, dudes pass by us and blatantly stare. Tells me she's a psychology major (heh), and I ask her, "So, you want to learn how people think?"

Finally, I lay on my "Do you date?" line, to which she replies to the affirmative. And so . . .

"Then let's date."
Negative.
"I know we've only started the connection-building process, so wouldn't want you to back down prematurely. You'd miss out."

She's clearly having none of it, and so, I head off, still rather pleased with myself. My pulse finally stabilizing.

I had this nagging feeling that I'm just not her type of guy.

And on top of that, she probably thought I was following her. Whatever.

Post: #2440

I had a great series of approaches today.

I didn’t concern myself about whether I was doing it “correctly" to be indirect. I straightened neck, pulled my shoulders back and went in.
I rambled on for as long as I could. Then, I hit the big bait: When I lived in...., When I worked as a...., When I was camping....

The approaches were:
A) Hello, is this --- Park?
B) Excuse me, what kind of cake is this?
C) Excuse me, do you know how to pick out a good cucumber?
D) Is that a good cell phone?

E) And, my silliest one: Excuse me, is that a tomato? (It was one of those strange looking varieties).

I’ll cast my net wider next time:
+Different neighborhood- avoid downtown as its full of rich, snobby types.
+New venues: Outdoor spots, cafes/casual restaurants, clothing shops.
(+ Online and meetups to supplement)

I’m a fairly calm and reserved person, so its difficult to find girls that match my vibe though I’m certain its possible.
What really helped me with my approach was the following line of thought:

1. This particular approach will almost certainly fail.
2. It’ll take ~1000 approaches to meet a girl.
2. I am one step closer to my goal.

With that mindset, today was 5/1000. I was positively radiant on the way home today. Within the next year, I’ll either succeed or figure out that I need to head to a smaller town which matches my vibe. Either way, its one step closer to success.

As Henry Ford said, "There is joy in work. There is no happiness except in the realization that we have accomplished something."

Post: #2441

Friday I hit the gym early and had plenty of hot fit chicks near me and in the gym in general. I approached an attractive Persian chick that gave off party girl tendencies. My game was too tame. I went for the number after we had spoke for a bit but she wasn't interested.

I also met a short 5'0-5'1 brunette with a sexy figure and a cute face. She has like a mole or two but they work for her. We spoke briefly and I actually ran into her today at the gym. Complimented her kicks and we spoke about my training. I did some light flirting instead of going direct (game was on autopilot). She gave me her name and moved to another area.

I wimped out on approaching a sexy Hispanic/mixed looking chick that came into the dance studio while I jumped rope. I did make an attempt but she had earbuds in and I wasn't hungry enough to persist. She did some pretty provocative stretches and left not long after.

This wasn't one of my best days style wise. I wore street clothes and probably looked like I hadn't got much sleep. From the gym I headed over to the mall. I see two attractive asians but don't approach. After getting in I charge my phone for a bit when a cute, hipster looking black chick with a nose ring sits across from me.

She smiles and I compliment her boots. She digs my shoes the same. I go over to her, banter a bit about some commonalities we have. Though I was talking a bit much (she talked more), she had high interest level and agreed that she'd like to link up sometime. I get the number and head off to approach more girls.

I did some short approaches in a clothing store. You can guess the type of chicks, ha. Reactions were warm but I couldn't take the interactions any further. On my way out there was one that seemed a bit nervous. Turns out she was in high school, I ejected.

After getting blown out by a mother and daughter, I met a cute Colombian that seemed interesting. I ejected early after a bit of flirtatious banter. Her manager was there and I knew it was a likely fail.

At the moment I see there is a lot of work that will need to be put in for me to be successful. My head still gets in the way of my progress.

Post: #2442

Badass girl with a poker face at at a table behind me in the cafe. When going to bathroom I asked her to keep an eye on my stuff. When coming back I went to her and thanked and used the usual "Do you come here often?" I maintained strong eye contact but was nervous (maybe because of caffeine). Rambled a bit, she asked me a question followed by "That's cool" after which I bailed out. I guess the main problem was that I wasn't having fun with it.

Anyway it seems that I have to do some 10 approached a day (like Gio does) to get anywhere. I don't mind doing this but:

• 9-5 job,
• small town
• I work for the university for which most of the nubile females of the town are students and title nine might be shoved up my butt for "harassment".
  

Post: #2443

Forgot to mention that there was another girl, a 6, sitting at a table across the cafe with a friend of hers who gave me the eye. She looked at me again when I passed them on my way to bathroom but I didn't know what to do because they were two. What would you have done Gio?

Post: #2444

It was raining this morning, so I hid under an awning and this cute blonde was standing right near me.

I've decided to pick up the "One approach a day" habit and asked her "Do you know how long its going to rain?"

"No, I don't know", she replied ...with a smile )

Well, I froze up for a few seconds before regrouping and I turned around to say "Its been raining for the past few days....too long." , which I was going to follow up with "Back when I lived in a tropical country..." Unfortunately, she'd already moved on.

But, I'l give myself the point for #6/1000 approaches since I opened almost effortlessly as soon as I saw an opportunity. Next time though, I got to keep the momentum up: Don't freeze up...just keep talking-> bla bla weather is bad bla bla wish it was better....just keep going.

Its definately tough to get into spontaneous chatting, but even with a few days of practice I'm seeing improvements.

Post: #2445

Went to a free salsa lesson yesterday. Fine petite blonde there. From her demeanor it looked like she was from a good family. I practiced dance and talked with her some then more guys came so they started rotating the girls. Near the end I went to her and proposed dancing which she obliged. Wasn't sure weather to ask her if she was going to the dance venue (at a bar) that the instructor mentioned or telling her "I'd like to get to know you more". I went for the latter.

-It may be direct but I'd like to get to know you more.
Not tonight. [???]
- I meant can we be in touch?
We can see each other at the bar that the instructor mentioned.
-OK

Then I remembered that Heartiste wrote that with young (<22) girls you should keep it casual ("Let's hang out"). Still don't understand what she meant by "Not tonight".

Post: #2446

(10-27-2015 04:58 PM)duedue Wrote:  Then I remembered that Heartiste wrote that with young (<22) girls you should keep it casual ("Let's hang out"). Still don't understand what she meant by "Not tonight".

I think that she meant exactly what she said. Namely, 'not tonight'. Don't overthink it!

Post: #2447

OK, I meant to get her number.

Post: #2448

Once again on campus, I had just arrived that morning, and within minutes of sittin' on what must be my lucky bench, an Asian in loud-ass orange yoga pants or some such damn thing strolls on by. I locked on. She doesn't look at me as she passes, but after microseconds of hesitation I get up after her, opening her just as I caught up with her. I was too far behind, as she had to whip her head around to respond. I asked if she was a runner, and from there struck up some walk-and-talk about fitness routines and the like before smoothing into the obligatory academics. Naturally, she was heading for the library, so before I let her go, I ask if she'd like to hang sometime, to which she exuberantly replies in the affirmative, and so, snagged the number (should really try for insta-dates or equivalent, concrete plans more often perhaps), and sprinkled on some of the "yes-ladder" material --

"Are you going to be excited when I text you?"
(energetically) Yeah! Just text me.

Later on, I message, only to have it bounce back as a landline.

I had sent this just at the start of my next class, so it had me in a decidedly foul mood for the duration.

I wanted to add some commentary about how I'm finally easing past that preliminary span of experience by where one gets excited over merely meeting a girl, and subsequently, getting a number . . . because, not only do we gradually get cozier with such interactions, as it's what we do, but also we learn that getting a number is as close to nothing without actually being so. We take the interaction as far as we can go right from the start, and build as much connection as possible within whatever length of time afforded. I get that.

But what still messes with me is the kind of shit from that day. She seemed genuinely interested, and I walked away from that one assured of myself that I garnered my latest serious prospect - only to slam into a fake number. And given how well I *thought* the interaction went, I couldn't resist absorbing, like, a dose of a drug - a quick high that feels nice. So, when what I took as a solid play takes a turn like that, the euphoria is reversed - and that's a pretty cruddy feeling.

That was my first play of that day, and I pulled several more before I left campus. And will keep going and going and going . . .

Post: #2449

(10-26-2015 10:06 AM)Oskar Wrote:  It was raining this morning, so I hid under an awning and this cute blonde was standing right near me.

I've decided to pick up the "One approach a day" habit and asked her "Do you know how long its going to rain?"

"No, I don't know", she replied ...with a smile )

Well, I froze up for a few seconds before regrouping and I turned around to say "Its been raining for the past few days....too long." , which I was going to follow up with "Back when I lived in a tropical country..." Unfortunately, she'd already moved on.

But, I'l give myself the point for #6/1000 approaches since I opened almost effortlessly as soon as I saw an opportunity. Next time though, I got to keep the momentum up: Don't freeze up...just keep talking-> bla bla weather is bad bla bla wish it was better....just keep going.

Its definately tough to get into spontaneous chatting, but even with a few days of practice I'm seeing improvements.

LAW 29: PLAN ALL THE WAY TO THE END
Plan for the followup to the opener.

Post: #2450

(10-27-2015 08:49 PM)Mess O. Wrote:  "Are you going to be excited when I text you?"
(energetically) Yeah! Just text me.

Later on, I message, only to have it bounce back as a landline.

I had sent this just at the start of my next class, so it had me in a decidedly foul mood for the duration.

I wanted to add some commentary about how I'm finally easing past that preliminary span of experience by where one gets excited over merely meeting a girl, and subsequently, getting a number . . . because, not only do we gradually get cozier with such interactions, as it's what we do, but also we learn that getting a number is as close to nothing without actually being so. We take the interaction as far as we can go right from the start, and build as much connection as possible within whatever length of time afforded. I get that.

But what still messes with me is the kind of shit from that day. She seemed genuinely interested, and I walked away from that one assured of myself that I garnered my latest serious prospect - only to slam into a fake number. And given how well I *thought* the interaction went, I couldn't resist absorbing, like, a dose of a drug - a quick high that feels nice. So, when what I took as a solid play takes a turn like that, the euphoria is reversed - and that's a pretty cruddy feeling.

That was my first play of that day, and I pulled several more before I left campus. And will keep going and going and going . . .

I know exactly how you feel as it use to happen to me all the time where a girl gives you a wrong number or does not reply.

That phase will pass quickly as you realize numbers ain't shit. Anybody can get a girls number.

The next phase you will encounter is the phase of losing girls and I'm talking full on making out with them even sometimes grabbing their ass/tittayz etc and nothing coming out of the interaction after that due to bad logistics, scheduling, her emotions etc...

It's gonna suck alot when you get to this phase of kissing girls you just met and nothing coming out of it.

The next phase you will get to is fucking girls you just met and no repeat bangs or fuck buddy coming out of it.

Eventually you will learn that it's part of the game and you have to keep playing to win or else your gonna lose.

I read your posts bro and I see you still have alot of fight in you. Don't let these bitches affect your mood so easily. Remeber it's her loss not yours.
Always have an Abundance Mentality and be Outcome Independent.

Here's an approach I did campus earlier today since I was off from work and decided to go study in the library for my midterm. I bumped into an old friend and we were walking around campus catching up on life. As we were walking I saw a cute little latina girl walking in the middle of 2 of her girl friends as if they were her body guards. She had this bright red lipstick that caught my attention and then I noticed her quickly looking at me as her friends were rambling on about something.

I quickly made the decision to do direct game as I knew time will be limited with this approach since she was with her friends walking at a fast pace. So I'm going to have to get in and out in under 1 minute. Challenge accepted as I have nothing to lose, only more experience to gain.

As soon as they passed me I quickly said excuse me you in the middle. She stopped and looked back at me while her 2 friends kept walking foward. I put my hand out as an invitation for a hand shake. She walked towards me and shook my hand and I asked her quickly what her name was. She told me her name while her body was facing side ways as if she's about to walk off. I told her I thought she was cute and asked her if she was single. She quickly blurted out that she has a boyfriend. I quickly but calmly responded by asking her if they were getting married. She looked shocked that I would reply in such and started walking back to her friends who were still walking away while yelling at her to come back to them as if she was a lost puppy.

Overall I feel indifferent about the the way I approached her as I've done this same approach hundreds of times on campus and have gotten numbers and laid quicker without all the BS friends first/get to know eachother, time hoe stuff.

But I never seem to understand why girls actively try to cockblock a guy who is confident enough to approach a cute girl. I know they don't think logically but damn these bitches were yelling at her from a distance to comeback as if she was a pet or something. If a girl tries to pick up on one of my fellow friends I don't go out of my way to cockblock her. I move to the side and let their interaction play out uninterrupted.

Anyways tomorrow is another great day filled with opportunities and me beautiful women to approach. Don't let it slip you by.