Post: #1

How are you guys, some of you guys are way more experienced than me on this subject and have prob been in this situation before, so here's the story.

I meet this girl, we go out for drinks on the first date, i think i did a really good job we hanged out till 5 in the morning by then we were already kissing and she was sitting on my lap by the end of the night.

First date ends, she texts me next day, we have been talking on the phone, she's always the one who calls me, i haven't done that once, Second date comes, she wants to go eat dinner even tho i tried to change her mind, she's in a difficult situation cause she doesnt have any1 who can consistently baby sit her kid so i i said, ok lets go.

During dinner she tells me she wants to take things really slow with me cause of past mistakes, And that if some1 comes along i should go for it cause she knows how much it sucks to be waiting. I said sure i understand where u coming from, we eat dinner we go outside for a walk, we start making out by her car, she tells me, oh your turning me on, and then she says i dont think u understand what taking it slow means, then she calls my name and tells me STOP, we talked and she tells me, she doesnt want me to fall to hard for her.

So, before she leaves she gives me another kiss and she has been in touch since then.

My question, i think she's interested, next time we go out should i hold off on the touching and kissing and let her initiate ? maybe that way she knows i mean business, I dont know whats ur take on this situation guys.

Post: #2

"she wants to take things really slow with me cause of past mistakes"

Translation: I fucked way too many guys too quickly and they never called me back.

"she doesnt want me to fall to hard for her"

lol is she delusional?

Keep the pressure up. She's been around the block and there is no reason for you to wait when other guys didn't have to. Don't be creepy, but just keep trying after a cool off period of a few days.

Post: #3

ahhh the censor got me

Post: #4

(07-05-2009 04:10 PM)wowface Wrote:  she doesnt want me to fall to hard for her.

Sounds like she's projecting. Never listen to what a girl says about what she wants, how quickly she wants things to progress, etc. -- girls feel the need to say these things to justify the way they feel. Use her actions to gauge what she wants. If she really does want things to progress slowly, she'll make it obvious and you can make a judgment at that point about what you want to do.

Post: #5

Thanks for the replies, I really like the girl i was just a bit confused on what's going on, ill keep pushing and see what happens.

Post: #6

she already has a kid, so we know what she's been up to

That - is the real full monty

Post: #7

Yeah, girls always say things they don't mean and mean things they don't say. Play your game, don't be too pushy and keep your mind clear but do press on.

Post: #8

That second date should have been a okay fine but you're having dinner at my place instead of let's go out for dinner. Yeah, yeah, I know we had that thread about cooking for chicks but who said anything about cooking. Just order something in I guess.

In any event, keep the pressure on.

Post: #9

tell her you dont have time for playing her gamez....be the guy to her who can always say the word ''Next'' and it will be her loss if she doesnt make out with you as soon as possible,coz you can leave anytime.

she is doing the old trick which girls often do....sexuall Teasing.

Post: #10

A little update, after some conversations back and forth i didnt contact her for almost 2 days, and of course she got in touch with me, this girl is playing the game for sure that much i know, after talking to her several times i asked her out for our 3rd date and she said ok ill find some1 to take care of my kid, u know the same routine, of course she's going to flake.

At this point I'm not gonna ask her out anymore, next time she gets in touch with me im just gonna do the, "i dont hang out with flaky girls" thing and see what happens, her situation is kinda difficult with the kid but like the old saying goes, if a girl wants to see you, she'll find the time.

Chemestry is great with her, at some point i was actually thinking about trying to make her my girl but i dont know, i dont want to get the oneinits, when i feel in my gut that this would prob go no where.

Post: #11

(07-13-2009 04:53 PM)wowface Wrote:  A little update, after some conversations back and forth i didnt contact her for almost 2 days, and of course she got in touch with me, this girl is playing the game for sure that much i know, after talking to her several times i asked her out for our 3rd date and she said ok ill find some1 to take care of my kid, u know the same routine, of course she's going to flake.

At this point I'm not gonna ask her out anymore, next time she gets in touch with me im just gonna do the, "i dont hang out with flaky girls" thing and see what happens, her situation is kinda difficult with the kid but like the old saying goes, if a girl wants to see you, she'll find the time.

Chemestry is great with her, at some point i was actually thinking about trying to make her my girl but i dont know, i dont want to get the oneinits, when i feel in my gut that this would prob go no where.

been there exactly where are you rite now,

the most suitable way to handle this kind of situation is to just tell her straight that it was nice knowing her..and then dump her,cutt off any kind of communication with her and delete her number as well.

she will feel rejected...

its easier said than done coz at this stage you are not able to leave her,but you have to do it anyway,or you will continue playing her gamez and going to get nothing.

gudluck.

Post: #12

(07-07-2009 11:45 AM)Trotter Wrote:  That second date should have been a okay fine but you're having dinner at my place instead of let's go out for dinner. Yeah, yeah, I know we had that thread about cooking for chicks but who said anything about cooking. Just order something in I guess.

In any event, keep the pressure on.

keeping pressure up will make her game more stronger,even than, we dont know if she ll make out or flake.

Post: #13

Quote:At this point I'm not gonna ask her out anymore, next time she gets in touch with me im just gonna do the, "i dont hang out with flaky girls" thing and see what happens, her situation is kinda difficult with the kid but like the old saying goes, if a girl wants to see you, she'll find the time.

No way. Saying "I dont hang out with flaky girls" isn't the right thing to say. Just be straight up if you want to be done with it "This isn't working for me" or whatever. Also stop asking her out so often let her do the chasing. She calls up and asks if you'd like to hang out say "I'm busy this week." And you should be busy trying to line up other pieces of ass. It's about options and letting her know you have them.

And god forbid don't ever fall for the trap if she ever says "I could bring my kid along" god forbid... avoid that at all costs.