Post: #1

i know your not suppose to date more than three times
but sometimes i get the "The Talk" around date #3

questions and things i get are:

"so how many girls have you been with?"
"you have a girl i dont know about, huh"
"your a player, arent you, hahahhah"
"your a man whore, you mess around dont you"

it makes me feel unconfortable because everytime im not sure how to respond,
sometimes i feel like lying but at the end of it my answers are mostly honest,
and somehow it backfires on me, the booty call dies down and she starts flaking.

everytime i get "The Talk" i feel like its over for me.

Post: #2

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Post: #3

Agree and amplify.

"you have a girl i don't know about, huh"
"Only 5 or 6."

etc.

Post: #4

There's a psychology to the way they phrase those questions. They say them to you as if they know they are true.

In my old days I would stumble and show guilt or get all quiet. Now my default answer is "You're not my girlfriend and you can't ask me questions like that."

The last girl that threw that shit at me still fucked me that night. I just don't care anymore.

Deflect the bullshit and push for sex.

Post: #5

As said above A&A. If you're not familiar with A&A, take out a piece of paper and write down all 'the talk' questions you've received, go through that like it's a crossword puzzle, writing your A&A'd responses. Eventually you'll not only have responses memorized, you'll have the mindset.
Someday she'll be halfway through 'the talk' and you'll already have your response.. you'll be in control and it will feel like it's just starting, not ending.

Post: #6

Shit tests.

Post: #7

(11-19-2011 10:56 PM)StraightMackin Wrote:  "so how many girls have you been with?"

'I don't know, a couple.'

Quote:"you have a girl i dont know about, huh"

'I guess...'

Quote:"your a player, arent you, hahahhah"

'Am I a player? The biggest!'

Quote:"your a man whore, you mess around dont you"

'Messing around is what children do.'

Two ways to handle the situation;

1) Deflect deflect deflect. Why answer truthfully when women don't want it? This is why you deflect.

2) Agree and Amplify. What I did for my answer to the third question. What you do is agree, and then embellish, it's kinda like sarcasm, except smart, confident people use it.

Post: #8

(11-19-2011 10:56 PM)StraightMackin Wrote:  "so how many girls have you been with?"

"Me? I'm a virgin". Straight face.

Post: #9

(11-19-2011 10:56 PM)StraightMackin Wrote:  "your a man whore, you mess around dont you"

"I don't mess around, but I will make an exception just for you."