Post: #26

(10-16-2011 09:11 PM)Timoteo Wrote:  Personally, I don't get lonely. I've always been comfortable doing my thing alone. I like company when I feel like it, but I'm not one to always try to find someone to do things with. I find so many people that can't stand being alone, and I can't really understand it because I'm not that way. If there's a movie I want to see, I'll go and see it (so many people couldn't imagine doing that...they see you as pitiful and some kind of loser).

So I make plans and go. If someone can or wants to join me, great. If not, I don't let it stop me.

I prefer doing things alone because I hate waiting around for people to get ready. I rarely if ever let anybody know what I'm doing though, so I get "well I would have gone with you if I'd known you were going." afterwards. I guess in that regard I'm selfish or self-centered. I don't even consider inviting anyone along as a possibility.

Post: #27

(10-16-2011 10:46 PM)Viralata Wrote:  I've been on the road for the better part of ten years.

My advice is to get involved in an activity, such as surfing, climbing or kite boarding...something that involves a ready made social group of like minded people

I have been climbing all over the world and I see my friends everywhere. In winter we're in Patagonia, Thailand or Australia, summer it's Squamish in Canada or Europe. Fall and spring it's the Himalayas or the desert. I have a group of people I literally trust with my life. I've seen amazing remote parts of the world and when the expedition is over we slay the local poon.

I have a friend that's 85 and has been climbing since he was 16. He still tries to pick up chicks.

You'll never have better friends than those you have from being fully committed.

I have a job, but it's only to support my climbing habit.

Get an activity. Travel to places to do it. Stay fit. Meet local chicks. Have cultural experiences way beyond the norm.

Lonliless will never be an issue, nor will money when you have all you need...health, happiness, true friendship.

Inspiring!

I have lived abroad for a couple of years, but have never been "on the road" for an extended period of time. It's hard to imagine what your life must look like!

Post: #28

Quote: like company when I feel like it, but I'm not one to always try to find someone to do things with. I find so many people that can't stand being alone, and I can't really understand it because I'm not that way. If there's a movie I want to see, I'll go and see it (so many people couldn't imagine doing that...they see you as pitiful and some kind of loser).

I'm similar, I'll sometimes just go out and do things I want to do (cinema, museum, beer, bite to eat, see a band etc) and then afterwards people will wonder why I didn't ask them to come, often it didn't cross my mind or I couldn't be bothered to wait for other people to get ready. Some of my mates think it's "sad", "strange" or "boring" that I'd do these types of things alone as if you need someone to hold your hand. Saying that though most things in life ARE better with company, you can be in the most amazing, beautiful, wonderful place in the world but if you've no one to share it with then it's not half as good.

Post: #29

I prefer to travel alone as I'm a loner by heart. I like being with people and doing things with them, but there's nothing more that I hate than waiting for people or people holding me back because of some non sense reason. I've been travelling all alone all the time. This summer, a relative of mine wanted to go to Thailand and I just jumpted on the occasion to be travelling with a good friend/relative even tough he's 20 or so years older than me. Needless to say that the entire time, I felt like I was babysitting him and a lot of time, couldn't do the stuffs i really wanted to do or go see the places i wanted to see etc. That taught me an important decision whom to travel with, it has to be someone who truly shares the same passions and hobbies and views with. I thought we got along well with my relative but I got to know him better during those 2 weeks than in 16+ years I've known. There's an old saying that goes along the lines of "the best way to really know a person is to travel with them" and it's so true. From now, even tough a lot of my relatives have expressed interest in travelling with me at some point, i'll just pass and tell them to go on their own. I'd rather go on my own and then meet like minded people on the road.

On the topic of the ease of making friends, I'd say that for me, it has been easier, way easier making friends on the road than at "home". I can count on one hand the number of real good friends here at home but on the road and around the world, I have a ton of great friends that I've made all these years through my travels. Not sure how much of this is due to the fact that each time I return home, I always have in my mind to get out asap that I don't put that much effort in making and building connections while on the road, I'm almost a different person, way more social and open than the interverted one at home. Does any else in here (specially those who are mobile) feels the same about "investing" in building relationships at home as I do?

Viralata made a comment that hits the nail on the head perfectly, "you don't much money when you have what matters most: health, happiness and friends". Wiser words were rarely spoken.

Post: #30

(10-17-2011 12:47 PM)Dr Feelgood Wrote:  

(10-16-2011 10:46 PM)Viralata Wrote:  I've been on the road for the better part of ten years.

My advice is to get involved in an activity, such as surfing, climbing or kite boarding...something that involves a ready made social group of like minded people

I have been climbing all over the world and I see my friends everywhere. In winter we're in Patagonia, Thailand or Australia, summer it's Squamish in Canada or Europe. Fall and spring it's the Himalayas or the desert. I have a group of people I literally trust with my life. I've seen amazing remote parts of the world and when the expedition is over we slay the local poon.

I have a friend that's 85 and has been climbing since he was 16. He still tries to pick up chicks.

You'll never have better friends than those you have from being fully committed.

I have a job, but it's only to support my climbing habit.

Get an activity. Travel to places to do it. Stay fit. Meet local chicks. Have cultural experiences way beyond the norm.

Lonliless will never be an issue, nor will money when you have all you need...health, happiness, true friendship.

Inspiring!

I have lived abroad for a couple of years, but have never been "on the road" for an extended period of time. It's hard to imagine what your life must look like!

Reading my site will give you a good impression.

Post: #31

Quote:On the topic of the ease of making friends, I'd say that for me, it has been easier, way easier making friends on the road than at "home". I can count on one hand the number of real good friends here at home but on the road and around the world, I have a ton of great friends that I've made all these years through my travels. Not sure how much of this is due to the fact that each time I return home, I always have in my mind to get out asap that I don't put that much effort in making and building connections while on the road, I'm almost a different person, way more social and open than the interverted one at home. Does any else in here (specially those who are mobile) feels the same about "investing" in building relationships at home as I do?

A lot of this rung true with me. I'm a completely different person on the road than at home. The difference is night and day. When I'm at home all I want to do is get out again ASAP too.

Post: #32

(10-14-2011 01:24 PM)Entropy4 Wrote:  

(10-14-2011 12:24 PM)subutai Wrote:  It's inevitable because:

1. Girls don't provide the comraderie and fraternal friendship that a guy needs
2. Girls you don't give the cock to regularly have very little incentive to stay with you as friends
3. Other guys who happen to be living abroad are usually eccentrics, and thus, loners...kind of like you
4. The older you get, the harder it gets to make good friends
5. The few male acquaintances you do bond with are more likely to be alliances than friendships -- banding together temporarily because you're both foreigners in a different land or because you both need each other to be wingmen

That's why most expats end up settling down and having kids with a local girl.

Well said. It's a great lifestyle. I don't regret a day of it. And I think I've got another couple years in me. But I don't think anyone could live like this forever. Everyone eventually needs some kind of "home base."

This is definitely happening to me now.

I've had a monthly place in a provincial city banging girls online. The last few days due to poor diet I feel like shit in addition.

Post: #33

I'm living the location independent lifestyle. I can say that I don't get so lonely because wherever I go I tend to integrate myself in the expat community very quickly. I'm a very sociable person, so always like to be out and about meeting people, coffee, drinks, women etc.

I sometimes feel lonely when i'm actually in the process of travelling. Train journeys, arriving in new cities etc.

The problem for me in Ukraine is the boredom factor, being in my apartment working on my computer when I know outside there are teenage girls scampering and giggling around the streets. In summer I get very little work done, I will go out for a loaf of bread - see some legs, then I won't be back until 5am

I have a girl living with me at the moment which is nice, but really glad when she leaves my place as I can't get anything done with her here

Post: #34

Quote:I sometimes feel lonely when i'm actually in the process of travelling. Train journeys, arriving in new cities etc.

Yeah travelling is the worst part of travelling, I'm not a great fan of long train or bus journeys solo, can be really dull if the person sitting next to you isn't sociable. I get bored occassionally but then remind myself I'd rather be bored in an exotic country that I really like than back at home working / bored. The boredom tends to be short lived anyway as something fun comes up to do.

Post: #35

I kind of prepared myself for being lonely before i left the states. I rarely went out or had friends over for the last 3 or 4 months i lived in the states. I wanted to make sure that when i got lonely living abroard i would just look back on sitting at my house by myself instead of good times with a few friends. I dont ever plan on returning to the states.

I feel like when i was younger i had better friends an we spent more time together had more fun doing dumb shit. The older i got the less and less i had friends who i really enjoyed hanging out with, i guess thats life.

Post: #36

(03-12-2012 11:26 PM)Cr33pin Wrote:  I kind of prepared myself for being lonely before i left the states. I rarely went out or had friends over for the last 3 or 4 months i lived in the states. I wanted to make sure that when i got lonely living abroard i would just look back on sitting at my house by myself instead of good times with a few friends. I dont ever plan on returning to the states.

I feel like when i was younger i had better friends an we spent more time together had more fun doing dumb shit. The older i got the less and less i had friends who i really enjoyed hanging out with, i guess thats life.

yeah, this is pretty much how it works. a lot of the guys that i was super close w/in my 20's got married or moved or both and while they will always be my close friends you just dont get to see them as much anymore, and i think its harder for men to make true friends as they get older.

Post: #37

I've been traveling for the better part of three years, and I can tell you that loneliness is just part of the game, no matter where you are. Expat friends are incredibly easy to make, but unless you're putting down roots then these friendships are really transitory things. The great part about it is that things can change in an instant, that amazing new experiences and conquests are always on the horizon. Try telling yourself that while stuck in some dead-end desk job back in the States. For example, I'm in my hotel room right now in Santa Marta feeling pretty lonely, but in a few days I'll be in Bogota having a blast. You've got to take the highs with the lows.

Post: #38

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