Post: #1

I set up a lunch and chat meetup tomorrow with this girl I met the other day. When I proposed the lunch and chat she told me

"Well my first class is at 1 but ill tell you upfront that I'm not single but I don't have a problem with just a chat lol" (the word "chat" seems to be effective in taking the pressure off of dates/meetups)

This question, is how you would approach the girl from the first time greeting her, kino, and saying goodbye?

I do not think Ill doing anything different than usual: Hug upon greeting, light touching, and another hug upon my exit as well as tempting her with a party invite next week.

If you think you have a better way then by all means lemme know, I love entertaining different techniques.


Edit: Nevermind, theres already a thread on this /thread-7264.html

Post: #2

Personally, I rank lunch dates where I do coffee dates... rather pointless. Sounds like she may just want a free lunch... know that you probably won't get any action on date 1, period.

That said, hug or cheek kiss initially (the latter only if you have the right vibe / experience). Kino is only possible if the distance between you and her is fairly short (booths aren't ideal, and you probably won't be sitting next to each other in a first date lunch setting). If the goodbye isn't a kiss there will be no second date. You can see I don't put much stock in lunch dates. If all you go for (or get) at the end of the date is a hug, you're not doing it right (I advise against lunch dates anyway for many reasons).

Post: #3

True true, maybe the best route is to flake and invite her to a party.

Post: #4

I'd either flake or show up and escalate HARD.

Definitely do not have a nice lunch with two hugs and a party invite. If you don't develop real attraction on this date, it's hopeless.

Post: #5

Honestly the only time I ever do mid-day dates these days is if I'm python gaming (See VK) the bitch. In other words, I know she's not giving it up right away so I'm planning a barrage of quick, cheap dates that make her feel like we've spent more time together than we really have. Still, I never use them as a first date.

Post: #6

What prowl said. Cancel at the last minute or show up and let her know right away what you want. I woulld even say be all over her before you order the food just so you know if you should order or not. Sit close to her, put your hand on her leg, go for a kiss. I would do all this within 10 minutes.

Post: #7

This bitch sounds high maintenance or a show-off.
A normal girl would have said "my flight is at 1" not "my first class is at 1"

Post: #8

(10-13-2011 03:22 AM)K-man Wrote:  This bitch sounds high maintenance or a show-off.
A normal girl would have said "my flight is at 1" not "my first class is at 1"

I think he meant it like the first CLASS of her day at a school, you know, in a classroom. Not a flight.

(10-13-2011 03:22 AM)Kickboxer Wrote:  If you think you have a better way then by all means lemme know, I love entertaining different techniques.

Kickboxer, take this whole thing in another direction.

I'd imagine since a class has been mentioned you are meeting in a school setting?

Don't worry about anything regarding the introduction. Look past it. Be like "Yo, I was gonna fire at you even though you aren't single, but my physics (or something complicated) class was stressing me. Let's just smoke our lunch." Then pull out a spliff and burn with her.

And let me know what happens.

Aloha!

Post: #9

I ended up rolling with Kona's idea.

When I arrived, she asked where I wanted to eat. Then I rattled off your line verbatim. Her face lit up and we went with it. She did ask what I meant when using the term "fire at you" all I could come up with and what I told her was actually shooting her with a gun because she had a boyfriend, I think it came off ok, made her laugh..

Started touching her on the shoulder and she was like "oh so you mean you were going to hit on me?" I said yeah that's what I was going to do, as I continued lightly touching her arm/shoulder.

"But because I'm not single you aren't going to do that right? If you are hitting on me that means we cant hangout."

"Yeah that wouldnt be good...not good at all... I promise I wont hit on you a single time while we are hanging out today" and then I touched her again. I was really trying to ramp up the kino early on. I leveled off alittle bit as we sat down and started talking.

Overall, it was a good interaction. Her boyfriend lives thirty minutes away so I think I have a solid prospect. I think I'll send her some flirty texts in a few days and have her come over to my pad to hangout.

um, Ahola

Post: #10

(10-12-2011 05:40 PM)kickboxer Wrote:  "Well my first class is at 1 but ill tell you upfront that I'm not single but I don't have a problem with just a chat lol" (the word "chat" seems to be effective in taking the pressure off of dates/meetups)

Good on you for pushing.

Now you must forget everything she just said, pretend she never mentioned not being single, it's does not concern you, and neither should you have to tolerate it if she ever brings it again.

Remember, you are spending your time, and it's a precious thing.

Post: #11

Sounds like you went with the right approach. I think the last thing you want in this situation is for the chick to be a cock tease and try to turn you into her flirty friend that she never puts out for. Seems like a win-win for you in this situation. If you guys hang out again she knows you're probably going to be even more touchy feely, if not, you've screened her out.

Post: #12

You haven't done too bad, I can't lie though, part of me thinks you deserve a punch in the face for trying to pick up girls who have boyfriends but then another part of me thinks how many times I know girls who just jump from bf to bf and how I have unintentionally bf snatched by making friends and then the girl liked me and left her bf.

But as a rule of thumb your best off escalating quickly as a rule of thumb, no sex by 3rd or 4th encounter = no sex period

Post: #13

you guys are gonna bang. She knows what shes doing, I once had a girl who lived with her boyfriend straight up lie to him and tell him she was going to her grandmothers when in reality she went with me to Austin for the weekend and had a smashfest.

Post: #14

Yeah it went well, I ignited to this bar I could get into a couple months ago and she said yes but said she her bf had to come too. I thought about doing it for a second. In the end I told her no.

Post: #15

I think I would try a different approach next time you see her.


NO KINO until you get her to a sex location. Lure her back to your/her room with some weed or drinks, and then make the moves. If she rejects you, who gives a shit? Say you got lost in the moment but it shouldn't stop you guys from being friends (and then ignore her until she breaks up with her bf).