Post: #51

My sincerest condolences.

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Post: #52

Sorry for your loss OP. Stay Strong.

Post: #53

Stay strong brother, you have all of our deepest condolences. This forum means a lot to most of us as it gives us a safe place to be men. That includes grieving. You have a worldwide brotherhood you can lean on, ask support of and not fear judgement in a situation like this.

Post: #54

Bigolteddies ... that is awful. My condolences man.

Post: #55

(02-13-2019 02:35 PM)Steve McQueen Wrote:  I think posting that here is unfair to everybody. I don't know what response you are looking for beyond a "sorry" or a hug telling you it will be ok.

Yes, perhaps that is what he wants and there's nothing wrong with it. It's attitudes like yours that contribute to male suicide being so high. "Tough it out lad", "Man up" etc. As for your other post where you talk about "accepting whatever ban" awaited you, that speaks to issues in your own life. I agree with worldwidetraveller's assessment of your second post.

To OP: very sorry about your loss, my brother is my best friend and seeing him in such a situation as you walked into would be utterly catastrophic. Time will heal, but it will take a long time.

Post: #56

I'm so sorry for your lost. My deepest condolences to you and your family.

Post: #57

Awful news mate. Sorry to hear. Sending my sympathy to you and your family.

Post: #58

Man, my heart goes out to you.

There is no bond deeper than brotherhood.

It sounds like you're a great brother. You said you tried to help him change his life.

Sorry for your loss man. Makes me think back to when I lost my cousin to suicide (he was like a brother in a lot of ways).

I just remember beating myself up and thinking "man what If i had reached out or did something that could have saved his life."

Don't beat yourself up bro. You sound like a good dude. You'll get through this.

Post: #59

Jesus man, I'm so sorry. What a time to be a young man- no guidance, ritual or direction in society. You did your best to help him.

Post: #60

I'm so sorry to hear about this. My condolences to you and your family.

Post: #61

Obviously a sad story...
Maybe the universe did him a favor...Giving him a fresh start....

Post: #62

Really sorry for the loss of your brother.

I know from experience that there's not a lot anyone can say to you that will make sense of it, so just know that people are thinking of you and your brother and that we hope you're remembering to take care of yourself as well as you're taking care of your loved ones.

Post: #63

I would advise against taking time off.

If you have a lot of free time, depression grows even more upon you and then it might become crippling. I'm talking from experience here.

Let the grief process itself but don't make accommodations for it. I think it's much better to keep yourself occupied.

Post: #64

Terribly sorry my man.

If I took one thing from your passage that struck me, you mentioned that your parents were never there for him. I see parents main job as being that rock, those only people in your life that you can 100% count on to sacrifice anything for you. Too often parents give conditional love only, and as a result, your emotional growth is stunted. You rely on thew wrong things when things go tough, such as a girlfriend or drugs.

I would hold them somewhat accountable for this.

Post: #65

Sincerest condolences

Post: #66

Terribly sorry about that, Roosh, if you need anything, let me know and I'll do what's in my power to assist.

Post: #67

Right now you are in that numb state of pain and nothing anyone says here will change that.

Not trying to hurt your feelings, but I'll give my perspective: We're some evolved apes on a blue rock hurling through the void at many thousands of miles per hour, an accident of the universe. Nothing is watching over us, and this void constantly tries to kill anyone who isn't strong enough. Natural selection. Nature/universe doesn't give a fuck who lives or dies, or what happens. It's all pointless to the void. You can do something totally amazing, or fucked-up, or evil, and the universe will be like "so what?"

Ok that probably depressed you even more, but my point is if he wasn't strong enough even with your help, there was nothing you could do. Not your fault

Post: #68

Very lucky to have a brother like you, very unfortunate to have such parents.