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RE: 30 year old roastie gets pumped and dumped by Chad she met through Tinder and now wan
(09-07-2018 03:10 PM)Days of Broken Arrows Wrote: ^^^
Not the best description, but thanks for bringing this to our attention.
Summary: A guy meets a woman on Tinder and apparently puts on an act to get her into bed. (Admit it, we've all done this to some degree.) He pretends to really, really care about her feelings, asks for consent every step of the way, etc.
In short, he turned himself into the exact kind of trendy, New Age Sensitive Guy liberal women crow about online. I'm guessing this took weeks of reading #metoo literature and learning how to do some serious Dustin Hoffman-style method acting. The O.P.'s comment about wanting to accuse the guy of rape is a stretch, but at one point, he even plays into her rape fantasy.
The ploy worked. He got her into bed.
And then he completely disappeared. In this New York Times article, the (pretentious, exhibitionist) writer, Courtney Sender, says the guy should be held accountable by some new #metoo standards that require men to, you know, care about the woman.
"A culture of consent should be a culture of care for the other person, of seeing and honoring another’s humanity and finding ways to engage in sex while keeping our humanity intact. It should be a culture of making each other feel good, not bad."
I say the guy should be nominated for an Academy Award. Because from what I can tell, he gave a performance of a lifetime. Encore! Bravo!
I've got to question how much of this is an act. A lot of young guys are beat down and indoctrinated, he might think this is a legit modern romance and "the right thing to do".
He's blowing himself out so often, he's thrilled to get a 30 year old girl. She puts out in spite of his terrible game because he's young and good looking. He does a couple of rounds with her, gets a little confidence, and now he's getting young girls his own age. He doesn't want to hurt her, but lacks the balls for an honest heart to heart, so he ghosts.
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RE: 30 year old roastie gets pumped and dumped by Chad she met through Tinder and now wan
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RE: 30 year old roastie gets pumped and dumped by Chad she met through Tinder and now wan
(09-07-2018 05:53 PM)Vladimir Poontang Wrote: Is it ok if I post in this thread?
Sure but...if you do and dont follow up its thread rape
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RE: 30 year old roastie gets pumped and dumped by Chad she met through Tinder and now wan
OK, I've moved on. Forget the pump and dump. Forget the New York Times article.
What's bothering me so much about this whole Courtney Sender article is something that's not apparent at first. It's that by writing this article, she as a professor is courting danger for both her and her students.
This woman is having Tinder sex with random guys, then "revenge writing" articles in the New York Times. Should one of her "randos" decide to take revenge in the form of a violence, both she and the New York Times will be complicit in how the lives of her and her students were negatively affected.
This is why we used to hold teachers and college professors to a high standard. We entrust them to our kids. She's playing with fire here.
I assumed at first the guy who seduced her was a smooth operator. But what if he's a nut with a short temper who feels embarrassed about what she wrote? He's not named, but she makes it clear her social circle knows who he is.
This occurred to me about an hour after reading the article. Shouldn't a New York Times editor have thought of this?
One final thing: Had this been a male professor writing about his one night stands with women, they'd be calling for his resignation. We should call for hers.
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RE: 30 year old roastie gets pumped and dumped by Chad she met through Tinder and now wan
(09-07-2018 06:32 PM)Days of Broken Arrows Wrote: OK, I've moved on. Forget the pump and dump. Forget the New York Times article.
What's bothering me so much about this whole Courtney Sender article is something that's not apparent at first. It's that by writing this article, she as a professor is courting danger for both her and her students.
This woman is having Tinder sex with random guys, then "revenge writing" articles in the New York Times. Should one of her "randos" decide to take revenge in the form of a violence, both she and the New York Times will be complicit in how the lives of her and her students were negatively affected.
This is why we used to hold teachers and college professors to a high standard. We entrust them to our kids. She's playing with fire here.
I assumed at first the guy who seduced her was a smooth operator. But what if he's a nut with a short temper who feels embarrassed about what she wrote? He's not named, but she makes it clear her social circle knows who he is.
This occurred to me about an hour after reading the article. Shouldn't a New York Times editor have thought of this?
One final thing: Had this been a male professor writing about his one night stands with women, they'd be calling for his resignation. We should call for hers.
Lol, good point about the reversed roles "I'm a thirty something professor and I banged out this young 19 year girl a couple of times. She ghosted me, and I wish there were some law that compelled her to keep servicing me or she would be disgraced and imprisoned.". But making sexual stuff more litigious is a battle men are never going to win so I would take a pass on this.
I disagree on your other point. A lot of things they write are offensive to somebody, I highly doubt this is more dangerous than a host of other political topics and such. Hell, if she was an actual good reporter, she could be exposing genuine dangerous criminals or something. She's talking about someone that dumped her, not the other way around.
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RE: 30 year old roastie gets pumped and dumped by Chad she met through Tinder and now wan
So consent is required “to ghost”, yet no such consent is required in the no fault divorce era when (usually) the wife decides to cash in, destroy the lives of children and future grand children, renege on holy oaths and “move on”?
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RE: 30 year old roastie gets pumped and dumped by Chad she met through Tinder and now wan
I quickly went through her Twitter.
Here's a summary of what I found:
- Muh Holocaust
- Why am I still single?
- Muh Holocaust
- All my friends are gettig married, why am I still single?
- Muh Drumpf
- I wrote a story where a guy, who's very much like my ex, gets gruesomely murdered by a woman, who's very much like me. Hehe.
- Drumpf is literally Hitler
- Don't say we can still be friends if you really don't want to be my friend
- Why can't I find a publisher for my brilliant first novel?
- Muh Holocaust
- My dad bought me a 6 month membership on eHarmony
- I'm not a cat lady, I have houseplants instead
- Muh Feminism
- I hate having to write scenes where a couple first meets and the flirting starts. I can't relate to that. I'm always looking forward to write all the juicy breakup drama.
- Muh Holocaust
- I forgot to hire a babysitter for my plants
- When the guy who broke your heart writes about how important it is to care for other human beings. Jerk.
- I took my plants with me while travelling
- Muh Drumpf
- I don't care about your wedding
- I'm an amazing human being and a talented writer. Why am I still single?
- Muh Drumpf
- How are harassers so persistent yet the guy you went on four dates with is like ak shit sorry I keep forgetting you exist
- Every guy I know just can't believe I don't have a boyfriend. They would, like, totally date me, if not for....
- Muh Holocaust
Didn't make anything up, it's all there.
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RE: 30 year old roastie gets pumped and dumped by Chad she met through Tinder and now wan
There's a second rule she's not mentioning.
Rule No. 1 is that, if you blow her off after a ONS, that's rape.
Rule No. 2 is that if she blows you off after a ONS, but you still try and pursue her, that's also rape.
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RE: 30 year old roastie gets pumped and dumped
“The greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of its parents.”
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RE: 30 year old roastie gets pumped and dumped by Chad she met through Tinder and now wan
Nature is so beautifully cruel. Women that wield such intrinsic power in their youth and fail to learn from it suffer as they get older. And still they want more than the gift of being the most privileged group on the planet and still they don't suffer nearly as much as their failure male counterparts. Complaining with such indignation publicly and loudly about how much of a failure they are, in their entitled stupor not realizing how willfully they're explaining their own incompetence - being bested at a game they not only evolved to win, our culture shifted much to its own detriment to give them better odds for. It was a mistake to give women any more agency than nature afforded them. It was a mistake to leave time honoured traditions involving men and women behind. We know it, they're just figuring it out. Every day I see the pendulum swing a little more t'word "progressive" ideologies and by the grace of natural law and good timing I see it recoil just as far if not further back t'word traditionalism. I might not live to see things get back to normal but at least there are places left wherr these things aren't so insane.
Now women want to start movements against ghosting. 10 years ago a woman would complain about being ghosted. 20 years ago a woman would be embarassed she got ghosted, 50 years ago the father and family would make sure they didnt raise a slut and screen potential suiters. This insanity is unsustainable, there's a right way to do things and thankfully it's not so distant in our cultural memory. The more agency we give women - and make no mistake we give it to them - the more unhappy they are. If we can't control our women, it's weakness that will be exploited.
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RE: 30 year old roastie gets pumped and dumped by Chad she met through Tinder and now wan
I just wanted to put this prediction in writing in case it comes up in the future.
She's 30 now. But my guess is that by 40 she's going to become a "late-life lesbian" like Cynthia Nixon, Meredith Baxter, and Carol Leifer.
But she won't do this quietly. No, she'll do it in a grand, sweeping manner, with editorials in every newspaper and magazine and a featured gay wedding announcement in The New York Times.
This generally seems to be the way hyper-sexual, maladjusted women go. And if anyone has her dating profile on file, I wouldn't be surprised to find she's already "experimented."
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To summarize all my comments, I don't have any interest in regulating or even judging what people do with their personal lives. You wanna be gay or fuck 50 people on your own time? Have fun! You wanna sit home and get high? Go right ahead!
The problem comes when people who do these things assume the role of "sage" or "rule-maker" and try and tell the rest of us how we should live.
And that's what she's doing in two ways. First, by writing her idiotic tell-all in the most public of spaces, The New York Times, and trying to stretch the definition of "consent." And second, by having a teaching job in the humanities.
If you think her thoughts aren't filtering down to the teenage girls (and boys) who take her writing classes, you're living in fantasy land. I once had professors like this. But it was the age before the Internet, so I had no idea why I was always on their bad side. In retrospect, it's because I didn't kiss their asses over their perverse pseudo-feminist politics.
They would give high grades to substandard writers whose work reflected their politics and bad grades to really good writers who didn't toe their party line. There was little you could do about this in the Reagan Era, but I suspect now Generation Z will start calling such professors on their bullshit.
The good thing is that we now have the Internet. And what's on here stays on here. So, her future students and would-be lovers will find pages like this when they look up the name COURTNEY SENDER. And even if they try to dismiss all of this as partisan criticism or "sexism," it's still going to be lodged in a corner of their minds.
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RE: 30 year old roastie
(09-09-2018 01:02 PM)Days of Broken Arrows Wrote: If you think her thoughts aren't filtering down to the teenage girls (and boys) who take her writing classes, you're living in fantasy land. I once had professors like this. But it was the age before the Internet, so I had no idea why I was always on their bad side. In retrospect, it's because I didn't kiss their asses over their perverse pseudo-feminist politics.
They would give high grades to substandard writers whose work reflected their politics and bad grades to really good writers who didn't toe their party line. There was little you could do about this in the Reagan Era, but I suspect now Generation Z will start calling such professors on their bullshit.
The good thing is that we now have the Internet. And what's on here stays on here. So, her future students and would-be lovers will find pages like this when they look up the name COURTNEY SENDER. And even if they try to dismiss all of this as partisan criticism or "sexism," it's still going to be lodged in a corner of their minds.
Knowing this, I worked through 1/3 of a masters degree with a 4.0 GPA. I just wrote exactly the opposite of my true opinions-- gotta subvert the system. I watched other right wingers go down in flames and get horrible grades over and over again tying to argue with the liberals. It was like watching a debate of 3 men vs. 30 women and everyone speaking at once, the lefties losing their cool and shouting. I remember very distinctly actually struggling to make the most absurd argument against my true opinion and then write that.. I could bang out an "A" paper in no time because I din't need to be logical, just agree with the professor's politics.
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RE: 30 year old roastie gets pumped and dumped by Chad she met through Tinder and now wan
There is an old piece of wisdom which summarizes this thread:
Proverbs 22:14 (NIV) Wrote:The mouth of an adulterous woman is a deep pit;
a man who is under the Lord’s wrath falls into it.
This woman is clearly adulterous, having slept with a Tinder match on the first date. She is upset that he did not contact her afterwards, so proposes to make it rape for a man to stop contact with a woman after having sex with her. She is not taking responsibility for her own decision to engage in adultery.
In a more civilized (read: God-fearing) society, we would have simply ignored the words coming out of this adulterous woman's mouth. Instead, our society ignores the traditional way of running a working society (that would be the commandants of God) and gives heed to what this woman says.
In a society where marriage meant something, this overweight woman would have settled for an overweight man and gotten married to him; she would be happy and not getting these kinds of idiotic rants published in major newspapers.
How our society has degenerated in the past 60 years.
I'm proud to be a part of a forum that called out A Rape on Campus for being a lie long before anyone else questioned the story.
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