Post: #26

1. The deep, gripping passion I feel when I have a strong sexual connection to a woman

2. Unconditional affection for family or close friends whose devotion to me has withstood personal differences

Post: #27

(08-07-2017 08:44 AM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  I love both my brothers even though I see their flaws and want to hit them in the face sometimes. I love my mother even though there have been times I've considered cutting off all contact with her. I love a lot of my buddies that I grew up with, and even that form of love comes and goes because there are some homies I've parted ways with on bad terms that I'll probably never speak with again, and others I've had my differences with and come back around to over the years.

In this paragraph you are describing all non-romantic forms of love. While you say it is not "unconditional" it really is. You admit you've considered cutting off all contact with your mother yet your love for her never wanes. If that's not unconditional love I don't know what is.

Like I mentioned in my OP, love among friends and family and love for a woman are mutually exclusive. It is not exactly accurate to compare the two.

Post: #28

I am not entirely sure what love means to me but I can recognize a few things. I'd say that I have been in love 2 times in my life, and both times I felt:

-willing to invest the rest of my life and settle down with her
-overall satisfied with her characteristics both physically and emotionally
-satisfied with her commitment and loyalty to me
-willing to work through arguments with her and compromise my time and resources.
-ready to reproduce my offspring with her.

Of course, both times the love grew over time. It started with not really loving her at first and then falling more in love with her as time went on. I think the amount of time and resources you are willing to compromise is directly proportional to the amount of love you have for her.

Lastly, sounds kinda gay, but I'd say the way she validated me also contributed to the love I had for her. I think a woman's job is partly to validate a man's existence by acknowledging his presence in a way that no other woman can do.

Post: #29

Love is sex.

Post: #30

Love is God

Post: #31

"You admit you've considered cutting off all contact with your mother yet your love for her never wanes. If that's not unconditional love I don't know what is."

That's trans-conditional love.

Post: #32

(08-02-2017 04:28 PM)General Stalin Wrote:  This may be a "Deep Forum" topic but it has all to do with women and romance so I figured this is a good place for it.

I have been seeing a girl for a minute now and she recently asked me if I loved her. It caught me off guard and I thought "Hmmm. I don't know"

I told her verbatim "No I don't think so." Truthfully I don't know what significance the word has to me anymore. When I was younger I had a pretty solid idea of what the word meant to me, and as I got older and I had been with other women my definition of it evolved, but I just don't know. I don't know how seriously or not seriously I take the word - but I know a lot of females regard as a signifier that things are very serious and going for the long term.

I know many people are going to think "Well I love my best friends, and I love my family, and I love my women differently" so for the sake of argument I'm talking specifically about romantic love between and man and a woman.

What are your thoughts?

If you don't mind saying, how old are you now?

There are exactly 15 family/friends I love. I know what that feels like.

I've "loved" 3 women.

I no longer consider love to be any more important than hungry or annoyed, although admittedly, I like the sensation more. It lasts longer than horny and bored, but less long than a good game of risk.

Post: #33

@Investment Bro

"They say" a man is always chasing his last relationship and a woman - her next.

Post: #34

It's a combination of passion, lust, and a profound sense of caring and compassion. Possibly some attachment, jealousy, and obsession thrown in if the relationship is/was unhealthy.

I've only loved one girl in my life. Still have residual feelings after 4 years of no contact.

I don't believe in unconditional love.

Post: #35

It means nothing.

Post: #36

Men love idealistically

Woman love opportunistically

RT.
I'll never ever forget that.