Post: #1

Ok, I've been seeing my main girl for over a year now where from day 1 I told her that I'm not looking for anything serious. She is a great girl that looks after me when she comes over (cooks, cleans, etc...) where she makes me feel great (normal Eastern woman) but I travel allot and want to be with other women! She knows I'm a little bit of a player and that I'm seeing other women hence she acts a little jealous at times.

I notice that I'm finding it hard to be with other women cause I feel guilt that I will hurt her if I'm with other women. It's an open relationship which I tell her that she can be with someone else if she wants and I encourage her to find a man that can look after her and her family.

How do I get past this feeling of guilt?!? It's starting to eat at me where I just started my holiday again around SE Asia!

Post: #2

Read DigitalNomads Cruisin' The World thread. He had a gf and fucked other chicks....while she was there. I met them both. It happens. Just not to me.

Ha!!!

Post: #3

If it's an open relationship you aren't doing anything wrong. I could see feeling guilt if you were in a committed relationship and going behind her back. But you must really like this girl if you feel guilty.

Post: #4

An Internet forum cannot help you with a feelings of guilt.

Post: #5

Some people just aren't cut for this.

Post: #6

Ask her to check her phone, if she let you then proceed to check every messages the guilt will be probably long gone before you finish.

Post: #7

Cheating on your woman is essentially lying.

Having an "open" relationship means other dudes cumming in your girl's mouth, then you kiss her later.

I don't know about you, but I have values that rule both those behaviors out.

Sounds like your gut instinct is telling you something.

Post: #8

OP, this feeling is perfectly normal when you're not used to non-exclusive relationships. But realize that she is aware of the situation, you're not responsible for her actions. She can take it or leave it, she's an adult. As for your feeling itself, it is her "girl game" aka manipulation that seeded it in your mind: never underestimate a girl for her persuasion techniques. So make peace with yourself and stay firm.

(07-17-2017 03:01 AM)RatInTheWoods Wrote:  Having an "open" relationship means other dudes cumming in your girl's mouth, then you kiss her later.

I don't know about you, but I have values that rule both those behaviors out.

Sounds like your gut instinct is telling you something.

Rat, if you do live in Thailand I understand why you would say such a thing. But even in some parts of the west, you can find girls to have an open relationship with (I call it multiple long term relationships - MLTR, as usually there are several) and expect her to be exclusive to you. It is doable depending on environment, her degree of self-control, etc. It is basically milking the cow and not paying for it and that what is Game all about. From personal experience, every girl can be turned into MLTR with the right amount of game. Now of course for some girls, they use the open relationship card and fuck multiple dudes too, but I feel that usually quick and it doesn't last.

Post: #9

You're not guilty about fucking other women. You are guilty because you're leading the women on, when in reality you don't envisage staying.

You don't want the guilt? Let her find a man that will give her kids etc. instead of using her as a fuck buddy.

But here's the thing. Your guilt actually shows you're a functioning human being. You don't really want it to go away.

You'll just have to suffer for the ethical choices you make in this life. That's something I've had to accept, and doubtless other men here too.

Post: #10

(07-17-2017 03:01 AM)RatInTheWoods Wrote:  Rat, if you do live in Thailand I understand why you would say such a thing. But even in some parts of the west, you can find girls to have an open relationship with (I call it multiple long term relationships - MLTR, as usually there are several) and expect her to be exclusive to you. It is doable depending on environment, her degree of self-control, etc. It is basically milking the cow and not paying for it and that what is Game all about. From personal experience, every girl can be turned into MLTR with the right amount of game. Now of course for some girls, they use the open relationship card and fuck multiple dudes too, but I feel that usually quick and it doesn't last.

Are you saying, you tell your girl you are fucking other women, but she stays faithful to you?

She can get dick a lot easier than you can get pussy... I find it hard that a woman would accept that situation, unless you are batting about 5 points below your SMV, or she pretends she is exclusive to you, but is really getting a ton more cock on the side, but keeping it secret to you?

I don't know, I am a bit older than you I guess, but the modern dating realm is pretty unhygienic and goes against my jealous nature. I can not give a woman permission to go bang other guys. I would lose interest in her immediately if she had another dudes cock in her mouth a few hours before coming over to kiss me....

Post: #11

Well I can relate to this.

I remember the first time I cheated on my LTR. Fuck it was hard to get it up and the mental back and forth was brutal. Second time a little less difficult. By about the fifth time you pretty much stop giving a fuck.

If your travelling a lot it should be unbelievably easy to hide it. So non issue there.

With that said. I don't shit where I eat. I have never cheated on my LTR in the city where she lives.

Post: #12

First off are you using a condom?

Is she fucking other men (that you know of)

How can you be a "little bit of a player"?

If you're a "little bit of player", where is this profound moral compass coming from.?

You tell her it's a open relationship and she is welcome to fuck other men? That seems a bit deep for my taste, why in the fuck are you having this conversation.? Is she prompting it or you? if you, why are you making it a point of conversation.?