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RE: Breaking into high end social circles
It is unfortunate that Distant Light does not post anymore, dude had some legit insight to give when he did.
The reason I looked back to this thread is because I remember reading it a while back as a lurker and with the discussions going on about getting top tier girls and status, I thought it deserved a well respected bump.
What I wanted to comment on is how a lot of the people who play this sort of status game have always kinda got it. Looking back to high school and especially college, it was guys who had status and knew how the social realm worked that managed to get the hottest girls, only exceptions to this were very high status guys themselves (usually athletes).
I do think we need to have some more discussion about status because I have found it to be a lot more efficient in helping me land quality as opposed to quantity. Most guys out there who learn game will get to a phase where they bang 6s and the occasional 7 thanks to a mixture of cold approach and online game but to get higher quality, I feel as if social circle game and status almost become a must.
Looking back to the times of my life when I fucked the hottest girls I've ever been with, there were a few themes in common:
1. I did not go out alone, I usually went out with a large enough crew at bars and nightclubs to where when I did approach these girls, it wasn't me doing it myself. I've tried to do it when going out alone at nights, it is the toughest time and hardly that reliable of a tool. Girls assume something is wrong with you if you are out alone by yourself as opposed to being with friends, bonus points if other girls are in your crew.
2. I landed these girls due to being in the right place at the right time, not really any special game trick. I ran in the same crowds they did, lived in the same area, saw them many times and there was already that familiarity as opposed to daygame and online game.
TBH, I used to think this shit stopped after high school but found that it was even worse in college. For those guys out there wondering why they saw guys lacking game getting the hottest girls, it is because these guys were socially well connected.
I feel as if you lack social value and are a loner by nature, it is a lot tougher to get quality because women start to suspect something is wrong with you. A lot of guys can benefit if they put in the time to actually fix their social life and get better with people in general instead of just doing game. Best is if the two work in conjunction with each other, you go out with your crew and occasionally approach girls you find hot. Important to find a cool enough crew that is okay with that though, some will think you are sleazy for it.
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456
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RE: Breaking into high end social circles
Still BS.
Pre-selection "works" in general, if maybe a girl got to observe you for a while before you approached.
For totally cold approach, she doesn't see anyone you are with.
I've had good wingwoman experiences if I'm just hanging with girls and in a good mood to holler at other girls, but they don't get involved.
I've had bad experiences with a hot female friend, where if we were having a convo, girls thought she was my girl and guys stayed away from her.
Same friend: if we both look around the room, 10 guys are going up to her right away, and I've got to go do my own thing solo anyway.
So for years I determined: no wings.
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Actually the best wing experience I had is when I took two awesome guy friends who have always been more like "work on a project together" friends, and never "go out and score" friends -- the one night we all went out just to have drinks and fun, all three of us took a different girl home within same timespan. Funniest part is -- it was 100% during when we split up. They may have even also been friends, but they never saw us together and likewise.
So for me wings in general are NEVER about distracting a friend or making me look good - it's about having a home base to step back to after doing a solo tour, if anything. Good for vibes.
I'll happily approach a group of three girls, get in a nice convo, and maybe try to pair off with one. At least in NYC, girls respect that and understand if their friend likes you and you aren't "creepy", they don't cockblock. The reason is because if N girls always waiting for N guys to step up, the chances of them all liking their guy is low, so it's not crucial to match a pair of girls with a pair of guys. There's always another guy standing around.
(This post was last modified: 05-08-2018 09:10 AM by 456.)
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