zatara
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RE: Wow you are really skinny
A witty comeback is a temporary measure. You really need to bulk up.
I've had similar experiences to Rush87 and Scorpion. When I was 18 I was 6ft (182cm) tall and 140lb (63kg). I got the 'wow you're so skinny' from girls all the time. I adapted to it by dressing in an an indie way, having snappy comebacks etc but it was always an uphill battle both gaming girls and talking to guys at parties/bars. There'd always be some wiseass with no game making a skinny joke if they saw me getting on well with a girl, AMOGGing and shittests were rife etc.
I spent the best part of 6 years doing serious weight training, and eating 4000calories a day during bulking phases, and eventually hit 220lb (100kg) at the same height, at around a maintenance bodyfat of 12%. Since then I've maintained that.
Once I reached a 'normal' weight of around 170-190lb I no longer found things an uphill battle - I never had to fight to overcome that bias against skinniness from both guys and girls. Once I hit 200-220lbs things changed massively. It was now a downhill battle.
Since then I've put pretty much zero effort into what I wear, and far less effort into even bothering trying to chat up girls. Once you reach a certain size drunk girls really do just tend to throw themselves at you as long as you're average looking facially - my pop psychology take on it would be it triggers something primal in them once they're drunk enough. Kinda like with guys around strippers: you don't really notice the face if the body is good enough when you're drunk, as long as its not noticeably awful.
Aside from girls I also find guys in social settings are completely different. They in general treat you like you're someone deserves respect, without knowing a thing about you other than what you look like. Its basically the difference between guys treating you like their younger sibling (when skinny), and their father (when built), in terms of respect.
Its a long road but there is no excuse for anyone not to do it. Nobody 'cant gain weight'. Skinny guys who say this are the exact same as fat girls who say they're just 'built that way' as an excuse. Some people just gain weight harder than others. If you're eating 4000 calories a day and working out 4 days a week you WILL gain weight, this is a certainty. Keep this up for long enough and you'll get results that will change your life.
(This post was last modified: 08-20-2014 01:50 PM by zatara.)
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little wing
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RE: Wow you are really skinny
(08-16-2014 02:25 PM)soup Wrote: (08-16-2014 01:08 PM)scorpion Wrote: soup, I think you've said that you're a musician and game a lot of hipster girls, so your look might be optimized for that niche. Putting on more muscle would certainly expand your options, though.
If you are banging 64 girls a year already though I don't think you really need to change anything up, unless you feel like you're having issues with quality.
I'm losing my hair and think it would be better to be a bit more buff if I shave it off.
I want to want to build muscle because I'm curious to see for myself if the kinds of things you have mentioned here are real. Growing up, I was always skinny, and physically not as athletic as other guys. It was natural for me to become the artist instead of a jock.
I do lift some almost every day. It's taking a long time to see improvement. Any that is there is slight for sure. I guess I'm a hardgainer. Maybe it has to do with being vegetarian.
One of my life goals is to experience myself at my full potential. I don't believe I've reached the height of my power yet. I definitely want more quality and consistency on all fronts, and I feel that I need to get better.
Soup do starting strength. You can buy the book or get the free ebook on Piratebay. There's also a pretty good write up on the bodybuilding forums. Starting Strength is all you need as a beginner, it will build a great foundation for your physique
I guarantee you you will put on 10 lbs in the first months if you consistently eat enough(like 3500 calories).
I was 6' and 130 lbs when I started..I put on 15 lbs of muscle in one month!!! while training 3 times a week.
There's no such thing as hardgainers, everyone can put on mass. You just have to eat and lift heavy
When I was skinny I never had problems with girls though. When you have a sense of humour, decent facial asthetics, dress well and are confident you can pull girls even while you're skinny. My legs used to be like twigs, same goes for my arms, I literally had no muscle but I still got laid. You just need to find your personal look and rock it
“No man has the right to be an amateur in the matter of physical training. It is a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable.”
-Socrates
(This post was last modified: 08-21-2014 07:52 PM by little wing.)
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