Post: #1

Met a girl through living at the same college last night and went out as a group. Want to hang out again to escalate physically soon but not sure whether to: go for an individual hang out: pros, easier to escalate and can manoeuver logistics etc. cons - she might not be comfortable hanging out one on one so soon given college is such a tight community and if it fucks up we'll still be living together for a year

or out as a group and attempt to separate later in the night: pros - she'dmostly likely go, cons - there are at least two other guys in my college interested in her and may be difficult to separate her from group/cockblocking from girls/guys in my college (so I'd have to rely on her strong interest on me which I think is still lukewarm)

Other: She has a boyfriend interstate (going out 6 months) but didn't mention it to me.
IOIs - Engages in conversation, started bantering with me towards the end of the night etc Disinterest - doesn't 'appear' randomly next to me during the night like some girls (proximity)/initiate conversation in a group setting, doesn't ask me many questions (2-3 the WHOLE night) We're both in our early 20's.

Thanks guys, I'm posting this mainly because I haven't done social circle game in about 2 years and don't want to crossover cold approach dating game with this if it fucks things up. Can add more info if needed.

Post: #2

1. Go out with group

2. Have a blast all together but engage her more

3. In the meantime take advantage of those short moments where you can talk one on one or create them on your own. Show her your intent.

4. Stick with her until the end of the night

5. Hang out after everybody leaves

Post: #3

(02-18-2017 06:07 AM)XXL Wrote:  1. Go out with group


2. Have a blast all together but engage her more

3. In the meantime take advantage of those short moments where you can talk one on one or create them on your own. Show her your intent.

4. Stick with her until the end of the night

5. Hang out after everybody leaves

Thanks man! We're actually all going out one week after I met her, do you think that's too long to wait?

Also escalation wise would you kiss her after everyone leaves or before? And in terms of logistics would you try to get her back to my pad to push for the bang that same night?

Post: #4

Yes I'd escalate after they all leave. During the hangout I'd just keep it cool

Post: #5

Hey guys, there's a weird situation I have found myself in. There is this new fresher who moved in recently to on campus residence in the same floor. She introduced herself first when she and her mum were arranging her room and stuff. Think I was the first person on campus she met. Anyway, we hung out with some other freshers at the campus bar a couple days later. She said she wasn't feeling well that day but she came out anyway. She was drinking and we talked a bit.

Later we hung out at the common room, also on campus. For some reason, she went to another room alone. I went in like 5 minutes later just to check on her and maybe have a chat. Think she was sleeping but when I came in, she was like 'You surprised me.' I said I was just checking up on her. She said that she was just taking a 'power nap' and quickly stood up, rearranged the chairs back and we went back to the common room.

The next day, she just ignored me because we do run into each other in the kitchen and communal area and kind of made a show of talking to the other guys there. I didn't make the effort to talk to her either. But later, she started giving looks and started kind of appearing beside me when I am talking to other people. Finally, she broke the silence and said a quick 'hi' after another day. I replied but didn't make conversation.

So, is this just attention seeking behavior by a typical 18yr old or is there potential for a discreet date if her reputation is what she is actually worried about? If its real interest, how would you guys go about it? Things like inviting her for a movie might not work because my room is surrounded by freshmen she knows at the moment.

As I am not a freshman, I am not really interested in getting into her social circle.

Post: #6

(02-26-2018 07:13 AM)Hazaer Wrote:  Hey guys, there's a weird situation I have found myself in. There is this new fresher who moved in recently to on campus residence in the same floor. She introduced herself first when she and her mum were arranging her room and stuff. Think I was the first person on campus she met. Anyway, we hung out with some other freshers at the campus bar a couple days later. She said she wasn't feeling well that day but she came out anyway. She was drinking and we talked a bit.

Later we hung out at the common room, also on campus. For some reason, she went to another room alone. I went in like 5 minutes later just to check on her and maybe have a chat. Think she was sleeping but when I came in, she was like 'You surprised me.' I said I was just checking up on her. She said that she was just taking a 'power nap' and quickly stood up, rearranged the chairs back and we went back to the common room.

The next day, she just ignored me because we do run into each other in the kitchen and communal area and kind of made a show of talking to the other guys there. I didn't make the effort to talk to her either. But later, she started giving looks and started kind of appearing beside me when I am talking to other people. Finally, she broke the silence and said a quick 'hi' after another day. I replied but didn't make conversation.

So, is this just attention seeking behavior by a typical 18yr old or is there potential for a discreet date if her reputation is what she is actually worried about? If its real interest, how would you guys go about it? Things like inviting her for a movie might not work because my room is surrounded by freshmen she knows at the moment.

As I am not a freshman, I am not really interested in getting into her social circle.

I wouldn't follow a girl to check up on her, but maybe she is still interested.

Ask her to drink coffee, and you can take her to a place outside of campus. If she accepts, she might be interested, and the escalate.

Post: #7

(02-26-2018 07:52 AM)seabridge Wrote:  

(02-26-2018 07:13 AM)Hazaer Wrote:  Hey guys, there's a weird situation I have found myself in. There is this new fresher who moved in recently to on campus residence in the same floor. She introduced herself first when she and her mum were arranging her room and stuff. Think I was the first person on campus she met. Anyway, we hung out with some other freshers at the campus bar a couple days later. She said she wasn't feeling well that day but she came out anyway. She was drinking and we talked a bit.

Later we hung out at the common room, also on campus. For some reason, she went to another room alone. I went in like 5 minutes later just to check on her and maybe have a chat. Think she was sleeping but when I came in, she was like 'You surprised me.' I said I was just checking up on her. She said that she was just taking a 'power nap' and quickly stood up, rearranged the chairs back and we went back to the common room.

The next day, she just ignored me because we do run into each other in the kitchen and communal area and kind of made a show of talking to the other guys there. I didn't make the effort to talk to her either. But later, she started giving looks and started kind of appearing beside me when I am talking to other people. Finally, she broke the silence and said a quick 'hi' after another day. I replied but didn't make conversation.

So, is this just attention seeking behavior by a typical 18yr old or is there potential for a discreet date if her reputation is what she is actually worried about? If its real interest, how would you guys go about it? Things like inviting her for a movie might not work because my room is surrounded by freshmen she knows at the moment.

As I am not a freshman, I am not really interested in getting into her social circle.

I wouldn't follow a girl to check up on her, but maybe she is still interested.

Ask her to drink coffee, and you can take her to a place outside of campus. If she accepts, she might be interested, and the escalate.

Yeah, it was bad frame to follow her. But since she was by herself, I thought she was isolated to have a chat and maybe make plans without all her friends knowing about it. Thing is, I have noticed that she is very friendly with all the guys (more than even girls) but since most of those guys are freshmen, they are kind of clueless. But then again, friendly might mean attention whoring and them trying to increase the social circle, noticing that quite a lot with freshmen girls so not sure.

Coffee is a good idea to gauge interest. But how would you escalate from there?

Post: #8

Don't worry to much about the loss of frome from the one instance, it's difficult to hold all the time. Now you know for next time.

I don't know how experienced you are, but it sounds like this girl isn't ready to go directly to your place, and a coffee date sounds disarming for most girls.

What i would do, is to try to sit next to her instead of in front of her. This makes touching more possible, which is a very important part of game. Ask some questions, try getting her to talk about topics you have in common. And try to demonstrate higher value. Maybe you have visited cool places, maybe you play music or have a nice car, what ever. Have confidence and feel sexy, when ever i talk to a girl i would like to fuck, i assume that i'm above her in the social hierarchy or sexual market value, even if i'm not. Girls love confidence, but don't be arrogant, try to be charming and funny if thats your thing. If the conversation leads to the topic sex, its always good.

Be funny, confident, do light touching. If things are going good, ask her if she wants to come to your place to taste wine/look at pictures/see your guitar. If she's not there yet, end the date with a kiss, even if everything not went as well as it could. If she won't kiss you there, she probably never will. Take some risk. If nothing works out, next her and find new girls. You gain experience no matter what.

Post: #9

(02-27-2018 05:12 AM)seabridge Wrote:  What i would do, is to try to sit next to her instead of in front of her. This makes touching more possible, which is a very important part of game. Ask some questions, try getting her to talk about topics you have in common. And try to demonstrate higher value. Maybe you have visited cool places, maybe you play music or have a nice car, what ever. Have confidence and feel sexy, when ever i talk to a girl i would like to fuck, i assume that i'm above her in the social hierarchy or sexual market value, even if i'm not. Girls love confidence, but don't be arrogant, try to be charming and funny if thats your thing. If the conversation leads to the topic sex, its always good.

Be funny, confident, do light touching. If things are going good, ask her if she wants to come to your place to taste wine/look at pictures/see your guitar. If she's not there yet, end the date with a kiss, even if everything not went as well as it could. If she won't kiss you there, she probably never will. Take some risk. If nothing works out, next her and find new girls. You gain experience no matter what.

Good topics for convo. I find that I usually run out of things to say after a while. Sometimes, I find that the tempo of the conversation has to be maintained as well, if not, she kind of loses interest although we are still talking.How long do your coffee dates last? Do you do handholding after a coffee date?

Nice tip on the wine, still have a bottle unopened but mentioning alcohol as a reason to come to my place outright might be risky. How about suggesting watching a movie after she comes to my place? No guitars or pics at the moment.

If its a coffee date, I am assuming it has to be a late afternoon or early evening so how do you go for the kiss, especially with no alcohol involved?

I am still doubtful to be honest, since she is kind of a neighbor, am not sure if she is acting nice just to be on good terms. She asked me how my day was, told her that it was busy, she said hers was too and left with an orbiter freshman guy in tow who happens to be another neighbor. Its hard to catch her alone to ask about the date and I got 2 numbers with the same name on my phone.

Post: #10

A coffee date could be circa one hour, or as long as the conversation is floating. If you are running out of topics after 30 min just say you have something important that you need to do.

Come up with whatever excuse to go to your place. It doesn't really matter, I just would not out right ask her to go to your place to bang. Wine/movie/whatever sounds better for the female hamster.

Go for the kiss either at your place or when you say goodbye. It's like any other situation. Just do it or like I mostly do to personal success "I've wanted to kiss you for some time now and I'm gonna do it."

I understand you are in doubt. But you will never know if you don't ask her. She's not going to invite you for a date. What do you have to lose?