Post: #501

(04-16-2013 08:42 PM)Player_1337 Wrote:  

(04-16-2013 08:40 PM)MrXY Wrote:  ^^^ you need to go back to square one with your text game-you're doing it wrong

How would you have handled her?

Well since you asked:

Quote:Me: Probably think I'm an international playboy. Want to get to know you better

A bit try hard with the "international playboy" bit but not bad. The second sentence alone would have been better.

Quote:Her: I don't know about 'international playboy' but getting to know you better sounds like a lark

Positive response! She's just told you she's open to seeing you again, but apparently you were oblivious. Do you know what one of the biggest faults or salesmen and lawyers is? They don't know when to shut up-they keep running their mouth when the prospect is ready to buy or the jury is ready to decide in their favor, and say something stupid, as in:

Quote: Me: No- was thinking that since we were kissing passionately and feeling each other's bodies that this would lead to pure friendship

oh, dear lord why?! total overgaming and completely unnecessary sexualization of the conversation. Your only response at this point should have been to arrange a date. but now you've made her feel like a slut so naturally she responds with:

Quote:Her: If you're just looking to get laid you're barking up the wrong tree

the anti-slut defense. You probably blew it right here beyond repair, once a girl thinks you thinks she's a slut, it's really hard to recover

Quote:Me: You're right. Let's just go get married tonight

you recognized you fucked up and tried to back off

Quote:Her: Sorry, my divorce won't be finalized for another few weeks

Fail. She wasn't having any of it

Quote:Me: You've mistaken me for someone who gives a shit

Your only chance was to let her sit for while and come back as if the previous exchange never happened. Instead you sound angry and butthurt for some reason. Asshole game does not work over text with girls you haven't banged, if that's what you were going for. Aloof game works , but this wasn't aloof.

Quote:Her: I'd think (nickname she'd given me) would give a shit about the rule of law

Now she's just bickering with you

Quote:Me: That's reserved for the imbeciles who study it (she's a law student)

This is just an insult-why?

Quote:Her: Look, I don't know what exactly I said to get your panties in a bunch? but I suggest you lose this number. This will be the last thing I say to you. Ciao.

And........you're done! Notice how she's mystified as to why you became so angry and insulting when she started out by saying that she wanted to get to know you better. Well , I am too.

Recommendations: Stop trying to run asshole game or sexualize conversations when you are texting. Use it for polite keep in touch type exchanges and arranging the logistics of dates only until you get good at that. Then start trying some light flirting. good luck

Post: #502

Seductive

Honestly texting eludes me because I always try to get them on the phone forreal. Takes my game to a whole new level.

Post: #503

I have a really old school phone but one I liked was this chick off OKCUPID which I fucking hate but whatever I mess around when I'm bored. Nigerian chick in law school with a banging body. Real conservative though.

She was rambling on about something pointless and I was thinking about food. I was starving and couldnt decide what to eat. This was an ongoing text situash and I can't remember exactly bc my phone memory is too short.

Me: If you were on death row what would your last meal be?
Her: Wow I wasn't expecting that question. Nobodys ever asked me before whatever whatever.
Her: I guess it would be whatever whatever. But the dessert would have to be something with white chocolate.
Me: wow cool
Me: im made of white chocolate


pow. I only wish I was present for the motherfuckn fatality dude. omg.

Her: Is it getting hot in here or is it me. (she actually wrote those words) So smooth and clever.

I tried to escalate it sexually but shes a prude i think. i got bored of it okcupid is whack imo.\


BTW where is elmechanico's texts at they are usu super entertaining.

Post: #504

Player_1337, I just lol'd at your last text. Sometimes I say completely retarded shit like that to chicks just to watch their faces. Doesn't result in bangs, generally, but it's just hilarious, can't help doing it.

Post: #505

That made my head hurt, don't worry Player_1337, I'm fucking appalling at text game, it's why I keep it to a bog standard minimum. Niceties, minimal teasing, Date arrangement.

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Post: #507

Hookers ^^^^^

Post: #508

You're quick.

And that's just what I was thinking.

Waiting on pics.

Post: #509

Caveman game.

Post: #510

whoops this was the caveman game one.

Post: #511

(04-17-2013 05:07 PM)MidniteSpecial Wrote:  whoops this was the caveman game one.

Bravo. She was lost in your frame

Post: #512

(04-17-2013 04:52 AM)bojangles Wrote:  That made my head hurt, don't worry Player_1337, I'm fucking appalling at text game, it's why I keep it to a bog standard minimum. Niceties, minimal teasing, Date arrangement.

My early failures in text-game were always from cracking jokes but coming off as supplicating or beta and thus not building any additional attraction. Now I'm better at it, although I prefer just sticking to straight invite -> date. This other extreme - having attraction and then ruining it by making her feel like a slut and insulting her - is just mind-boggling to me. I guess it just proves that being nice/jerk and having game/anti-game are all possible combinations. Not hating on Player_1337 here, of course, everyone goes through phases of improvement.

Post: #513

Christ... I don't even know where to begin, I guess I'd change everything.

Note: A lot of the other text exchanges in this thread are from guys deliberately trolling girls, I don't think that's what you were trying to do.

Quote:Girl I met a few weeks ago at a club. Things became heated (kissing/all over each other) and we went back to my place, but she wouldn't go all the way. The night ended with us exchanging numbers. Couple of days later, I reach out to make plans (for Fri) and she turns it down without offer of reschedule. I then sent her the following text on Monday.

There's a couple mistakes before the first text. First, don't schedule a first date for a friday or saturday, girls usually already have plans those nights. Set up something for a weekday.

Second, you don't always have to wait a couple days, strike while the iron is hot. Should've sent the "whats up" or "hey" text the next day.

Quote:Me: Probably think I'm an international playboy. Want to get to know you better
Her: I don't know about 'international playboy' but getting to know you better sounds like a lark

You sound corny when you're giving yourself that kind of label. Comes off as trying too hard and all but the dimmest girls are going to see through that. You were probably trying to think of something "cool" to text her, unfortunately you missed the mark. On the plus side, she does still want to hang out at this point.

Quote:Me: No- was thinking that since we were kissing passionately and feeling each other's bodies that this would lead to pure friendship
Her: If you're just looking to get laid you're barking up the wrong tree

This is improper use of "asshole game", don't try that kind of sarcasm via text message. Remember this girl doesn't know you yet, and saying something like that gives her a reason to not want to, after she just said she was interested. Worse yet, you're creating an implication that things will get physical again. You don't need to say that, it's already implied if she likes you. Reminding her how close you were to having sex will trigger those thoughts in her head that tell her if she sees you again, sex may be an obligation. Most women are conditioned to avoid being so casual.

Quote:Me: You're right. Let's just go get married tonight
Her: Sorry, my divorce won't be finalized for another few weeks

I don't know what you were going for here with the married line, seems like she didn't either. You could've rebounded with something else, taking things out of the sexual realm. You might've got away with spinning things back around at her, oh well you live and learn.

Quote:Me: You've mistaken me for someone who gives a shit

(she responds the following day)
Her: I'd think (nickname she'd given me) would give a shit about the rule of law

(a few days later i write back)
Me: That's reserved for the imbeciles who study it (she's a law student)
Her: Look, I don't know what exactly I said to get your panties in a bunch? but I suggest you lose this number. This will be the last thing I say to you. Ciao.

Again, you're going with the asshole approach, which works great after you've banged a girl, and can also work if applied correctly in person, but never works via text with new girls.

To summarize: In her first texts she said she wanted to get to know you better, but you pushed to make things sexual and when she didn't play along your tone shifted to angry and childish. To top it all off, you started insulting her, giving her a golden opportunity to cut you loose guilt free.

Next time, keep things simple and separate your player personality, from your text personality. On the phone keep things logistical.

Post: #514

A text exchange from earlier today.
Here's a girl I met last week and I actually want to meet up with her so I'm not trolling.
This girl told me in the previous text that she is going to college and is an art major.

   
   

Post: #515

From tonight. Just sent her home...

   

   

Post: #516

come back???? for what thought you sent her home

Post: #517

(04-23-2013 03:49 AM)Lights Wrote:  come back???? for what thought you sent her home

The txt message exchange happened, then she came back and I smashed, then I sent her home, then I smoked a square and posted that to RVF.

Post: #518

(04-23-2013 03:42 AM)Fujiwara Wrote:  From tonight. Just sent her home...

Great example of calibration. Not knowing the interaction you obviously had prior a newbie might see this and think, "why is he saying that he couldn't didn't mean to grab her in front of her boyfriend? Why is he saying that she had an 'effect' on him right to her...and with a smiley face??!?!?" when in this situation she is already very attracted to him and when he states this, he's just feeding into her fantasy that this guy she is very attracted to also finds her hard to resist (she's some special snowflake).

Then a newbie would see the "jealous much???" and immediately think it's a shit test instead of her just looking for him to reinforce that he wants her since she states so clearly how she wanted to ditch her boyfriend and be with him.

Then he commands her (because he can at this point), she asks if she really should, and instead of Fujiwara responding with excitement or great interest, he just leaves it at "you should" and then she submits to his command.

Great exchange.

Post: #519

Backstory: This is with a Peruvian girl who was my neighbor for a few years, not sure if I'll be able to turn this one into a bang, but she was back in Peru for a while and recently contacted me after returning. She just moved very close to my work. English is definitely her second language, but she understands a lot and speaks well enough, just has a good accent. She has a great sense of humor but she often misinterprets my humor to her because of the language barrier. I enjoy fucking with her, definitely want to fuck her.

She had just commented on a picture of mine on Facebook. It's a picture of me playing volleyball sometime last year that my friend snuck with his telephoto. I'm in the air looking more ripped than I am (since all my muscles are tensed ready to smash the ball) and with a pretty good amount of sky under my feet:

Her comment was, "Que bien te marketeas!" which means roughly "You market yourself well!" so I texted her:

<AO> Que significa la palabra marketea? (What does the word "marketea" mean?)
<Peruvian> Means what a marketing you do with yourself..hahaha joke! Cause the picture
<AO> Ah let me translate from [Peruvian]-nese:

"AneroidOcean, you look really good in that picture but I don't know how to compliment you."

<AO> Thanks [Peruvian]!

[ALL THE BELOW WITHIN A TWO MINUTE SPAN]

<Peruvian> Hahaha noooo
<Peruvian> I didn't say that
<Peruvian> What is [Peruvian]-nese?
<Peruvian> If you don't like it erase it....r u mad?
<Peruvian> U look great in that pic...but the pic says "call me"

[She then calls me and I send it to VM because I'm at work]

<AO> Working
<Peruvian> Hey did u got mad?
<AO> Nope
<Peruvian> It's ok I just fixed
<Peruvian> That's why I called
<AO> Np. I'll call you later. Busy now
<Peruvian> Ok bye

I need to get this girl over to my place and some wine in her, or alternately go visit her place since she just moved into a nice bedroom with a pimp fireplace. She has some super nice knockers and some DSLs like I haven't seen in a while.

Post: #520

Nicest flake I've experienced..

   

Post: #521

^^^^^ Honestly is refreshing sometimes..

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Post: #524

Damn!

";*)" hope you don't mind me stealing that

Post: #525

(04-25-2013 01:16 PM)kickboxer Wrote:  Damn!

";*)" hope you don't mind me stealing that

Hotwheels has tight text game. heh

Just don't use it in the upper midwest. Would hate to run into the same broads...