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Psychology Today article argues that women are the reason why men strive to do anything important:
Quote:This is why men throughout history have had to conquer foreign lands, win battles and wars, compose symphonies, author books, write sonnets, paint portraits and cathedral ceilings, make scientific discoveries, play in rock bands, and write new computer software, in order to impress women so that they will agree to have sex with them. There would be no civilization, no art, no literature, no music, no Beatles, no Microsoft, if sex and mating were a male choice. Men have built (and destroyed) civilizations in order to impress women so that they might say yes. Women are the reason men do everything.
I see a similar sentiment in some manosphere articles that claim that civilization depends on betas' being rewarded for their productivity with sexual access to women. Dave Chappelle also said, "If a man could fuck a woman in a cardboard box, he wouldn't buy a house." It is true that a desire to get laid has motivated a lot of men to get an apartment in the city, vacuum the carpet, etc. A typical man will put in enough effort to rise to whatever standard of mediocre achievement is necessary to not seem to women like a total loser.
But I doubt the reason some men go above and beyond the norm is just for the sake of getting laid. Great accomplishment often requires taking risks and making long-term investments. Women, however, are mostly just interested in the product of men's labor, not in the journey (except to the extent that the journey produces desirable masculine characteristics, such as confidence and strength, in the man). They are attracted to success, yet success at any groundbreaking endeavor is usually not assured, and may not come to fruition in one's lifetime.
If sex were the only incentive for being a member of a rock band, then we would probably have a surplus of singers, and a shortage of bass players, as guys sought to get into the roles where they could attract the most pussy. If impressing girls were the only incentive to write software, then no one would bother with unsexy projects, like database backend improvements for obscure open-source applications. Men would, in short, not bother to toil for the benefit of humanity in any ways that women are unlikely to understand or appreciate. They would not serve in mostly thankless roles just for the sake of pride in the knowledge of their own awesomeness, or for the admiration of equally obscure peers in communities no one ever heard of. It's hard to focus on what will truly bring value to the world, if at all times you are distracted by thinking about whether others (and especially women) will approve.
Empirically, we observe that boys' interest in achievement in sports, hobbies, etc. often arises long before they develop much interest in girls. If it were otherwise, the years leading up to puberty (or whenever the sexual desire for women arises) would be mostly wasted. Neil Strauss writes, "A man has two primary drives in early adulthood: one toward power, success, and accomplishment; the other toward love, companionship, and sex." The drive for accomplishment stands alone and is not just a means to the end of attaining sex.
Women can boost a man's morale by assisting him in his endeavors; adding cleanliness and comfort to his environment; and making him feel accepted, loved, appreciated, etc.; but self-respect must come from within, and be based on a man's belief in his own value and contributions (rather than on what other's think). If he does not have self-respect, he will be unhappy, and the woman in his life will feel inadequate and unwanted for not being able to make him happy. She will feel useless in her life's purpose of devoting herself to a strong man's happiness.
Sometimes a man, lacking a mission of his own, will decide to pass the time by making it his mission to attract women, or please a woman. Yet, this means that his success is dependent on another person, rather that on his own efforts. How is he going to serve as a woman's rock, and remain stoical despite her emotionality and the normal ups and the downs that relationships go through, if his happiness is dependent on her happiness, rather than on a mission that is independent of her?
I have heard some men say that the reason they do not accomplish more is that they are depressed at not having female companionship. Digging deeper, one often discovers that what they are hoping to find in a woman is someone who will share their interests, so that they will not feel lonely in their life's journey. Yet, women are almost always uninterested in getting deeply involved in masculine activities and passions. They may learn enough lingo from Wikipedia to have a surface appearance of familiarity and interest in the topic, and claim to be fans, but that's about it. So, one still feels lonely in that respect even with a wife or girlfriend. Much more helpful to maintaining the morale needed to keep working on a major project is having male friends, allies, collaborators, etc. who can share a genuine rather than superficial enthusiasm.
If anything, a wife and family will often inhibit one from pursuing a risky mission or one with a payoff in the distant future, because of their need for immediate and ongoing financial stability. Desire for sex can also be a motivator for men to engage in nefarious, anti-civilization activities; for example, Frank Abagnale (the basis for the film
Catch Me If You Can) said that his primary motive for impersonating doctors, pilots, etc. was to attract women. Islamist terrorists bomb civilians in hopes of sexual reward in the afterlife. Men will also develop a lot of pseudo-intellectual ideas (like astrology and other chick crack) to attract women, rather than pursuing more useful (but obscure) ideas that women would find nerdy and boring.
Some men, like Elliot Rodger, have said that they killed because they lacked a woman; but in all likelihood, they also lacked a mission and thus felt totally adrift in life. A mission will sustain you better during a time when women are absent from your life, than women will sustain you during a time when a sense of mission is absent from your life. Men lacking game will sometimes tell themselves, "I need to finish working on my career (or my studies, or whatever) before girls will be interested in me" but this is usually just a stalling tactic to avoid going out of their comfort zone, rather than having much basis in truth.
The idea that a woman could have a "face that launches a thousand ships" is more an acknowledgement of the power that delusional one-itis can have over a man, than proof of women's central role in motivating male achievement. One-itis, though, can also be a man's ruin, as the need to impress one woman, or his dismay at failing to do so, occupies all of his thoughts. When I look back at the times when I was most crippled by one-itis to the point of devastation at being rejected, those were also times when I didn't have a strong sense of mission in my life. When I've had a strong mission, girls have usually been a secondary interest, to the point that when a girl hit me up for a booty call, I would delay going over there for hours (much to her annoyance) because I was working on something else.
I think it's counterproductive to adopt a gynocentric view of male motivation, in which it's assumed that men NEED women in order to have any motivation to be productive. Male-only parties have explored and conquered far-off continents and established settlements. Even if relations between the sexes are dysfunctional, and relationships prove less than satisfactory, we can still find happiness and meaning in this life. This can still be a time of progress for civilization and for individual men, despite all the havoc feminists wreak. It's arguably women who are hurt the most by feminism, because they don't have a mission they can fall back on as a source of satisfaction when they don't have a good relationship.
Women do betray and reject men, yet they cannot control a man's sense of self-worth if he already knows he has given himself reason to be sure of it. Therefore, they cannot truly wound him deeply unless he already is weak as a result of his own inadequacies. Women can withhold or take away everything they had to offer, but no more. Awareness of the limitations on women's power to damage men can help temper the anger phase of Red Pill conversion.
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