Post: #51

(10-26-2016 09:02 PM)Peregrine Wrote:  So that's what schadenfreude truly feels like. Germans have great words for everything.

Do Germans have a word for the irritation you feel when you wake up to find that even though your blanket is straight, your top sheet has somehow gone horizontal, and you have to make your bed all over again for no reason?

Post: #52

(10-27-2016 02:34 PM)debeguiled Wrote:  

(10-26-2016 09:02 PM)Peregrine Wrote:  So that's what schadenfreude truly feels like. Germans have great words for everything.

Do Germans have a word for the irritation you feel when you wake up to find that even though your blanket is straight, your top sheet has somehow gone horizontal, and you have to make your bed all over again for no reason?

If so, I would use that word a lot!

Post: #53

This article made me laugh then made me and then made me sad. Yes of course there's textbook schadenfreude to be had here but living in careerist DC you see this so much. I spend a ridiculous amount schedule managing my potential women because they are all ankle chained to their jobs. Sure some have other dudes but so many travel for work or are working even on Sunday. And when you talk to the more realist ones they admit they are miserable. Which of course I know because I am trying (with difficulty, but still trying) to become financially and location independent after pouring my 30's into the rat race. Now i have a house and savings but am traumatized from years of dealing with corporate management "professionals." The career life is brutal unless you have a supporting work environment. Even more so on women if they are the type to actually pull their weight around the office. The office uses them up and if you're lucky you can be the bad boy that gets what is left.

I feel for people that grow up in cities that may not know there are other types of women out there. Growing up all I saw were careerist power couple types. Luckily Mom was a sweetheart so I at least I know what a woman who is not a cunt is supposed to look like. Guys just take the shop girl. That spunky attorney will be the death of you.

Post: #54

Classic case of gender myopia:

It’s that bizarre condition where women confuse traits that are attractive to women for those that are attractive to men. The end result is a bunch of women bragging about things they think will turn men on, when in fact they are the exact things that turn men off.

http://www.blackdragonblog.com/2013/11/2...er-myopia/

She thought her job made her hot, her husband went down a few notches in her eyes because his supposed lack of a good career, failed to realize the truth:

To a woman, a man who is a 5 in all other regards all of a sudden becomes an 8 if his status/$ is really strong.

To a man, a woman who is a 5 who has a high status job and makes a lot of money is still a 5.

Failure for women to realize this and check their ego equals a lifetime of loneliness + bitterness + cats. The math checks out every time. At least she takes some semblance of responsibility in acknowledging she fucked up. Most women curse the world of men for not finding what they want attractive.

Post: #55

Sadly, happens to just too many women. We always think the grass is greener elesewhere, but it isn't true. If you're currently married to a younger virgin woman with the same goals than you, there's no point in trying to find better. If you dump her to find better, your new girl will do the same.

Post: #56

(10-28-2016 09:17 AM)JuiceDC Wrote:  I feel for people that grow up in cities that may not know there are other types of women out there. Growing up all I saw were careerist power couple types. Luckily Mom was a sweetheart so I at least I know what a woman who is not a cunt is supposed to look like. Guys just take the shop girl. That spunky attorney will be the death of you.

Problem is most shop girls in the urban West lead fucked-up lives of their own variety. Her $800 single-room apartment is a mess, her ex boyfriend is a dealer, and her 1998 Hyundai is in constant need of repairs she can't afford working at Bed, Bath, and Beyond. They are Broke A F and generally corny beyond belief to boot.

At my age these pelado hoes are sort of a turn-off.

At least the spunky attorney usually has the good sense to not get into hot water, and the funds to bail her own ass out if she does.

Post: #57

So, Matthew is now happily married to another woman.

That's great, but I think we have an elephant in the room. Because for every woman like this bitch, there's another one who is a little more cunning. A little more sly. A little more devious. And less prone to making poor decisions.

Such women don't just divorce their Matthews. No, instead they continue their parasitic cohabitation with them, making their lives miserable until the very end.

This story reminded me of two coworkers of mine who have wives like I just described. Those guys are typical beta chaps, nice guys who obviously had no choice when they were younger and ended up marrying the first girl that was willing to spread her legs for them. Now, they're completely broken. It's sad to look them in the eyes and feel the low energy and despair emanating from them.

This story reminded me of them.

And it also reminded me of another female coworker. She's a 5 in her late 20s, and has a blue-collar nice guy boyfriend, who earns much less than her. In the same way like the woman from this article, she's ashamed of him. She claims he's just a friend, and not her boyfriend, even though everyone at work knows he's her boyfriend, as they've been seen together in public.

Some women truly are leeches. All I can say is that I'm grateful for having learned how to spot and avoid them. Thank God for the red pill!

Post: #58

The first comment on the dailymail article is as follows:

Karen it seems there were red flags in the relationship that you were smart enough to recognize at the time. Those things that bug you before marriage - only magnify after marriage. If you did not have utter peace with the relationship, you did the right thing by moving on. Stop torturing yourself and as one commenter said - open you heart (as Jane Seymour says - I suggest you read her book "Remarkable Changes" it's really quite good. Move forward -God has a plan for you. Place God first in your life and all else will come in God's good time. The best things happen when you are following your own passions and heart and not desperate on the lookout for someone. And yes, you are still young enough to have children. I work at a hospital and we just had a woman (48 years old) who conceived naturally and had a beautiful healthy baby girl. Chin up girl....life awaits you! Seize the day and forget about this long lost love who probably wasn't the best many for you after all.

The silver lining is that the comment only got 400 upvotes and over 2000 downvotes.

Post: #59

(10-29-2016 06:22 AM)CRR Wrote:  Classic case of gender myopia:

It’s that bizarre condition where women confuse traits that are attractive to women for those that are attractive to men. The end result is a bunch of women bragging about things they think will turn men on, when in fact they are the exact things that turn men off.

"Gender myopia."

Interesting. I didn't know they had a name for that. Lots of people in this day and age seem to think that what is attractive to them is also attractive to the opposite sex. Plenty of guys out there getting fancy haircuts and clothes and fixing themselves up before going out, and waxing their chests, as if their "sexiness" makes them attractive to women.

Post: #60

(10-29-2016 09:55 AM)Khan Wrote:  Some women truly are leeches. All I can say is that I'm grateful for having learned how to spot and avoid them. Thank God for the red pill!

In fact, you may find that many will actively avoid you, once you give off an air of unfuckwitability. The unfuckwitable man has little to offer many Western women, their alarm systems will start chiming, and they'll simply avoid you - you hardly even have to do anything. They're after easier prey. Good riddance.

Just be your (red pill) self.

Post: #61

(10-26-2016 08:46 AM)Dalaran1991 Wrote:  This raises an interesting question for us though, with the roles slightly reverse.

Say you are 38, not too old but already reached your prime couple years back. Your finances are all in order, but you wont be Bill Gates. You have game and can still occasionally pull quality, but you are losing the edge to younger guys.

You are in a LTR with a girl with mother-of-your children qualities: 25-28, traditional, loving, cook and clean, wants stability, low maintenance, a solid 7 but not more. You know you wont find girls like this everyday, but you cant help lusting after all the young pussies waving at you.

Your girl want children (justly) and set her ultimatum.

Do you get the ring or you keep playing the field, thinking like the women in the OP, that a better adventure awaits you elsewhere?

Well imo you have to weigh her past and behavior against those of "other women". For me looks boil down to lots of different scenarios that take into account a bunch of things.

Post: #62

I used to enjoy reading stories like this, now I dont care, I have better things to do with my time. Most women are not like this anyway, think about most girls you have dated. If they are reasonably attractive, they will go on to find a 'replacement' for the last boy friend not to long after breaking up. Thin ok looking girl will never know what it feels like to be alone as they always have boyfriends, one after the next. Thats why they harp on about being independent like its some big deal.

Post: #63

(10-29-2016 12:01 PM)XPQ22 Wrote:  

(10-29-2016 09:55 AM)Khan Wrote:  Some women truly are leeches. All I can say is that I'm grateful for having learned how to spot and avoid them. Thank God for the red pill!

In fact, you may find that many will actively avoid you, once you give off an air of unfuckwitability. The unfuckwitable man has little to offer many Western women, their alarm systems will start chiming, and they'll simply avoid you - you hardly even have to do anything. They're after easier prey. Good riddance.

Just be your (red pill) self.

I remember a couple girls that initial showed interest only to dismiss me before long, and before I ever tried to initiate anything with them. I took it a bit personal at the time until they'd show up with their new boyfriend and it all became clear: Some women are just looking for a chump.

Post: #64

One common theme I see in these types of stories -- the woman ignores the advice of her family, in particular, her father.

Fathers know the truth.

Post: #65

"But as time went on, and my magazine career - and salary - advanced, I started to resent Matthew as he drifted from one dead-end job to another."

When I read this line, I didn't have to read further.

Post: #66

(10-29-2016 11:55 AM)Rob Banks Wrote:  The first comment on the dailymail article is as follows:

Karen it seems there were red flags in the relationship that you were smart enough to recognize at the time. Those things that bug you before marriage - only magnify after marriage. If you did not have utter peace with the relationship, you did the right thing by moving on. Stop torturing yourself and as one commenter said - open you heart (as Jane Seymour says - I suggest you read her book "Remarkable Changes" it's really quite good. Move forward -God has a plan for you. Place God first in your life and all else will come in God's good time. The best things happen when you are following your own passions and heart and not desperate on the lookout for someone. And yes, you are still young enough to have children. I work at a hospital and we just had a woman (48 years old) who conceived naturally and had a beautiful healthy baby girl. Chin up girl....life awaits you! Seize the day and forget about this long lost love who probably wasn't the best many for you after all.

The silver lining is that the comment only got 400 upvotes and over 2000 downvotes.

Only a woman could have written this. When feelings are more important than the truth and principle, you get this kind of society, and all the failures that go with it.

Post: #67

Money did them in.

Quote:I was in my first junior role at a women's magazine and Matthew worked fitting tyres and exhausts, so our combined salaries of around £15,000 a year meant we struggled to make the mortgage payments. But we didn't care, telling ourselves that it wouldn't be long before we were earning more and able to afford weekly treats and a bigger home where we could bring up the babies we had planned.
But then, the housing market crashed and we were plunged into negative equity.
Struggling should have brought us closer together, and at first it did. But as time went on, and my magazine career - and salary - advanced, I started to resent Matthew as he drifted from one dead-end job to another.

Given that her family loved him, it should be safe to assume that he was intelligent and hardworking - not a layabout slacker. But the majority of the career world has become hell for men. Offices are regulated so as to be pleasing to the female employees, at the cost of male sanity. Trying to maintain a career is an uphill battle for men, while it's an easy slope for women. Aside from the few men who were lucky/smart enough to choose a good career path, most of us have been stuck walking into the wind.

This is bad for two reasons. First, because women want a man who will earn more than them - second, because men become deferential to somebody who earns more than them. We're plagued with guilt if we don't earn more than our woman, and we begin to treat her like the "Alpha" of the relationship. It becomes a double-whammy of role reversal, leading to sexual impotence.

(10-26-2016 11:48 AM)kaotic Wrote:  Matthew seemed like a decent bloke, however the dude lost his edge and frame.

Pretty clear he did whatever he wanted along with job choices - a career whore will fucking resent you for that, especially a successful one.

This bitch leaving him was the best thing that ever happened to him.

Thing is, he's a bitch for keeping her in his life and having her sabotage his relationships.

Blame of failure in life falls disproportionately on both of them.

Don't be so hard on him; life throws curve balls at you. Over the long term, you're going to lose frame from time to time. You'll get laid off, one of your parents will die, or maybe you'll just have a terrible day where the whole world decides to bend you over, and when you come home you're a sad sack with no energy left.

Another issue is women's emotiveness and irrationality. Our parents' generation of women were taught to be deferential to men; even if they pretended at equality, they naturally deferred to men when they were spinning out of control, and the men were taught to seize authority. These days, we've been so indoctrinated into equality that women are rebellious, and men lack dominance. Women will run off pursuing a whim, no matter how obviously destructive it is to all around them - and we men are no longer granted the social authority to keep them in line. Heck, it's been written into the legal code that refusing to give a woman money for a hose farm is "financial abuse".

There is going to be a lot of infertility in the present generation.