Post: #1

Alright guys I know there are other threads about limpdick but from what I read something resembling my situation has not been discussed.

Background: Im 18, very fit, have a good diet, DONT SMOKE, DONT DRINK, DONT DO DRUGS, so those are out of the question as to why this happened to me.

Hooking up with an american girl who im very attracted to 8.5 and her ass is a solid 10. Definitely not a question of attraction. I genuinely wanted to smash.

Heres the story. I smashed her three times one day made her come 4 times sex was great yadda yadda. Meet up a week later have a raging boner harder than industrial diamond. My dick could literally cut through anything, might have even grown an inch in the process. Mid fuck it goes limp out of the blue. We try everything, jerking off, sexy lap dance, she gives me the greatest blowjob of my life. Puts the whole (limp) dick in her mouth, garggles on my nuts, fondles them. The works. No cigar, my dick is at quarter mast. We do a half hour intermission, again nothing. Miraculously get dick to half mast and I smash her as best as I could. Very dissapointing.

Fast forward two weeks. Back at her place, really wanna fuck her silly. I begin to penetrate her with my industrial diamond cock and after 5 min go flacid. We both groan in desperation. jacks me off, finish her off. Round 2: literally an hour reboot time to avoid inconveniences. Same shit, although no matter what we do it wont go back up until....I have the brilliant idea of shoving coconut oil in her cunt (she had no lube or body lotion) and the sex was phenomenal.

Still...Why wont my dick stay hard for her when Im constantly fucking other girls that are less attractive (7s) (8s) and have no problem finishing but I do with this girl?

I thought maybe I was overworked, but Ive never had this happen on round 1, maybe after round 3.

Please help a brother out

Post: #2

Its in the mind not physical if its only with this one chick and no problem with others.

So you have to dig deep and work out why she scares/intimidates/gets you out of the mood?

Because she is hot? Does she do things wrong? Do you have feels? (feels can stop the smashing process) Is she loose, smelly or startfish?

Post: #3

Have you ruled out porn and masturbation? Performance anxiety and not being in the moment mid-fuck? Too many "false starts" and delaying the sex while you're horny?

I've had a similar case with a hot skinny mini masseuse, who had me at full mast whenever she was around - she couldn't make me come and I'd get soft even though the sex and the connection were both great.

Sometimes you're just not sexually compatible..

Post: #4

(08-26-2016 12:20 AM)RatInTheWoods Wrote:  Its in the mind not physical if its only with this one chick and no problem with others.

So you have to dig deep and work out why she scares/intimidates/gets you out of the mood?

Because she is hot? Does she do things wrong? Do you have feels? (feels can stop the smashing process) Is she loose, smelly or startfish?

Ive fucked hotter girls I dont think its the hotness. I genuinely enjoy spending time with her wouldnt mind LTRing, which might be it, since most women I fuck I view as objects. Definitely not loose, not smelly and most definitely not starfish, she is really wild. Grabbing my ass, encouraging me to keep thrusting, scratching back etc.

How should I go about getting rid of the feels aspect and be able to perform?

Post: #5

(08-26-2016 12:29 AM)polar Wrote:  Have you ruled out porn and masturbation? Performance anxiety and not being in the moment mid-fuck? Too many "false starts" and delaying the sex while you're horny?

I've had a similar case with a hot skinny mini masseuse, who had me at full mast whenever she was around - she couldn't make me come and I'd get soft even though the sex and the connection were both great.

Sometimes you're just not sexually compatible..

I dont think lack of sexual compatibility is the issue since the first time we had an amazing three rounds. I dont know about the false starts, I mean theres always a game before we smash but once we go into smash mode theres no delaying. What should we do with porn, masturbation? Like watch porn while were together? I dont know if it would help...shes turns me on more than most porn stars.

Post: #6

He means do you watch and masturbate to a lot of porn? If you do this it can mess with your libido and how you perform with real women.

Post: #7

Madonna - Whore complex, it looks like it..

The first time you banged her you still didn't have feelzz for her, just fucked her like any cum dumpster girl, once you started developing feelings you started having problems, right ?

If that's the case, this would fit it. I'm no psychologist, but something similar happened to me.

edit: "Where such men love they have no desire and where they desire they cannot love." - Sigmund Freud

Post: #8

(08-26-2016 06:06 AM)realologist Wrote:  He means do you watch and masturbate to a lot of porn? If you do this it can mess with your libido and how you perform with real women.

I fuck like 2-3 times a week and jack off most other days to porn

Post: #9

(08-26-2016 10:26 AM)Mjölnir Wrote:  Madonna - Whore complex, it looks like it..

The first time you banged her you still didn't have feelzz for her, just fucked her like any cum dumpster girl, once you started developing feelings you started having problems, right ?

If that's the case, this would fit it. I'm no psychologist, but something similar happened to me.

edit: "Where such men love they have no desire and where they desire they cannot love." - Sigmund Freud

The first time I banged her I was definitely very attracted to her on more than just a physical level, but my attraction grew. What can I do to fuck her the way I want since i doubt the attraction is going to magically vanish anytime soon

Post: #10

If you only experience this with her then it's in your head. Some sort of anxiety fucking with you. I had this happen years ago with a really attractive girl who I also was really into aside from just fucking.

I'm not so sure how to go about working it out aside from just trying to consciously clear your head about how hot and awesome this girl is in your mind. For me after the first few times we fucked it eventually worked itself out.

Post: #11

Sounds like performance anxiety. Your performance isn't a problem when it's average girls you don't care about...but with this girl you hype yourself up and WANT to give her a really good performance, and that puts pressure on you to perform or exceed expectations. That pressure/nerves/anxiety will kill a boner faster than anything, it definitely happens sometimes. It's happened to me before too like the first couple times i'm with a new chick who is really attractive and i'm trying to put in a really awesome performance and fuck the shit out of her to get her hooked. You've got to just zone out and revert back to basic instinct, and not focus so much on how hot she is and losing yourself in your own head.

I would try to just work on building more rapport with her and making yourself very comfortable around her, not involving sex. Just spend more time with her lounging on the couch or in bed, watch some movies, get her to give you a nice back massage and massage her afterwards. Just get really comfortable with her around and relax with her in her underwear or naked and let things happen naturally instead of trying to force the issue, or force your dick to get hard when it's being difficult. And stop jerking off in between seeing her, if you let that sexual frustration build up for a couple days you will blow her back out next time you meet up.

Post: #12

It's all in the mind. Which makes it real. I've had the same issues in the past. Just get really comfortable with her. Don't have sex a few days before.

Post: #13

(08-26-2016 10:29 AM)ChinUpChestOut Wrote:  

(08-26-2016 06:06 AM)realologist Wrote:  He means do you watch and masturbate to a lot of porn? If you do this it can mess with your libido and how you perform with real women.

I fuck like 2-3 times a week and jack off most other days to porn

Sounds like you have no problems getting laid. Cut back on the porn both in the frequency, amount of time, and weirdness (ie when you do watch, watch vanilla stuff, not interracial midget orgies). All this stuff desensitizes your dick and more importantly, your brain. It affects your expectations in bed and makes it harder to stay turned on.

Damien and Stalin also made good points above.

Post: #14

I had a bout of performance anxiety. The unfortunate thing is that it tends to feed into a negative spiral where worse performance leads to more anxiety, which in turn leads to worse performance etc etc.

Go to your doc and get some Viagra or something. It's not the end of the world and it'll help to get you back on the horse. Probably half a pill and a five hour stress free fuck session will be enough to shake off the ghost of boner past.

Post: #15

Thank you all for your contributions to eradicate my suffering. I have an update for you.

I was having a super shitty day, and I mean super, something awful had happened to me. Told her what was up. She said she'd make chocolate banana cake. "Chocolate cake makes you feel better and so does Chloe" her text read. She told me she had a date lined up at 11 but to come over before. (shes as much of a player that I am, but Im molding her to my liking. Thoroughly enjoy the challenge). I get there, the cake is scrumptious and succulent. She goes on about her date (to raise her value obviously, even though theres no need at this point)... fast forward, she cancels on her date 20 minutes before ETA to her house we end up smashing. Round one I perform adequately but nothing spectacular. Round two, im balls deep into this girl and the fucking delivery guy rings the doorbell. She puts on her underwear an opens the door with her tits bare. Shouldve seen the guys face. We eat, and I smash again, make her come twice. My dick still would kind of go limp from the lack of energy but I would just keep hammering and it would go full mast on and off, think of a sin or cosine function, it would just fluctuate from flacid to industrial diamond. Thing was the condom had broke and I was fucking her bare, the pussy was on point. Thank god I didnt nut inside her, I ran out of energy after her second time cumming.

I'd like to make a few observations as to why performace improved but wasnt brilliant. I had gone to the gym an hour before seeing her and did a two hour hardcore workout so I didnt have lots of energy. I followed your advice and was abstinent (no sex or wanking) for two days before seeing her, which was extremely difficult cause I cant go to bed with sperm in my sack. Also +1 for coconut oil, you should all give it a try in bed as lube. Will update soon. Hope my performance improves with her overtime.

Post: #16

^edit: just saw the above. Congrats, you should be able to call into a rhythm once you're more comfortable with her.

Leo: suggesting an 18 yo in good shape to get a Viagra script to fall back on? That seems excessive.

Take care of everything else first. Sleep, zinc, workout, relax (sleep again). Quit porn and abstain from masturbation for a couple of days.

When you do see this snowflake, fuck her how you want to fuck her. Not how you think she wants you to fuck her. Odds are she'll be more into you having your way with her anyway. (that doesn't mean cum in 30 seconds, just choose rough* / intense* over long and drawn out).

If all else fails...then find a single Cialis, take a quarter before sex.

*something something consent is important.

Post: #17

(08-27-2016 01:01 PM)polar Wrote:  ^edit: just saw the above. Congrats, you should be able to call into a rhythm once you're more comfortable with her.

Leo: suggesting an 18 yo in good shape to get a Viagra script to fall back on? That seems excessive.

Take care of everything else first. Sleep, zinc, workout, relax (sleep again). Quit porn and abstain from masturbation for a couple of days.

When you do see this snowflake, fuck her how you want to fuck her. Not how you think she wants you to fuck her. Odds are she'll be more into you having your way with her anyway. (that doesn't mean cum in 30 seconds, just choose rough* / intense* over long and drawn out).

If all else fails...then find a single Cialis, take a quarter before sex.

*something something consent is important.

Will try to follow through with abstinance from masturbating, wont be easy though. I noticed you recommended zinc, what particular benefits are associated from this? And I completely agree on fucking her how I want to, I do that always 100%. You sure on the quarter cialis thing?

Post: #18

If you masturbate, just do it less often, for less time, with minimal external stimulus (like porn) as I mentioned above. Just use your fantasy.

Zinc: raises your testosterone, and gives you bigger loads. In your case maybe limit it to just the night before you see her. Depending on you and the type / brand you get, it may make your stomach queasy if you take it on an empty stomach.

Cialis:
1. You're young and your plumbing works fine - you want to take the bare minimum you need if you take it at all. Otherwise, you might get into the "if you've had a boner for four hours, contact a doctor immediately" territory
2. Side effects like stuffy sinuses, maybe headaches
3. You don't need a psychological addiction or to rely on it as a crutch
4. If girls get used to your performance on it, they'll expect it every time - save it as a special thing [/i]
5, or 4b. If you're exhausted, stressed, underslept, etc. it won't help much anyway

Get everything else dialed in first.

If you experiment with substances (at your own risk), take the bare minimum and see if it works for you - doubly so if you're not the intended audience.

Post: #19

OP, as it seems to be a psychological thing, and you said she's wild in bed :
Are you the dominant one, while nailing her?

By that I mean :
- are you the one choosing / switching positions?
- do you grab her neck / pull her hair / ... ?
- do you apply (gentle) force on her, to pin her down and show her who's in charge?

In a general way, do you show dominance or are dominated by her in bed?
My personnal experience is that dominant girls in bed don't excite me, I have to tame them, show them who's boss to really enjoy the experience.

Post: #20

(08-27-2016 08:30 PM)Latan Wrote:  OP, as it seems to be a psychological thing, and you said she's wild in bed :
Are you the dominant one, while nailing her?

By that I mean :
- are you the one choosing / switching positions?
- do you grab her neck / pull her hair / ... ?
- do you apply (gentle) force on her, to pin her down and show her who's in charge?

In a general way, do you show dominance or are dominated by her in bed?
My personnal experience is that dominant girls in bed don't excite me, I have to tame them, show them who's boss to really enjoy the experience.

Definitely the dominant one while nailing her, I always choose the positions and manhandle her to change into a new one. Always pull her hair hard I grab her neck but she gets freaked out (some past experience BS) but I still do it and she grabs my hands I bang her. Yesterday I tried a new position where she extends one leg and has the top leg bent, and she lies kind of at a 45 degree angle from the bed. Gets some real nice penetration cause her bubble butt ass cheeks dont get in the way, I can get my full dick in her and she screamed your poking my brain . I think my performance issues are a mixture of physical exhaustion from fucking, masturbating and working out, plus some performance anxiety cause she knows im a player and expects to me be a stud, which is not always possible

Post: #21

How's the smell?

Post: #22

(08-28-2016 07:41 AM)NomadofEU Wrote:  How's the smell?

practically non-existant, definitely not smelly

Post: #23

1. Wait a week. Do nothing with your dick sexually.
2. Give it another shot with her.

I am wondering also if she is going into a position you dont like but dont realize it.

Post: #24

(08-28-2016 11:41 AM)ivansirko Wrote:  1. Wait a week. Do nothing with your dick sexually.
2. Give it another shot with her.

I am wondering also if she is going into a position you dont like but dont realize it.

The positions I like and are pretty standard. Doing nothing with my dick for a week is nearly impossible. I dont drink, I dont smoke, i dont take recreational drugs, what else do I have to fall back on? My friends call me "gallito" or cock (animal) in spanish cause I need to constantly have my balls drained

Post: #25

Looks like Performance Anxiety. Like most guys said, give yourself a few days break, and meet her in good conditions when you are not tired / worried about something.