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RE: Dealing with depression after returning home from vacation
I'm back from vacation - two weeks in Costa Rica. Back to the grind - back to the coal mines of waking up early and going to work. Dealing with American fatties - I look around at all the zombies and wonder if I'm living in the Matrix, and I'm one of the few that have managed to unplug. Everyone that I talk to is plugged into the Matrix, oblivious to our masters of puppets.

Actually I was looking forward to getting back while abroad, in a way. I was out of my daily routine of waking up early, working out, and eating healthy food (I plan my meals on Sundays and eat the same thing every weekday - lots of fruits, wild sockeye salmon, and vegetables and nuts). I need a routine and structure - something to do during most of the day - to keep the level of fitness and health that I prefer. If I get out of my routine, I tend to start getting lazy and eat pizza, bad food, etc.

More and more I'm looking at life in America as an opportunity to make a bunch of money so that I can just get out of it. It's hard to find much in common with the zombies around me, who just buy things and stuff their faces. More and more I'm reminded of an interview that Nadine Gordimer (RIP) did in 2007. Her words ring truer each day - it seems that materialism has conquered all:
http://www.digitalnpq.org/articles/globa...e_gordimer
08-28-2016 09:55 AM
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RE: Dealing with depression after returning home from vacation
It's good to focus on other things. Take a break from dating--don't feel like you have to get home and pick up where you left off somewhere.

Focus on other things, like making money, reading good books, exercising (sports and weight training), catching up with friends, other hobbies you have.

Then look forward to your next adventure.
08-28-2016 09:56 AM
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RE: Dealing with depression after returning home from vacation
(08-28-2016 09:55 AM)Yeti Wrote:  More and more I'm looking at life in America as an opportunity to make a bunch of money so that I can just get out of it.

How much you gonna make? Give us a number bro
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RE: Dealing with depression after returning home from vacation
Sad to say, Miami airport has hotter than average girls due to the Latin character, several of whom were not shy with eye contact. So even our best airport staff is riddled with carbohydrate addicts, helping themselves to a Halloween make-up kit, year-round, to redundantly add ugliness.
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08-28-2016 01:09 PM
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RE: Dealing with depression after returning home from vacation
(08-28-2016 10:55 AM)Phoenix Wrote:  
(08-28-2016 09:55 AM)Yeti Wrote:  More and more I'm looking at life in America as an opportunity to make a bunch of money so that I can just get out of it.

How much you gonna make? Give us a number bro

I guess that my yearly expenses will be $20,000 as a minimum, to have a nice apartment by the beach somewhere in Latin America, money to learn surfing/buy a couple good boards, health insurance, plenty of money to afford a yoga/gym/BJJ membership, good food that I cook at home, going out money, drinks every day without worrying about the cost, enough opportunity to travel within whichever country I'm in plus some international travel from time to time... A minimalist but good life.
Going by the 4% withdrawal rule, that means that I should have $500,000 saved up to be able to survive long-term.
4% withdrawal rule
08-28-2016 03:40 PM
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RE: Dealing with depression after returning home from vacation
(08-13-2016 02:24 PM)Schlep Wrote:  Also, one more thing I would like to share with you guys. I do not go on dates anymore with American woman. Haven't been on a date with one in over two years. At this point in my life I'd rather sit in traffic for two hours then go on a date with an American women. It's not that I can't get a date. Like I mentioned before. I have nothing left in me anymore for that nonsense.

You do realize there's still a chunk of American girls that share the same personality traits as SEA/EE? I've lived in Cebu 3 weeks as well and in USA if you dig around and just enjoy yourself out here there's a solid 10% of American girls that are the same way (yes, ethnically white). Feminine, cheery, and obedient. I think you are overgeneralizing / applying redpill across too large of a population. I get that it's hard and discouraging but have you really been on that many dates here in the past year to warrant this feeling

No need to freak out and not every date with an American girl is some treacherous nightmare.

Quote:More and more I'm looking at life in America as an opportunity to make a bunch of money so that I can just get out of it.

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RE: Dealing with depression after returning home from vacation
Who said I was freaking out? Yeah, I get what your saying Cyclone. You have your opinion and I have mine. I live in a small town on the east coast. I can spend four hours here at the mall and what I see is absolutely depressing.
08-29-2016 12:39 AM
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RE: Dealing with depression after returning home from vacation
(08-29-2016 12:39 AM)Schlep Wrote:  Who said I was freaking out? Yeah, I get what your saying Cyclone. You have your opinion and I have mine. I live in a small town on the east coast. I can spend four hours here at the mall and what I see is absolutely depressing

Well if youre in a small town then yea that's a different story. I thought you were in Philadelphia. I just see too many guys jumping the gun out here when they say they wouldnt date a single American girl thinking that they're all masculine or something
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RE: Dealing with depression after returning home from vacation
The 4% w/d rule will not work well with negative/super low interest
rates and a stock market bubble.

That rule depends on higher interest rates and a more normal stock
market valuation to work.

Example - Bonds and fixed income might LOSE money going forward.
Rates can only goto zero on the lower end.....on the higher end they
can goto 10% or more.

How could someone take out 4% when 60% of their portfolio is not
making anything or losing?

We live in a very different environment.....and traditional models like
this will not work. They are a guide. Nothing else.









(08-28-2016 03:40 PM)Yeti Wrote:  
(08-28-2016 10:55 AM)Phoenix Wrote:  
(08-28-2016 09:55 AM)Yeti Wrote:  More and more I'm looking at life in America as an opportunity to make a bunch of money so that I can just get out of it.

How much you gonna make? Give us a number bro

I guess that my yearly expenses will be $20,000 as a minimum, to have a nice apartment by the beach somewhere in Latin America, money to learn surfing/buy a couple good boards, health insurance, plenty of money to afford a yoga/gym/BJJ membership, good food that I cook at home, going out money, drinks every day without worrying about the cost, enough opportunity to travel within whichever country I'm in plus some international travel from time to time... A minimalist but good life.
Going by the 4% withdrawal rule, that means that I should have $500,000 saved up to be able to survive long-term.
4% withdrawal rule
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RE: Dealing with depression after returning home from vacation
Came back from 3 months in Poland on Sunday. This week was manageable but my weekend depression is becoming severe.

I am using Tinder and it's a horrible experience, Poland and Ukraine it was easy to find attractive girls and get things going.

Went to the gym yesterday for the first time back. Poland has lots of hotties wearing tight fitting clothing. Sometimes Polish women wear misfitted clothes while working out. I don't know if this is an intentional sexy thing or it's just that they can't afford good quality workout clothes. But the misfitted clothing meant seeing lots of visible bras and panty lines. They sweat hard and there were girls sweating in their butt cheeks while doing the tradmill while wearing tight almost see-through clothing.
Toronto is just overweight fat girls and ugly girls wearing sweatpants.

I miss Fridays where I could go out and talk to receptive, attractive women, wanting to get to know me. Maybe it's because I was the foreign "Bogaty" (rich) tourist. 2 dollar beers and no tip required. Good music. Except for Disco Polo shit. Open all night. No last call.

Now I am in Toronto

I will need to drink tongiht.
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RE: Dealing with depression after returning home from vacation
If it helps, it's not you, it's them. It really is. You are living in a repressive abnormal society, but your brain refuses to fully realize it because you see wealth around you and you've been trained to equate only wealth with civilization. Don't mistake it, the West truly is a soulless rotting corpse of crazy, it really is, even on this forum many will disagree with this simple statement, but here's the truth, any society which prohibits and manipulates healthy relations between the sexes or limits your ability to speak obvious truths is evil. There's a Berlin wall around your mind and soul.
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I can't go back to Poland for a while...what do I do?
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RE: Dealing with depression after returning home from vacation
^ I feel your pain brother. After returning home from my last trip to Asia everytime I was flipping through the channels and spotted an asian chick I secretly wanted to shed a tear. Kept looking at all the awesome memories on my phone.

I currently live in a small town. Swiping on Tinder is a joke.

Glad I'll be in Ukraine next week to satisfy my thirst.

Start planning on your next trip bro. Thats all you can do.
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RE: Dealing with depression after returning home from vacation
I relate with a lot of what guys in here are saying about things being better abroad.

At the same time, pining for a far away paradise isn't going to make the day to day of living in a dredgeland any better. We need real solutions here for duking it out in the motherland without going insane.

Venting on forums like this is a way of coming to grips with reality and realizing that you're not crazy. However the danger is that it can lead to a circle jerk of misery, where everyone agrees that shit is bad and resigns themselves to how miserable things are.

Yeah, it would be easier to just pack up and go to poosy paradise. But we're here right now. So what are we going to do about it? How can we accept the reality of this situation and make the best of what we've got?
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RE: Dealing with depression after returning home from vacation
I found a way to make money online for this very reason. Been living in the Philippines for a year... and my work is really laid back. A dream job. But there are drawbacks. I really miss good Internet, good food, good friends... and the heat and traffic are unbearable...
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RE: Dealing with depression after returning home from vacation
(09-12-2016 05:56 PM)erikak Wrote:  I found a way to make money online for this very reason.
I keep wanting one of those online jobs. Apparently everyone else is doing it but me. I get all these emails saying that Brenda's aunt makes $400 a day online just working for 10 minutes. But then I click on the link and my computer pops up huge black horsecocks fucking Canadian midgets and then my computer freezes.

So, I never get to learn how Brenda's aunt is making that sort of money online. Can someone please share the secret?
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The only way I know to shake off the post-voyage blues is to plan the next trip.

I like being in the US for a lot of reasons. Strong political ideals, access to lucrative jobs, proximity to international airports that can take you to every corner of the world, clean housing and food, and the opportunity to completely shift culture and lifestyle by going from one city to another.

Plus, sometimes it's nice to buy things and stuff your face.
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RE: Dealing with depression after returning home from vacation
In Ukraine at the moment and dreading to go back to Toronto. This feeling is just too close.
What works for me when I get back to Toronto is working and making bank but also keeping that social vibe alive and going out. It's easy to hit the work mode and forget that you are human and then you come back to "ground zero again" pining for that vacation.
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