Post: #1

So, here in Bogotá I run into this problem alot:

I'm out with friends, and we bump into some people they know but I don't. I'm introduced and start chatting to a chick who is very friendly and social, is easy to have good convo with, smiling laughing etc.

But she's just like that with everyone. Not in an attention whore kinda way, just a very comfortable friendliness, dancing with everyone, semi flirty with everyone etc.

In club situations, what I've done is start dancing with lots of different girls to call attention, etc.

Just chatting I've taken the conversation sexual quickly, making clear what I'm interested in, but without enough attraction built up... pailas

Post: #2

I'm confused as to what the problem is?

These girls are much easier to work with because they don't object to much. If the conversation comes easy, just keep building attraction, keep touching and go for the one night stand.

Post: #3

No the problem is that they accept all that shit and it just goes through them like water. Like they'll dance and touch and be flirty, then just go do that with the next guy etc. it's just no thing to them, some innocent perreo doesn't really mean anything, and they're like cats just wandering around betweene other friendly guys who just wanna grind up on them as well.

The problem is standing out, holding their attention, cause lord knows there's enough to distract them

Post: #4

you need to make more of an impression probs

Post: #5

Here in Bogotá it's real easy to get a # and you think: "Oh, this girl is mine" but (wrong answer beep) ... No. They're real friendly with everyone, they usually have lots of male friends to hang out with, and in lots of the cases, the don't even fuck their Boyfriends.

I think the only way to separate the future flakes from the real ladies, is going for the kiss early... or in Daygame, turning the conversation sexual using innuendo to test out the real grounds. But never its a 100%

Post: #6

I agree with Leonidas, best approach is to go for the kiss early. That way you won't waste any time. Sounds like they're just a friendlier version of your standard attention whore.

I've known a couple of Bogotá girls who are more or less like what you describe. They might not appear like the abrasive American attention whore, but they string guys along and get off on the attention. Why else would they act like that?

Post: #7

Agreed that sexual agressiveness is especially important with this type of girl. Very open, chatty, flirty girls tend to make people around them comfortable so a lot of the people they interact with have fun, positive conversations with them. The only thing that's going to separate you from the betas is having the balls to make a move. The wider a girl's comfort zone is, the more you have to push the envelope in order to turn things sexual.

Post: #8

Yep, what these guys said! Go be physical and sexual as soon as possible and def go for the kiss soon as possible. They're actually easier to work with because of this .

A true attention whore gets cold when you try to become physical with her. But girls like these like it even more!

Post: #9

Can't speak to the bogotans specifically. In addition to going for the kiss, you can also try isolating her away from her friends. Stateside, even the biggest attention whore will rarely agree to isolation far from her friends if she isn't into you.

Post: #10

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Post: #11

I think going physical too fast is just going to validate her more and you risk blowing it too soon.

An alternate strategy. Make her work for your smiles and laughs. When you approach or first meet her, smile. But after that, don't laugh at all of her jokes, smile constantly, and be happy just to be in the presence of a bubbly female. That's what 99.9 percent of guys do. When most guys laugh, don't react, unless it really really cracks you up. Don't let her emotional state affect yours. Be the rock and lead the conversation. She'll be drawn to you and not know why. Sort of like "why is this guy not giving me validation" in her subconscious.

If a girl is really happy and energetic and friendly, most guys fall into false sense of security because her emotional level is so pumped. Then they go home with their dicks in their hands wondering what went wrong. What attracts these females is having her emotional wavelength follow yours. So bring her down a bit, but still have fun and engaging conversation. Dance with her to pump it back up, then when you get off the dance floor, bring it back to normal chill convo. She'll be putty in your hands.