Post: #1

Long story short: I've been banging a couple girls on and off from online game, and I'm getting soft on approaches.

Last night I was out at a night venue that ranked REALLY good on the "approachable girl" metric. Around here, that doesn't happen very often.

I opened a solid "7" blonde at the bar and she was totally receptive. But, after a few minutes I let the conversation die, and she walked away. After a year I'm dressing better, my game is better, and I'm getting more "IOIs" on average. But I didn't press that interaction forward. I honestly didn't run many approaches at all last night, and the ones I did were totally halfhearted. I could have at the very least got a number from that girl. What was I thinking?

The problem is I know what I was thinking: I was fucking scared.

Maybe it's been one too many approaches that I've been blown out on that's made me timid. But I feel like even though in some ways my game is objectively better when I have a girl one on one, I feel like in social situations my approach anxiety and ability to push forward has actually gotten worse.

Frankly, I've become comfortable with easy-mode "okay" pussy, from girls who I'm pretty sure are going to sign on the line ahead of time, simply because I'm two points higher than them on whatever "scale" were talking about. Easy-mode sluts who are probably fucking around with other dudes anyway.

I don't like this. I'm not sure there's any specific advice that makes sense other than "suck it up and push", but I'm open to ideas. One thing I'm considering - break it off or cut way back with the easy mode girls, and go "no porn." Cut way back on online game (though because of my poor location I might find it hard to stop completely.) Thirst can be a terrible thing, but it can also be a powerful motivator.

Post: #2

I think that you're a bit too hard on yourself on this. At the end of the Day, you're slaying pussy, so you must be doing something right When it comes to cold approaching, even though you know how, you have to be in the zone to do it correctly! It ain't like riding a bike at all!

The ironic thing about approaching is that you'll most likely do good when you absolutely have too aka when you have no pussy on the side. Player's paradox my friend! Take it with a grain of salt. Approach here and there to stay good, but understand that when you're already Banging; approaching is hard as hell with verg low ROI.

Post: #3

It's funny you bring up this topic, because I was just thinking of it last night. For the past few months I was fairly complacent, and sure, I was sleeping with girls, but it became a bit boring, and my approaches were half-assed. I knew that if my approach didn't go well, I could call girl x or girl y for a sure thing.

To make a long story short, I try to refresh my rotation of women every couple of months. It's just a personal preference, but unless I plan to make one of the girls an LTR, I like changing things up every now and again. I try not to stay complacent for too long. The benefit that I receive from having sex with the same girl after three months starts to diminish, so unless she's a keeper - I shake things up.

Post: #4

I went out today to the coffee shop at the local mall (not my regular one) and pressed myself to simply run five daygame approaches. Got blown out four times, but to my surprise, the last one on a 20 something girl who had been buried in her phone, who I had zero confidence would lead anywhere, went really well. I got in a good ramble, she started asking personal qurations about me (oh yeah is that your car? Nice...So did you grow up around here?) and though I had trouble flowing into the number close, she told me the name of the cafe nearby where she works on the weekends, and said it would be great if I stopped by sometime.

Post: #5

^^ I'm pretty sure you know what you're doing, but the fact that her personal question was: is that you car?, + the fact that she told you to hit her up at her workplace = have your guard up in my book.

Post: #6

(05-14-2016 08:22 PM)Captain Gh Wrote:  ^^ I'm pretty sure you know what you're doing, but the fact that her personal question was: is that you car?, + the fact that she told you to hit her up at her workplace = have your guard up in my book.

It does indeed sound fishy. He should have pushed for the SDL.

Post: #7

How much night game have you done?

Have you taken night or day game seriously for awhile, or has online game taken all your efforts?

Post: #8

I always have my guard up. And I'm not actually going to hit this girl up as I know it would be a waste of time. It was simply a first start to get me moving again.

I nexted the main girl I've been seeing for the past three months today. It was obvious she was beginning to take me for granted, she was getting pushy and demanding, and frankly I was overtexting her. She straight up refused sex the last time I met up with her. I'm fairly certain she was out with another guy tonight, but she also believed she had me on lock for a date tomorrow.

Too bad I won't be able to see the look on her face when she sees my "let's be friends" text in the morning.

It's time for a change.

Post: #9

On one of my first cold approaches I got bored talking to the girl. She wasn't particularly boring or unattractive, I was just bored with having to talk to her for some reason. It felt like work. I had options for easy pussy as well. But since then, I feel my approaches have evolved. I try to make it interesting, and try to be interested in the girl, but never get too interested. Coasting somewhere in the middle seems to the best place to be. After doing a solid approach today I realize how important my attraction to the girl is. If I'm only mildly attracted I tend to drop out and not push the interaction. But if I'm really attracted, I tend to do much better.

Post: #10

I haven't got a bang from daygame yet (only a few online), but I'm also regressing on the approach front. But, I'm missing opportunities in everyday life. For example, when out shopping there were several opportunities to approach. But I hamstered it away: too tired, too busy, I'll do it next time, etc. Of course there are times when we feel 'off', and that maybe the time to plough ahead.

As long a you have a few plates, then as ThundercockVeritas mentioned, just coast along until you get your mojo back.