Post: #1

So, I was getting head for the first time not so long ago with a girl I'm good friends with,
She's a friend so I dont find her physically attractive to date, but her body naked of course turns me on.

The first time she was giving me head, I didnt seem to feel anything and she was sucking it so slow that it didn't even arouse me. The maid knocked on the door so we had to stop asap.

When she asked me later how was it? I told her it felt really good but I was worried about the maid coming straight in her room so thats why i didnt cum.
~This is not actually true as state above, It didnt feel great but i didnt tell her that..


Fastforward a few weeks later, She's eager to blow me again so we're in her bathroom, shes going at it and while the first 5 seconds feel good, it then becomes slow and monotonous and does not arouse me..
I told her to go quicker and she tried to, but when I really try to get her to go fast so it actually feels good, I then can start to feel her braces cut into my helmet..
After that i lost all arousal pretty much, still had a hard on, but would rather just walk away than have someone cut into my helmet! it was decently painful!

Anyone else can relate to this? or give me advice?
Is it strange that I can't seem to ejaculat when getting head for atleast 5 minutes? Also that the arousal doesnt usually last more than 10 seconds but after that becomes a monotomous thing..
It seems the longer she spends blowing me, the less horny i become..?

Or do girls with braces just give really bad blowjobs??

I think of it like when i masturbate, I go fast and the more intense you tug, the closer you are to ejaculating..

Feeling a bit confused and not sure whether im doubting my sex drive or something which is worrying since im only 19.

Post: #2

It's not uncommon. Pounding pussy is just more sexually exciting than getting it sucked, even with an expert chick.

Post: #3

Sometimes it takes time to get a girl to blow you that way YOU like.
You need to teach and train her.

If she is hurting you then she needs to learn how to suck without scratching you with her teeth and/or braces.
Generally, she should start slow and soft, but as you get more and more excited she should be going deeper and faster. Hold her head with both hands and guide her movements until she gets it right. Show her on her finger how to suck something without using her teeth. Meaning suck her finger the way you want your dick sucked, so she gets it.

Also, she should be doing some variations. Sucking it, then taking it out, licking the outside of the shaft, then back in her mouth, moving her head in slow circles and so on. If she's just making the exact same movements at the same speed it will never be as good. Once she has learned to do it exactly the way you like you will be blowing your load pretty fast in her pretty mouth unless you have cum already that day.

Make sure she does this with you standing (or leaning against a wall) and her on her knees looking up at you. That is the correct dominant/submissive position.

Another thing...if you train her real well, you will become more fond of her cause YOU are the one that taught her to give the perfect blowjob.

Post: #4

(02-11-2016 06:00 AM)Mercenary Wrote:  Sometimes it takes time to get a girl to blow you that way YOU like.
You need to teach and train her.

If she is hurting you then she needs to learn how to suck without scratching you with her teeth and/or braces.
Generally, she should start slow and soft, but as you get more and more excited she should be going deeper and faster. Hold her head with both hands and guide her movements until she gets it right. Show her on her finger how to suck something without using her teeth. Meaning suck her finger the way you want your dick sucked, so she gets it.

Also, she should be doing some variations. Sucking, then taking it out, licking, then back in, moving her head in slow circles and so on. If she's just making the exact same movements at the same speed it will never be as good. Once she has learned to do it exactly the way you like you will be blowing your load pretty fast in her pretty mouth unless you have cum already that day.

Make sure she does this with you standing (or leaning against a wall) and her on her knees looking up at you. That is the correct dominant/submissive position.

Another thing...if you train her real well, you will become more fond of her cause YOU are the one that taught her to give the perfect blowjob.

Agreed.

One more important thing - don't be afraid to "hurt her feelings".
You don't have to be blunt, but tell her that she was not doing well, and here is what she should do in order to do it like you want her to.

Post: #5

Moaning loudly or breathing heavy on purpose in a clear way, and occasionally saying "that's good" or "good girl" when she does something you really enjoy will also help her to understand when she is getting it right.

Post: #6

(02-11-2016 06:00 AM)Mercenary Wrote:  Sometimes it takes time to get a girl to blow you that way YOU like.
You need to teach and train her.

If she is hurting you then she needs to learn how to suck without scratching you with her teeth and/or braces.
Generally, she should start slow and soft, but as you get more and more excited she should be going deeper and faster. Hold her head with both hands and guide her movements until she gets it right. Show her on her finger how to suck something without using her teeth. Meaning suck her finger the way you want your dick sucked, so she gets it.

Also, she should be doing some variations. Sucking it, then taking it out, licking the outside of the shaft, then back in her mouth, moving her head in slow circles and so on. If she's just making the exact same movements at the same speed it will never be as good. Once she has learned to do it exactly the way you like you will be blowing your load pretty fast in her pretty mouth unless you have cum already that day.

Make sure she does this with you standing (or leaning against a wall) and her on her knees looking up at you. That is the correct dominant/submissive position.

Another thing...if you train her real well, you will become more fond of her cause YOU are the one that taught her to give the perfect blowjob.

She was doing those variations, like taking it out her mouth, licking around the shaft, licking up and down the back of the penis and such.
But STILL it didnt feel particulary pleasurable..
Or even after like 2 minutes of her doing that there was no pleasure at all. It just felt awkward for me because this girl is sucking my dick but i feel no pleasure from it. Its interesting to look at haha, but not arousing me. I'm hoping the reason i completely lost arousal was because of her braces hurting my helmet.. In the same way if you touch an electric fence, it hurts so your instinct is to not do it again.

Also because she has braces. Is it even possible for her to suck it smoothly without my dick touching a band or something?

I just cant seem to ejaculate without an intensity.. I dont know if that should be something to be worried about. But it certainly is worrying me..
In the end to ejaculate I just took it out her mouth slightly, keeping the tip in as she licked it and used my hand to pump my dick so my load was almost ready to release, I then deep-throated her fast and quickly and blew my load into her mouth.

Post: #7

(02-11-2016 05:13 AM)Ruivinho Wrote:  So, I was getting head for the first time not so long ago with a girl I'm good friends with,
She's a friend so I dont find her physically attractive to date

Look at what you wrote there. Think about it.
Your issue might be purely mental.

It seems to me that your dick is refusing to cooperate because you don't find her attractive enough or cant objectify her properly like you would a really hot girl.
Your dick always knows better than you if this is a girl worth blasting into.

Find a girl that turns you on more and probably won't have this problem.

Post: #8

This isn't really a problem. I have the same "inability" and it never bothered me or a girl. Your dick may just not be as sensitive as other guys'.
One thing you can try is making sure you're not fapping with the death grip.

Post: #9

So guys simply don't enjoy getting head.

Have you tried fucking her?

Post: #10

(02-11-2016 07:36 AM)Suits Wrote:  So guys simply don't enjoy getting head.

Have you tried fucking her?

I wanted to but she's catholic and wants to stay a virgin. She's 17.

Post: #11

(02-11-2016 07:36 AM)Rutting Elephant Wrote:  This isn't really a problem. I have the same "inability" and it never bothered me or a girl. Your dick may just not be as sensitive as other guys'.
One thing you can try is making sure you're not fapping with the death grip.

I never knew this was a thing.. This could actually be my problem. I'm actually pretty sure it is.
When I masturbate alone, I tug like rapid speed fast because it feels more pleasurable.. I guess this is probably the root of the problem. How the fuck I can reverse this I do not know though and how long it will take..

Post: #12

(02-11-2016 07:36 AM)Rutting Elephant Wrote:  This isn't really a problem. I have the same "inability" and it never bothered me or a girl. Your dick may just not be as sensitive as other guys'.
One thing you can try is making sure you're not fapping with the death grip.

Cosign on Rutting Elephant's post as I have had similar issues.

But the couple time I noticed when it was super pleasurable was when the girl was super into it. Like "I was born for this/I need your dick in my mouth!" Into it. Those were the only times I could nut from a beej.

Post: #13

Similar issue here. I can only think of one girl who has finished me off with a blowjob (and she's good at it).

Sometimes girls will get self-conscious or feel bad when they can't get me to finish. I just tell them its really hard to make me cum, so dont feel too bad. A lot of times they take it as a challenge and go down for more

Post: #14

If you ask some girls, like my ex, they can basically cum just through kegels. This is because orgasms occur through powerful muscle contractions. While guys won't cum alone through kegels, I recommend you do them while getting head. Try and contract other muscles in your body as well.

As for the mental aspect, throw in some fantasizing about another girl or fetish (not ideal, but it works) and you should be good to go.

Edit: If you two are kinky, she can try sticking her pinky finger somewhere... that may help haha.

Post: #15

Try fucking her mouth (get her to lay down on her side so you can pump away), instead of her sucking your dick.

Trust me, this will work.

Post: #16

It's natural for it to take a bit more time, but no, you shouldn't be unable to cum. That's usually the symptom of desensitization of your dick from too much porn and masturbation. At that's how it's been in my experience.

Post: #17

For the longest time I couldn't get a nut from a girl giving me head.

It was mostly mental but a bit physical. I used let girls just get my dick wet and get me hard, then I'd start banging. I hate waiting forever for a girl to slob on my dick and try to get me off.

I stopped jacking off , stopped watching porn, and focused on banging girls.

You become more sensitive and aroused when you stop doing that.


If a girl is doing a shit job, like Merc said, you've gotta guide her, give her tips, command her what to do.

Not so slow, slobber, lick here, use that tongue, flick it, stroke it, etc.

Women want to turn you on, they'll listen.

The first time a girl made me nut from head was about 3 years ago, blew my mind. I literally couldn't have sex afterwards.

Getting off from a girl sucking my dick is one of the best things ever, it's also a different nut than fucking pussy.

I should also note, some dudes just don't dig getting head as much as they fuck pussy.

Thing is, this chick is 17 and wants to stay a virgin. She has braces (the first girl that gave me head had braces). I'm betting she's using more jaw/teeth than tongue/throat.

Post: #18

(02-11-2016 12:23 PM)kaotic Wrote:  The first time a girl made me nut from head was about 3 years ago, blew my mind. I literally couldn't have sex afterwards.

Getting off from a girl sucking my dick is one of the best things ever, it's also a different nut than fucking pussy.

Post: #19

(02-11-2016 07:44 AM)Ruivinho Wrote:  

(02-11-2016 07:36 AM)Rutting Elephant Wrote:  This isn't really a problem. I have the same "inability" and it never bothered me or a girl. Your dick may just not be as sensitive as other guys'.
One thing you can try is making sure you're not fapping with the death grip.

I never knew this was a thing.. This could actually be my problem. I'm actually pretty sure it is.
When I masturbate alone, I tug like rapid speed fast because it feels more pleasurable.. I guess this is probably the root of the problem. How the fuck I can reverse this I do not know though and how long it will take..

How to cure death grip

http://www.curedeathgrip.com/

Try this plan:

http://www.curedeathgrip.com/plan-a.html

Post: #20

When you have your first proper session with a woman that knows what she is doing, you won't have a problem.....

A 17 yo virgin has her Learners plates on.

Post: #21

I've been blown hundreds of times and have never been able to bust.

In all honesty, I think it's because my jackoff technique is just too good to find head arousing

Post: #22

(02-11-2016 05:13 AM)Ruivinho Wrote:  So, I was getting head for the first time not so long ago with a girl I'm good friends with,
She's a friend so I dont find her physically attractive to date, but her body naked of course turns me on.

The first time she was giving me head, I didnt seem to feel anything and she was sucking it so slow that it didn't even arouse me. The maid knocked on the door so we had to stop asap.

When she asked me later how was it? I told her it felt really good but I was worried about the maid coming straight in her room so thats why i didnt cum.
~This is not actually true as state above, It didnt feel great but i didnt tell her that..


Fastforward a few weeks later, She's eager to blow me again so we're in her bathroom, shes going at it and while the first 5 seconds feel good, it then becomes slow and monotonous and does not arouse me..
I told her to go quicker and she tried to, but when I really try to get her to go fast so it actually feels good, I then can start to feel her braces cut into my helmet..
After that i lost all arousal pretty much, still had a hard on, but would rather just walk away than have someone cut into my helmet! it was decently painful!

Anyone else can relate to this? or give me advice?
Is it strange that I can't seem to ejaculat when getting head for atleast 5 minutes? Also that the arousal doesnt usually last more than 10 seconds but after that becomes a monotomous thing..
It seems the longer she spends blowing me, the less horny i become..?

Or do girls with braces just give really bad blowjobs??

I think of it like when i masturbate, I go fast and the more intense you tug, the closer you are to ejaculating..

Feeling a bit confused and not sure whether im doubting my sex drive or something which is worrying since im only 19.

Find yourself a Dominican or Brazillian girl ( preferably Mulatto ). Damn....

After a few minutes, you'll have to pull their heads away before you blow so you can actually bang em.

Post: #23

(02-11-2016 05:00 PM)Sonoma Wrote:  I've been blown hundreds of times and have never been able to bust.

In all honesty, I think it's because my jackoff technique is just too good to find head arousing

I used to think like that until I met a few girls who actually knew how to give head. You just haven't met one yet.

Post: #24

I can probably count the amount of times I've busted from head on one hand. It's just part of transitioning to the bang to me. Never been particularly into getting head itself. I'm not gonna lie, I've had the paranoid thought while getting head that "This bitch could literally chomp down and I'd be disfigured for life!"


I guess I'm just a "worse case scenario" thinker.

Post: #25

(02-11-2016 11:23 PM)cascadecombo Wrote:  

(02-11-2016 05:00 PM)Sonoma Wrote:  I've been blown hundreds of times and have never been able to bust.

In all honesty, I think it's because my jackoff technique is just too good to find head arousing

I used to think like that until I met a few girls who actually knew how to give head. You just haven't met one yet.

Yup, some girls can go on forever, and you have to assist them at the end.

Some girls just know how to do the damn thing and are pros, I'm talking sloppy stick blowjobs man, they know how to lick and stroke right. Make you cum in half or less than that compared to other girls. Those are worth keeping around.

This 19 year old plate I have is absolutely amazing at sucking me dry.

It's all about finding the right girl.