Post: #1

Here is the situation:

Matched with a girl from tinder , we went to a coffee shop, date went well. pretty sure she likes me ( lots of eye contact, she kept pushing her hair over her ear)

Now, I want to bang this chick. But I want to not scare the cat so to speak.

So my options are

1.) take the whole interaction slow, and go to a dance club to drink and dance


2.) invite her over to my house in the morning ( around 10:30am - noon due to nobody being at my house) to play the guitar and watch netflix

I need some pros and cons on both options

Post: #2

(01-21-2016 03:12 AM)Sketness Wrote:  Here is the situation:

Matched with a girl from tinder , we went to a coffee shop, date went well. pretty sure she likes me ( lots of eye contact, she kept pushing her hair over her ear)

Now, I want to bang this chick. But I want to not scare the cat so to speak.

So my options are

1.) take the whole interaction slow, and go to a dance club to drink and dance


2.) invite her over to my house in the morning ( around 10:30am - noon due to nobody being at my house) to play the guitar and watch netflix

I need some pros and cons on both options

How old are you? The girl?

Did you kiss her at the 1st date?

Due to your logistics, my advice would be to get your parents out the house (sounds like you live at home) for the evening/night and invite her over to cook and watch you play guitar.

When she comes over, put on some music you guys can vibe to. Pour her some wine. Touch her. Kiss her. Escalate escalate escalate. Seal the deal.

If you're in the zone, you guys won't even cook.

Worrying about scaring the cat is the wrong mindset. She will expect you to escalate the next time you meet up.

Post: #3

going to the dance club to drink and dance aint slow.

If you dancing on her, thats alot of touching.

Plus alcohol, shes pretty much lubed up for you.

(but i doubt girls for tindr are about that life.)

Post: #4

Option #2 for sure

Post: #5

(01-21-2016 04:08 AM)DarianFrey Wrote:  

(01-21-2016 03:12 AM)Sketness Wrote:  Here is the situation:

Matched with a girl from tinder , we went to a coffee shop, date went well. pretty sure she likes me ( lots of eye contact, she kept pushing her hair over her ear)

Now, I want to bang this chick. But I want to not scare the cat so to speak.

So my options are

1.) take the whole interaction slow, and go to a dance club to drink and dance


2.) invite her over to my house in the morning ( around 10:30am - noon due to nobody being at my house) to play the guitar and watch netflix

I need some pros and cons on both options

How old are you? The girl?

Did you kiss her at the 1st date?

Due to your logistics, my advice would be to get your parents out the house (sounds like you live at home) for the evening/night and invite her over to cook and watch you play guitar.

When she comes over, put on some music you guys can vibe to. Pour her some wine. Touch her. Kiss her. Escalate escalate escalate. Seal the deal.

If you're in the zone, you guys won't even cook.

Worrying about scaring the cat is the wrong mindset. She will expect you to escalate the next time you meet up.

- im 25, she is 23
- we did not kiss the first date
- i live with my mom and the only time she is in the morning on the weekends so thats the only time where i have the house to my self

I was thinking invite her over for pankacks or something?

Post: #6

Your first mistake was setting a coffee date instead of drinks.

My personal preference would lead me to going out for drinks, then maybe a nightclub/dancing. The guitar/netflix sounds a bit boring, and I almost fell asleep reading that.

Cooking for her now is unlikely to happen after a coffee date, but it's worth a try!