Suppose you are getting on the subway and out of the corner of your eye notice an attractive girl standing in the car as you board the train. You take a seat while she stays standing by the door. Eventually as the train gets moving, she sees you and you both make eye contact for several seconds. No smiles - you just stare at each other for a few moments. You only have a few stops to go and you have a very important appointment you are headed to, with no time to lose.
Would you get out of your seat and open, or just say to yourself "screw it, I'm too busy now" and get on with your day?
(12-24-2015 01:53 PM)RexImperator Wrote: Suppose you are getting on the subway and out of the corner of your eye notice an attractive girl standing in the car as you board the train. You take a seat while she stays standing by the door. Eventually as the train gets moving, she sees you and you both make eye contact for several seconds. No smiles - you just stare at each other for a few moments. You only have a few stops to go and you have a very important appointment you are headed to, with no time to lose.
Would you get out of your seat and open, or just say to yourself "screw it, I'm too busy now" and get on with your day?
Depends, if it's an important interview for a job, admissions committee etc then fuck that chick as her potentially rejecting you could have some negative effect on your interview performance.
If it's something not so serious, i'd just go over and open her with (insert something). I opened plenty of chicks on the train when my stop was coming up. I usually tell them what stop i'm getting off on and ask there's so they can get a sense of us being time constricted.
(12-24-2015 01:53 PM)RexImperator Wrote: Would you get out of your seat and open, or just say to yourself "screw it, I'm too busy now" and get on with your day?
For me, these moments are almost like life and death.
I mean, when you reject yourself and give up on something before you even try -- A small part of your psyche dies
But, when you attack the challenge and go for it -- A small part of your psyche awakens
We basically live or die in these small little moments. That's how it feels to me.
Approach her not for her pussy, but for your own life force and energy!
(This post was last modified: 12-27-2015 11:21 AM by Giovonny.)
If I am on the train, it doesn't matter if I am busy or not. When it reaches my stop, i'll have to get off regardless.
I've done a mix in these situations. It also depends on the surroundings. If it's a packed train and everyone is silent, then I won't open. If everyone is talking and there aren't that many around, then yer, I'll do the approach.
My goal is to open at a train station/bus stop where there are quite a few people and everyone is silent.
(This post was last modified: 12-27-2015 05:52 PM by studmuffin52.)
Not directly correlated, but I had a situation like this in college...
3 seats open on the bus. 1 of them was next to a cute chick. We made eye contact and I immediately pick the seat next to hers.
Game wasn't great, but I managed to make small talk for 5 minutes and then grabbed her number.
We texted and she came over the following night. We got drunk and she ended up giving me a handjob, but wouldn't do anything else. Turns out she was a virgin.
Next morning she messages me saying she doesn't want to see me again, I'm a bad person, blah blah blah...
Ended up seeing her on campus about once a month for the next two years. She always avoided eye contact ;(
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The short time frame can work in your favor. Adds pressure and can help create aggression, confidence and swiftness in your approach because that's all you have time for.
Basically just get a quick introduction and then ask for the number before you have to leave for your important meeting. Say you would like to celebrate it with her later that day.
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(12-27-2015 02:41 PM)robreke Wrote: you could try this.
This is an advanced skill. Beginners can try it -- I do think its good practice -- But, the confidence, vibe, body language, balls, and facial expression required to do this is probably beyond most newbies.
Beginners would probably get better results with a simple conversation.
Public Transportation Game is one of my favorite topics -- I feel like countless opportunities are wasted everyday on public transportation. It's such a sad irony that there are so many lonely people looking to meet online yet so few people looking to meet in the course of their daily travels.
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Most mistakes are mistakes of seriousness.
Fun and play are heavily lacking in most approaches.
Its all about the vibe and the delivery. That's literally more important than the words you choose to use.
Playful. Breezy. Non-Threatening. Comfortable. These are the words that come to my mind when I think about approaching girls in public.
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Public Transportation game can often be quite difficult because of the wide ranging factors which constantly change. (Moving targets, other people, open seats, travel destinations, time constraints, etc.)
But, there are still plenty of opportunities to strike up chats. We just have to move quickly and decisively.
And, be less serious.. Don't think of it as "game". Its just striking up a conversation with a girl in public.
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Here are two examples:
Quote:Early morning about 8am, I was getting on the train going to work, I see a cute Asian walking behind me...
me: how do i pay for parking? her: at the ticker machine
me: oh (pretending to be confused)
her: we are walking the same way so i will show you
me: ok great thanks
her: you walk fast like me
me: i don't like to waste time
her: ya i don't have any to waste
her: ya i don't have any to waste
me: me nether
We get to the station and she points out the machine.
her: here it is good luck
me: thanks have a good day
5 minutes later...
I get on the train and I notice the girl is sitting close by. The train is crowded, its early morning and I don't feel like approaching her in front of all these people squeezed together on the train.
I get an idea. I approach her area which is crowded with people. I talk loudly so she and everyone else can hear me...
me: hey do you have a pen i can borrow?
her: let me see (she immediately begins digging into her bag)
her: here you go
me: thanks
I take her pen and I write down my email address. I sit a few seats away from her. I wait a few minutes hoping the crowd around her will get off the train. She gets up and walks towards me and the exit. I get up right away as she walks towards me..
me: i wrote down my email (handing it to her) her: oh
me: i think we should have a drink sometime
her: im married
me: fuck seriously
her: ya sorry but thanks for the offer
me: damn ok bye
her: bye sweetheart
Quote:The next day, the same train, 2 college aged girls sit next to me carrying big travel bags, I make some pretty good eye contact with one of them...
me: are you going on vacation? her: hehe, no, we just got here
me: from where?
her: LA, we are here for college
me: what school?
her: cal state
me: you just got off the airplane?
her: ya we have been traveling all morning
me: damn thats crazy
her: we have freshman orientation right now
me: wow, well, welcome to the bay area
her: thanks we love it here
me: ya its a little more relaxed then socal
her: really?
me: ya you don't have to get all dressed up to go to the grocery store
her: haha ya LA is crazy like that.
me: where are gonna live? the dorms?
her: ya
me: you are about 30 mins away from your school
her: really?
me: ya and the weather will be much better over there
her: i heard SF was foggy
me: only close to the ocean, the weather is different every few blocks out here
her: i love SF, what do you do over here?
me: im going to work right now at a sports camp
her: oh thats so much fun
blah, blah, blah...
We chat for a few minutes and I see my stop coming up...
me: this is my stop, wanna exchange numbers?
her: sure
I gave her mine and told her to text me. She did later that afternoon.
(12-27-2015 05:48 PM)studmuffin52 Wrote: If I am on the train, it doesn't matter if I am busy or not. When it reaches my stop, i have to get off
I don't know what your situation is so I cant comment too much but I just want to tell you that on my cities subway system, if I go one or two stops too far... Its very easy to then catch a train going back towards my station.
It might take me an extra 10 minutes. That's an investment I might be willing to make if the girl seemed interested.
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A few times, when I've been driving in my car and spotted a girl on the city bus, I've driven ahead of the bus, parked my car, boarded the bus, sat next to the girl and gamed her, exited the bus, and walked back to my car.
I don't expect people to do that but I'm just pointing out the vast possibilities that exist if we really want something bad enough.
(12-27-2015 05:48 PM)studmuffin52 Wrote: My goal is to open at a train station/bus stop where there are quite a few people and everyone is silent.
Silence at a train station?
It will never happen. We must strike up conversations in the mists of other conversations. Or, in those moments when it is quiet, when also must be ready to talk.
When I first stated talking to girls in public, I spoke too softly.. They couldn't hear me well enough. I had to experiment with and improve my vocal projection and tone. That skill alone took me years to improve.
There is so much that goes into public transportation game, its really not for the faint of heart. But, that said, public transportation also has endless potential, at least in the big cities.
In the smaller towns, its just about being friendly and striking up and harmless chat.
Both environments require a heightened "killer instinct" as getting her contact info is often done quickly and in a small window of opportunity.
(This post was last modified: 12-28-2015 06:12 PM by Giovonny.)
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