Post: #176

(01-05-2016 08:48 AM)Phoenix Wrote:  

(01-03-2016 11:26 AM)Rontgennurz Wrote:  But I have no idea how to start, I feel paralysed just sitting here and I dont know what to do.

Got that driving license yet? Done anything towards getting it?

To get drivers license, you can take a "fast course" which will be a couple of weeks of driving and doing theory every day until you do your theory test and drivers test. Costs money thou.

What I have done is download a theory program which you can use to practise drivers theory.

Post: #177

Quote:To get drivers license, you can take a "fast course" which will be a couple of weeks of driving and doing theory every day until you do your theory test and drivers test. Costs money thou.

How much is the cost compared to buying steroids?

Post: #178

(01-05-2016 10:46 AM)Rontgennurz Wrote:  To get drivers license, you can take a "fast course" which will be a couple of weeks of driving and doing theory every day until you do your theory test and drivers test. Costs money thou.

Exactly how much money?

Post: #179

(01-05-2016 11:11 AM)RexImperator Wrote:  

Quote:To get drivers license, you can take a "fast course" which will be a couple of weeks of driving and doing theory every day until you do your theory test and drivers test. Costs money thou.

How much is the cost compared to buying steroids?

Drivers license: Around 1800 dollar.
Steroids: Around 40 dollar for one vial of testosterone.

Post: #180

(01-05-2016 11:36 AM)Rontgennurz Wrote:  Drivers license: Around 1800 dollar.

How long will it take you to save that money?

In a village of 5000 people you're fucked. You can't do anything with that, social circle, girls, jobs, or anything. Your only action at the moment should be in the direction of leaving that village, and heading to the nearest full-size city. Getting a drivers license sends you in that direction.

Post: #181

(01-05-2016 11:45 AM)Phoenix Wrote:  

(01-05-2016 11:36 AM)Rontgennurz Wrote:  Drivers license: Around 1800 dollar.

How long will it take you to save that money?

In a village of 5000 people you're fucked. You can't do anything with that, social circle, girls, jobs, or anything. Your only action at the moment should be in the direction of leaving that village, and heading to the nearest full-size city. Getting a drivers license sends you in that direction.

Whilst a drivers license is a right of passage and a ticket to freedom for many a young man, if OP wants to move to a city then he doesn't need one. Once you factor in the costs of a car, insurance and tax as well as the training, that's a few months rent right there.

I'd jump on the bus bag in hand.

I'm sure it's been mentioned, but the key to achieving something is simply to start. That first step. That first victory however small to increase your momentum.

Not replying to every post with mental barriers.

Post: #182

(01-05-2016 10:44 AM)Rontgennurz Wrote:  You are probably right man. I cant do nothing here, really. I almost dont know anybody my age here no more, so I dont get invited to parties. And people in small villages just dont "invite new people" to their social circles for no reason.

I look out of my window now and all I see is snow falling down, my neighbors farm and nothing else. Nearest store is 10minutes walking, and its a store for groceries. If I wanna buy clothes for example, I have to take the bus for 1 hour in to the "nearest town" Which is only 12.000 people population.

There is literally nothing here. There is one resturant where you can buy pizza and burger, one grocery store, one small gym and one place where you can go get your haircut.

Exactly. In a town that small, if you didn't start with game you have a pretty good chance of being involuntarily celibate.

If an approach went poorly at my agricultural hometown of 8,000 people, the girl would have told all her friends and after a few more cases like that I'd be fucked. Social circle game was basically required.

Here, however, it's a much larger college town so I rarely see the same group of people twice, which means I can get away with more so I try more. Who cares what Ashley tells her handful of friends (who likely won't remember by the next time I see them) when there are another three thousand bangable women to choose from? Many of the posters on this board are from much larger metropolitan areas so they don't know how much of a wasteland it is in a small town.

Save up some money and move to a town of at least 25,000 people. A college town would be greatly preferable.

Post: #183

(01-05-2016 05:37 PM)Hannibal Wrote:  

(01-05-2016 10:44 AM)Rontgennurz Wrote:  You are probably right man. I cant do nothing here, really. I almost dont know anybody my age here no more, so I dont get invited to parties. And people in small villages just dont "invite new people" to their social circles for no reason.

I look out of my window now and all I see is snow falling down, my neighbors farm and nothing else. Nearest store is 10minutes walking, and its a store for groceries. If I wanna buy clothes for example, I have to take the bus for 1 hour in to the "nearest town" Which is only 12.000 people population.

There is literally nothing here. There is one resturant where you can buy pizza and burger, one grocery store, one small gym and one place where you can go get your haircut.

Exactly. In a town that small, if you didn't start with game you have a pretty good chance of being involuntarily celibate.

If an approach went poorly at my agricultural hometown of 8,000 people, the girl would have told all her friends and after a few more cases like that I'd be fucked. Social circle game was basically required.

Here, however, it's a much larger college town so I rarely see the same group of people twice, which means I can get away with more so I try more. Who cares what Ashley tells her handful of friends (who likely won't remember by the next time I see them) when there are another three thousand bangable women to choose from? Many of the posters on this board are from much larger metropolitan areas so they don't know how much of a wasteland it is in a small town.

Save up some money and move to a town of at least 25,000 people. A college town would be greatly preferable.

I will be in a college town of 350-400.000 people, 8 months from now. Student dorm room is included. So the logistics situation will be fixed by then.

However its 8 months til then .. I would need to get my sexual experience up to speed again I think, Its literally years since I had sex with a girl now. Maybe I should try out some online dating.

Post: #184

Ok population is 2500, not 5000.

Post: #185

Hey man, I'm 26 and I live with my parents, it sucks but our life isn't over yet.

Look at it this way, you have a college degree in a competitive field, you can likely find a better job and get your own place (that puts you way ahead of me).

Finding friends? I'm not going to say it is "easy" to find good friends, that just is not true. It is easy to meet new people who are kind and have the same interest as you. Try googling any type of group meetings in your city where people have the same interest as you.

You can turn things around, just try to change small things about yourself each month until you get to a spot where you're secure about who you are. As long as you are improving, then there is nothing to be ashamed about.

Post: #186

Hows it going OP?

Post: #187

Well 25,000 is not nearly big enough for cold approach. As someone who does daygame in a city of around 700,000 people, I can see why some veterans say a city of at least million pop is preferable for learning the skill of daygame from scratch.

Post: #188

(01-09-2016 10:45 AM)roberto Wrote:  Hows it going OP?

Hi mate. Well Im currently doing some small courses I had to do to be able to join my university program in august.

Other than that Ive taken up meditation 20minutes a day, Ive also tried to get an apartment of my own but with no luck yet, hopefully soon Ill get one.

Post: #189

I dont know why but Im very very hard on myself always. I get these bursts of being emotional and nostalgic thinking back on my teenage years when I had friends, thinking shit like Im too old now and I will never get as happy as I were back then. My brain must be fucked up.

Post: #190

(01-16-2016 01:40 PM)Rontgennurz Wrote:  I dont know why but Im very very hard on myself always. I get these bursts of being emotional and nostalgic thinking back on my teenage years when I had friends, thinking shit like Im too old now and I will never get as happy as I were back then. My brain must be fucked up.

Are you supplementing with anything? I'd suggest Vitamin D and Zinc, plus ginkgo biloba.

Also, how is your diet? I presume fairly clean as you've achieved success in the gym.

Are there no even remotely attractive girls on these small courses? Good effort in making that first step by the way.

Post: #191

(01-16-2016 02:37 PM)roberto Wrote:  

(01-16-2016 01:40 PM)Rontgennurz Wrote:  I dont know why but Im very very hard on myself always. I get these bursts of being emotional and nostalgic thinking back on my teenage years when I had friends, thinking shit like Im too old now and I will never get as happy as I were back then. My brain must be fucked up.

Are you supplementing with anything? I'd suggest Vitamin D and Zinc, plus ginkgo biloba.

Also, how is your diet? I presume fairly clean as you've achieved success in the gym.

Are there no even remotely attractive girls on these small courses? Good effort in making that first step by the way.

Yeah man my diet is spot on and have been so for a very long time. I supplement with Vitamin D 5000-10.000 UI a day, and also zink with magnesium (ZMA). Never tried ginko, maybe should try it out.

The courses is over the net only, so no meet ups. The only reason Im doing them is to be able to go back to university 7 months from now.

Post: #192

(01-16-2016 01:40 PM)Rontgennurz Wrote:  I dont know why but Im very very hard on myself always. I get these bursts of being emotional and nostalgic thinking back on my teenage years when I had friends, thinking shit like Im too old now and I will never get as happy as I were back then. My brain must be fucked up.

Or just maybe, you live in a fucking village with your mum in your late twenties. Obviously you feel bad, so fucking what?

Give the forum an update on your actions since the start if the year. Specifically address actions you've taken with regard to your original whinge: no drivers license, getting out of the village, earning more money, etc.

7 months is a long time to waste just waiting.

Post: #193

Update

Alright guys, first of all I want to thank you all for helping me out in this thread, I got a LOT of motivation from many of your responses and it got me going.

The last couple of months ive:

1. Got my drivers licence
2. Bought a (shit) car
3. Moved out of my mothers basement to an apartment of my own, Its an old friends apartment that I get to have til I move to the new city in the end of august.

4. I set up an online profile on tinder and got a date immediately, she said I was hot and all that shit .. well IRL I was kinda pretty damn nervous which I know for sure shined thru and it did not end in a bang-session, then afterwards she did not text me back, this fucked up my self confidence for a bit and I havent even "tried" since.


This is whats happening now:

At the end of august, err rater the 15th, Im moving to a new town for 3 years in college. The town per se is not that large, but the college per se and campus is pretty damn big so thats great, I will live ON campus with basicly thousands of students around me.

Now I need help how the fuck to get going there, I need to build some kind of social status quickly - this is basicly my shot to fix my shit with women.

Im not neccesarily aiming for the top right away, but I would really like to get part of a large social group that parties alot, get new friends and have sex with lots of different girls. A girlfriend is NOT on the map, rather a couple of fuck buddies and frequently new college girls to bang.

I will also start to train BJJ at a somewhat well known bjj-gym in that town, hopefully that will lead to some great connections and friends. I used to compete in judo as a kid and I think I have somewhat of a natural talent for grappling/wrestling sports.

My social skills are low/decent, Im FAR from some "hard case" or "weirdo", 99% of people most likely think Im pretty normal, however my social CONFIDENCE is low, most likely because Ive been a shut-in for years living basicly socially isolated, like a loser.

My SEXUAL confidence is low, as I havent had frequent sex for YEARS. I will get some fucking cialis and other shit to get going the first couple of times as Im not confident I will fuck that good after so long time of celibacy.


I would like to have some tips/help on how to get things going in my new town, as I said my primary goals is to get a good group of friends, build decent social status in the college atmosphere and get a rotation of girls to bang. As of right now my mind is blank and I dont know how to "start it all".

Thanks again and Im really glad for all help I can get.

Post: #194

Haha he did it! Nice one!
Now stop thinking as much about negative things and focus on your next steps. 95% of your thoughts should be future and present focused and constructive. Keep calmly meeting and being engaging with girls and following the plan and eventually one of them will bang you, they always do.

Post: #195

Thanks for the update. Congrats on the progress.

Comte de St Germain (aka hwuzhere) has a solid data sheet/thread on social circle, it is a great place to start. I'll see if I can find it and link it here.

Here you go: /thread-34576.html

Post: #196

(05-23-2016 06:45 PM)Rontgennurz Wrote:  4. I set up an online profile on tinder and got a date immediately, she said I was hot and all that shit .. well IRL I was kinda pretty damn nervous which I know for sure shined thru and it did not end in a bang-session, then afterwards she did not text me back, this fucked up my self confidence for a bit and I havent even "tried" since.

Dude, this is par for the course with online dating. Even a 50% bang ratio on first dates is impressive. Even the best players don't hit it out of the park every time.

Get out there and keep trying with the ladies.

Post: #197

(05-23-2016 06:45 PM)Rontgennurz Wrote:  Update

(snip)

My social skills are low/decent, Im FAR from some "hard case" or "weirdo", 99% of people most likely think Im pretty normal, however my social CONFIDENCE is low, most likely because Ive been a shut-in for years living basicly socially isolated, like a loser.

My SEXUAL confidence is low, as I havent had frequent sex for YEARS. I will get some fucking cialis and other shit to get going the first couple of times as Im not confident I will fuck that good after so long time of celibacy.

I would like to have some tips/help on how to get things going in my new town, as I said my primary goals is to get a good group of friends, build decent social status in the college atmosphere and get a rotation of girls to bang. As of right now my mind is blank and I dont know how to "start it all".

Thanks again and Im really glad for all help I can get.

You've made great progress! Echoing Phoenix, I suggest you stop dwelling on your past, just stop that immediately. We all make mistakes, we reflect/learn/adapt, and we move on. Your focus is on your future, which will be even better.

Post: #198

(05-24-2016 02:59 AM)Chauncey Wrote:  Thanks for the update. Congrats on the progress.

Comte de St Germain (aka hwuzhere) has a solid data sheet/thread on social circle, it is a great place to start. I'll see if I can find it and link it here.

Here you go: /thread-34576.html

thanks alot ima take a look at it when i get home tonight!