Post: #1

I thought that I was a pimp based on previous lays and based on what I've heard from girls I've banged and other guys.

I had a bunch of prospects lined up for this weekend, but all of them flaked on me. Girls who I made out with and got the number, and made plans with, but they're still flaking.

Maybe I'm not the player that I thought I was. Maybe I'm just a chump.

Regardless of that, I'll be out tonight, trying to get some new ass. It's been 1 week and I'm horny as shit. Damn though, it's damaging to a mans ego when this bullshit happens. I thought that I was doing good.

Maybe I'm just in a temporary slump but the thing is, I thought that I gamed each of those girls really good. I impressed myself with each of those. I guess the same night lay is the only foolproof measure though, huh? Sometimes you do good, but the logistics make it really hard to get a same night lay, so you have to settle with the number.

I got one of those same night lays last week, so I thought that I was at the beginning of a streak.

Now I don't think I reek of desperation, because I average a new girl about every 2 weeks. I just thought I had an orgy lined up for this weekend, and I'm disappointed as fuck.

You guys ever get into slumps like this? I'm getting pissed the fuck off right now.

Post: #2

My game isn't that good (although it's steadily improving), so I find your outrage at a 1-week dry spell hilarious. Wish you good luck! If you have no trouble lining up prospects, some of them will sooner or later turn out to be dtf!

Post: #3

A dude who's getting pussy on the regular, especially from different women, doesn't get mad at pussy when it doesn't come through.

That sounds like some thirsty ass shit from a dude who's fed up with too many nights of xhamster.

I'm not saying that's who you are, I'm saying that's how you come across.

You need to adopt an attitude of, "if I'm banging cool, if I'm not banging cool," at this point you're letting pussy have an effect one your emotions, which is not the spot you should be in.

Real players are indifferent to pussy.

Post: #4

what jariel said, but damn its hard to take that pussy off the pedestal

Post: #5

Its fine to put pussy on a pedestal under two conditions :

1) The pedestal is slightly lower than the one you are standing on
2) The pedestal that you put her on is higher than yours but only just high enough for you to look up her skirt

Post: #6

(06-25-2011 04:37 AM)jariel Wrote:  You need to adopt an attitude of, "if I'm banging cool, if I'm not banging cool," at this point you're letting pussy have an effect one your emotions, which is not the spot you should be in.

Can't dupe yourself into not being angry/bitter. Acknowledge you're feeling shitty, beat off, take a shower and it'll pass.

Post: #7

I don't get this, dude is complaining about not getting laid after one week...? This makes me really depressed about my situation. One week, is not considered a dry spell in my book, it sounds like you're doing damn good for yourself, if you're complaining about a week, and you average "a new girl every two weeks." Most guys would kill for those kinds of numbers. I'm approaching a month long dry spell, and it sucks, but I have to admit I've had much longer, painful dry spells than that. Shit even Roosh went 3 months in S. America, from what I read in ADBIP, although to his defense he was dealing with some really bad sicknesses, staying in hostel dorm rooms, and some unreceptive, unattractive women.

Post: #8

I'm getting fed up because my game has regressed a lot. Reason I'm so mad is because compared to last year I'm like a shadow. I think I'm just going through a depression or something.

By the way, the lay I was talking about last week was just a drunk hook-up. For the past month or 2, I haven't been satisfied with my situation or my game and then just when I feel like I'm getting over the slump, I'm back to square one.

Keep in mind, this isn't just about pussy, it's about a lot of different factors that are coming together. I'm stressed out about a lot of different things in my life right now and it's making me into a chump- or that's how I'm feeling anyway.

You guys never went through one of these periods in your life where you feel like you're going crazy?

Post: #9

(06-25-2011 11:55 AM)basilransom Wrote:  

(06-25-2011 04:37 AM)jariel Wrote:  You need to adopt an attitude of, "if I'm banging cool, if I'm not banging cool," at this point you're letting pussy have an effect one your emotions, which is not the spot you should be in.

Can't dupe yourself into not being angry/bitter. Acknowledge you're feeling shitty, beat off, take a shower and it'll pass.

Yeah fuck, that's good advice. I need something to take my mind off some of the bullshit in my life and pussy is a good release.

PS, nobody said that I'm a real player. I'm just a 26 year old dude trying to get by. That being said, I've gone through some shit in the past month that's just gotten me sapped. There's a bunch of stuff I didn't reveal in my OP.

#1) I may have chronic pancreatitis- one specialist said I might, another said that I didn't, but I'm due to go through another round of tests in a couple days. I have a decreased appetite and abdominal pain.

#2) I was a victim of credit card fraud and the perpetrator was a person who I thought was my good friend. While I was in the bathroom at my place where he crashed for the night, he skimmed my card with some type of scanner. He got caught, but the fact that we've been friends for a long time and that he would do this to me really fucked me up. If it wasn't for the police apprehending him when I got them to look into the unusual amount of activity on my account and I'd found this out myself, I would have fucked him up royally myself, but he's in custody right now. I have to go through a bunch of bullshit with the police and my credit card supplier and that's stressing me out through the roof.

#3) My grandmother recently died. She was like my second mother. It happened unexpectedly in her sleep and I wasn't prepared for it.

As a result of all these factors, plus some other minor ones, my game has suffered just when I need it the most. I got a regular girl in another city and I still get a hook-up sometimes with other girls, but in the past month and a half or so, I've gone from a fairly competent dude to a stressed out and anxious wreck.

Anyway, I was sick of keeping all this shit bottled up, so I just needed to vent on here. Not asking for a sympathy circle jerk, but I had to write all that shit down because honestly, I'm getting to the end of my rope. When I go to the gym, I pretend that I'm beating the shit out of my fake friend and that helps a bit too.

Post: #10

This is life bro, shit happens to everyone. You just gotta learn to roll with the punches.

Post: #11

(06-27-2011 04:14 AM)BusanCanuck Wrote:  

(06-25-2011 11:55 AM)basilransom Wrote:  

(06-25-2011 04:37 AM)jariel Wrote:  You need to adopt an attitude of, "if I'm banging cool, if I'm not banging cool," at this point you're letting pussy have an effect one your emotions, which is not the spot you should be in.

Can't dupe yourself into not being angry/bitter. Acknowledge you're feeling shitty, beat off, take a shower and it'll pass.

Yeah fuck, that's good advice. I need something to take my mind off some of the bullshit in my life and pussy is a good release.

PS, nobody said that I'm a real player. I'm just a 26 year old dude trying to get by. That being said, I've gone through some shit in the past month that's just gotten me sapped. There's a bunch of stuff I didn't reveal in my OP.

#1) I may have chronic pancreatitis- one specialist said I might, another said that I didn't, but I'm due to go through another round of tests in a couple days. I have a decreased appetite and abdominal pain.

#2) I was a victim of credit card fraud and the perpetrator was a person who I thought was my good friend. While I was in the bathroom at my place where he crashed for the night, he skimmed my card with some type of scanner. He got caught, but the fact that we've been friends for a long time and that he would do this to me really fucked me up. If it wasn't for the police apprehending him when I got them to look into the unusual amount of activity on my account and I'd found this out myself, I would have fucked him up royally myself, but he's in custody right now. I have to go through a bunch of bullshit with the police and my credit card supplier and that's stressing me out through the roof.

#3) My grandmother recently died. She was like my second mother. It happened unexpectedly in her sleep and I wasn't prepared for it.

As a result of all these factors, plus some other minor ones, my game has suffered just when I need it the most. I got a regular girl in another city and I still get a hook-up sometimes with other girls, but in the past month and a half or so, I've gone from a fairly competent dude to a stressed out and anxious wreck.

Anyway, I was sick of keeping all this shit bottled up, so I just needed to vent on here. Not asking for a sympathy circle jerk, but I had to write all that shit down because honestly, I'm getting to the end of my rope. When I go to the gym, I pretend that I'm beating the shit out of my fake friend and that helps a bit too.

That is quite a string of very unfortunate events...heck, that would knock down most people! good for you for spitting that crap out. That's the first step to leaving it behind, with time.

Your game will return as soon as you regain balance in your life. I dont pretend to tell you what you do...in the past when I encountered such obstacles I relied on friends, family and hobbies/things I'm passionate about. Dont disregard the last thing, friends and family cannot always be there, so a hobby is a great way channel your energy.

You could also go out and pick up chicks like there is no tomorrow, had a friend that used the kamikaze approach to get out of a slump...and strangely enough, it worked, as he came back with a serie of outrageous stories that in the aftermath have become legendary stuff to laugh about!

Post: #12

stress is additive, and doing what's necessary (sleep more, rest , evict draining people from your life) to recover from it is non-negotiable.

normal pseudo-alpha "nothing is wrong I'm fine" denial only works to a point.

the fact you got health scare, pain, loss of friend and family, add up to a big stress.

careful about accidents, driving, anything where you might be off from the stress.

Post: #13

I feel you Busan, I've been in rough spots myself. I had a 6-month dry spell last year right when I left law school, imagine how I felt?

hint: not good

Post: #14

Fix your inner game, and your game with girls will fix itself.

FYI: Don't make all your plans for only on the weekend, the flake % is much higher then.

Post: #15

Plan a vacation. What's your hobby? Do that a lot. Do you have an overriding goal in life that you should be pursuing? Use the time that you are not having sex to pursue it.

Game is a means to an end, and not an end in itself. Are you really that mad that you are going a few days without some girl you barely know in your bed? Take a deep breath.