Post: #26

(11-18-2015 03:13 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  You know what the awesome thing for you is? She said you guys are "cool."

You are so much higher value than her in her eyes, she will still be cool with you because she still doesn't see you as beneath her.

^ That's an interesting way of looking at it. The girl seems pretty up herself so I wouldn't have thought that myself. Then again I have been guilty of taking women's words at face value, even when I should know better.

Quote:What I'd recommend is working hard on your game and your self-improvement. You will do very well if you do.

You got it!

Post: #27

I'm curious at you guys thoughts on something. Being that historically, this is the point at which I cut a girl off and never bother with her again (regardless of how it ended), what do I stand to gain from keeping her around? Anything?

Because I'm reasonably sure she isn't actually interested in being "friends". I think we all know that translates roughly to "yeah, I'll speak to you if you catch me somewhere and engage me first, otherwise I will make no effort at all and you're just another orbiter now". Regardless of any perceived value difference.

Post: #28

(11-18-2015 08:16 AM)UroboricForms Wrote:  Well, looks like I've been "friendzoned". I blah etc etc" enough times, in enough variations, to know it basically means "i'm not going to fuck you but keep you around incase I can get something out of you". Why should this be any different?

I haven't responded and I guess I'm just going to leave it at that. For now. Of course I am not going to play along and be relegated to an orbiter (which I get the strong feeling she is used to).

Bro move on with your life already. There is nothing more to gain from her as you already banged her.

You are still attached to this girl for some reason and are looking for someone to give you an excuse to chase her again.

Stop it bro and go game other girls. Once she friend zoned you then you should have just deleted her number. It's not hard and takes less than 5 seconds. Stop hoping that there is something left to gain from her as she already told you that you guys just are not compatible.

If you had other girls lined up you would not be wasting your time thinking about her.

Go out and game more girls while having an abundance mentality. Always Be Replacing Not Chasing These Bitches.

Post: #29

(11-19-2015 10:38 AM)UroboricForms Wrote:  I'm curious at you guys thoughts on something. Being that historically, this is the point at which I cut a girl off and never bother with her again (regardless of how it ended), what do I stand to gain from keeping her around? Anything?

Because I'm reasonably sure she isn't actually interested in being "friends". I think we all know that translates roughly to "yeah, I'll speak to you if you catch me somewhere and engage me first, otherwise I will make no effort at all and you're just another orbiter now". Regardless of any perceived value difference.

I mostly agree with LA Savage here. I can't find any fault in what he's saying, and it makes sense almost all the time.

But man, I've been there. It sucks. It's conflicting. I would follow his advice with a slightly softer touch. Yeah, by all means always be chasing other girls to keep the thirst down and your confidence high. Banging other chicks will take your mind off this one.

Don't text or call her anymore. If you see her in person, be friendly, try to make her smile and laugh, but do it without chasing her. End the conversation on a high note because you're a busy guy with shit to do. Be the cool confident cat who has options and isn't affected by her behavior.

Maybe she'll hit you up again some day, maybe not. Not caring about the outcome is the most important thing.

Post: #30

(11-19-2015 07:24 PM)SomeFcksGiven Wrote:  

(11-19-2015 10:38 AM)UroboricForms Wrote:  I'm curious at you guys thoughts on something. Being that historically, this is the point at which I cut a girl off and never bother with her again (regardless of how it ended), what do I stand to gain from keeping her around? Anything?

Because I'm reasonably sure she isn't actually interested in being "friends". I think we all know that translates roughly to "yeah, I'll speak to you if you catch me somewhere and engage me first, otherwise I will make no effort at all and you're just another orbiter now". Regardless of any perceived value difference.

I mostly agree with LA Savage here. I can't find any fault in what he's saying, and it makes sense almost all the time.

But man, I've been there. It sucks. It's conflicting. I would follow his advice with a slightly softer touch. Yeah, by all means always be chasing other girls to keep the thirst down and your confidence high. Banging other chicks will take your mind off this one.

Don't text or call her anymore. If you see her in person, be friendly, try to make her smile and laugh, but do it without chasing her. End the conversation on a high note because you're a busy guy with shit to do. Be the cool confident cat who has options and isn't affected by her behavior.

Maybe she'll hit you up again some day, maybe not. Not caring about the outcome is the most important thing.

This is very accurate. Sometimes you know you have to keep it moving, but our biology keeps us attached to people sometimes and it's hard to fight it. Best approach is to just be nice and friendly if you run into them, but still be indifferent and not appear needy. And definitely don't text or call, we've all gone down that road and we all know it doesn't work.

If she hits you up one day, proceed from there, if not, just keep going about your business like you normally would and don't stress. If you banged, you already won. Roosh had a good article a while back about how you shouldn't shed a tear over a girl you banged, and when you think about it, that holds pretty true.