Post: #1

Hi guys,


I am having trouble visualizing the approach for girls in groups. After how long after opening the group should I

(a) Focus on conversation with the girl of interest?
(b) Attempt to isolate her from the group and how should I go about doing it? Will not attempting to isolate decrease the chances of success? (bec in a pub scenario they might end up chatting for hours!)

Thank you for your opinions!


Hazear

Post: #2

You might as well go basic mystery method with this one. Open up the group but interact way less with the one you want. Make them laugh, especially the 'mother hen' as once she accepts you everyone will accept you. Then transition to the one you want. For isolation take her to the bar. Tell the others you'll bring her back etc. When you are accepted in the group no one will be defensive about you stealing her.

Post: #3

Cold approaching a group of girls is difficult. Once you open, you need to include all girls in the conversation in order to build a connection. You will receive a lot of shit tests and some will straight up cock block you. It's always good to have a wingman to help divert some of the attention away from you so you can focus on two or three girls at a time.

If they do accept you into the group, you can always isolate on of the girls for a couple minutes like JordanH said by taking her to the bar for a couple minutes to grab a drink. Once you return, you can start directing parts of the conversation towards the girl you're interested in the most.

Post: #4

Agree with Remington, when going Solo never make the amature mistake of entertaining your target first. Identify the mother hen and attempt to gain her approval. Usually they have low self esteem/ugly so a few jokes and light touches will do the trick. I think about it in terms of attention percentages. Initially 50% goes to Mother hen then split rest up between the others. Once you're in, isolate like stated above and don't feel bad if you get blown out. Groups are notoriously difficult and 98% of guys rolling solo would never approach so pat yourself on the back regardless of the outcome.

-CD

Post: #5

You guys are making the mistake of assuming he is approaching groups of girls in the club. He be thinking about approaching a group of girls in campus.

I specialize on approaching girls on campus and must say that it is critical that you isolate her from her friends as soon as possible.

The reason being this issue called Group Think. Girls can't make decisions for themselves with her friends around. That is why you need to go in direct and cut to the chase in a confident manner. If you waste your time trying to entertain the group of girls and then try to flirt with her, the mother hen will cockblock you regardless because that's what they do. Plus you are going to feel frustrated spending all that time entertaining them if she ends up telling you she has a boyfriend or is unavailable. That time wasted talking to the group could have been more productively used gaming girls who are already isolated.

Post: #6

- You talk to the whole group
- You're friendly with her friends and flirty with the girl you like
- You take your time and focus on having good time with them
- You isolate a little bit from time to time just to emphasize your interest
- You don't escalate in a traditional sense you keep your touch socially acceptable so you both just get comfortable in each others space and stay that way until you end up alone where you pull the trigger.

It's like a house party. Ask yourself how would you game a girl in the house where you hang out together so everybody can see your every move?

It's actually easier than you think..

1. you get much more material to work with. As you talk to them different people respond differently to what you say which gives you a lot of options what to say/do next. Compare it to one on one conversation where the girl might be shy or introverted etc so it's all on you to carry on without much feedback from her.

2. the girl you like feels much more secure and comfortable.

3. you can game the girl and make good impression on the most influential people in her life [her friends] at the same time.

Post: #7

The same thing can apply to girls that are in the club vs. in a bar vs. on campus.

Post: #8

From your replies it seems that going solo at a group needs some basic gaming experience first. The fact is i am still working on approaching solo girls so there is some way to go before this... And definitely for a small city like mine, population<100K, i might bump into them and that wont be good if i mess it up the first time.