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Study says more sex doesn't improve relationship happiness...
Quote:What the study does suggest is that more sex, in the most basic sense, is not the key to happiness. Instead, Loewenstein says the secret is likely better quality sex, which will likely lead to increased quantity as well. In other words, quit mentally tallying how often you do it and move your focus to enjoying the sex you have.

Read more: http://www.mensjournal.com/health-fitnes...z3i2Ta17cU

Not that studies are to be taken so literally but it IS very telling that just increasing the frequency of sex does not impact happiness.

I post this to reinforce what most of us already know - the quality of sex needs to be good. Your woman needs to WANT you. She needs to LUST after you. Otherwise, it doesn't matter how many times you manage to force sex out of her (in this case it was the researchers telling the couples to fuck more). There is no quicker way to sandpaper pussy than obligatory sex.

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(This post was last modified: 08-06-2015 07:56 AM by NinjaShaman.)
08-06-2015 07:55 AM
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Bullshit. Quality and quantity matter. If your wife or girlfriend doesn't even bother to have boring, tepid sex with you, you're deeper in the hole than you think.

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08-06-2015 08:09 AM
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RE: Study says more sex doesn't improve relationship happiness...
This made me think of the quote:

"Rarely use venery but for health or offspring, never to dullness, weakness, or the injury of your own or another's peace or reputation." -Ben Franklin

Like most of us, Ben Franklin of course "used venery" a lot more than what he preached. But I even can remember times where, at the end of a marathon, I just felt drained and not particularly happy. Then I wouldn't even want to see her for a few days.

Also, a girl can have more orgasms from one solid session than from 4-5 mediocre ones. The former number is a much greater indicator of her happiness than the latter.

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08-06-2015 08:10 AM
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The study was sorta bullshit...

Quote:There were 128 participants in this study, all married couples where both partners were between the ages of 35 and 65. From the beginning, these couples were having sex at least once a month but no more than three times a week to be allowed in the study. The treatment group, which held 70 people was asked to double the amount of sex they were having. Every day the participants were surveyed about their feelings., and asked questions about their libido, the type of sex they were having, how much they liked it, and whether they wanted more.

Once per month to 3x per week sounds pretty normal for couples ages 35 to 65. That sounds like pretty typical married couples in sexual homeostasis.

It makes sense that making stable married couples bang twice the amount, to bang them out of homeostasis, wouldn't make them happier. Shit the wives probably despised the fact they had to work twice as hard at the relationship.

I can't think of a way of doing this study properly...you'd want the couples to start having sex twice the amount generically, not being told to do so.

Maybe get the women to slim down and give the guy some leadership role or fame, see their sex double, and then ask how happy they are.

Better yet, get the man into the weight room and give him T shots, encourage him to start not being around a few nights a week, maybe even not coming home every once in a while, pick up a mistress, then watch the couple's sex triple or quadruple, then see how happy they are. The woman would be less happy and banging the shit outta her man. The man would be in bliss.

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08-06-2015 08:28 AM
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If I know that I'm doubling sex for an experiment I would lose my boner.

Having to answer one survey a day too would drive me nut more than a raging feminist. And this comes from a guy who works in survey design.

So no wonder they didnt find the correlation they are looking for.


Quote:Each member of the participating couples completed three different types of surveys. At the beginning of the study, they answered questions to establish baselines. Daily during the experimental period, the participants answered questions online to measure health behaviors, happiness levels and the occurrence, type and enjoyableness of sex. The exit survey analyzed whether baseline levels changed over the three-month period.

You know where the biggest problem is?

Quote:One hundred and twenty eight healthy individuals between the ages of 35–65 who were in married male-female couples

We men know better than this. Sex needs both quality AND quantity. If you can't give her both then thats the problem.

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08-06-2015 08:31 AM
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(08-06-2015 08:09 AM)Geomann180 Wrote:  Bullshit. Quality and quantity matter. If your wife or girlfriend doesn't even bother to have boring, tepid sex with you, you're deeper in the hole than you think.

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I agree, this is like a chicken and egg problem. A woman that's going to drop her pants to do her 'duty' is likely going to be turned on at a submissive demand to begin with. A wife that is revolted by the idea of 'pleasing her husband' likely isn't going to do obligatory sex anyway, or for very long.

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08-06-2015 08:54 AM
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Quote:What the study does suggest is that more sex, in the most basic sense, is not the key to happiness.
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08-06-2015 11:40 AM
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Sigh. Gone are the days when women would just close their eyes and think of England.

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08-06-2015 11:54 AM
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She can't bitch and complain with a dick in her mouth.

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08-06-2015 12:09 PM
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Quote:Researchers from Carnegie Mellon University....

Stopped reading right there. No disrespect to scientists and researchers, but these are people who generally don't fuck and couldn't locate a pussy if it was right under their nose. What they have to say on these matters is entirely irrelevant.
08-06-2015 04:24 PM
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I'm conducting my own study. Results are contradictory to this.

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08-06-2015 04:41 PM
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Funny last I checked every time I give my main a good fuck she'll always send me a text saying she's been happy all day with a smile on her face.

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(08-06-2015 08:09 AM)Geomann180 Wrote:  Bullshit. Quality and quantity matter. If your wife or girlfriend doesn't even bother to have boring, tepid sex with you, you're deeper in the hole than you think.

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Both matter for sure, quality matters more to her.
08-06-2015 05:30 PM
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Sounds like the author is an angry scientist who got his wife stolen because he wasn't banging her enough Banana
08-06-2015 05:45 PM
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Quantity can, and often does increase the quality of sex to a point. The sex won't evolve without some quantity surges.

Sure, if you starve people from sex, the limited sex they have might carry more weight, but the reality is, most women need training and can't handle it all in just a few sessions.
08-06-2015 06:15 PM
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Seems like the Coodlidge effect is real
08-06-2015 09:59 PM
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