Post: #1

For those of you who have at least temporarily lived abroad to meet women/court someone: how did you make this transition? How did you get out of your current job/income? I have a solid job/career in the Mechanical Engineering field (good income, health care, investments...), I've been planning to move onto a better gig in my field in the near future anyways, but the thought of flat-out resigning to travel abroad to meet women just startles me a little. I would probably get a lot of disapproval from parents/family/colleagues for doing such a thing.

For now, I do have one prospect that I've been dating/talking to in Mexico, doing short-term visits with vacation time for now, but I'm almost out of vacation time for the year (I only get 10 days plus 4 sick days).

How did some of you guys break into this if you already have/had a good career and family that had you tied to your community in the states? It would be easier if I could just pack up and temporarily relocate to Mexico to date this girl if things pan out. Otherwise, I'd want to explore Mexico and other countries (Colombia, Argentina, etc.) more; I'd want to spend as much time as possible through vacation time, possible negotiation of paid/unpaid leave, or just resigning my job and taking several months off from my career and live on savings more or less while meeting women in another country. Any tips on how you guys found a way to make this possible? Was vacation time enough? Were you able to negotiate temporary leave from your work? What excuse did you use for that? If you flat-out quit working and left a good job, how did you get your mind around that?

Post: #2

I haven't done it yet, also interested in this topic.

As a mechanical engineer, can't you just get a job overseas as a starting point? Many engineers live in Asia, make a lot of money and get laid like crazy.

Post: #3

1) If you take a week's vacation with two weekends that's nine days, fine for a trip to Mexico.
Online contacts are rarely what you hope they are.

2) You're worried about what your parents will think of you? You shouldn't be telling them or anyone else what you're doing with your time it's none of their business. I think I told people I was going to Italy when I went to Russia. However be careful not to directly tell them "it's not your business" just be vague, change the subject, it's not hard to do inconspicuously when you don't get irritated with them. If you refuse to talk about it but get irritated they sense something's up .

3)It's your life, you should start realizing it's yours, entirely yours and no one else's opinion matters.

Post: #4

Another option is to start your own business that you can run online from any location. I am pursuing this option.

I know I will get a lot of flak from family and friends for quitting my job and going overseas, but I don't care. It's my life, and it's none of anyone's business what I do with my own life.

Post: #5

I would be very, very careful about moving to another country for one single woman (as in I wouldn't do it), especially one that is just a "prospect."

I imagine aging is minimizing your dating prospects to even entertain the idea, but isn't the fact that it has come to this a clear sign you should probably move abroad or at least out of your local area on its own? If so, move abroad for THAT reason, not for her. Move for the lifestyle, then worry about women.

You're kind of shooting yourself in the foot by tying yourself to one before you get there anyways. I've heard a lot of older guys who do this arrive to discover they could have done a world better if they just had observed a bit of patience by locking in the move before locking in the woman.

To answer your question, though, brainstorm ways you can offer consulting or advice in your field and become a freelancer. Maybe not necessarily in the same capacity you work now, but there are other ways to put your specialty to use. For example, a man with solid knowledge about engineering could specialize and offer services as a writer making $100 an hour or more from Mexico or wherever. That's just one idea if writing isn't a strength.

What other support services could your knowledge put you in a unique position to offer companies in the industry?

This may take learning some other skills but its doable if you want to make the move bad enough. As for what people say, do we really need to remind you that you only live once? You're not going to be here forever, so pleasing others is a losing game. Who cares what they say - determine what you want and then make it happen.

Beyond All Seas

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling

Post: #6

Sometimes you just have to take the leap. Save $'s, update resume, establish contacts at target location, resign and move. I've done this twice, once sight unseen and the other time after spending some leisure time at the target location.

It helps if your target location is high profile. Not sure if Mexico would work. Are there a lot of high paid Mechanical Engineering jobs at your target location?

It's not always going to be possible to set everything up ahead of time and sort of travel on a could of marshmallow fluff from place to place, with no chance of getting hurt. Some actual, rather than imagined, risk may have to be assumed in order to get anywhere. Basically risk of loss. If you can't accept this, then you can't move...

Post: #7

I wouldn't necessarily want to permanently leave the United States. "Mobile Income" is a term that gets tossed around on here like it's nothing. I've tried doing just a bit of freelance CAD design work for people, it's hard to break into and you have to be a rockstar with at least one of these Engineering softwares. I'm sufficient in SolidWorks and use it daily in my job, but not a rockstar with it. Otherwise I have decent experience with technical document writing and fair knowledge of medical device industry standards. Don't know if there's many med device jobs overseas other than a few of the biggest multi-nationals. Oil/Petrolium industry and Nuclear industry have Engineering jobs that my degree is suited for, but I'd have to super-tweak my resume to transition into that field. If I'm not mistaken, there are some Oil Industry jobs in Central America and Colombia/Venezuela.

Post: #8

I've more or less done what you're contemplating.

Here's how I got around the $ part (TL;DR - the Mr. Money Mustache method): /thread-47239-...pid1014756

Here's what happened to me when I warned my family & friends (TL;DR - I didn't care): /thread-47239-...pid1027145

Here's what happened when I quit my job (TL;DR - I didn't care): /thread-47239-...pid1045905

In that post, I also mention what got my head around quitting:

Quote:Plus, like many of you, I also feel like I have nothing to lose; the return on my five-year investment into dating here (first blue-pill then red-pill) has been well short of it being worth it, especially looking at the long run. But let's see if that investment pays off in another market.

In your specific case, note:
1) Make sure you don't move prematurely just to be with one potential candidate
2) At the same time, don't let others delay your move when you're logistically ready. They're secretly hoping you'll fail anyways: http://www.rooshv.com/everyone-is-hoping...youll-fail
3) There is no 100% fool-proof plan to move abroad. Some are better than others, but life is never 100%, is it?

Post: #9

same as you civil engineer 27 yo
i'm starting to consider applying for a master's degree in colombia...
so i can learn spanish, match my cv with the colombian job market and applying for a job in colombia...
a long path but i think it's the more sure long term

Post: #10

(07-13-2015 02:58 PM)ghaith10 Wrote:  same as you civil engineer 27 yo
i'm starting to consider applying for a master's degree in colombia...
so i can learn spanish, match my cv with the colombian job market and applying for a job in colombia...
a long path but i think it's the more sure long term

This is not a bad idea. I have friends who have done the same in Asia and do decently professionally in the same country where they got their masters.

HOWEVER, if you go to grad school in that country, you will likely be paid at more of a "local rate."

The best option (if possible) is to work at a multi-national corporation where you will be paid at a much higher rate than a local worker. In this case you can be pulling in six figures while living at a much lower cost-of-living. Also, there are much better exit options if you take this route. Truth is, once you're tired of banging Colombian broads (as awesome as that may be), you're probably gonna wanna go somewhere else.