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Help with some general thoughts and interactions gone south
This is coming from a slightly agitated/temporarily defeated tone, and not meant to be perceived as whiny or bitchy.

I am 3 months out of a relationship and slowly getting my feet wet with game again. I've broken out the old materials and started getting my head back into the manosphere. I have a lot of time on my hands as I own a company that makes workout gear and it is basically run for me. I get paid every month to basically workout. I have ideas for other businesses but basically have done nothing with any of them.

I've since banged 1 girl and made it to 3rd with 3 others. I attribute that to giving up to easy.

I think I ran a little too much game/alpha aloofness on the girl from the gym as she's literally cried in my face twice. She is 24 and I am 37, and I shut her down too many times when I could have just let things slide. After some reflection I felt bad about the way I treated her and offered an apology and wanted to give it another go. It's like the roles been reversed now, and I have no idea how the f*ck that even happened. I have asked her to go and do stuff maybe 4 times with "maybes". She is playing the "withholding" card and I haven't had sex with her in over a week. She texted me "my vibrator is officially dead" today, and my annoyed response was "That's nice. Fuck off". I know any beta would have taken the bait, but I lost frame out of sheer aggravation. I've since deleted her number.

Would any of you had the same reaction? I know that I should have popped a comment about how at least the dildo doesn't have to suffer or something like that, but it just annoyed the shit out of me, because she knows I have a high sex drive and she's right down the street.

The other question is in regards to Tinder… I def. like having company, and I am not so much of a direct approach kinda guy, although I occasionally do it. I've used Tinder in the past with great results, but I don't feel like putting in the effort to get a few quality photos snapped. I don't use social media, have any kind of social circle , and therefore no recent pics.

Is this just simply me having a bad attitude, being lazy, being in a state of transition from my ex, or a combination of all?

Thanks for any input here, I appreciate the sh*t out of you guys and your thoughts.
(This post was last modified: 06-11-2015 04:43 PM by CaptainKeith.)
06-11-2015 04:42 PM
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RE: Help with some general thoughts and interactions gone south
Wow almost 200 views and not a single faggot has a comment. Are you all are perfect with no advice to offer?
06-11-2015 11:56 PM
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RE: Help with some general thoughts and interactions gone south
Quote:Wow almost 200 views and not a single faggot has a comment. Are you all are perfect with no advice to offer?

Quite a diversion from what you wrote on the first of the only three posts you have outside this thread:
Quote:What I am meaning to get at here, is that the men bashing each other in this community still have some growing to do in my opinion

This aside, your post was a draining read for me. It is disorganized, emotionally charged, and moreover this should be in the newbie forum.

To answer your question, yes you were too emotional with the texts with the girl. No it is not a big deal. You may have acute oneitis, there are many good posts on the forum on dealing with that, simply search the forum for 'oneitis'.

If you are having a problem finding quality photos for tinder you may have deeper lifestyle problems you should address first. In 2015 you should be able to open up a folder and simply pick out a few best photos of a great many good ones.

If you're going to try, go all the way. There is no other feeling like that. You will be alone with the gods, and the nights will flame with fire. You will ride life straight to perfect laughter. It's the only good fight there is.

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06-12-2015 12:25 AM
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RE: Help with some general thoughts and interactions gone south
(06-11-2015 11:56 PM)CaptainKeith Wrote:  Wow almost 200 views and not a single faggot has a comment. Are you all are perfect with no advice to offer?

Bold strategy to get a response. I'd say ease up on the pre-workout if you intend to post in the near future. And metaphorically add a little ice in your veins- coming in too hot, brother. I might add on to Storm's comment, but I'll wait and see what happens with this before I spend any more time.
06-12-2015 12:45 AM
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RE: Help with some general thoughts and interactions gone south
(06-11-2015 11:56 PM)CaptainKeith Wrote:  Wow almost 200 views and not a single faggot has a comment. Are you all are perfect with no advice to offer?

You're 37, act it and stop calling people names and crying for attention.

I'll bite.

One problem identified, without reading your OP -> outcome dependency (on this forum and probably in real life)

Post-OP read:

- Get your frame together

- Rejections are good, use it constructively to see where you failed

- Don't tolerate flakes more than x amount of times (you can determine this)

- Don't be so emotionally invested with women you haven't fucked at least 10 times

- Raise your standards; 'going to 3rd' is a high-school term, you are at least 2x that age

- Take good pictures for Tinder. It is direct game, accept it. It's also, don't fuck it up game, if you're a match, they want to fuck

- It sounds like your emotional state is anchored in your success with women when in reality, it is the opposite. Your emotional state will define your success with women, what you put out there etc.
06-12-2015 05:56 AM
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RE: Help with some general thoughts and interactions gone south
"My vibrator is dead"
"Fuck off."
Worst.
Text.
Game.
Ever.
I wish I knew how to embed video...and find a clip of a guy coming in for a layup but bounces the ball off his ankle and into the crowd.
Aggression works much better in the bedroom...
Not when a girl is virtually spreading her thighs for you via text.
Ease up on the "alpha aloofness"...just a tad.
06-12-2015 06:36 AM
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RE: Help with some general thoughts and interactions gone south
(06-12-2015 06:36 AM)Tailgunner Wrote:  "My vibrator is dead"
"Fuck off."
Worst.
Text.
Game.
Ever.
I wish I knew how to embed video...and find a clip of a guy coming in for a layup but bounces the ball off his ankle and into the crowd.
Aggression works much better in the bedroom...
Not when a girl is virtually spreading her thighs for you via text.
Ease up on the "alpha aloofness"...just a tad.

lol.

Correct response something like: "I don't need batteries! I'll see you in ten, or you'll have to be content hitting up Costco for some Duracells."

I don't get as many opportunities as some guys here do, and it deeply pains me to see them wasted through conceit and/or foolishness.

I think if one wants to survive in the online/texting game world of the 21st century, instead of watching Netflix every weekend it would make sense to use that time to read some challenging books or take a writing class and learn how to write better, or something. Because the dudes who know how to succinctly express themselves and what they want and hold interest in text are going to walk all over the ones who don't.
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06-12-2015 12:32 PM
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RE: Help with some general thoughts and interactions gone south
(06-12-2015 12:32 PM)XPQ21 Wrote:  
(06-12-2015 06:36 AM)Tailgunner Wrote:  "My vibrator is dead"
"Fuck off."
Worst.
Text.
Game.
Ever.
I wish I knew how to embed video...and find a clip of a guy coming in for a layup but bounces the ball off his ankle and into the crowd.
Aggression works much better in the bedroom...
Not when a girl is virtually spreading her thighs for you via text.
Ease up on the "alpha aloofness"...just a tad.

lol.

Correct response something like: "I don't need batteries! I'll see you in ten, or you'll have to be content hitting up Costco for some Duracells."

I don't get as many opportunities as some guys here do, and it deeply pains me to see them wasted through conceit and/or foolishness.

I think if one wants to survive in the online/texting game world of the 21st century, instead of watching Netflix every weekend it would make sense to use that time to read some challenging books or take a writing class and learn how to write better, or something. Because the dudes who know how to succinctly express themselves and what they want and hold interest in text are going to walk all over the ones who don't.

I would ignore her. She sounds needy.

My instincts say she is just attention whoring, trying for the shock, and is not even horny.

The correct response is: try to set up a Zero Date Bang
/thread-28403.html

If you're going to try, go all the way. There is no other feeling like that. You will be alone with the gods, and the nights will flame with fire. You will ride life straight to perfect laughter. It's the only good fight there is.

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06-12-2015 05:54 PM
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RE: Help with some general thoughts and interactions gone south
(06-12-2015 05:54 PM)storm Wrote:  
(06-12-2015 12:32 PM)XPQ21 Wrote:  
(06-12-2015 06:36 AM)Tailgunner Wrote:  "My vibrator is dead"
"Fuck off."
Worst.
Text.
Game.
Ever.
I wish I knew how to embed video...and find a clip of a guy coming in for a layup but bounces the ball off his ankle and into the crowd.
Aggression works much better in the bedroom...
Not when a girl is virtually spreading her thighs for you via text.
Ease up on the "alpha aloofness"...just a tad.

lol.

Correct response something like: "I don't need batteries! I'll see you in ten, or you'll have to be content hitting up Costco for some Duracells."

I don't get as many opportunities as some guys here do, and it deeply pains me to see them wasted through conceit and/or foolishness.

I think if one wants to survive in the online/texting game world of the 21st century, instead of watching Netflix every weekend it would make sense to use that time to read some challenging books or take a writing class and learn how to write better, or something. Because the dudes who know how to succinctly express themselves and what they want and hold interest in text are going to walk all over the ones who don't.

I would ignore her. She sounds needy.

My instincts say she is just attention whoring, trying for the shock, and is not even horny.

The correct response is: try to set up a Zero Date Bang
/thread-28403.html

I've read that thing about the Zero Date Bang. I don't know if I agree - most girls I've slept with in the past have gotten pissed if I didn't try to take them "out" someplace and things still worked out the same afterwards. But it's been a while since I've really been "in the game", so who knows.
06-12-2015 07:12 PM
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RE: Help with some general thoughts and interactions gone south
would ignore her. She sounds needy.

My instincts say she is just attention whoring, trying for the shock, and is not even horny.

The correct response is: try to set up a Zero Date Bang
/thread-28403.html

Needy? Dude, she's coming on to him hard...and obviously...
Anytime a girl mentions sex/acts/thoughts...it's the greenest of green lights.
Not even a Zero Date Bang routine needed.
" The front door is unlocked. See you in an hour."
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RE: Help with some general thoughts and interactions gone south
(06-12-2015 06:36 AM)Tailgunner Wrote:  "My vibrator is dead"
"Fuck off."
Worst.
Text.
Game.
Ever.
I wish I knew how to embed video...and find a clip of a guy coming in for a layup but bounces the ball off his ankle and into the crowd.
Aggression works much better in the bedroom...
Not when a girl is virtually spreading her thighs for you via text.
Ease up on the "alpha aloofness"...just a tad.

Is this what you were looking for?

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RE: Help with some general thoughts and interactions gone south
Perfect Smile
Good job mate.
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Quote: After some reflection I felt bad about the way I treated her and offered an apology and wanted to give it another go. It's like the roles been reversed now, and I have no idea how the f*ck that even happened. I have asked her to go and do stuff maybe 4 times with "maybes". She is playing the "withholding" card and I haven't had sex with her in over a week. She texted me "my vibrator is officially dead" today...

If you reread his rambling shit before her vibrator comment, I think it's clear she is cock-teasing him, not signaling for the D. He thinks he was too Alpha, so he went all beta on her, and her poosy dried up. So now she's just giving him shit, trying to see how thirsty he is.

If she wanted him, she'd be over there fucking him, not texting about her vibrator.

Time to next her.
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RE: Help with some general thoughts and interactions gone south
Or the perfect time for a cockshot...
I've had similar situations arise, always a come on.
Reckon dude badly handled the whole thing actually, start to finish.
Hope he learned something.
06-15-2015 02:08 AM
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