Post: #51

(04-23-2015 03:52 PM)robreke Wrote:  I don't like this because I say I am about 10 years younger on my dating profile than I am. ... Obviously, if she sees this she can do simple math and tell I'm not 33.

God damn lol, I am seriously impressed by your Peter Pan game. And I thought I was a sneaky devil for going down by 5 years.

Post: #52

(04-23-2015 03:52 PM)robreke Wrote:  "what's your last name?"

"Let me guess, you're already thinking about marrying me and want to know how your first name would sound with my last name. You need to slow down."

Post: #53

(04-23-2015 04:27 PM)Quintus Curtius Wrote:  The second best right answer is Mechanico's answer: "Smith"

I think this will only work if you're black, white, or mixed. Harder to believe if you're very hispanic or asian looking.

Post: #54

Had an older chick ask me for my last name over text before meeting me yesterday, I think the first time ever it happened to me. I ignored it and asked her to send me bathroom selfies. She sent me a modest selfie instead and thus lost an opportunity to get fucked hard. You keep the frame, you set the agenda, you ask the questions. That should filter out the ladies unworthy of your time. Otherwise, you'll most likely end up wasting your evening wirh some bitchy girl.

Post: #55

(11-05-2015 05:33 PM)articulatecool Wrote:  

(04-23-2015 04:27 PM)Quintus Curtius Wrote:  The second best right answer is Mechanico's answer: "Smith"

I think this will only work if you're black, white, or mixed. Harder to believe if you're very hispanic or asian looking.

Gomez.

Post: #56

If you have nothing to hide, give it. If you have something to hide, like in your case, better make a joke about it, like "That's creepy, I tell u when we meet"

If she isn't willing to meet without knowing it, she wasn't down at the first place.

Post: #57

(04-23-2015 03:52 PM)robreke Wrote:  I was curious if anyone's run into this and how to deal with it. I'd look at it as sort of a shit test, but at the same time, girls have to be safer than guys;

Have (had) a date lined up tomorrow night with a real cute girl I met online. She was going to be driving to my town to meet me, stay in a hotel and let me take her out. Real enthusiastic texts all day then she hit me up this afternoon with:

"what's your last name?"

Obviously, she wants to google check me. I don't like this because I say I am about 10 years younger on my dating profile than I am. There's this one website (about 5 links down on google first page) that has people in my profession listed and it says my name and that I have '19 years experience in the industry' Obviously, if she sees this she can do simple math and tell I'm not 33.

a 33 year old would have at most 10 or 11 years experience.

So, how did I respond?

I texted her "my name is (real name)" I told her my name.

Haven't heard back yet which is not too big a deal as we've been going sometimes hours between texts. But, my gut tells me by sending her my real name and letting her google check me, my odds of a flake/back out just increased.

I halfway expect her to text me next something like "how old are you by the way?" in which case I could just stick to "33" and say the website is incorrect if she brings it up. Or I could go a little higher and say "38...btw I think my profile says 33. hope that's okay"

In the future, if I don't want to tell a girl who asks before a date, I suppose the only other options are:
1. Lie about your last name.
2. Give her some line about "I like to remain discreet at first" But, that sounds kind of shady to me.

I can see this becoming more an issue in the future as online game proliferates, girls want to be safe and all these "rape allegations" permeating the media.

How would you handle it? thoughts?

just lie about last name, does she ask your passport before sucking dick? That would be funny to see

Post: #58

(11-05-2015 05:33 PM)articulatecool Wrote:  

(04-23-2015 04:27 PM)Quintus Curtius Wrote:  The second best right answer is Mechanico's answer: "Smith"

I think this will only work if you're black, white, or mixed. Harder to believe if you're very hispanic or asian looking.

You're adopted.

Post: #59

I've always been able to get the information needed for "background checks" by playing "What's your sign game".

Throw the "What's your sign?' question at them. Since I have no idea about astrology or what sign correlates to what month, nor do I give a shit, whatever answer they give me, I followup and say: "Oh, that's early June, right?" And then they'll blab out their actual DOB.

Match that up with her first name, last name and "presto", start digging. Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, ZabaSearch, etc., etc., etc.

p.s. I never give my real DOB out, at least initially. I usually give my father's (died years ago, easy to remember) if asked. That's "Counter-What's your sign?" game.

Always stay several steps ahead...

Post: #60

Just saw this thread got bumped. Good info here but this particular girl was a wash as she did show up for the date but was a SIF. A good 25 or more pounds fatter than her profile pics. A drink...polite conversation. ... and when I recovered from being shell shocked I sent her on her way.

Post: #61

The level irony is insane

Here she was acting all paranoid and it turns out that she was the dishonest SIF after all.

Post: #62

I didn't read the rest of the replies but this is actually a good opportunity for a little humor.

What's your last name?

Corleone
Soze
.......

Post: #63

Well her being an SIF and not banging her turned out to be the best possible outcome for you.

I don't see how fucking a girl who has you on LinkedIn can be a good idea, there are a thousand ways it can fuck up your career for good, specially if you barely know her because you met online.

Gosh, I wouldn't even give them my real facebook. Maybe I've spent too long in asia haha.

Post: #64

Williams is the most common last name in the U.S. Give her that shit and watch her try to find you on the internet.

I just tell her my last name is McLovin or Skywalker or some stupid shit. If she can't take a joke, then fuck her; you don't want to date her anyway.

Post: #65

My official policy on last names: She gets a last name once we're in the bedroom, or at some point well into the first date, if it's going splendedly and she's clearly attracted, if I'm generous.

Anytime before that? You have about as much right to know my last name as some rando in the bar. Next.

Post: #66

I just came across this, and the only time it happened to me was literally last week. The strangest thing was that we shared a common culture and even language different than english, which I could not possibly have lied about, but I said also "I'll tell you when we meet" because I didn't feel the need to keep texting, and I don't think it matters. The girl said "That might be a problem"

is the general consensus that these types are just BS or text happy?

Post: #67

Those girls are BS. Just use a fake name anyway. 'Why they need to know my government name in da club?'

Post: #68

My first name is Peter, so I tell them my last name is North. That usually distracts them.

Post: #69

I just say my last name which cant be transcribed without me spelling it out. So I just say my name. I have never once had a girl ask me how to spell it. If they did I would ask if they were law enforcement and if this was a prostituion sting.

A long time ago (very long time ago) girls would actually ask you your last name when they were into you because they wanted to imagine what their name would sound like in front of it.

Post: #70

Girls you've know for a while who are very into you will do that today.

Post: #71

(09-20-2016 06:40 PM)DonnyGately Wrote:  Girls you've know for a while who are very into you will do that today.

Not before a first date, they don't.

Post: #72

I guess 'girls you've known for a while' presumed not a first date, but not in your mind I see.

Post: #73

Would the same ideas here apply if it was a chick you met in real life?

Got asked the exact same question over text just then.

After she said that "I'm not going to meet someone whose name I don't even know haha" (which is why you got number closed by a bartender ), I replied with bhawthorne's line:

(11-05-2015 04:36 PM)bhawthorne Wrote:  

(04-23-2015 03:52 PM)robreke Wrote:  "what's your last name?"

"Let me guess, you're already thinking about marrying me and want to know how your first name would sound with my last name. You need to slow down."

She replied, "You need to calm down"

"Smith" and "Williams" won't work because I'm Asian, but I've got a crazy common Chinese last name so good luck trying to locate me on Facebook.

I told her I'd tell her mine after I she did hers, which she did. Bad idea?

Post: #74

Use your middle name or just make one up.

Post: #75

If shit gets serious she will find out sooner or later. In any case that question is a red flag for me.