Post: #1

http://www.vice.com/read/how-to-survive-...ndards-263

I knew the article wouldn't have any 'real' advice, I just didn't know how bad it would be.

Quoting for posterity

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I won't say exactly how long it's been since I've had sex. I'm too ashamed. Let's just say it's been less than a full pregnancy term and more than a college semester. One thing's clear: It's the longest dry spell of my life.

I don't understand exactly when something started to shift, but the amount of time I allow myself to go without intimacy is getting longer, the older I get. I have a few theories. Maybe I find porn performers more compelling than real-life men? (I'm excitedly waving at you, James Deen!) Maybe my standards are too high? (I want a guy with nice shoes, a creative drive, no roommates, a pinch of asshole tendencies, and a complete openness in bed.) But whatever the reason, I feel like I'm missing something. And that has led to a serious lack of feeling down below.



It's not like I'm whining about this from the couch in my yoga pants and hair scrunchy, waiting for Steve Dildarian (those eyes!) to pound on my... door.

That point can be debated at the end of the article

Quote: I date. A lot. At least once a week. I make it a habit, even when I'm not in the mood. I just seem to be connecting with fewer men where the vibe is mutual, and even fewer whose salad I fantasize about tossing (the top tier when I'm trying to gage my level of attraction to someone—and only in the shower, of course!).

I think I'm slowing down. Or maybe it's a form of depression? Repression? I don't know. I really don't.

I have (mostly married) friends who can go years without boning and shrug it off like they've missed a dentist appointment. Let me stress that I am not like this. My sexuality is one of my identifying features. Sex is a big part of my repertoire as a human. I am not terribly modest that way.

Rather than drop my standards and just go sit on some dong, like I'm plugging my nose to take my medicine, I'm weathering this dry spell by conditioning myself to deal with it. That's not to say it's been easy.


I'm entirely uncomfortable, ashamed, and frustrated with what's going on with me. This manifests itself in a physical form of sadness that vibrates deep down in my core, around my solar plexus. A few times, I've woken up in the middle of the night and shrieked like a psychopath while tasting my tears. Seeing affection in others puts me into a grouchy mood. It's ugly and it's consuming. Something is happening to me on a primal level and it doesn't feel good.

I think she may have hit a wall.

Quote:I decided I needed to think like a PR bitch and spin this bullshit. I want this to be an odyssey rather than a prison sentence. So I talked to a military wife, the hottest person I know, and a Buddhist monk to help make sense of this phase. Here's what I learned.


Find Platonic Cuddle Buddies

Quote:Celine, who didn't want me using her real name, is a woman in her late 30s who lives in Quebec City. She is married to a warrant officer who travels around the world at least once a month. Though Celine and her husband have opened up their relationship up in the past, they don't anymore. Four months is the longest she's gone without sex while her husband was on a mission.

Like me, she feels "empty" when she has to abstain, since she identifies as a touchy person who constantly needs affection. Aside from her toolbox of dildos–which she says every military wife (and women in general, I should hope) relies on—she fills that non-vagina void by platonically snuggling with friends and coworkers. If she's watching a movie with a bud, you sure as hell better bet that she'll be bumping her head into you, like a kitty demanding attention.

Quote:"I'm very fortunate to have friends who are like that too," she says. "I've got someone at work who's touchy as well and she'll come see me in the middle of the day if she's emotional, just to give me a hug, to release all that. I'm really lucky to have people I can share physical contact with, not necessarily just my husband."

Get Focused
Next, I talked to the hottest person I know, an actress who lives in LA. This stunning lady has been in big-budget films, gets free clothing from fancy designers, and appears on the covers of magazines. Her longest dry spell was one year. Hearing someone who is way hotter than you tell you her dry spell was longer than yours makes you feel exponentially better.

When I ask her how she dealt, she loosely quotes Lady Gaga: Women have the potential to lose their creativity through their vagina.

"It was the most productive time of my life," she tells me. "It was really focused. Penetration equals complication."

It's true that I've never been quite so focused in my life. Sometimes, I'll wake up at 4:45 AM, meditate, and get to work. That regimen started in the middle of my dry spell, partially inspired by the Buddhist way of life. Which brings me to...

Get Zen
Finally, I spoke to a Buddhist monk, since that's the main kind of vibe I've been attempting to channel throughout this crippling stretch of non-fun times. Balangoda Ananda Manju Sri, 32, is a student currently living in Costa Rica, where he studies Peace Education at the University of Peace. He was asked to join the monkhood nearly 20 years ago in Sri Lanka, after regularly spending time in temple as a child.

He explains to me that monks choose to abstain, not just from sex but from regular daily life, as a way to focus inward. The endless cycle of normal life—family, property, work, chores—distracts you from yourself.

I asked him about techniques to help deal with any natural urges (read: horniness), since he's chosen to refrain from sex his whole life.

"We were told to meditate on the bad side of our body," he says. "When you start thinking of your body, your parts one by one... if you see it inside out, you reflect on yourself."

Then, when you start to feel desire towards someone else, you are trained to do the same toward him or her. Instead of the fixating on perky breasts, a lusty gaze, or Grecian sculptured pecs, shift that focus to the ever-expanding beer belly, the sweaty balls, the bits of toilet paper stuck in and around on the butthole.

That way, you aren't allowing desire to overcome you.

That way, there is balance again.

I just... I don't know what else to say. What she doesn't understand is that regardless of anything you should ALWAYS be focused on yourself- not when you're not getting any.

This was taken about 2.5 years ago - maybe she's gotten better with age. There's more on her twitter but this is actually one of her more flattering photos.

Post: #2

I like the rule on this forum where you must post excerpts from the article, as this one isn't even worth the click.


This is once again demonstrating how "ashamed" women are for cold streaks that, quite frankly, barely even touch on a fifth of the length of a man's dry spell. For many guys, if you don't put yourself out there and actively approach women, you aren't ever having sex. Ever.


It seems like all of these chicks are whores nowadays. Geez. This other friend can't go 4 months without cheating on her man or just forcing the relationship to be open.


But most importantly who are these chicks who are leaving toilet paper in and around their bhole?????

Post: #3

Or maybe you've been banged out by so much cock that your twat is as broken as your soul.

Post: #4

Since women make little to no effort in the dating pool, whether they're enduring dry spells and the level of their standards are an almost perfect feedback loop. Men almost always initiate contact; the woman decides from that pool of suitors who is appropriate for sex.

Put another way, if a woman is not having sex over a long period of time, by definition the standard she has for selecting men is too high.

Standards do play into a man's likelihood of dry spell (and anyone who's had a dry spell knows standards are fluid) but because men are largely the active participants in the dating world (as opposed to women who are largely passive) a man experiencing a dry spell has not necessarily established standards that are too high.

Post: #5

(03-19-2015 10:33 PM)ManVsMachine Wrote:  But most importantly who are these chicks who are leaving toilet paper in and around their bhole?????

Come on people
Ass wiping technique

Post: #6

(03-19-2015 10:16 PM)CH-Toronto Wrote:  This was taken about 2.5 years ago - maybe she's gotten better with age. There's more on her twitter but this is actually one of her more flattering photos.

If that's what she looked like 2.5 years ago......yeah that probably explains the decline in men giving her attention. Also, her cover pic on Twitter is a cake that simply says "Diarrhea". Classy.

Post: #7

(03-19-2015 11:47 PM)SirTimothy Wrote:  

(03-19-2015 10:16 PM)CH-Toronto Wrote:  This was taken about 2.5 years ago - maybe she's gotten better with age. There's more on her twitter but this is actually one of her more flattering photos.

If that's what she looked like 2.5 years ago......yeah that probably explains the decline in men giving her attention. Also, her cover pic on Twitter is a cake that simply says "Diarrhea". Classy.

I think that's what they call her 'biopic', it's pretty accurate from the looks of it.

Post: #8

Four months a long dry spell you're having a laugh.

A buddy of mine has gone four years.

Post: #9

The pics posted here are not realistic - I found more down to earth ones:





Now let me translate that article from Hamsterese:

I fucked hot exciting men with Game in my 20s way above my pay-grade being a solid 6 in my 20s. I fucked plenty of male 7-9s being outgoing, slim and young with access to some celebs. But now having hit the wall and becoming more jaded and bitter in addition to that I only attract men I would have scoffed in my glory days.

It is the common misconception among the carousel riders who claim that they have stopped fucking hot Alphas in their end 20s out of some personal maturity. No - the truth is the Alphas have stopped wanting to fuck you.

And she still wants to bang them:

Quote:Maybe I find porn performers more compelling than real-life men? (I'm excitedly waving at you, James Deen!)

Lower your standard and initiate cat-lady protocol. Don't worry - there will always remain some men that want to fuck you - just not of the same quality you used to have - your table-dancing days are behind you.

Post: #10

Interesting that the woman who has abstained the longest besides the monk is a super attractive model. I feel like it's women in the 6-7 range who tend to rack up the highest notch counts. I'm guessing maybe the 8s and above realize their value and how not to piss it away indiscriminately. Also high quality women actually enjoy the way male/female relationships have been set up and benefit from them. This explains that why in feminist SJW circles you might see some cute girls (the 6s and 7s I'm talking about) yapping about being "sex positive" while banging through a horde of guys but you aren't going to see truly gorgeous females in these cliques.

Post: #11

(03-20-2015 05:22 PM)Wutang Wrote:  Interesting that the woman who has abstained the longest besides the monk is a super attractive model. I feel like it's women in the 6-7 range who tend to rack up the highest notch counts. I'm guessing maybe the 8s and above realize their value and how not to piss it away indiscriminately. Also high quality women actually enjoy the way male/female relationships have been set up and benefit from them. This explains that why in feminist SJW circles you might see some cute girls (the 6s and 7s I'm talking about) yapping about being "sex positive" while banging through a horde of guys but you aren't going to see truly gorgeous females in these cliques.

Extremely attractive women have plenty of high-value men wanting to commit to them in their younger days, although I remember at one study the number of notches increased only by some 10-20% on average going down from attractiveness level 9 to 6. So female 6s were the most promiscuous. The 5s were less so again, since they focused more on relationships again.

Post: #12

From what I observed partying in college most normal guys who party and have a social life and are single are lucky to get two notches a semester. I saw this even among some of the frat guys I knew. It really is crazy that to get the number of lays a professional athlete or well-known musician gets as a woman all you have to do is be above a 4 and simply show up to a party.

Post: #13

Honestly I'm in a bit of a dry spell at the moment and am seriously thinking about getting lit and going hogging for a slump buster. My damnable self respect wont let me though.

Post: #14

(03-21-2015 02:10 PM)Medic42 Wrote:  Honestly I'm in a bit of a dry spell at the moment and am seriously thinking about getting lit and going hogging for a slump buster. My damnable self respect wont let me though.

If you go hogging make sure you do the finger smell test on the warpig first. Nothing like that evil stank wafting up after you already stuck it in Makes you wish someone taught you to breakdance as a toddler by shoving you head first into a blender.

Post: #15

(03-20-2015 08:23 PM)Zelcorpion Wrote:  

(03-20-2015 05:22 PM)Wutang Wrote:  Interesting that the woman who has abstained the longest besides the monk is a super attractive model. I feel like it's women in the 6-7 range who tend to rack up the highest notch counts. I'm guessing maybe the 8s and above realize their value and how not to piss it away indiscriminately. Also high quality women actually enjoy the way male/female relationships have been set up and benefit from them. This explains that why in feminist SJW circles you might see some cute girls (the 6s and 7s I'm talking about) yapping about being "sex positive" while banging through a horde of guys but you aren't going to see truly gorgeous females in these cliques.

Extremely attractive women have plenty of high-value men wanting to commit to them in their younger days, although I remember at one study the number of notches increased only by some 10-20% on average going down from attractiveness level 9 to 6. So female 6s were the most promiscuous. The 5s were less so again, since they focused more on relationships again.

Most of the casual sex in the world is had by relatively attractive men with relatively mediocre women.

Post: #16

(03-21-2015 04:01 PM)Nalka Wrote:  

(03-21-2015 02:10 PM)Medic42 Wrote:  Honestly I'm in a bit of a dry spell at the moment and am seriously thinking about getting lit and going hogging for a slump buster. My damnable self respect wont let me though.

If you go hogging make sure you do the finger smell test on the warpig first. Nothing like that evil stank wafting up after you already stuck it in Makes you wish someone taught you to breakdance as a toddler by shoving you head first into a blender.

The seasoned warpig veteran knows that it is better to fuck a very ugly slim girl than a fat pretty one.

I myself rejected sometimes easy notches as some slim but butt-ugly lizards offered some good opportunities. Those are the notches I regret for not having taken - turn the bitch around and fuck her doggy-style - it's all good then. A fat girl however cannot be saved - I still shudder at some of the experiences I had with those.

Fat is every man's worst enemy - with ugliness in an athletic body I can live with for a ONS.

Post: #17

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You remind me. There's a tall, slender girl with a tight ass that I haven't made a move on because there's something up with her jaw. She's shy, especially because almost everyone is shorter than her, except me, and she probably finds all those guys unattractive.

Anyway, when I put my hands on her to dance, I can feel how great her body is. Supple young skin, no real adipose buildup, good musculature. Outstanding, absolutely outstanding ass. I'm going to have to make a move on it. I've hesitated because I turned away a 5 face with an 8 body (though her ass isn't as good as the above) because she was blowing up my phone constantly and I couldn't handle the constant attention from someone I didn't want a relationship with, and it reminded me of that situation.

(03-21-2015 04:47 PM)Zelcorpion Wrote:  

(03-21-2015 04:01 PM)Nalka Wrote:  

(03-21-2015 02:10 PM)Medic42 Wrote:  Honestly I'm in a bit of a dry spell at the moment and am seriously thinking about getting lit and going hogging for a slump buster. My damnable self respect wont let me though.

If you go hogging make sure you do the finger smell test on the warpig first. Nothing like that evil stank wafting up after you already stuck it in Makes you wish someone taught you to breakdance as a toddler by shoving you head first into a blender.

The seasoned warpig veteran knows that it is better to fuck a very ugly slim girl than a fat pretty one.

I myself rejected sometimes easy notches as some slim but butt-ugly lizards offered some good opportunities. Those are the notches I regret for not having taken - turn the bitch around and fuck her doggy-style - it's all good then. A fat girl however cannot be saved - I still shudder at some of the experiences I had with those.

Fat is every man's worst enemy - with ugliness in an athletic body I can live with for a ONS.

Post: #18

(03-21-2015 04:47 PM)Zelcorpion Wrote:  

(03-21-2015 04:01 PM)Nalka Wrote:  

(03-21-2015 02:10 PM)Medic42 Wrote:  Honestly I'm in a bit of a dry spell at the moment and am seriously thinking about getting lit and going hogging for a slump buster. My damnable self respect wont let me though.

If you go hogging make sure you do the finger smell test on the warpig first. Nothing like that evil stank wafting up after you already stuck it in Makes you wish someone taught you to breakdance as a toddler by shoving you head first into a blender.

The seasoned warpig veteran knows that it is better to fuck a very ugly slim girl than a fat pretty one.

I myself rejected sometimes easy notches as some slim but butt-ugly lizards offered some good opportunities. Those are the notches I regret for not having taken - turn the bitch around and fuck her doggy-style - it's all good then. A fat girl however cannot be saved - I still shudder at some of the experiences I had with those.

Fat is every man's worst enemy - with ugliness in an athletic body I can live with for a ONS.

I can't do either - well, unless your standards are such that by ugly you mean a 5?

Last year I went on a date with a girl I met online. Still a rather attractive face (I don't really care much for that 10 scale, but I'd probably say around a 7.5) but she was just too fat (second and hopefully last time I was foolish enough to go out with someone only showing their narrowly cropped face in their online photos). I'm okay with slightly excessive curves, but this was way too much.

As far as slim girls go I'm usually okay with a 5 for a ONS - even if I'm sober. But less attractive than that she can have the body of lingerie model and I'd still be extraordinarily reluctant to fuck her. Unless she agreed to no kissing and from behind only, but I imagine even ugly girls might balk at such a suggestion.

I'd rather bang a 40 year old 6 with a decent body than a 20 year old version of either of the two above.

Post: #19

(03-21-2015 05:10 PM)MikeS Wrote:  As far as slim girls go I'm usually okay with a 5 for a ONS - even if I'm sober. But less attractive than that she can have the body of lingerie model and I'd still be extraordinarily reluctant to fuck her. Unless she agreed to no kissing and from behind only, but I imagine even ugly girls might balk at such a suggestion.

I'd rather bang a 40 year old 6 with a decent body than a 20 year old version of either of the two above.

I am talking about literally no other options left. It reminds me of a girl I sat with in a train once. She was 21, slim and tall, but had a 4 face. She was quite open and I could have made my move, but did not care about her and it was clear to her. I should have fucked her in the toilet.

Formerly pretty cougars are fine too, but I don't approach them ever really. When they fall into my lap, then I make the move if nothing better is available - least amount of Game expended.

But I guess it all depends on where I am currently. So far I still get plenty of IOIs from Polish 6-7s, so that I don't have to dumpster-dive here. I just came back from the supermarket and flirted with a group of young students buying some alcohol for the pre-party. I am 40 and they were 20 - that's an age difference I like. But I am not too proud to refuse pussy anymore. I fuck what life gives me - the more juicy pieces I have to usually earn the hard way. I have stopped refusing 40 year old cougars who slipped me their numbers, but my kryptonite is fat. That is something that my rod of steel won't accept.

I have met too many men with better looks and Game who fucked much worse than I have to remain with much pride in that field. If they can fuck that, then who am I to say that this pussy is beneath me?

Post: #20

(03-21-2015 05:35 PM)Zelcorpion Wrote:  

(03-21-2015 05:10 PM)MikeS Wrote:  As far as slim girls go I'm usually okay with a 5 for a ONS - even if I'm sober. But less attractive than that she can have the body of lingerie model and I'd still be extraordinarily reluctant to fuck her. Unless she agreed to no kissing and from behind only, but I imagine even ugly girls might balk at such a suggestion.

I'd rather bang a 40 year old 6 with a decent body than a 20 year old version of either of the two above.

I am talking about literally no other options left...

Well, since my early 30s (38 now) I've taken the pragmatic cash for services approach during dry spells. I find that getting laid at least 3-4 times a month (escorts are dirt cheap where I live now, never felt like paying for it more than once a month back in my native country) is better for my mental health than dry spells lasting sometimes several months. I had enough of those when I was younger.

But for men who don't feel comfortable with or don't really have that option - which seems like the majority of red pill guys if the common comments on the subject are anything to go by - I get your point.

Post: #21

(03-21-2015 04:01 PM)Nalka Wrote:  If you go hogging make sure you do the finger smell test on the warpig first. Nothing like that evil stank wafting up after you already stuck it in Makes you wish someone taught you to breakdance as a toddler by shoving you head first into a blender.

I think that just put my thirst back in check, I hadn't considered the odor...