Post: #1

Ok where to begin. I first need to say that I am in a great relationship that I don’t want to fuck up and I am entirely against “shitting where I eat”. I live in an American city (exact location irrelevant) and I met this Columbian girl at my gym in which we have briefly chatted for a couple weeks. She is a smokin hot 29 yr old milf with amazing body and nice tits. She moved to the states a couple years ago and has pretty good english and is taking english classes. Id rate her a 9 and not a 10 because she is a little short and has kids. My dick overcomes my better judgement and I end up giving her my number and tell her to text me sometime to go out. She is all into fitness and loves to smoke weed with me, plus and plus. It appears she doesn’t really have much of a life outside of her kids, gym, and marijuana lol, much of the reason is her family is all back in Columbia. The first night we went to a sushi bar and I drank beer (really wanted sake but didn’t order because getting drunk by yourself on a first date is kinda weird) and she drank lemonade because she doesn’t drink. My game was on and she was all into me and we ended up making out and smoking weed. I play it cool and act like I don’t care (which I really don’t) if she wants to hang out again and don’t text her. She texts me the next day asking me to a movie tomorrow night and I agree. She wants to arrive early and I knew it was because she wants to talk some to get to know me more and smoke weed before the movie, which of course as predicted we do. She is wearing this skimpy little black dress and we are making out in the parking lot before the movie and I instinctively caress her ass (as most guys do in this situation) while we are kissing and she got all weird on me saying it was disrespectful because I grabbed her ass. I was like ok I didn’t know that was disrespectful? I end up recovering from this nicely. She is very old fashioned type Columbian girl so I figure this is just a cultural thing and because we are in public? Oddly she is all over me the entire night kissing, rubbing, holding, etc. and continues after the movie into the parking lot. Side note: before we go into the movie we have a “what are you looking for” discussion and she comments she does not want sex or a serious relationship. So anyway after the movie, she mentions her kids are at her house and have a babysitter and she doesn’t need to go home so we can hang out. So we chill in the parking lot for a bit longer and I keep trying to leave but she gives me this don’t leave me look and keeps asking me why I am leaving, so I stay. She continues rubbing her body all over me, giving me this please fuck me look, moaning etc while I do enjoy her big tits up against me. Again, I cannot ask her to come over…not an option..to risky. I finally had enough teasing so I finally say I gotta go for real and she gives me this look like...why are you not asking me to your house? I leave anyway and debated on texting her but I call it a night because I just don’t know how to bang this one. We cant go to her house cause her kids. I suppose I can try and get her in my car to fuck but don’t think she would be into that because its “disrespectful”. She wants to hang out Friday night and I think she mentioned her kids will be with her dad. She also mentions she would like to take me to the airport next week for my flight to Philippines in the morning which im taking as a red flag that she wants to hang out all night before I fly out. She also keeps bringing up if I will be meeting girls when I am in the Philippines in a jealous manner (she is obviously not an idiot). Anyways, What are some ideas in which I can get her to a nice comfortable spot that I can get her pussy so wet she cant resist my cock? I don’t know if asking to go to a hotel or recommending we go to her house are options? Will this scare them broad away? Its hard to read whether she is wanting to fuck or is she really trying to get a boyfriend for a potential father figure? Although getting this Columbian flag would be awesome, its not a big deal since I’m about to fly to Manila where I won’t have to think so much to get some damn pussy..

Post: #2

Okay this is where you need to learn to lie.

"My house is being fumigated for termites / being remodeled. I am staying in a hotel nearby, come back and have a joint with me and we can relax."

Done.

Game 101. Have a plan of where you will bring her back to have sex.

Logistics are real. So are blue balls.

Have you bothered reading this forum yet? Movie dates are terrible ideas. Ask her to join you to go out and play pool or grab some appetizers and go for a walk conveniently next to the hotel room you can book on standby. She was ready for sex, you didn't give her the chance to have it.

This belongs in the Super Newbie subforum of the Newbie Forum.

Post: #3

Stay at a hotel so 'you will be on time for your flight'. Have her come over the night before you fly out. That is about it really.

Tell your regular girl that you flight has been rescheduled to the day before.

Post: #4

First of all as a forum newbie here are two pieces of advice:

1.) Use paragraphs, and

2.) It's Colombia(n), not Columbia(n)

And as the other guys have pointed out, logistics are absolutely crucial. A car will do, but not for the long term.

Post: #5

Thank you Atlantic, I like this idea for my final night in my home city. Ill use Travesty's house remodel for tonight when I see her at the gym when she asks to hang out again tomorrow. However I hope she offers her place tomorrow so I dont got to fork over the 70 bucks for a bed.
Thanks for the correction on Colombia, she has actually corrected me on this mistake via text msg already.

Post: #6

As the others have said logistics is the key. Read the stuff in this forum and you will see logistics as one of the most important issues over and over.

Also being married and trying to handle these types of issues I can understand where you are coming from. You need to be careful and discrete. Having said that if you are just looking for a bang I would say lying to her about being married is important. Also you are already shitting where you eat since you met her at your gym which is most likely linked to your own personal life and most likely close to where you live. The blow back from this woman when she finds out can be severe. No pussy is worth fucking up your family life.

If you can get her to a private place there is a good chance that bullshit about being disrespectful will possibly go away. And don't apologize about grabbing her ass and making out with her. She expects you to do this. She knows exactly what she is doing and she is the one in charge. It is her frame you are in now and she is leading. Look at it so far.

She is the one that is texting you, and initiating rubbing all over you. She is the one that asked you out for a movie date. She is the one that is trying to get back to your place. My instinct is that she is looking for a provider and has tagged you to be it. Especially if she does not think that you are already married.

You have to show your masculinity and lead the interaction. You need to decide where you go and you need to have a plan, and a place to make it happen. You need to be escalating, and not responding to her requests or manipulations.

Couple of things I would do if you want to carry on with her.

1. Lead and be masculine. This will turn her on more than anything. Since you have been following in her frame she will most likely shit test you and that may take some time to get her in your frame. You will have to hang tough and it might not be worth it. I have been in this situation and it takes time to turn it around. To go from beta to alpha mid stream.
2. Make sure she knows that you will be meeting women in the Philippines and expect a negative reaction. This will be a shit test. Dont say I am going to the Philippines to fuck lots of women. But let her know in a round about way how much the Filipinas love American men and how much your friends are getting hit on there. Dont lay it on too thick but she needs to know in a subtle way. Also if there are other women you can flirt with locally so she finds out about this is great. A good trick is to be showing her pictures on your phone and have one of you and some cute chick that "accidentally" pops up. That should get her attention. Read up on Rollo's articles on Spinning Plates.
3. Logistically look up Airbnb in your area. They give you the option of renting rooms or entire apartments for a night, at really good prices. Usually better than a hotel. Then you can use this as your "home" when lying about your living arrangements.
4. And have this close to where your next date is going to be. And go for drinks not dinner or a movie. If you want to watch a movie do that in your room in private she will know what this means. If she is interested she will most likely agree. But right now she has you on the slow track to being her provider before she lets go of the pussy. lol

Finally I want to reiterate that if she knows things like your real name then she can totally fuck up your life. Best bet is to chalk this up to learning about game. And move on to someone else where you can give them a fake name and fake phone number and they don't work out at your gym. I would think about a smooth painless way to back out of this since you have not fucked her yet. And after fucking her it could trigger all kinds of crazy. You could tell her something like you were split up with your LTR but decided to get back together or something like that. And ease her out of the picture.

PS: You say she is 29YO MILF with kids and she is a 9? Wow that must be some piece of ass.

Post: #7

A day or two before, make her agree to go with you to a chic hotel bar as a date so that she knows beforehand that there's a possibility that you may have a room reserved and she may go up with you after. Mention that it has a nice view of the town and yal can blaze up on the balcony, since you both are weed heads (no judgment here ). Once she agrees, reserve a room with said balcony (yes, women are flaky but what are your other options to bang this fantastic milf at this point). If she objects and you can't convince her to go to a hotel bar with you just go to plan B which is whatever another poster in this thread said. Emphasize cool shit about the bar: how you've always wanted to check it out, how she can wear her favorite dress, the dim lighting, the grandfather clock, etc.

On the day of the date, run comfort game for a while with banter at the bar then when the time is right say, "Let's go blaze up." Grab her by the hand and walk her to your balcony so yal can smoke. Be playful if she calls you out on your bullshit and pass her shit tests. Kino, escalate, bang.

Hopefully, you're in a city with decent hotel infrastructure. Good luck and update us with what happens. I haven't got a Colombian flag myself.