Post: #1

I've been so beta lately.

Anyways, I like this girl at my university and we run in the same social circle/school club. I already banged her housemate and I think she instinctively knew that I did. I stopped hanging out with her housemate, who I think is a super cool gal, because I have been developing strong feelings for the girl I wanted.

I get IOIs from the girl I liked, for example, I can see from the corner of my eye that she is checking me out, if I ask for a favor, she usually does it. When we first got to know each other, at a burger joint that my school club is at, she's an officer for that club by the way, she sat next to me, and she put her right hand up to the back of her ear and was revealing her wrist to me, I can just tell at that moment she was attracted to me, physically at least. And I think other girls are physically attracted to me in the club as well, I can sense and observe the IOIs.

This is where it gets sour. I tell her I like her over FB (beta), I had a moment of weakness, she is completely caught off guard because she didn't even think I liked her. She told me I never hit on her. I was super beta around her and I've been going through a rough patch in my life these past couple of months, so I haven't exactly been super suave. She rejected me, said she wasn't attracted to me, likes being single, is busy with school, etc. She is nice enough to say hi to me in public and even try to talk with me.

I've been in a good mood lately and I think my social circle can feel the good vibes emitting from me. I'm going up to people to chat and I'm just trying to have more fun in life. I'm teasing people, playfully, of course. I'm doing kino on everyone, especially the gay dudes, and they love it. LOL. I've had 2 dates since I was rejected, so I've been a busy bee.

I wanted to take up dancing again (bboying) and increase my presence within our social circle, so I stick out as the alpha. My social circle is filled with betas, so it isn't hard for me to do so. So my strategy is to show this chick the real me; the suave, charismatic, crack jokes, tease, kino, etc.

Do I still have a shot with her? What should I do? We messaged each other a few times since the rejection, me initiating it, and the last message from her said if I wanted to talk to her about anything else, we can try to set that up. Perhaps she wants to talk in person to ease the tension between her and I, no? Of course, I've been approaching other girls but this girl is stuck in my system. I at least want to give it another shot before I charge her to the game.

PS: Oh, is blogging a good way to DHV? Especially if I ask certain social circle members to peer review my blogs, and hopefully they can hype it up to others for me.

Post: #2

Stop using internet and texting. Talk to her in person and be a man.

Post: #3

(03-10-2015 06:13 PM)Alche Wrote:  Stop using internet and texting. Talk to her in person and be a man.

I agree. That has been one of my weakest points this whole time. My friend told me just to talk to her in person only and avoid texting/FB messages.

Post: #4

I told a girl that I liked her online. A girl I may have otherwise banged.

You have oneitis and you're too young for that shit.

Only remedy is: stop wasting time thinking about her and go out and approach more girls.

Report back when you have done at least one cold approach. It'll make you feel better and/or do wonders for taking focus away from "this" girl.

Post: #5

There's no such things as second chances when it comes to women you approach unless she comes to you. There's a good chance you are being betas you ever don't move on and think about opening a girl you failed at getting.

Exclusion: restart texts are okay 4-5 months later though for girls who turn you down and 1-2 months for girls you couldn't set up dates with.

Post: #6

FB is fucking gay.

G-A-Y

gay!

Why? why?

Post: #7

(03-12-2015 12:34 AM)hwuzhere Wrote:  There's no such things as second chances when it comes to women you approach unless she comes to you. There's a good chance you are being beta if you ever don't move on and think about opening a girl you failed at getting.

Exclusion: restart texts are okay 4-5 months later though for girls who turn you down and 1-2 months for girls you couldn't set up dates with.

Fixed being on my phone causes too many grammar mistakes.

Post: #8

I cold approached at a cafe, went well, it was an instadate. Quality wasn't amazing, she was about a 7.

The girl and I messaged each other again on FB so we can meet up and talk in person, but after finals. It's awkward when we see each other and I think it is best to just talk things out. I told her we wouldn't get along very well in a relationship and it was best to stay friends. Friend told me to say that and just treat her like a bratty little sister.

My probability of getting with her is small, but I still want to make one final run at her, but I will be spitting game at other girls.

Post: #9

^ I'm glad you did an approach. It's not easy but keep going.

As far as the other girl, what you did wasn't exactly a Hail Mary. You are meeting her for a "talk." Not good. And she specifically wants to "talk things out." Even worse.

That means that she's giving you an open invitation to a place called the "friendzone." I have been there enough times to know that's what you're headed for.

I'll let some other guys comment on what to do instead because they're better at that.

That being said, it will be along the lines of something like .. Sending her pictures of you with other girls, having her see you with other girls and/or sending her a dick pic preferably of a porn star (kidding on last one). What these things do is show her you are unmoved by her female hamster and/or "shit test."

Post: #10

Thanks for the words of wisdom, Cobra.

Hey, I took a picture with these two Thai birds at a Bangkok bar during 2015 NYE. I look pretty good in it and they're all up against me. Should I use that photo as my FB profile pic or will that give me a negative rep with that girl I like and all the other college beezies i'm spitting game at?

Post: #11

^ Seems like a picture that would display high value to me.

I'm pretty sure I would do it in your shoes.

Post: #12

It's harsh but as you've said yourself you've been Beta and needy and nothing kills attraction faster. This woman has placed you in the friend zone, from which there is no escape.

Go date other women, fuck other women, forget her and move on, there is nothing truly special about any individual woman. Next her and move on...,