Post: #1

Posting it here because I've no experience playing it slow. Always a blitzkrieg commander.

Went out on a first date with this beautiful girl on Wed. Country girl type, met a few times before at school but never bothered to talk cause I had shitty inner game back then. When I saw her again she got me hooked at the "I was thinking about you the other night. You were the first one who taught me how to dance" Impressive given how entitled most pretty girls are.

Date went extremely well and she was very pleasant/feminine. Was late for 5 min, call ahead of time and wouldn't stop appoligizing. Laugh the entire night and followed my lead.

Toward the end I kissed her and we made out on the dance floor, textbook dance game I always pull. I then proposed to venue change to my place but she said she would really want to take it slow and hoped it wouldn't bother me. I insisted a bit but then conceded. No need to push there. Before we parted ways I pinned her against the wall and we made out passionately again (I pulled away first)

It's really pleasant but I've had far too many girls disappearing after a good first date to get complacent.

Texted her a bit this morning , got some good responses. Now here's the thing: I should see her again on Wed at class but that's no guarantee. She is not here for the weekend but I plan to ask her out again next Tues or Wed.

When she says she wanna take it slow like that, what's the general game plan? Should I text/call during the weekend to see how her day's going/setting up 2nd date? Is it ok to show that I also like her? Do I need to tone down trying to get her back to my place all the time, lest it scares her away? Usually wouldn't bother with any of that, but I'm willing to run it this time

This is tricky because she is leaving the country around April and won't be back till July, and if I don't bang before that I can kiss her round ass goodbye.

Man I just have some itchy feeling whenever I have to go for second date because usually the 2nd date never comes.

Post: #2

One possible strategy could be to verbally agree to take it slow, but actually treat her just like any other girl. Then if you end up hooking up, act just as surprised and say it just happened.

Post: #3

(03-05-2015 08:54 PM)Dalaran1991 Wrote:  This is tricky because she is leaving the country around April and won't be back till July, and if I don't bang before that I can kiss her round ass goodbye.

I get the feeling she wants to 'take it slow' so she doesn't have to have a connection with you before she leaves. This is so she has guilt-free sex when she's going around the world.

Post: #4

find a way to get her to your place before the end of the night. "forget" your jacket, etc. have her get comfortable with the place first.

she wanted to "take it slow" because it felt too planned probably. make it sexual before the topic even gets up. less making out - more resting her hand on your lap, etc.

make the vibe less relationship, and more fun.

every scenario unique - but from the sounds of it, you get the basic rules. I would say from your post you follow the rules almost too much. make it a little more wild, don't worry about what the right thing to do is. if you lose her, oh well.

I think the biggest obstacle you are giving yourself are these artificial deadlines. you should not be thinking long term with a girl you haven't even banged yet.

get more options on the table, and don't concern yourself so much with getting one girl. the more you think about it - the more planned you will seem, the less animalistic and in the moment - and the less likely you'll even get her after all.

Post: #5

(03-06-2015 01:10 AM)godofwar Wrote:  every scenario unique - but from the sounds of it, you get the basic rules. I would say from your post you follow the rules almost too much. make it a little more wild, don't worry about what the right thing to do is. if you lose her, oh well.

I think the biggest obstacle you are giving yourself are these artificial deadlines. you should not be thinking long term with a girl you haven't even banged yet.

get more options on the table, and don't concern yourself so much with getting one girl. the more you think about it - the more planned you will seem, the less animalistic and in the moment - and the less likely you'll even get her after all.

Thanks. I'm not a total newbie to game and I've had my fair share of dates getting fucked up because I didn't follow the plan. Every time I thought I could change the plan a bit I fucked up, every time I followed it I get at least a kiss.

Of course, my plan usually allows for a lot of flexibility. I always go on dancing date that is a lot of fun. Then a "let's grab a drink at my place" venue change.

You are correct that I'm unconciously trying to limit myself to artificial deadline. Maybe should just be more "in the moment"

Post: #6

(03-05-2015 08:59 PM)Repo Wrote:  One possible strategy could be to verbally agree to take it slow, but actually treat her just like any other girl. Then if you end up hooking up, act just as surprised and say it just happened.

This advice is primo. Helps having a couple other coals on the fire to be able to treat her 'like any other girl'

You diagnosed this correctly; she knows there will be plenty of waiting arms for her to fall into during her international travels and the last thing she wants is to have any lingering attachment to some guy back home.

So you have to ramp up the heat, and stoke her fire. Downplay any neediness, or possible relationship vibe. Encourage her to live in the moment with your actions

Ironically enough, I found myself in a similar situation recently with a girl who had a long trip to India coming up. We were hanging out in my hotel room, drinking and as I was trying to close the deal I ran headfirst into some LMR. With the notch hanging in the balance I was able run some comfort game by using her trip to my advantage, reminding her the rarity of the occasion (us hanging out & her having a chance to sleep with me right now w/o strings)

Maybe she just wants to know there won't be any strings or you won't catch feelings

Post: #7

(03-05-2015 08:59 PM)Repo Wrote:  One possible strategy could be to verbally agree to take it slow, but actually treat her just like any other girl. Then if you end up hooking up, act just as surprised and say it just happened.

OP - ^^ this.

I finished up ~a month ago with a FOB Asian chick. She goes to church and flat out said "Sex only for husband." on our first date.

I was bouncing her off my cock like a plastic fuck doll on our second date. No ring necessary.

Say whatever you need to and escalate as you normally would.

Post: #8

(03-06-2015 10:55 AM)YossariansRight Wrote:  I was bouncing her off my cock like a plastic fuck doll

I gotta wonder where this (hilarious) simile comes from, using a plastic fuck doll or watching fuck doll porn -- which is worse?

Post: #9

(03-06-2015 11:03 AM)Rutting Elephant Wrote:  

(03-06-2015 10:55 AM)YossariansRight Wrote:  I was bouncing her off my cock like a plastic fuck doll

I gotta wonder where this (hilarious) simile comes from, using a plastic fuck doll or watching fuck doll porn -- which is worse?

BWHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I've never used a plastic fuck doll, I might have seen a porn flick of it though.

I'm a fucking slob and I've learned to embrace it.

Post: #10

Try this:

Meet up with her this weekend. Meet up in the city and you make it impossible for you both to have sex on that date on purpose. Don't bluntly tell her that of course. Take her out and don't try to pull. Mention some kind of excuse like lack of time or busy schedule or important meeting after that date or whatever. The point is to convey that sex can't happen. Game game game and build huge amount of comfort and sexual tension. She should have great time, feel no pressure that something can happen and leave wanting more. Then set up another meeting on Tuesday with perfect logistics set and reap what you sow [but if it turns out she's ready to bang on weekend, maybe suggesting to go to her place then fucking go go go of course].

That's "3 dates with no LMR bang at the end" slow game. You amp up sexual tension at first and go for the kill on 3rd date at its peak.

Beware: The girl has to know that nothing can happen at first because of unfavorable circumstances, not because that you don't know how make it happen. There's a BIG difference. If she senses that the problem is you [not the circumstances] she will label you as a wimp. I know it's obvious but it's crucial factor in slow game.

Post: #11

(03-07-2015 06:47 AM)XXL Wrote:  Try this:

Meet up with her this weekend. Meet up in the city and you make it impossible for you both to have sex on that date on purpose. Don't bluntly tell her that of course. Take her out and don't try to pull. Mention some kind of excuse like lack of time or busy schedule or important meeting after that date or whatever. The point is to convey that sex can't happen. Game game game and build huge amount of comfort and sexual tension. She should have great time, feel no pressure that something can happen and leave wanting more. Then set up another meeting on Tuesday with perfect logistics set and reap what you sow [but if it turns out she's ready to bang on weekend, maybe suggesting to go to her place then fucking go go go of course].

That's "3 dates with no LMR bang at the end" slow game. You amp up sexual tension to the max by creating bad logistics on purpose and go or the kill on 3rd date when she's ready.

Beware: The girl has to know that nothing can happen at first because of unfavorable circumstances, not because that you don't know how make it happen. There's a BIG difference. If she senses that the problem is you [not the circumstances] she will label you as a wimp. I know it's obvious but it's crucial factor in slow game.

Hey now that's some cool new stuff. She's not around the weekend since she doesn't live in the city, but I get the idea and can try something similar. Thanks for the tips.

Post: #12

Well the girl disappeared. I'm not surprised.

Friday she was still asking me how my training was, but then stopped replying all of a sudden. Sunday I sent a baiting text "they put this song at the dance venue last night, magnificient (her favorite song link). How's your weekend?" Still silence.

Girls in Paris are about as predictable as the weather here.

If I see her again I'll remember well to implement the advice here.

Post: #13

Abundance bro, abundance.