Post: #1

I have run into a lot of problems with texting here in the Phils. This post is rather specific to countries where English is not the native language, and therefore texts are very prone to misunderstading, doomed to misunderstanding, actually.

There have been at least three or four girls where I was regularly fucking them and they start doing "shit tests", or displaying insecurity via text.

What's partly my fault is I let it get to me and just tell them to leave me alone. But what's not my fault is noticing the messages and it eats my time, time that would be better spent cold opening.

I know an easy answer is not to answer their texts at all but that seems to cause other shitstorms with them, they have a presumption texts will be answered and escalate when I don't answer.

I even tried with my last one telling her "no texting when we're not together. I am only into real life meetings."

Sure enough ( Filipinos do not remember longer than one or two days what they say) she started texting me about finding out my real name , trying to get me come meet her family, all stuff I have no interest in until and unless she's proven non-flaky for three months or more. Interestingly "flake" and "flaky" are adjectives that are not known to most Filipinos. It's because almost all of them are.

You can see the results below, she stuck to it for a couple days then started shit testing. The rest of the unpleasant conversation is not pictured, but she simply started being accusatory because I wouldn't respond, and I finished it off by telling her to look for someone else and blocked her.

We really got on well in person which is the disappointing part. I think she had a suspicious sister (who depended on my girl for free child care) who got her started "You don't even know his NAME?!" Surprise, surprise. I have met a couple unmarried girls who are basically house servants for a dominant sister which is a whole other story.

Testing just tends to turn negative because people, especially non-native English speakers tend to misinterpret things negatively, and clarifying doesn't work because they misinterpret that too, and it you end up wasting hours alienating someone you got along with fine in person!

I'm going to try right from arranging the first meeting saying "I have texting disabled on my phone because I am only interested in real life meetings. If you want to talk, call and hang up and I'll call you back or we can have scheduled calls. They are so unbelievably flaky I'm going to make them sign a contract and keep it so there's no later discussion.

I know it's extreme, but it is fucking poison with these insecure girls who read everything wrong and just whine and whine and whine no matter what I say.

The only alternative I can think of is saying idiotic soothing things like "Everything will be fine."
"Don't worry it will work out when I see you."
"I see what you're saying."
"Maybe you're right"

And just have enough of a library of non-statements (called "fogging") to continue indefinitely saying nothing.

But it wastes SO MUCH FUCKING TIME... I've wasted hours with chicks texting and it turned out they flake and it is SO pointless.

Maybe it would be better to lie and say there's something wrong with my text program. I could even send them a few gibberish texts of non-ascii characters and then when I talk to them say "Oh I wish I could fix that I don't like texting much anyway."

That would avoid the philosophical discussion which = more wasted time.

Post: #2

(02-12-2015 12:17 AM)iknowexactly Wrote:  That would avoid the philosophical discussion which = more wasted time.

Maybe I'm misinterpreting this, but it seems like you're trying to hold them to a standard regarding communication and that only works well with men.

Instead of a long dialogue about how you guys agreed to not dialogue over text, why not just continue ignoring her texts?

That or give complete alpha short ambiguous answers such as "oh" "k" and "hmm."

Post: #3

I understand. I used to tell the phils the same thing, "I don't text message" then I started getting phone calls all night long on my cell, I'm talking about 20 a night. I had to buy a separate flip phone, give out that number, and only turn it on when I wanted to meet someone.

I think you're doing the right thing with text message. Never let a woman live rent free in your mind. That's my motto.

Post: #4

Welcome to harem management.

There's nothing Pinay about your notches wanting to talk to you after you bang them.
If you did a good job, they want more.

Here's part of the player's dilemma

If you play the good guy before sex, you won't get sex.
If you play the bad guy before sex, you'll get sex.

If you play the good guy after sex, she'll get attached for a good long while.
If you play the bad guy after sex, she'll offer up her soul.

Once you set the wheel into motion it's rarely up to you.

Much like once you lose your hold over her, you can't spark it again, because it's up to HER.

WIA

Post: #5

(02-12-2015 12:17 AM)iknowexactly Wrote:  I have run into a lot of problems with texting here in the Phils. This post is rather specific to countries where English is not the native language, and therefore texts are very prone to misunderstading, doomed to misunderstanding, actually.

This makes it easy to buy time in response to any hard questions by saying things like "we are from different cultures it is easy for us to misunderstand each other."

(02-12-2015 12:17 AM)iknowexactly Wrote:  There have been at least three or four girls where I was regularly fucking them and they start doing "shit tests", or displaying insecurity via text.

It is the phils. That is what they do unless you spend every minute with them!

(02-12-2015 12:17 AM)iknowexactly Wrote:  I know an easy answer is not to answer their texts at all but that seems to cause other shitstorms with them, they have a presumption texts will be answered and escalate when I don't answer.

It is much easier to respond every once in a while with a nice guy excuse like
"Sorry, I am in a meeting. <cute emoji?>". I recommend using an app that lets you send these with one click.

(02-12-2015 12:17 AM)iknowexactly Wrote:  I even tried with my last one telling her "no texting when we're not together. I am only into real life meetings."

Honestly, I think it would be very hard to succeed with this.

(02-12-2015 12:17 AM)iknowexactly Wrote:  Sure enough ( Filipinos do not remember longer than one or two days what they say) she started texting me about finding out my real name , trying to get me come meet her family, all stuff I have no interest in until and unless she's proven non-flaky for three months or more. Interestingly "flake" and "flaky" are adjectives that are not known to most Filipinos. It's because almost all of them are.

I think you are making things harder for yourself by not telling them your name. Just tell them a fake name. Tell them anything they want to know about you but lie or be ambiguous. If she wants you to meet the family agree but come up with an excuse.

(02-12-2015 12:17 AM)iknowexactly Wrote:  Testing just tends to turn negative because people, especially non-native English speakers tend to misinterpret things negatively, and clarifying doesn't work because they misinterpret that too, and it you end up wasting hours alienating someone you got along with fine in person!

Yes, don't try and explain anything over text.

(02-12-2015 12:17 AM)iknowexactly Wrote:  I'm going to try right from arranging the first meeting saying "I have texting disabled on my phone because I am only interested in real life meetings. If you want to talk, call and hang up and I'll call you back or we can have scheduled calls. They are so unbelievably flaky I'm going to make them sign a contract and keep it so there's no later discussion.

Nice out of the box thinking, but I think they will think you are a nut job.

The only alternative I can think of is saying idiotic soothing things like "Everything will be fine." <-- this is OK
"Don't worry it will work out when I see you." <-- this is OK
"I see what you're saying." <-- why would you agree with their batshit crazy texts?
"Maybe you're right" <-- same as above

Always use emoji to lighten the texting

(02-12-2015 12:17 AM)iknowexactly Wrote:  But it wastes SO MUCH FUCKING TIME... I've wasted hours with chicks texting and it turned out they flake and it is SO pointless.

It is ok to wait an hour or more to respond.
When you finally reply you don't need to respond to her later crazy texts. Just respond to her first text before she went crazy. This resets the conversation to the baseline.

(02-12-2015 12:17 AM)iknowexactly Wrote:  Maybe it would be better to lie and say there's something wrong with my text program. I could even send them a few gibberish texts of non-ascii characters and then when I talk to them say "Oh I wish I could fix that I don't like texting much anyway."

I like this good idea!
But I would not take it as far.
Your texting could be messed up only when you want it to be.