Post: #1

I ask because I've got a date coming up at the weekend and it's something I've got niggling in the back of my mind.

At the moment my testosterone levels are climbing due to a combination of working out and NoFap (or should I say the latest round of).
I'm concerned that when I'm doing the first round of banging, I'll let go too soon and set a bad precedent for the rest of the evening.

I know the methods for lasting longer, like breathing technique, mental envisioning, numbing condoms and pinching certain places.
I'm just wondering if there's something I'm missing.
Something I haven't factored in or that I'm not aware of. An unknown unknown so to speak.
Or maybe I'm just fixating too much and should focus more on the entire evening.
Thoughts?

Post: #2

You're fixating on it too much, you shouldn't be that worried if she's fucking you.

If you're really that worried:

-Why don't you use more foreplay, get her off a few times before hand?
-Why don't you bang her multiple times ? If you have higher test levels this shouldn't be a problem, especially a new lay. Nothing gets me harder and makes me last longer than round 2 with a new lay.
-Bring in toys to play with, whips, cuggs, binders, chokers, etc. They'll distract your focus on lasting longer (which can be counter productive).
-Booze helps with whiskey dick
-Be confident in yourself and tell her "oh don't think I'm done with you yet, don't bother getting dressed"

The list goes on and one, sometimes it's not the action and when it happens, it's HOW you react to it. I had a guy PM and party of his message said he freaked/embarassed because he came so quickly and kept apologizing to her - worst move ever.

The more you focus on this, the bigger issue it'll become.

Post: #3

Kaotic is right; it's all about frame.

If you know you're going to cum quickly and can't be bothered to tend to her first, pref-frame her as you're fucking her by telling her you're gonna fuck her over and over all night.

In my opinion girls like it if they think they are so sexy that they make you cum quickly; as long as it's congruent with your frame.

Post: #4

(01-26-2015 01:31 PM)Hardy Daytona Wrote:  I ask because I've got a date coming up at the weekend and it's something I've got niggling in the back of my mind.

At the moment my testosterone levels are climbing due to a combination of working out and NoFap (or should I say the latest round of).
I'm concerned that when I'm doing the first round of banging, I'll let go too soon and set a bad precedent for the rest of the evening.

I know the methods for lasting longer, like breathing technique, mental envisioning, numbing condoms and pinching certain places.
I'm just wondering if there's something I'm missing.
Something I haven't factored in or that I'm not aware of. An unknown unknown so to speak.
Or maybe I'm just fixating too much and should focus more on the entire evening.
Thoughts?

Become selfish with your lays.

This summer I had a lot of random lays, and I thought about it more deeply, why the fuck do I care? Most of these broads I'm never going to see again, and the one's I'm going to see, well I must have had enough going for me for them to sleep with me in the first place.

If they have an issue with that, then move on. The fact your fucked her in the first place should keep you happy. The more you worry about performance the more it will be an issue. Enjoy sex, and be selfish about it. This is your dick, do what your dick wants, not what her pussy wants, because if you do what her pussy wants, you'll always be inadequate to her.

Post: #5

You're right, of course, about my fixation. I'm just quibbling over minutia.
Keep it simple.
Extend foreplay and maintain frame.
Thanks for the advice.

It's a little tough not to get hung up on the details - I've got this thing planned like a military operation.
A good workout on Friday should help clear my mind.

Post: #6

Is she a sure thing? Because if she isn't you don't need to think about this just focus on having a good time and trying to bang her.

Also if you only fuck her for 30 seconds, just make sure you fuck her as hard as you can for them 30 seconds.

Just make sure YOU enjoy yourself

Post: #7

Just a little anecdote to complement what everyone's saying:

Two weeks ago, I met a new girl at her place in the daytime. We got naked and... I couldn't get hard. I remember reading somewhere that the worst thing you can do is panic or apologize ... best bet is to just shrug and be like, "Well this sucks, what can you do though?" Instead I spent the time kissing, pinning down, choking, biting, fingering ... it's all I could do.

I was pleasantly surprised when she wanted to meet again. Saw her again last week, got naked and ... COULDN'T GET HARD AGAIN. How the hell do you deal with that? The same way, with an added, laid-back and incredulous smile "I'm kinda frustrated, it's never happened to me twice in a row before"

Anyways we met again a couple days ago. I think she forgave the first performances partly because I didn't freak out like a little bitch when it happened.

The moral of the story: Sex isn't always perfect, everyone knows that, and as long as you don't panic or whimper around you are not penalized for poor performance as much as you think you will be.

(01-26-2015 04:45 PM)kaotic Wrote:  sometimes it's not the action and when it happens, it's HOW you react to it

Post: #8

If you are worried about PME - focus on her pleasure for a while first - and take deep breaths . When you feel in control go for it slowly - lots of good medical info on the internet about this topic. Also if you want - pop a Viagra tablet an hour before smashing - guarantees repeat performance

Post: #9

Hey Cyrus, I've got some good news and I've got some bad news.....

The good news is that I set a new personal best at the gym this afternoon.

The bad is that when I was between sets, I figured out what the unknown unknown I was worried about is.

There's a chance that tomorrow night, she might try to play the Period Card.
Statistically, there's a ~25% chance of it happening. Those aren't bad odds.
When I suggested the actual date, she may have thought of the possibility and offered Saturday as an alternative to prevent it.
But she doesn't excel at critical thinking, so I doubt that.

If it's a resistance barrier, then I'll hold frame and continue to escalate.
But in the event that it is genuine and I still get her back to mine, how exactly do I proceed?

I haven't earned my red wings so I'm not sure what to expect aside from the obvious of using a towel.
I'm familiar with the anatomy, but I don't know how it translates to practical application.
Any insight would be much appreciated.

Post: #10

(01-30-2015 11:58 AM)Hardy Daytona Wrote:  Hey Cyrus, I've got some good news and I've got some bad news.....

The good news is that I set a new personal best at the gym this afternoon.

The bad is that when I was between sets, I figured out what the unknown unknown I was worried about is.

There's a chance that tomorrow night, she might try to play the Period Card.
Statistically, there's a ~25% chance of it happening. Those aren't bad odds.
When I suggested the actual date, she may have thought of the possibility and offered Saturday as an alternative to prevent it.
But she doesn't excel at critical thinking, so I doubt that.

If it's a resistance barrier, then I'll hold frame and continue to escalate.
But in the event that it is genuine and I still get her back to mine, how exactly do I proceed?

I haven't earned my red wings so I'm not sure what to expect aside from the obvious of using a towel.
I'm familiar with the anatomy, but I don't know how it translates to practical application.
Any insight would be much appreciated.

If she's almost naked and in your bed, or sucked your dick. It's in the bag.

Then if she says "but I'm on my period" smile/laugh smack her ass and say "well then go to the bathroom then"

Once she comes back and her flow isn't "heavy" get that towel get on top of her or behind her and bang the fuck out of her.

OR bang her in the shower.

Use a condom of course, it'll help not get you red, finish up, hand her a towel wash up with soap or take a shower.

Good luck !

Post: #11

THREAD RESURRECTION

Just think about baseball, it works every time for me.