I can only relate my experiences
1) Looking for Mrs. Archie
- Been down that road seriously 3 times since learning game
- Finding a hot chick with a degree/smarts/intelligence and various other tangible qualities is not as hard as people make it out to be. Throw in a good meshing personality, if you're doing #'s and making social connections - it's fairly easy.
But having had 3 relationships fail. No game, not enough game, too much game - I realized that I actually had a problem with monogamous LTR's. I could keep it in my pants. Sex, or lack thereof, was not the issue.
I've expressed this lately in the past few months, but part of the problem of game is that it is possible to stay one step ahead of your chick. Intermediate and Advanced Game, Patrice O'Neal level, shows you how to teach a chick and get her on your team, and keep her. And if you know the game, you understand the weaknesses of letting one chick rule you. So you take steps to avoid it. Dread game, keeping your social skills sharp, keeping your friends, staying connected with a community - not falling into a the abyss of a relationship that most men find themselves.
But for what?
What's at the end of the rainbow?
I can tell you this, it's not a pot of gold.
2) Chasing money.
I've been chasing paper seriously since the turn of the century. Real Estate, Stock, getting a better education to make more money. Internet sales and schemes.
I've lived high on the hog. Nice crib, nice furnishings, nice clothes, eat what I want, drive the car I wanted.
I can tell you now that consumption of material goods and services gives me indigestion. I remember the day that it happened. April 5th, 2007. I was watching someone else consume and it made me sick. Like watching a fat person overeat. Guilt comes with every purchase for me.
However, that's not real problem with the money chase.
It's that the path set out by society is one that does not lead to money.
I've spent thousands of hours building other people's fortunes, and a tenth of the time building my own. I was using after tax dollars and after hours labor. I was trying to do everything. The design, the programming, the sales, everything. I had employed myself....but i still had an employee mindset.
I had put my consumer mindset away to some extent, but my employee mindset, my expert, my technical mind - I can't do anything that will 10x my own output.
And that's when things started to change for me. Every endeavor i've been in, has been me pretending to be an entrepreneur but acting like an employee.
So 25 is not too young to be thinking about money vs bitches.
However, its
a false dichotomy.
Society has programmed all of us to think that we need these things to feel complete.
Game deprograms you if you let it.
Do I need money? Do I need the things and experiences money can buy?
Do I need a wife? What is having a woman in your life constantly doing for you?
That's a question you have to answer for yourself.
Questioning those things have made my desire for them to be much less. Money is a tool. A woman in your life is there for companionship and affection, but sex and resurrection of your genes through children is there as well.
But most of all, I don't want those things because society has told me I needed them to feel complete.
I had them. They didn't make me feel complete. In fact, they took away from my sense of self. The god damn career robbed me of my 30's. The chicks, as nice as beautiful as they were, got me involved in their own fucking drama.
I found that what I wanted wasn't within those two institutions.
WIA
(05-30-2016 11:46 PM)thedarkknight Wrote: Hey.
I've been thinking a lot about how I'm gonna find the "right woman" to start a family with. I never used to think about this stuff but of late, I'm haunted by these thoughts. I am somewhat worried, as most of my friends are single and don't seem to get anything more than casual hook-ups. I do not see things changing massively over the next decade or so.
(1) Twenty-five is too young to think about this stuff?
(2) Better to keep on aiming to stack that paper?
As a young man, who still believes that a nuclear and conservative household is the best way to raise kids, what can I do to make this dream a reality?* Don't you worry! I'm still aiming to enjoy the last days of Rome and get me mine but in the future, I don't think I'll continue that way.
TDK
* No conversions to Islam