(12-28-2018 11:27 PM)wrecker132 Wrote: So I'm experimenting with different strategies right now, and I'm delving into my difference in approaching when hitting up ratchet chicks vs bougie chicks.
I've got the bougie chick down - Aske her how she's doing, she looks frustrated as hell at me, then joke that she seems super educated, let her talk, and then talk about college life and how most everyone from where we come from just doesn't understand lmao.
Ratchet chicks are harder ( no I don't want a relationship, just want a bang). Y'all have any idea how to go about it?
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dumber less refined a chick, the more you have to lead with non-verbals.
Indeed, non-verbals are actually the key with smarter chicks and chicks that are more attractive than average - but it's hard to explain.
So let's do a day game scenario.
Spot the chick at the mall
Walk up confident (NV)
Walk a little past her (NV)
Not exactly side to side, but in a loud voice (NV)
Archie - "Oh I see you got your J's on, working it. haha" - the tone of voice here is the NV that communicates, "Yo, i'm trying to chat you up"
*if she smiles*
Archie - "Whatchu about, whatchu finna get into?" (Same NV message as above)
If she responds AT ALL, she's open. (NV awareness, most broads will just keep it moving. If she hesitates, there's a spark. So assume some level of physical attraction, the key is to blow the spark into a flame and then build trust afterwards))
Archie - "I like your style, come with your boy and get this coffee/bag of french fries and let's conversate a bit...see if we like each other"
(Not much NV here, it's strictly verbal. There is a command/request here, not a question, not asking for permission. The frame here is one of dominance)
So overall
- You come at her with some good walking technique (not behind her, not tapping her shoulder, not quietly, but instead making it easy for her to hear you, to understand you, to know that you're approaching)
- You feel her out with an observation/slight comment - Tone suggests motive and frame.
- Figure out her minute to minute logistics - that's mostly verbal and logical.
- Make an overt compliment about the style and then hit her with an offer (Tone and frame communicate what you want)
With the verbal
- Keep it simple. If you're a big word user, or a big thinker like myself, this is as hard as benching 400 lbs.
- Ask about food, music, and shit that she can talk about. I do that regardless, and it keeps me focused on the chick.
- If she's being cordial or interested, she might ask you some questions - That's fine
because you should have stock answers for every stock question
Where do you live?
Where do you work?
What do you drive?
You got gf, kids, wife?
Broads are people.
People are predictable.
Broads are predictable.
So if you come at the chick with obvious intent, build a bit of the trust in the chat - you can parlay that into let's go see a movie RIGHT NOW, or lets exchange contact information.
I'm actually inclined to end the chat before it reaches a climax and roll out. I want to force her to give me her number. Some girls have way too much pride for that, so I leave money on the table. But the chick that offers up is a much better bet.
The emotional quality and resonance of the conversation is what determines whether the number is good.
These fuckboy youtube gurus want to pump a girl's sexual state when she's sitting at Starbucks. I don't do that. I'm trying to figure out what the girl NEEDS emotionally.
Does she need recognition?
Does she need a challenge?
There's something that gets a chick from chatting politely, to putting all of her ego into talking. That's what you're trying to uncover.
Her "animating factor" is different for every girl.
I tend to have a kitchen sink chat with a girl. So even if the topic is food, there's a lot of emotion wrapped up in food
- sin
- delayed gratification
- health
- pleasure
- the need to be right about something
That's the non-verbal communication - what her emotions are telling you - when she decides what to communicate verbally.
WIA