Post: #1

There's this one girl that I had a pleasant convo with last year at the bookstore ( late 20s about a 7 - 7.5)

She declined when I asked for the number. I see her regularly at the coffee places and whole foods where I sometimes hang out. She has pretty much an avoidant /awkward vibe around me. When we do make eye contact I'll just say "hey what's up" and she will be friendly back but that's it.

As I type this, she's sitting in the same room in a coffee shop I am as she just came in. There was this cute younger girl I sat next to that I was about to open about her laptop but now, I'm hesitant to because this girl that rejected me way back would witness the whole interaction. If it doesn't go well, in my mind it'll almost be alike a 'double rejection' So, I'm about to leave without opening this cute younger girl. Albeit there's also quite a bit of other people sitting around in this semi quiet room and while most have on headphones....a few don't.

Any of you guys been in a similar situation? How would you handle this? I know it's easy to say 'fuck it do what you want' but in a medium sized town like mine where you will run into the same people now and again, I would think you need to be careful about "getting a reputation" Thoughts?

Post: #2

Do you make conversation with this first girl? Make jokes? Pretty much, do you crack her bitch shield?

Go for the second one, who cares about the other girl if you succeed with this new one and the other sees that who knows maybe shell approach you back next time (pre-selection) just make sure you dont get nervous or act akward cause the other failed prospect is there.

Post: #3

Yes I have approached girls in front of other girls I have approached.

No it doesn't matter. Trust me this girl that rejected you... she never thinks about you and doesn't give a fuck about you or your life or reputation or other girls you hit on. To give so much consideration to a complete stranger that rejected you is folly.

You are guy #1256 that ever tried to hit on her. Remember that. Even sometimes when you bang a girl you still really are nothing of importance to them. So don't give a fuck about her as she is just #346 girl you approached and it didn't work out. Don't let a random girl you approached ruin your future success.

Post: #4

Trav you're on a fucking tear today with your responses.

Post: #5

If I can approach a girl in front of a girl who's rejected me I will have won this week.

Post: #6

(01-22-2015 01:55 PM)Travesty444 Wrote:  Yes I have approached girls in front of other girls I have approached.

No it doesn't matter. Trust me this girl that rejected you... she never thinks about you and doesn't give a fuck about you or your life or reputation or other girls you hit on. To give so much consideration to a complete stranger that rejected you is folly.

You are guy #1256 that ever tried to hit on her. Remember that. Even sometimes when you bang a girl you still really are nothing of importance to them. So don't give a fuck about her as she is just #346 girl you approached and it didn't work out. Don't let a random girl you approached ruin your future success.

Word, I've daygamed a new girl in front of the last girl who rejected plenty of times, who fucking cares. It's a new bubble you're creating, in fact it'll probably get the rejected one think 'fuck why didnt I give him a chance'. Women are easily affected by jealousy.

Post: #7

(01-22-2015 05:49 PM)h3ltrsk3ltr Wrote:  If I can approach a girl in front of a girl who's rejected me I will have won this week.

This validates what Travesty said. It takes IDGAF attitude to do this. So yeah, I agree, do it.

Post: #8

(01-23-2015 08:16 AM)heavy Wrote:  

(01-22-2015 05:49 PM)h3ltrsk3ltr Wrote:  If I can approach a girl in front of a girl who's rejected me I will have won this week.

This validates what Travesty said. It takes IDGAF attitude to do this. So yeah, I agree, do it.

I will do this from now on. Yesterday in that particular room of the coffee shop, it was so quiet you could hear a pen drop. Everyone was studying or reading

I passed and didn't open and left because the entire room would have been eavesdropping. I suppose this is rationalizing it , but my thoughts were that the girl would be more self conscious of all the others listening in than I would.

Maybe I'll see her again. If not, there's always others up in here.

Post: #9

(01-23-2015 11:00 AM)robreke Wrote:  

(01-23-2015 08:16 AM)heavy Wrote:  

(01-22-2015 05:49 PM)h3ltrsk3ltr Wrote:  If I can approach a girl in front of a girl who's rejected me I will have won this week.

This validates what Travesty said. It takes IDGAF attitude to do this. So yeah, I agree, do it.

I will do this from now on. Yesterday in that particular room of the coffee shop, it was so quiet you could hear a pen drop. Everyone was studying or reading

I passed and didn't open and left because the entire room would have been eavesdropping. I suppose this is rationalizing it , but my thoughts were that the girl would be more self conscious of all the others listening in than I would.

Maybe I'll see her again. If not, there's always others up in here.

oh wow, i am the opposite, i like hitting on women in front of an audience. The only approaches you regret are the ones you don't make. Talking to girls you are attracted to is the most natural and healthy thing you can be doing as a man. remember that.

Post: #10

(01-22-2015 01:55 PM)Travesty444 Wrote:  Yes I have approached girls in front of other girls I have approached.

No it doesn't matter. Trust me this girl that rejected you... she never thinks about you and doesn't give a fuck about you or your life or reputation or other girls you hit on. To give so much consideration to a complete stranger that rejected you is folly.

You are guy #1256 that ever tried to hit on her. Remember that. Even sometimes when you bang a girl you still really are nothing of importance to them. So don't give a fuck about her as she is just #346 girl you approached and it didn't work out. Don't let a random girl you approached ruin your future success.

That's 2 outstanding responses in a row I've read from you today in the newbie forum.
This is gold.

Post: #11

(01-23-2015 05:47 PM)eradicator Wrote:  

(01-23-2015 11:00 AM)robreke Wrote:  

(01-23-2015 08:16 AM)heavy Wrote:  

(01-22-2015 05:49 PM)h3ltrsk3ltr Wrote:  If I can approach a girl in front of a girl who's rejected me I will have won this week.

This validates what Travesty said. It takes IDGAF attitude to do this. So yeah, I agree, do it.

I will do this from now on. Yesterday in that particular room of the coffee shop, it was so quiet you could hear a pen drop. Everyone was studying or reading

I passed and didn't open and left because the entire room would have been eavesdropping. I suppose this is rationalizing it , but my thoughts were that the girl would be more self conscious of all the others listening in than I would.

Maybe I'll see her again. If not, there's always others up in here.

oh wow, i am the opposite, i like hitting on women in front of an audience. The only approaches you regret are the ones you don't make. Talking to girls you are attracted to is the most natural and healthy thing you can be doing as a man. remember that.

I'm going to write that on a card, stick it in my wallet, and read it about 5 times a day until it is burned into my brain.

For too long have I found ways, out and about during the day, to not do this, for fear that it is unusual, would make the girl feel akward, or make me look bad in the eyes of others.

I'm 29 years old, time to crush this adolescent fear forever.