Post: #1

Although I am relatively new to this, I have seen a reasonable amount of success and an overall improvement to my confidence and social skills since finishing Bang earlier this month. Aside from Bang, I have been floating around these forums soaking up the advice and wisdom of the more experience members which has helped a ton as well. So I thank you all for that...

Since starting on this journey back in September 2014, I have hit the gym hard(lost 30 lbs and back in the shape I was in when playing college football), I have overcome a lot of my social anxiety, and I have been steadily approaching more and more women through both day and night game(I am a huge fan of the elderly opener). Although my successes have been few, I can see the progress I am making and that game does work.

To the issue at hand, the last couple of approaches I have had the women tell me that I come off as too physically intimidating(I am not sure if this is something negative or if it's a backhanded compliment) At 6'4", 250 lbs, I know there is nothing I can do about my size. During the approach, I make sure to keep my body language relaxed, I smile, laugh, listen, ramble, sit back in my chair or seat and keeping good but not overextended eye contact. I don't have any audio or video of my approaches, so it could be something in my verbal communication that is triggering this response.

Anyone have advice on how to soften my vibe, or any more experience men have this same issue. Thanks for the advice in advance.

Driphtwood

Post: #2

(01-19-2015 06:37 PM)Driphtwood Wrote:  Although I am relatively new to this, I have seen a reasonable amount of success and an overall improvement to my confidence and social skills since finishing Bang earlier this month. Aside from Bang, I have been floating around these forums soaking up the advice and wisdom of the more experience members which has helped a ton as well. So I thank you all for that...

Since starting on this journey back in September 2014, I have hit the gym hard(lost 30 lbs and back in the shape I was in when playing college football), I have overcome a lot of my social anxiety, and I have been steadily approaching more and more women through both day and night game(I am a huge fan of the elderly opener). Although my successes have been few, I can see the progress I am making and that game does work.

To the issue at hand, the last couple of approaches I have had the women tell me that I come off as too physically intimidating(I am not sure if this is something negative or if it's a backhanded compliment) At 6'4", 250 lbs, I know there is nothing I can do about my size. During the approach, I make sure to keep my body language relaxed, I smile, laugh, listen, ramble, sit back in my chair or seat and keeping good but not overextended eye contact. I don't have any audio or video of my approaches, so it could be something in my verbal communication that is triggering this response.

Anyone have advice on how to soften my vibe, or any more experience men have this same issue. Thanks for the advice in advance.

Driphtwood

Most guys have the opposite problem - get a good shave - beard or 3-day-growth makes you look more masculine. Also a little think that might work is to wear fake glasses - most guys should ditch them since to women that is subconsciously a weakness or k-selected, but for some men it is good - especially for massive muscular or black guys as it softens the already highly masculine look.

But likely it's something about your Game that is off relative to your size. There are massive bodybuilding bloggers out there who run Game and they say that they can't run overly aggressive Game, as their size is simply powerful enough for women.

Post: #3

Can you tell us how/when in your conversations this is coming up and how the women mention it? Is it something that's being said in a serious manner, or more like something said in a joking tone/manner?