Post: #1

Hello guys, I've been going out with my girlfriend for 2 years, she's had threesomes before she meet me, but never one with me, Ive tried talking to her about it many times, how nothing will change etc, but she keeps telling me that out of personal experience she knows things will change, that she loves me and she really doesnt want to go there with me.

But the thing is i do lol, next week we are going to orlando and thats where her old "girlfriend" lives, we were invited to dinner by her friend and i told her cool id like to meet her.

So any tips on how i can make this happen, she seems so close to the idea since she got with me, i know for a fact alcahol will be a factor to make this happen, im just having a hard time making it happen, ive stopped bringing it up because she gets all worked out all the time.

any advice.

Post: #2

Do you want to keep this girlfriend?

If you do, find your 3 some outside your relationship, if you're prepared to lose her to make this happen then there's things you could do but you need to decide what you want. I'm just saying you've been with her for 2 years, most of us don't put in that time unless we give a shit.

Post: #3

(04-20-2011 07:12 PM)mikeymike Wrote:  Do you want to keep this girlfriend?

If you do, find your 3 some outside your relationship, if you're prepared to lose her to make this happen then there's things you could do but you need to decide what you want. I'm just saying you've been with her for 2 years, most of us don't put in that time unless we give a shit.

Yeah i know what ur saying i really do , this is the longest relationship ive ever been in and i care for her a lot, she's a great girl, is just that ive always wanted to do this, i guess equivalent exchange comes into this, you cant gain anything without giving up something of equal value in return.

I want to be with her, i just want to experience this with her and just leave it as an experience we both had and thats it

Post: #4

(04-20-2011 07:19 PM)brox123 Wrote:  i care for her a lot, she's a great gir

Shun the nonbeliever! Shun! Shun! Shun! Shun!

er...

I mean...

Here's the thing, you're already working nefariousness into the whole thing. If you're already thinking "Hmm alcohol will make this easier" then you need to get ready for shit to hit the fan. The words "you took advantage" come to mind.

If she gets worked up talking about it, how do you think she's gonna be the morning after it happens?

Now if you're okay with the relationship ending on a a "high note" then yeah booze her up and get your kicks, but from what you've said this would probably kill the whole deal, if only because she's so opposed.

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Post: #5

(04-20-2011 06:59 PM)brox123 Wrote:  she knows things will change, that she loves me and she really doesnt want to go there with me.

She definitely doesn't want to go there in a way that will hurt your relationship. She probably has all sorts of emotional baggage with her old girlfriend. Of course alcohol and a little forwardness won't hurt.

But it's better if you find someone who could not interfere and make your girlfriend insecure. Find a married woman, an international tourist, or someone you meet on vacation. Find a fun, friendly woman she is attracted to, create a relaxed scene with alcohol, and go from there.

Post: #6

(04-20-2011 07:19 PM)brox123 Wrote:  

(04-20-2011 07:12 PM)mikeymike Wrote:  Do you want to keep this girlfriend?

If you do, find your 3 some outside your relationship, if you're prepared to lose her to make this happen then there's things you could do but you need to decide what you want. I'm just saying you've been with her for 2 years, most of us don't put in that time unless we give a shit.

Yeah i know what ur saying i really do , this is the longest relationship ive ever been in and i care for her a lot, she's a great girl, is just that ive always wanted to do this, i guess equivalent exchange comes into this, you cant gain anything without giving up something of equal value in return.

I want to be with her, i just want to experience this with her and just leave it as an experience we both had and thats it

let it go then...you're playing with fire if you do want to be with her. You could pull it off but you're hoping for a best case scenario. If it's something you have to have for the experience go outside the relationship. Pick up a chick on the side and start working in the 3way early, go pro, do what you have to do but there's not always a way to have your cake and eat it too.

Post: #7

Well you could offer an FMM with her and a buddy after that, to make it up to her, how about that?

Post: #8

Random thought. Become Mormon.

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