Post: #1

I kinda feel bad for this... its been almost 2 months of seeing her once every weekend or two... and still no sex.

(I do have another one that fills the void for me though, lol).

Anyway.. back to the problem - we've escalated numerous times.. heavy, heavy duty foreplay... location wasn't "ideal" on those times, and we kept it under control.

I get her alone at her place and nothing - a hug.. no kiss, nothing. We continue to always banter/tease each other - every day.

wtf!?!

She was feeling down the other day and I flat out told her she's stressing out over too much stuff, so we just need to get busy with mind blowing sex... her reply was "nice try".. and I continued with "I'm serious" - eventually got a reply saying it was her time of month anyway (which makes sense for her feeling down).

anyway... this waiting is retarded.. we've been teasing about 'unwrapping' special Christmas presents for each other, but she's also made it a point to say she wants to be alone for christmas.

Would it be wise to just up and say, "look - lets f*ck already?"


Just to add, this girl gets down on herself a lot lately from a past bf (ended end of Sept)... I do give her a ton of praise, and compliments to pick her up out of a bad mood which she seems to appreciate.. I put her on a pedestal, because when I don't she questions herself and why a guy like me would want to be with her.

We've got a distance thing between us - almost an hour drive each way. I don't mind it, but its there which sometimes can make time together a challenge.


Finally, and I think I mentioned it up above - we talk daily & a part of me just wants to flat out ask if she's lost interest or wtf the problem is and tell her I have no interest in being 'stuck' in a friend zone with her.

Post: #2

Rape.

Just kidding.

The psychology of previous investment is causing you to stick around when you're getting nothing. Tell her straight up that you date girls who don't have problems with intimacy issues.

Post: #3

Meh, this reminds me of a similar situation I was in. Unless she's a cathloic and have deep religious reservations about sex before marriage then you should be able to get in there. The aforementioned types are a hard nut to crack and very rarely are they going to give into their personal beliefs.

I ran into a similar situation though it didn't drag out for months. I just manned up and got point blank with the girl. Whatever her emotional insecurites were I didn't really care too much about that. Women can have a million different reasons as to why they shouldn't close a deal. My first inclanation though is that the game wasn't delivered correctly from the word "go" so trying to damage control the situation becomes tougher. I'll admit I used some questionable tactics in the past to get into a girl's pants. In this particular girl's instance I used her own emotions against her to finally open up (literally).

In essence, I told her that I felt like she was trying to string me along and that I have feelings too, and blah, blah. I touched her on her own emotional level and it worked. I look back at it in hindsight and realize it was a somewhat dirty tactic and it's not something I do anymore. Anyhow, in your case it's time to move on. Let her know you feel like it's not progressing (girl's love this concept) and move on.

Post: #4

Totally Trotter. Sex is part of a normal relationship between 2 people who are attracted to each other. Girls understand that, and are aware of it only too well. I think we underestimate how actually girls will be anxious about NOT having sex with someone they like.