Post: #51

(10-10-2014 12:35 PM)Cunnilinguist Wrote:  Are you guys gettin the bang THAT SAME DAY tho? That's what I'm getting at. Sure, second and third date the conversion is easy, but I haven't had luck on the first date AFTER it was said. You're right, my game is probably lacking.

Yes. Most girls who have used a line like that I ended up having sex with that night.

Edit:

I just reread your post. If she's saying this while at the bar your odds are lower, but I'd still proceed as normal and make an attempt. Girls emotions are like clouds, well formed in one moment and totally unrecognizable in the next. She may not want to bang you when she says it, then 1 hour later after you've gotten her warmed up she will.

If she says this while you're already alone with her, you're pretty much guaranteed to get the bang.

Post: #52

Saw this thread the other day and meant to comment just finally getting around to it. I agree with other posters, the girls who say this tend to be the same ones who will blow you like its nothing but hold out on sex, oftentimes you can get sex as well. I agree with other posters as why is she saying that in the first place?

Okay maybe a small percentage of girls are sick of online dates where the expectation is sex and she wants to set the stage thats not happening but I think those are a minority. I agree with toher posters that sex is obviosly already on their mind if they are comming out swinging with this one.

I think the best reply is none at all, just ignore it and continue on like she never said it. Your not phased by shit like that. I think the possibly worst thing you can do is get sucked into this and try to convince her that she should have sex with you or is missing out if she doesn't, you kinda give her all the power and your trying to get her to like you or want to give it up, let that shit roll off your back.

If you feel the need to respond I would say something like that wasn't even on my mind but apparently it is on yours and then move on. I like that response but again your kind of making her into the whore and you weren't evne thinking about sex which may get her to shutdown so again I think best response is no respnse. Don't let it phase you there's a 90% chance she's going to be blowing you in an hour.

Post: #53

Most of the replies on the first page are cheesy and scream out "I don't have a lot of sex." It's not always a bad thing if you can't get laid on the first date. Some girls won't put out until the 2'nd or 3'rd date. It's really fine.

Post: #54

(10-13-2014 10:29 AM)travolta Wrote:  Most of the replies on the first page are cheesy and scream out "I don't have a lot of sex." It's not always a bad thing if you can't get laid on the first date. Some girls won't put out until the 2'nd or 3'rd date. It's really fine.

That's because I don't. Sorry to disappoint

Post: #55

(10-13-2014 10:35 AM)Cunnilinguist Wrote:  

(10-13-2014 10:29 AM)travolta Wrote:  Most of the replies on the first page are cheesy and scream out "I don't have a lot of sex." It's not always a bad thing if you can't get laid on the first date. Some girls won't put out until the 2'nd or 3'rd date. It's really fine.

That's because I don't. Sorry to disappoint

It's cool if you don't. There's no judgement. My point is that it's not good to say some corny shit that will make it seem like you don't. "Fake it till you make it" is where I'm going with this. For me it always works better when I act normal and to not put on some facade as if i'm a huge player, even if I'm not. It's not always bad if you have to wait more than 1 date for sex.

Post: #56

We're not having sex tonight.

I never do this!

I'm normally not like this.

I've heard them all.

Post: #57

The problem with witty comebacks is they have to be congruent with who you are as a person.

If it doesn't come naturally to you, just say "OK" and keep moving forward.

Think about it yourself ... has there ever been a time when you've said, "I'm definitely not going to do this!" and you've ended up doing it? Like, in the morning, you might say, "I'm definitely not going to get pizza tonight" but then the day rolls around and you can't be bothered to cook and besides the pizza place is only five minutes away and you feel really hungry.

If somebody said to you when you were in that non-pizza-eating frame of mind, "Fatty... don't kid yourself," you'd think they were an asshole. Even though they were right.

When the girl says, "We're not having sex tonight," at that moment it's true. Just continue on as you would do normally, and she'll either change her mind or she won't. Don't draw attention to it though if you don't need to.

Post: #58

Does this work as a line if you "flip the script"?

During the date say, "Woah I'm not that kind of guy. By the way you're not getting laid tonight."

Post: #59

@Rex I wouldn't do it unless you knew you could seal the deal of you were going to follow through (because you honestly didn't want to bang her).

Maybe it's the women here but I've used something similar and it seemed to actually do more damage than good as I had intended.

Post: #60

Had this happen a few times and ended in bed and getting a blowjob but not more. I took it as indication I was being too thirsty and that she was slightly turned off by it but too horny to stop. Falling into, 'got to work for it'.

Post: #61

it's a shit test don't give a fuck and tell this: why you telling me this of course I also would not wanna sex with you cause I don't know you yet... same was when girl who couchsurfed at me told about sleeping in one bed with me... living room where she was supposed to sleep was a bit noisy she mentioned it then I told if you want you can sleep in my room, then she agreed then later when it was time to sleep she start to tell I don't know it's so weird, I calmly responded no problem you can sleep in noisy room, she shut up and went in bed with me

Post: #62

"Good, because it's morning already." (if after midnight)

Post: #63

I've had SEVERAL girls say this and I ended up fucking them. I've also had SEVERAL say this and I didn't. Don't take anything the bitch says seriously and precede as normal. It's a test.

Post: #64

The moment you do not let what others say affect your emotions, is the moment you are set free.


Ignore and game on.

Post: #65

What I haven't seen mentioned yet is that you should slow down a little. Let her escalate you instead of the other way around.
Lean back, touch her, make eye contact, don't be afraid to be physical. But it should never feel like you are "taking a leap". Before it gets to that line, you should have pulled back.
The result is she will get slowly turned on and start to wonder what's going to happen. Women generally feel like they don't want to have a rational say in the matter. And if you do the above right, yo are influencing her emotions in such a way that eventually she really, really wants to have sex.

Yes, you could go the other way and caveman her, but I don't recommend it. It shows little social intelligence and will lead to crappy sex. If anything, she wants to know that you'll respect her "no" at whatever point. How do you expect a girl to let loose when she cannot trust you?

When you start having sex (e.g. you are alone and have put her at ease for 30-60 minutes) do as long foreplay as you can. Overtly take the lead, and SLOWLY touch her in non-intimate places. Her horniness and her trust are at odds, so if you want to have a repeat visit I suggest you dominate both.

Post: #66

"I'm not sleeping with you tonight."

Lean in conspiratorially. Sly grin. "That seems an awful waste of Bad Girl Potential."

Another tactic I like: Girls love silly games. Ask "What makes you think you could seduce me?" in a playful, amused way. Seem curious. Ask her what she'd try, if she was trying to seduce you. "Show me your best moves." Respond like an amused Father to a little girl trying to walk in high heels. You can offer encouragement - "Now we're getting somewhere" - or suggestions - "Flip your hair in front of your eyes." Keep it light and playful. She wants the plausible-deniability of thinking she's not being seriously-judged.

(10-10-2014 01:09 PM)The_e_man Wrote:  As well, once you have banged them, they also end things off by saying "I never do this" or "I'm not usually like this".

That's your cue to smirk like Harrison Ford: "Yeah, I get that a lot."

Post: #67

AWALT

Happened to me, she said it multiple times that night, and Agreed and Amplified by shooting back various one liners such as
"Don't flatter yourself, I'm not a piece of meat"

Later the evening we were fucking...

I think the A&A's helped seal the deal.

Post: #68

I like to remind those chicks of their idiocy, often, when I'm fucking them and I'm about to blow, I tell them "oh, I forgot, you said we shouldn't have sex" while stopping to move. ALL girls react the same way: start moving their ass to get more dick, and mutter a "hmmp".

Post: #69

I would also consider leaving if a girl referred to sex as pussy, I don't like it even being brought up to be honest, would rather do it instead. That's why I brought up a lot of American girls being the sluttiest and most vulgar worldwide in another thread. I find it a massive turnoff. I know English girls are nearly as bad, but I've honestly never heard the same sort of stuff said to me, they are disgusting sluts around each other in private but around men they know better than that.