Post: #1

I was dancing with a girl (presumably also gaming her) and she said I was such a pro. I blurted out "Im not a pro, but thats very nice of you"

This is an inner game chink that Ive been trying to get rid of, but it resurfaces more often than I would like. Asian conditioning made sure that you must always downplay your strengths especially when people give you compliment. I m getting rid of it step by step with my asshole game, but when girls are being nice to me sometimes I just blurt out the stupid modesty. We all know that it doesnt help anyone.

I have no problem with mechanics. I have tons of lines and comebacks I could throw at, the most politically correct is "because I have such a good partner", and other stuff like "its your lucky day/really? how are you gonna pay for my services?". The problem is that I default to modesty in such situations.

Anyone knows some mental tricks or something I could practice to get rid of this once and for all?

Post: #2

Keep the modesty, just don't express it so modestly, openly, and frequently.

Post: #3

You'da been fine not responding. You were dancing, kino ramping, and you felt the need to break the tension.

Probably a decent overall description of what you mean...where no response is needed, but you say something pointless.

Post: #4

I wouldn't ditch the modesty, if anything like Giovanny said just don't say anything at all. I actually think modesty is a good thing, I think in a sense nobody likes a blowhard. Also, I think people are more impressed when they find osmething out themselves as opposed to you telling them and bragging. I know personally if osmeone tells me how much money they are making or how good they do at such and such sometimes I don't believ them, othertimes I'm like wow they really went out of their way to let me know that while on the flipside if I hear about something through a third party like oh you hear Jim just sold his company for 100k or whatever I'm like wow good for him he didn't say anything aboutthat.

I think people who toot their own horn or really think they are the shit you can actually see through it to their insecurity and it comes off as kinda dooshy, where as people with real confidence and skill know they have it and it kind of comes off of them and is picked up by others wihtout them having to tell people

Post: #5

It's a mindset problem.

Change your mindset. She is lucky to be with you.

She says, "You look like a pro."

You say, "I usually charge by the hour."

She says, "No way!"

You wink.

You could even say that you give private lessons. "If you're lucky, I'll give you a private lesson later on."

Men been shit on all of our lives, told we're worthless by society, that our happiness doesn't matter, that all we exist to do is serve women and be a dumb pack mule.

It takes a long time to get out of that shit.

It all starts with mindset.

Post: #6

(09-23-2014 03:02 PM)Dalaran1991 Wrote:  I was dancing with a girl (presumably also gaming her) and she said I was such a pro. I blurted out "Im not a pro, but thats very nice of you"

What ever happened to agree and amplify?

Post: #7

Thanks guys. Selective modesty is good. Excessive modesty is bad. I like how Gio puts it.

This small incident is just an example, a symptom of a bigger mindset problem I have. I run agree and amplify all the time and can run asshole game, provided that the girls are playful enough. In situation where girls are very soft spoken and nice my old beta instinct kick in.

Post: #8

I actually think deflecting compliments is a high form of social art.

The hottest girls I know do it when they get compliments.

Personally I treat compliments like missiles that I have to gracefully dodge.

Don't treat modesty as a negative, nor a form of weakness. It's a good backdrop for your talents and your life's successes.

Post: #9

I thought this thread was going to be about getting women to wear less clothing in public.

Post: #10

Nothing wrong with a "thanks" if it's a sincere compliment.