Post: #1

People seem to think breaking up is an event that takes place in a particular moment, like you just had a fight or something, and one tells the other, "it's over."

It's not.

Breaking up is a process that takes place over time. The time period can vary, and usually the more complicated the relationship, the more complicated the break-up.

If you realize that you want to move on from someone, and you begin the process of doing so, it is imperative that you stop having sex with that person that you want to cut ties with.

There are many reasons for doing so, but let's start the discussion with these main two:

1. Women can sense when they're losing you. They will use sex to try to reign you back in. You have to be careful because some women will end up trying to trap you into the relationship by allowing themselves to get pregnant.

2. You could end up confusing yourself. Break-up sex can be quite powerful -- due to the animosity and tension that has built up throughout the relationship which have collectively reached a boiling point -- and evoke a lot of different emotions and feelings. These feelings may confuse you about how you feel. They may make you question yourself about the decision you've chosen to make.

Remember, there's always a reason as to why we reach a place where we think that our life needs to move forward without a particular person in it.

You're not creating that reason in your mind out of nothing, it's real.

Don't let her pussy have a hold on you, don't get nostalgic about previously better times. When it's time to move on, it's time to move on. One way to begin that process is to eliminate physical intimacy from the relationship entirely. If you can't do without and that void in your life needs to be filled, then seek it out from someone else, not the person you're trying to leave in the past.

Post: #2

I don't think its about having "her pussy have a hold of you" or sex invoking feelings as it is (in my opinion) about pure emotions.


Sex is and always will be an emotional act, regardless of how long you've known each other. Its why some some people cry or scream out "I love you" randomly. Its also why being prostitutes/porn stars takes such a huge toll.. Women get hit harder by this then men do, probably because of evolutionary/biological reasons. Seriously, most porn stars are broken by the time they are done as are most prostitutes.

A good majority of women who gotten fucked by different men don't "feel" as women who haven't; there's a study on this and I'll look for it and update.

Post: #3

Quote:1. Women can sense when they're losing you. They will use sex to try to reign you back in. You have to be careful because some women will end up trying to trap you into the relationship by allowing themselves to get pregnant.

This was exactly how it went down with the last girl I was travelling with.

She could 100% feel I was loosing interest of her and she went harder and harder on the sexfront. She also wanted to marry me and make a child around Christmas.

Post: #4

(09-03-2014 05:27 AM)Chaos Wrote:  

Quote:1. Women can sense when they're losing you. They will use sex to try to reign you back in. You have to be careful because some women will end up trying to trap you into the relationship by allowing themselves to get pregnant.

This was exactly how it went down with the last girl I was travelling with.

She could 100% feel I was loosing interest of her and she went harder and harder on the sexfront. She also wanted to marry me and make a child around Christmas.

True, I'll add from my own experience. When I have been the one to break up with a girl the break up sex has been crazy. Those chicks would put 200% into being the best in bed and keep my attention on them.

Contrast that to when a girl has broken up with me, especially when she has been cheating or monkey branching. Ice cold, no breakup sex or at best mild sex with her being distant or crying afterwards.

Resisting breakup sex is the ultimate in self control. I have succeeded exactly zero times, which is why I advocate a complete cutoff.

Post: #5

i watched a friend go through this. His girl was doing everything in her power to keep him on the leash. After the breakup finally happened she came home drunk, ripped out her IUD and demanded he bang her claiming that he wouldn't need to have ANYTHING to do with the baby, and she wouldn't want any money. She chased him around the apartment naked demanding he bang her....and he DID!!!! with a condom....but still...I would have been to scared at that point.

Post: #6

I'd also add having sex with an ex post break up can be dangerous as well.

1. The girl will try to lure you back in with sex to "rekindle the relationship"
2. As above in the thread, will trap you with a pregnancy.
3. She's trying to sabotage a relationship you might possibly have with another girl.
4. She'll try to hinder your game and keep you with her, all the while banging other guys. (She wants you to stay in the same place while she moves on)

Banging an ex is never a good idea and can cripple your game.


UNLESS: you're 100% over her, banging a bunch of different girls, and she's only apart of your rotation/harem.

Then again when I first posted on RVF

It was about the opportunity to fuck an old ex who had "just broken up with her bf"

McQueen dropped this gem of a line on me:

Quote: She's seeking validation.

I wouldn't waste my time at all with her.

Keep it moving with better women, why go back to the vomit like a dog?

Post: #7

Truth.

Option 2 is to take advantage of "1. Women can sense when they're losing you. They will use sex to try to reign you back in. You have to be careful because some women will end up trying to trap you into the relationship by allowing themselves to get pregnant." Push the envelope and don't give a fuck. And pull out every time, of course.

Post: #8

Maybe this will change as I get older or more wise, but at the moment all the break-up sex I've had has been pretty good.

I understand why going back to your ex is generally a bad idea, but I thought break-up sex is just like the last drive in your car before you sell it?

I've had both situations where I've broken it off and where the girl has broken it off and it's always an emotionally charged thing. Often times sex is a great release...and it's really strange, but sometimes tears or an upset girl can be a turn on. Not sure why that is.

Usually the sex is very good and it hasn't made things significantly less clear in the past. If you're gut says no, don't do it, but I've been fortunate I suppose.

Post: #9

I've had some insanely hot post breakup sex when she dumped me and saw my improved self out meeting new girls. It was addicingly awesome, but slowed my progress to becoming a better man.

Post: #10

MtnMan, the above story about your friend scares the shit out of me but my girl isn't on birth control and we haven't used condoms in 6 months.

I just decided over the weekend that I need to get rid of my girlfriend of the last 7 months and even have the date to drop the hammer picked out in a couple of weeks--only waiting because she is just finishing up a project at work that is stressing her out. She knows my longest relationship was 8 months and is probably (rightly) thinking that she's going to get the pink slip soon. She just turned 31 a couple of months ago and seemed to insinuate early in the relationship that she's been riding the carousel for the past few years since her engagement broke off. Just looking for a few more fantastic bangs the next couple of weeks from her and a clean break when she's fired...already moved onto the next chick as of 3 weeks ago.