Post: #1

Some night's I literally feel like a sex god. I've had girls tell me that they've never been fucked so good and I have a relatively stable harem of 2-3 girls that evolves yet is maintained.

However sometimes I am horrible and cum way too quickly. This is almost always with a girl during the first time sexing her up, and it's as much mental as anything. Usually it tends to happen with curvier girls whom my body logically gets more aroused for (but mentally I'm more attracted to thin sorority type girls with fewer curves).

I think the worst thing is that when I cum too quickly (and I'm not horrible mind you - let's say it's 6 minutes, 3 positions with only about 2 minutes of hard fucking b/c I feel it getting closer) I don't act confident and like "well thats a compliment to you you're sexy". I get all neurotic and apologetic which is lame as fuck. I did this last night to a banging teacher with a great body. Then to compound things I tried again and literally did cum in 3 minutes the 2nd time. I'm assuming there's no real recovery from this - as I was beta and apologetic and lame after (which I get is probably more of a turnoff to a woman than mediocre sex. Not sure why I can't avoid the beta behavior after the physical act).

Fuck I try to be cool and can usually hold the frame but I'm tired of having my cock or my mind betray me and not be able to do anything about it.

Post: #2

I do kegels when I remember. It helps really really really. Search this forum. We talked about them. Takes a while to train up. Meanwhile use numbing condoms the first time you have sex. Or use levitra. It's mental for sure. The girl is never hotter than the first time you fuck her. Also read here http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-condi...n-20031160

Post: #3

Slow down

Take your time, and think less about failure and more about success

Usually any jitters can be worked out by slowing down your seduction in the bedroom, once she's bucket ass naked the notch is inevitable. So here's the time to pace yourself and enjoy the proceedings

*Double up on the foreplay of necessary

Post: #4

(08-13-2014 02:48 PM)MY DETROIT PLAYAS Wrote:  Slow down

Take your time, and think less about failure and more about success

Usually any jitters can be worked out by slowing down your seduction in the bedroom, once she's bucket ass naked the notch is inevitable. So here's the time to pace yourself and enjoy the proceedings

*Double up on the foreplay of necessary

Yeah.

Take a break between positions; do something else sexual then get back to it.

Post: #5

When you are done, just lie on your back with your arms and legs spread wide, and act chill.

Lead the interaction, don't start apologizing. Don't try to come up with witty things to say. Finish, lie down, and encourage her to lie on your chest and just chill. Act like everything is fine and she will follow your lead.

If she says anything, don't come up with excuses or explanations. Just tell her to chill or shush her for a minute, tell her to relax, and give her the physical pose to relax in (ie. resting her head on your chest cuddled up).

If you can go in a little, cool, go again. If not, whatever.

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Alternately, have her suck you off first, finish, and then later fuck her.

Post: #6

Smoke weed.

I last longer when I'm high

Post: #7

this has happened to me as well. It happens because you spend so much time grinding up against them when you are breaking down lmr. The friction that already happens makes u that much closer to cumming when you are doing the deed. Go for round two (or 3) immediately or do less grinding with your dick and it should help. There are some positions that you will get much pleasure from as well and you can rest in those positions. Also the more tired that you get, the harder it is to cum so you could try some positions that are more of a workout for you as well. When you get to the point where you are getting close to cumming you can switch positions. Stall the new position by kissing and caressing her body as you move her into the next position. This is what I do to last as long as I want.

Post: #8

A technique I use is, when in missionary for example, moving my hip up and down instead of in and out. It stimulates the girl but makes me last longer since my dick is kinda stationary inside but the pelvic bone rubs on her clit.

Post: #9

It all depends on the position for me and whether or not I'm wearing a condom. I find that cowgirl lets me last the longest since it lets the chick do all the work and I can better train my mind to envision whatever is necessary in order to keep on going.

Post: #10

Get yourself a prescription for a Lidocaine spray (low dose for penis use).
Spray that thing ten minutes before sex. Wipe it off afterwards (If the girl sucks, her mouth will get numb). Never show her the spray or tell her!

Then you can fuck her for hours without coming. Doesn't matter how hot she is or how much she is squeezing her pussy.

Post: #11

Kegels and don't beat yourself up about it. I've prematured on girls a few times and still had them keep coming back.

In fact, I'm far better in bed with women once I sleep with them a few times. It can be off and on, as you say, but once we get a bit more comfortable with eachother, my real potential comes out.

There may be a few cases where a bad first go has lost a girl, but the damage has been minimal and only with the most hardened sluts.

Beyond All Seas

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling

Post: #12

Two things
First it's not a big deal. I've been told "I'm so turned on by how much you love my pussy" when I've gotten a quick nut....it's not a big issue if it doesn't happen every time.

Second.
Embrace this. At 35 if I've been drinking and am wearing a condom it's almost impossible to nut....I wish I could nut faster sometimes

Post: #13

Stop Worrying About Giving Women Orgasms

Post: #14

Yeah for this chick I actually stopped a couple minutes in and put ON a condom b/c I felt like I was already way too close. She kind of raised her eyebrows but went along with it.

What threw me off is that in our second position (her on top) I'm usually recovering and getting back to "not close to cumming". The only problem is that she did this thing that I've never felt before where she was up on her haunches and like milked the tip of my cock with her pussy really fast and that almost made me pop WHILE LAYING ON MY BACK TRYING TO RECOVER. I have never felt anything like that before. She was too experienced/good for me haha.

I do best when I'm banging former sorority girls who are like 105 lbs and skinny and like me taking charge. This chick is 5-10, huge banging ass and Amazonian. I was probably already mentally done in before we even started. I hate the idea of going to numbing creams but whatever.

Post: #15

Questions.

a) How hot are you building these girls up in your mind when you are busting fast vs. ones you aren't. Whats the difference?

b) How much are you drinking vs. how long are you lasting when sober/drunk?

c) You are already aware of this so when you're banging and are aware, is it constantly on your mind?


The fact that you are apologizing says a lot. Just get them off and keep them ready till you come back, for like 5 mins.

Just things to consider. Only you really know whats going on in your mind, I wish I could give you concrete answers.

Post: #16

(08-14-2014 04:30 AM)HawkWrites Wrote:  It all depends on the position for me and whether or not I'm wearing a condom. I find that cowgirl lets me last the longest since it lets the chick do all the work and I can better train my mind to envision whatever is necessary in order to keep on going.

Interesting. For me its actually the polar opposite.. I last longer in any position over cowgirl/reverse cowgirl. Not sure why that is.

Post: #17

(08-14-2014 06:59 AM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  the damage has been minimal and only with the most hardened sluts.

Post: #18

Before I got shacked up, I used to have a weird problem where I would cum almost instantly when:

1. I wasn't that into the girl
2. We just met and there wasn't enough comfort or attraction built up yet

I would often times have one or two FWBs on the go and, with them, no problems. I could fuck for quite a while before finishing. With ONS girls, I'd often times finish in 2 or 3 pumps. It was like my body was telling me not to be a sleezeball.

Post: #19

(08-13-2014 12:18 PM)MikeinMKE Wrote:  Some night's I literally feel like a sex god. I've had girls tell me that they've never been fucked so good and I have a relatively stable harem of 2-3 girls that evolves yet is maintained.

However sometimes I am horrible and cum way too quickly. This is almost always with a girl during the first time sexing her up, and it's as much mental as anything. Usually it tends to happen with curvier girls whom my body logically gets more aroused for (but mentally I'm more attracted to thin sorority type girls with fewer curves).

I think the worst thing is that when I cum too quickly (and I'm not horrible mind you - let's say it's 6 minutes, 3 positions with only about 2 minutes of hard fucking b/c I feel it getting closer) I don't act confident and like "well thats a compliment to you you're sexy". I get all neurotic and apologetic which is lame as fuck. I did this last night to a banging teacher with a great body. Then to compound things I tried again and literally did cum in 3 minutes the 2nd time. I'm assuming there's no real recovery from this - as I was beta and apologetic and lame after (which I get is probably more of a turnoff to a woman than mediocre sex. Not sure why I can't avoid the beta behavior after the physical act).

Fuck I try to be cool and can usually hold the frame but I'm tired of having my cock or my mind betray me and not be able to do anything about it.

Chill the fuck out. Her job as a woman is to please you and you decide when you cum. If you think you are close to busting, just pull out and finger her really hard or lick her pussy if you like that. Do that for one minute, then go back to fucking her. It may seem like a weird idea to you but trust me, as long as she is getting pleasured she won't give a shit. If it still feels weird to you, consider this:

You fuck her in missionary for a couple of minutes until you feel you are close, pull out and turn her around for doggy. While she is getting into position, take some time to kiss her body(back, thighs, hips, pussy, whatever) and then finger her hard for a bit while you pull her hair back. Once you feel you are ready to go again, plough away.
I often do this as well.

I have the same thing with the curvier girls though.
I like looking at model-like physiques and in my mind am also more attracted to them but when I see a curvy, not chubby, girl with some nice tits, wide hips and a good ass my dick completely loses control

Post: #20

I've experienced the same problem you have OP, and I might have a Miracle Solution for you .

In my case, remaining hard is directly linked to the amount of semen I expulse.
So, if I prevent sperm expulsion, I remain hard and can continue to pump.
Easy to say, but how to do it?
Simple: when I'm about to blow, I firmly squeeze the base of the penis and almost nothing comes out.

In detail: same hand position as masturbation, but place your thumb and index as close as possible to the base of the penis (so the hand is almost opened).
Your thumb and index squeeze, the others fingers are placed on the balls.
I know this technique has a name, I guess someone here knows it, to find some information links.

The first time I tried it hurt a bit, I recommend trying it alone, to be able to control precisely the whole stuff.

TL;DR: to continue fucking, stop sperm expulsion by squeezing firmly the base of the penis.