Post: #76

Glad that it all worked out. With the marriage and kids thread going on here it feels a little weird lol but IMO you did the right thing if you aren't ready for the baby and not sure if this is the woman you want it with.

Maybe it's too soon but what are your short-term plans with this girl? Are you gonna stick around for a while and see what's what or have you decided to give her the boot in the long-run?

Post: #77

(08-21-2014 03:03 PM)samsamsam Wrote:  I don't know how to say this the right way, but the best I can say is that I am glad things are working out for you. All I mean is it is such a mixed event, life (not trying to debate when it starts), relationships, obligations, etc. I imagine it can be tremendously stressful with so much going through your mind. Hang in there.

At this point there is no reversing it, right? Hate to sound so naive. But just want a little clarification. Thanks.

Thanks Sam, appreciate it. I honestly think this is the best way this could workout. I'm not ready mentally or financially to be a father (I'm only 28) I wouldn't forgive myself if I raised a child in my circumstances.

Once it detaches with the first stage (the shot she took) it can't get attached again.

Quote:Methotrexate interferes with the growth of the placenta, which allows it to separate from the endometrium.

Quote:A medical abortion with methotrexate and misoprostol is effective in over 90 out of 100 cases. Medical abortions can be done through 9 weeks of pregnancy. And when completed before 7 weeks, injected methotrexate is effective in 92 to 96 out of 100 cases.

It that last 10% I'm worried about.

I'll update you gents next week when this is finalized.

Post: #78

(08-21-2014 03:16 PM)TheSlayer Wrote:  Glad that it all worked out. With the marriage and kids thread going on here it feels a little weird lol but IMO you did the right thing if you aren't ready for the baby and not sure if this is the woman you want it with.

Maybe it's too soon but what are your short-term plans with this girl? Are you gonna stick around for a while and see what's what or have you decided to give her the boot in the long-run?

Yes, Short-term is to evaluate her and see how she is the next few months (see if there is any PTSD or other issues). She seemed really relieved immediately after the shot and we went to breakfast. She complements my life and can stay as long as she does just that.

We've been "dating" for about 7-8 months now, I've never experienced getting a girl pregnant and getting an abortion before.

I'll be honest I did make myself distant and saw her only once after she told me she was pregnant. Now, I'm kind of neutral, I'm sure after I go workout tonight I'll be back to normal.

Post: #79

UPDATE:

Best text ever from her.

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Thanks for all the support gents, lesson learned !

Post: #80

(09-04-2014 12:03 PM)kaotic Wrote:  UPDATE:

Best text ever from her.



Thanks for all the support gents, lesson learned !

Don't know much about this but anyway to get confirmation?

I hope you're dropping her

Post: #81

(09-04-2014 12:16 PM)Mentavious Wrote:  

(09-04-2014 12:03 PM)kaotic Wrote:  UPDATE:

Best text ever from her.



Thanks for all the support gents, lesson learned !

Don't know much about this but anyway to get confirmation?

I hope you're dropping her

She's alright and can stick around, she didn't even have any mood swings or went crazy when she was taking the abortion pills.

She understands what's changing, she's getting the BC pill instead of the shot and I'm using condoms.

The girl complements my life at the moment, I have no complaints besides this slight bump in the road. No reason to drop something positive, but it's not like I'm putting her on the pedestal either and I've got other regulars.

Post: #82

I didn't know if I came in her. Is that possible? After our drinking sessions, it took me a while to ejaculate so I stop having sex with her because I was so really tired.

Post: #83

That was a really weak bump and practically makes no sense.

That being said, after having a major pregnancy scare (with a seemingly positive test and everything), I'm now in the 100% wrap it up camp. (Roosh's advice of pulling it out at the point where you need a few extra jerks is good -- when I've done it, it's just been to immediately bust on her back/stomach)

The lessons I learned...
* It's possible to get a girl pregnant even during her period if she is irregular..
* You should really know a girl's view on abortion before hitting it raw.. the girl in my situation was a sweet Catholic girl who never considered it for a moment..

Post: #84

Yes, even if a girl is on the pill, I always wrap it up because I can't really trust any woman to remember to keep taking her pill every day. If you don't mind getting her pregnant, paying child support, go ahead and raw dog away if that's what you want.

Post: #85

It's really frustrating that in 2016 there still isn't a fool proof way to safely raw dog without making the girl take something that will make her fat. So condom with a fit girl or raw dog a fattie who gained weight thanks to the added hormones.

Not fair.

Post: #86

(05-30-2016 11:52 AM)eskimobobseal Wrote:  It's really frustrating that in 2016 there still isn't a fool proof way to safely raw dog without making the girl take something that will make her fat. So condom with a fit girl or raw dog a fattie who gained weight thanks to the added hormones.

Not fair.

Uhm...

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intrauterine_device

No hormones, immediate effect, no having to time pills or anything.

These things are awesome. Seriously, if I ever get into a serious LTR I'm making my girl get one.

Post: #87

I hear you can feel them with your dick when you hit the back wall and it feels awkward. Any truth to this?

Post: #88

No, it feels fucking awesome. Really uncomfortable for them though. Kinda like when you get it to the back of their throat but not quite.

Post: #89

(05-30-2016 11:02 AM)bacan Wrote:  That was a really weak bump and practically makes no sense.

That being said, after having a major pregnancy scare (with a seemingly positive test and everything), I'm now in the 100% wrap it up camp. (Roosh's advice of pulling it out at the point where you need a few extra jerks is good -- when I've done it, it's just been to immediately bust on her back/stomach)

The lessons I learned...
* It's possible to get a girl pregnant even during her period if she is irregular..
* You should really know a girl's view on abortion before hitting it raw.. the girl in my situation was a sweet Catholic girl who never considered it for a moment..

What I really wanted was this one:

DO guys know when there about to cum?

Post: #90

(05-30-2016 04:15 PM)HighSpeed_LowDrag Wrote:  

(05-30-2016 11:52 AM)eskimobobseal Wrote:  It's really frustrating that in 2016 there still isn't a fool proof way to safely raw dog without making the girl take something that will make her fat. So condom with a fit girl or raw dog a fattie who gained weight thanks to the added hormones.

Not fair.

Uhm...

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intrauterine_device

No hormones, immediate effect, no having to time pills or anything.

These things are awesome. Seriously, if I ever get into a serious LTR I'm making my girl get one.

I just went through quite a bit of drama, short version is that the IUD is not foolproof. I knocked it out of my ex-LTR twice, the second time resulting in a pregnancy which then miscarried due to a large hemorrhage.

I hear the implant is better still.

Post: #91

With threads like this it might be a good idea to have a thorough data sheet on birth control stickied on the front page of a few sections in the forum, especially for the guys just getting into into the game.

Post: #92

I like to play Russian Roulette on holidays .. Never give out my real name or any real details anyway . It has to be the bitchs fault equally anyway. I grew up with my father never around and always thought I was lucky as he was a real asshole and would have made me a emotionally crippled had he stayed around to bully me in to the sissy obedient adult he wanted to make of me .

I believe kids do just fine with one or no parents . Parents and teachers tend to think they are the moral compass of society and are gods good people but they are heavily flawed individuals and pass on their fucked up consicence and opinions to the next genaration . While some kids grow up to be their own man and judge things for what they are .. some are forever conditioned and suffer through their lifetime .

If I have a kid somewhere that I don't know of I hope the best for that kid just like I hope for the rest of the world no different . With local girls I am more careful but incase the worst happened I would take no responsibility and change countries and go anon . You only live once and I don't want to spend my life under the false illusion of making sacrifices to raise a kid when that brat would give me the finger , do all the wrong things and feel entitled in return for a weekly visit and 1 hour a week to play with my grandchildren when I am 60 years old .

I prefer to be old and miserable and maybe go live in a village in Thailand with an Asian obedient girl who would service my needs or an Indian monastery in the himalayas and explore existential crisis and spirituality .

Kids , Chicks , Family Life is an illusion towards voluntary prison and more times than not you as the man make unreasonable sacrifices for ungrateful people due to social expectations and norms !

Post: #93

Well, I got the dreaded news. She was getting ready to leave, and then started crying and told me.

"I think I'm pregnant"

She then showed me a picture of the test she had taken the other day. Luckily this chick isn't crazy, she's well adjusted and has a very supportive family.

I played it cool, didn't freak out or anything. I'm going to have her do two more tests to be sure, but I feel like it's going to be an anxious couple of days as this shit develops. I feel completely out of whack and extremely guilty right now. Luckily she's only missed her period by a couple of days, and I'm hoping this is going to be nothing but I have a feeling that isn't the case.

Right now I just want to next all my women and go monk mode. I feel like I've been hit by a rock, even though logically I know I'm going to be okay. To those of you who have gone through this, any advice would be great. I've already researched the clinics and whatnot in my area, but still feel on edge. It's going to be a rough night tonight.

Post: #94

R.I.P

Post: #95

IB, okay I know you're in a tough spot and scared as hell right now but try to be calm. See what happens with the next couple of tests to see if she is actually pregnant. Was she having sex with you only? I ask that for obvious reasons. Does she want to have the baby and if so would you be ok having a child with this girl? I went through this 25 yrs ago with my ex wife who I was dating at the time. I got her pregnant but in my case I wanted to be with her and eventually marry her so we just sped it up and I married her while she was pregnant. Worked out for me as I got a beautiful daughter who is now 23 and 3 other amazing kids along with a 20 yr marriage to this same girl. At the time though, man was I freaked out over it all, it was rough and plus I was in my last year of professional school which really made it tough. You'll be ok no doubt, it'll work out but I understand your feeling right now. I remember it vividly.

Post: #96

I'm not scared so much as I feel guilty. Even if I wanted to have children with this woman (which I'd need to know her better to decide), I'm not at a place developmentally where I'm ready to be a father. Whether is the constant womanizing on my part, wanting to work late, or just the little things, I haven't had enough of the ups and downs yet where I'll be able to teach my future sons and daughters what they need to be well rounded people.

Of course it's possible she's been with others, but I'm under the impression that she hasn't been since we've been seeing each other. I'll have to ask to be sure, which I will tomorrow.

She wants to get an abortion if she's actually pregnant, which is what I would of course prefer. I'm afraid the guilt from this whole thing is going to eat at me for awhile, because I know that goes against her beliefs. If it turns out she is, and she aborts, I think I'm going to have to take a break from the player lifestyle. Yikes.

Post: #97

Been there.

If you like the chick, have a kid with her. One kid is not as much of a commitment as everyone blows it up to be, you still have plenty of time to do stuff, work late, ect.

If you don't like the chick, have an abortion at all costs. Sometimes, for the betterment of everyone's situation, you have to break your moral code and do something kinda ugly. But in the end it's for her benefit and the kids benefit too.

Being a parent is a breeze, being in a relationship is a bitch.

Post: #98

I would definitely try and find out if she has been with anyone else. You have to really push her to get it out of her and you likely can given her emotional state right now. Knowing whether it's yours or not is critical to you. Assuming it is yours, I can understand your feelings of guilt especially if she has the abortion. Abortion really screws up a female big time and even for guys it's not something that goes down lightly, it's a huge burden. In my case, we never considered abortion and I'm glad I never experienced that feeling. As far as being a father, it would just come naturally to be honest and you'd grow as a father as your kids are growing. That part you'd figure out it's not that hard like Steelex said. That's what happened with me over the years.

As an aside and no judgment meant here at all, just an general observation that this really is one of the big downsides of the player lifestyle that doesn't get enough attention. It's one of the reasons I'm not the biggest fan of the lifestyle, too many things can go wrong. Like I said, you'll be ok in the long run which ever way it turns out but it's going to hurt for a while. You're certainly not alone though and I'm sure other guys will chime in here too to tell you their experiences.

Post: #99

I dont get why so many ppl on this forum get snipped. Nobody is going near my.balls and less its a chick garggling on them. The idea of getting a vasectomy is inconceivable to me. Make sure you trust the girl (which you can never do 100%) make it clear you won't be responsible for the baby should she ever become preggo from the get go. Also hide your assets where she nor the government can get to em. But snipping, c'mon, much better alternativas.

Post: #100

(08-06-2018 12:20 AM)Balls_Hang_Low Wrote:  I dont get why so many ppl on this forum get snipped. Nobody is going near my.balls and less its a chick garggling on them. The idea of getting a vasectomy is inconceivable to me. Make sure you trust the girl (which you can never do 100%) make it clear you won't be responsible for the baby should she ever become preggo from the get go. Also hide your assets where she nor the government can get to em. But snipping, c'mon, much better alternativas.

Agree totally, I have heard of it more from my married buddies who are late 30s and want to stop having more kids. Still someone told me something interesting, that you lose power. The woman knows you can't go impregnate other women, so you have less cards to play. Also, life is long and things can change.

There is also the physical aspect of it, some guys have mental issues shooting blanks, and the surgery is not bullet proof. Tell her to get her tubes tied if she wants, but women telling their husbands to sterilize themselves, and men going along with it, to me its just whack.