Post: #1

I remember reading here about women feeding off game as a drug to get high (can't find the thread). I consider myself an amateur but I just recently got told this by a girl
"I know who you are and your type. I think women love flirting with you, they like it a lot, for them it's exciting and would for sure continue this kind of behaviour, because they like your confidence and the fact that you like them. But neither of them treat you seriously, because you're not opening yourself and most probably your like alfa/macho type, that everybody loves at the first glance but nobody would take seriously"

I'm more a quality over quantity guy (not much into ONS's) and this has got me wondering if I might lose out on a quality girls (I'm based in EE for now)

Unrelated: I'm slightly above average looking but in EE I end up being in top quartile and feel like most women have this sense of insecurity "so how many girls are u chatting with". What's a good response? I'd be cheeky but I realize women are super sensitive to sarcasm/cockiness here

Post: #2

(08-11-2014 03:10 PM)BishesMyron Wrote:  I remember reading here about women feeding off game as a drug to get high (can't find the thread). I consider myself an amateur but I just recently got told this by a girl
"I know who you are and your type. I think women love flirting with you, they like it a lot, for them it's exciting and would for sure continue this kind of behaviour, because they like your confidence and the fact that you like them. But neither of them treat you seriously, because you're not opening yourself and most probably your like alfa/macho type, that everybody loves at the first glance but nobody would take seriously"

Are you really going to take a girls negative opinion of you into consideration ?

Who is this girl to you ? A friend ? A FWB ? A girl you're dating ?

Either way, she sounds insecure, and is trying to bring you down to her level.

Post: #3

(08-11-2014 03:20 PM)kaotic Wrote:  Are you really going to take a girls negative opinion of you into consideration ?

Who is this girl to you ? A friend ? A FWB ? A girl you're dating ?

Either way, she sounds insecure, and is trying to bring you down to her level.

The fact that another member here had talked about it, got me really wondering.

She's like a friend that i wanted to bang. When i tried to kiss her while seeing her off she came up with "i know your type" and after I pretended I dont know wtf you are talking about she ranted the whole thing.
Anyways I lost attraction to her since i eventually realized she's been riding the carousel to forget someone from the past (who she's still in touch with)

Post: #4

I take about 90% of any advice a girl recommends to me and do the exact opposite.

Their opinions are made to knock you off your game, not make it better. Everyone wants to see a good man fall, especially women. They thrive on it.

FWIW

Post: #5

(08-11-2014 03:27 PM)BishesMyron Wrote:  

(08-11-2014 03:20 PM)kaotic Wrote:  Are you really going to take a girls negative opinion of you into consideration ?

Who is this girl to you ? A friend ? A FWB ? A girl you're dating ?

Either way, she sounds insecure, and is trying to bring you down to her level.

The fact that another member here had talked about it, got me really wondering.

She's like a friend that i wanted to bang. When i tried to kiss her while seeing her off she came up with "i know your type" and after I pretended I dont know wtf you are talking about she ranted the whole thing.
Anyways I lost attraction to her since i eventually realized she's been riding the carousel to forget someone from the past (who she's still in touch with)

Not worth the squeeze, ignore and move on.

There's only one way to find out if you're losing out on quality girls and that's by going after them, and then adjust.

Do you think you've lost out on some girls ? Do you think there are more to be had ?

Post: #6

Sounds like a typical hamster. When a woman complains about you being too alpha, it's usually a hint that you should be more aggressive, not less. It's a shit test.

Post: #7

I agree with these guys about the uselessness of another woman's advice.
That being said, being used for attention/validation is a real thing. The best way to avoid that is to not act like a clown.
Be alpha and be very forward.

Post: #8

I might've said, "It's clear you know nothing about me. Who you've just described is either a man from you past or yourself. Most likely a bit of both."

Post: #9

(08-11-2014 03:41 PM)Onto Wrote:  I might've said, "It's clear you know nothing about me. Who you've just described is either a man from you past or yourself. Most likely a bit of both."

Now that's a tactical strike on a woman's emotions !

Post: #10

Learning Game is like learning anything else, you go through phases and you HAVE to go through those phases. Until you really internalize a behavior you will come off like a bad actor. People will sense you are playing some kind of part or role. Women will interpret this as insincerity and they would be right. The less attractive I am to a girl the more of a "clown" act I have to put on. The more attractive I am to her the less of a clown I have to be because then I can pull out the really heavy guns - sincerity.

The most effective game in any given situation is the sincere and confident expression of your desire but if the desire is not really there to begin with it's kinda hard to do.

PS And don't feel bad about being used for attention once you get good they will start using you for sex and after awhile you will come to dislike that too.

Post: #11

You're doing something right.

Women are crabs, try and keep them from pulling you into the bucket.

Post: #12

I know what most guys are saying here, but also there comes a time when you need to evaluate what she said at face value. If a close male friend said the same thing, and it makes sense, then don't just discount it cause she was a girl. Your posting about it which means you think she might be somewhat right. Maybe she is. Sometimes nice, compassionate women actually do try to help.

This is a key problem when gaming while being good looking. You feel like you need to game, almost like you need to make a next move in a series of mechanical adjustments in order to fuck her. You will learn that your game will be more of a push pull and not fuck up factor. IOW be more passive. Not w content of conversations or anything, just don't over game, like you wouldn't want to over sell something

Post: #13

She is trying to describe a man who focuses solely on the attraction part of the pickup. Push-pull, negs, disqualification, teasing... All of this stuff is great and necessary, but at some point you need to get real with the girl and elicit both vulnerability and connection. I think this is so important that attraction is just a door towards connection.

A club clown can do well, he often gets laid because women classify him as the fuck guy, but he has trouble on a personal level. A key level of confidence is being so comfortable with yourself that you can allow yourself to be congruent with your emotions. You must bar your weak emotions, but you cannot stop yourself from feeling the good ones. No matter how good an actor you are, the emotions will be far more intense for the girl if you are feeling them with equal intensity.

Post: #14

good grief, i misread this as 'being sued for attention' and had already had a response in mind.